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[bunnifical]

random rant i apologize,,hopefully this fits in here too idk.
i'm honestly irritated with my husband. the last day or two when i ask him "are you okay?" His answer is always "ehhhh". which comes off as "i'm not okay". i've asked him numerous times to talk to me, tell me what's wrong etc. he never does. earlier today when i told him to please talk to me he said "no, i don't need to be another stresser for you." first of all, i've said this before and i don't know why it hasn't stuck with him yet that he will not stress me out talking to me about an issue he has. life is stressful in general and relationships need communication he shouldn't be holding everything in. i'm your wife, that's what i'm here for. i'm here for the rants when you have a bad day i'm here for you to tell me what's on your mind and what's bothering you. i signed up for that and i want that i want to be helpful for you. i don't understand how or why he thinks telling me what's wrong will stress me out. what does stress me out is apparently he doesn't trust me enough to tell me what's going on.

any advice on how i can bring up to him we need better communication?

he has a few different mental disorders so i don't want to be really pushy to him to the point i make him overwhelmed or uncomfortable or angry etc.
do y'all think this is even something i should be worried about? should i just let it go and accept the fact he isn't going to tell me anything?
i'd really like to take care of him and know what's upsetting him but i can't get it out of him.
he's always been the type to hold stuff in and not open to people which i understand. but recently i just got him to be comfortable actually talking to me about his issues and now randomly he doesn't want to anymore.
i don't know if i did something wrong or made him angry. i don't know if i'm the issue?

whenever he ask me if i'm okay and i tell him something along the lines of "not really but i don't need/want to talk about it" he always makes me talk about it but i can't do the same with him?

i don't know how to explain to him he can talk to me apparently everything i'm doing isn't working.

I'm honestly just like your husband. My partner is always trying to get me to open up about my issues and I always feel like I'm being a bother to him.
Coming from someone who understands what he's trying to convey, it seems like he:

1. Maybe doesn't want to talk about it right now/isn't ready to.
2. Maybe the 'stresser' excuse could mean he's nervous to talk about it. I know I've used this excuse when I have an issue with my partner or something that involves him (please understand I'm not saying this is the case). However, it could also just be an excuse for not wanting to talk about it.
3. Maybe he really does truly believe that he doesn't want to be a hindrance to you?

There are a few ways you can go about trying to get him to talk to you. I know it's worked for me! (Whether it's a friend, family or s/o.)

- Physical contact! Sometimes, you just need to feel comfortable. Share hugs, snuggles... let him know that he's safe with you. Maybe pop the question then, or maybe he'll come out with it.
- Let him know it's stressing you out/worrying you more than what it would if he told you. If he doesn't want to become a 'stresser' to you, let him know that the situation is bothering you a lot and you only have good intentions to try and help!
- Sometimes... you may have to wait until he breaks and he's very much showing you he's bothered (crying, break downs, etc). He cannot hide anything then.
- Let him know that the lack of communication is damaging your relationship!

I hope I've been helpful, good luck <3

[honeycat;]

random rant i apologize,,hopefully this fits in here too idk.
i'm honestly irritated with my husband. the last day or two when i ask him "are you okay?" His answer is always "ehhhh". which comes off as "i'm not okay". i've asked him numerous times to talk to me, tell me what's wrong etc. he never does. earlier today when i told him to please talk to me he said "no, i don't need to be another stresser for you." first of all, i've said this before and i don't know why it hasn't stuck with him yet that he will not stress me out talking to me about an issue he has. life is stressful in general and relationships need communication he shouldn't be holding everything in. i'm your wife, that's what i'm here for. i'm here for the rants when you have a bad day i'm here for you to tell me what's on your mind and what's bothering you. i signed up for that and i want that i want to be helpful for you. i don't understand how or why he thinks telling me what's wrong will stress me out. what does stress me out is apparently he doesn't trust me enough to tell me what's going on.

any advice on how i can bring up to him we need better communication?

he has a few different mental disorders so i don't want to be really pushy to him to the point i make him overwhelmed or uncomfortable or angry etc.
do y'all think this is even something i should be worried about? should i just let it go and accept the fact he isn't going to tell me anything?
i'd really like to take care of him and know what's upsetting him but i can't get it out of him.
he's always been the type to hold stuff in and not open to people which i understand. but recently i just got him to be comfortable actually talking to me about his issues and now randomly he doesn't want to anymore.
i don't know if i did something wrong or made him angry. i don't know if i'm the issue?

whenever he ask me if i'm okay and i tell him something along the lines of "not really but i don't need/want to talk about it" he always makes me talk about it but i can't do the same with him?

i don't know how to explain to him he can talk to me apparently everything i'm doing isn't working.

I'm honestly just like your husband. My partner is always trying to get me to open up about my issues and I always feel like I'm being a bother to him.
Coming from someone who understands what he's trying to convey, it seems like he:

1. Maybe doesn't want to talk about it right now/isn't ready to.
2. Maybe the 'stresser' excuse could mean he's nervous to talk about it. I know I've used this excuse when I have an issue with my partner or something that involves him (please understand I'm not saying this is the case). However, it could also just be an excuse for not wanting to talk about it.
3. Maybe he really does truly believe that he doesn't want to be a hindrance to you?

There are a few ways you can go about trying to get him to talk to you. I know it's worked for me! (Whether it's a friend, family or s/o.)

- Physical contact! Sometimes, you just need to feel comfortable. Share hugs, snuggles... let him know that he's safe with you. Maybe pop the question then, or maybe he'll come out with it.
- Let him know it's stressing you out/worrying you more than what it would if he told you. If he doesn't want to become a 'stresser' to you, let him know that the situation is bothering you a lot and you only have good intentions to try and help!
- Sometimes... you may have to wait until he breaks and he's very much showing you he's bothered (crying, break downs, etc). He cannot hide anything then.
- Let him know that the lack of communication is damaging your relationship!

I hope I've been helpful, good luck <3

thank you! this is helpful honestly.

one thing i have tried is physically touch, both of us love to cuddle so that's always something we do. i always hug him and pretty much next to him 24/7 touching him in some way lol. but it's never been a time he wants to talk seriously then either.
the only times now i really get him to talk about his issues is when he breaks down. and even then it's hard, because when he starts crying he hides from me. it's very rarely i walk in on him breaking down, but when i do he spills everything to me.

i suppose i should just try talking to him more about it, i don't have bad intentions and he absolutely could never bother me by talking to me. we just need a better communication.


thank you for your input on the situation, i'll talk to him the in a little bit once he relaxes a bit from work. ^^

[battymidas]

this mans done stole my whole heart,, he means everything to me and i'm oh so lucky to be able to call him mine. he's really my soulmate.. it's so strange to me to think that i have a soulmate. i never thought i would have one.. but dang, he really came into my life when i needed someone and he lit up my entire life. he's made my life so much easier and happier ever since we met... he's the most happiest and comfortable relationship i've ever been in. he feels like home.

last night we had a little wedding on fortnite with our friend and his brother and my heart was SO FULL. i can't wait to marry him someday. we've talked about it a little bit on and off and just ugh my heart does a ding and i get butterflies when we talk about it. i honestly can't wait to call him my husband one day... i'm missing my mom a lot right now and he mentioned a little while back that he'd love to have a little memorial to her at our wedding.. and honestly it made me so emotional. i'm so lucky.

[An Shiraishi]

i’ve almost been with the love of my life for a year. may 12th. the time seems to have gone by so fast and she was there the entire time. i’m so incredibly lucky i’m somehow able to call her mine. she’s perfect, she’s everything i could have ever wanted and i love her so so so much. she’s amazing and she cares so much. she makes me so happy and loved which i haven’t felt in years. she’s been by my side for so much. i can’t wait to marry her. we talk about what our future will hold a lot, as it’s our one beacon of hope in our lives. both of us are going through very rough patches but we are helping each other through, we won’t give up on this future. we want 11 dogs, a little girl, a nice house maybe a bit more away from city life, we want to get married on the beach under the stars and grow old together. there’s no one i’d rather spend my life with and i can’t wait to hit our one year, then the many more years to come after that. i love her so much and i don’t know what id do without her.

[Sixx O'Clock]

Well, my boyfriend and I broke up today. We'd been together for a little over 2 years. I guess what did us in is that neither of us are particularly affectionate people. We care, sure, but we never really did the usual couple-y stuff together. Rarely kissed, held hands, cuddled, that sort of thing. Didn't really help that he lives two hours away from me and recently stopped coming down for visits. I can't drive, so I wasn't able to visit him as often.
It hurts, but I guess it's for the best? I dunno, I guess we were just too similar.

[battymidas]

WE'RE ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!
this is so exciting omg i never in my whole life would've thought anyone would want to marry me out of all people,, im still in shock like 'whoa did this really happen????'

[Taf900]

WE'RE ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!
this is so exciting omg i never in my whole life would've thought anyone would want to marry me out of all people,, im still in shock like 'whoa did this really happen????'

oOo congrats thats so exciting!!

[honeycat;]

WE'RE ENGAGED!!!!!!!!!!
this is so exciting omg i never in my whole life would've thought anyone would want to marry me out of all people,, im still in shock like 'whoa did this really happen????'

awe, congratulations! getting engaged is always so exciting 🥰

Well, my boyfriend and I broke up today. We'd been together for a little over 2 years. I guess what did us in is that neither of us are particularly affectionate people. We care, sure, but we never really did the usual couple-y stuff together. Rarely kissed, held hands, cuddled, that sort of thing. Didn't really help that he lives two hours away from me and recently stopped coming down for visits. I can't drive, so I wasn't able to visit him as often.
It hurts, but I guess it's for the best? I dunno, I guess we were just too similar.

i'm sorry. i know this is something that hurts. time will heal it. it honestly does sound like this is for the better. there are some people who just aren't affectionate, and that's okay. but it's good to always have a little affection. you two may of just been too similar, neither of you were the affectionate type to be able to fulfill each other. you'll find someone eventually who you can connect with ♡

[sforzando.]

Well, my boyfriend and I broke up today. We'd been together for a little over 2 years. I guess what did us in is that neither of us are particularly affectionate people. We care, sure, but we never really did the usual couple-y stuff together. Rarely kissed, held hands, cuddled, that sort of thing. Didn't really help that he lives two hours away from me and recently stopped coming down for visits. I can't drive, so I wasn't able to visit him as often.
It hurts, but I guess it's for the best? I dunno, I guess we were just too similar.

hi hun, i know this is a week late but my year and a half relationship ended a week or two ago and it's been up and down for me - we were an ldr (he lives in canada, and im in the states) so we never really got to do any of the sweet stuff either, and it still kinda hurts sometimes so if you need to talk at any time, my pms are open!! i promise i'll ilsten <3

[Sixx O'Clock]

Well, my boyfriend and I broke up today. We'd been together for a little over 2 years. I guess what did us in is that neither of us are particularly affectionate people. We care, sure, but we never really did the usual couple-y stuff together. Rarely kissed, held hands, cuddled, that sort of thing. Didn't really help that he lives two hours away from me and recently stopped coming down for visits. I can't drive, so I wasn't able to visit him as often.
It hurts, but I guess it's for the best? I dunno, I guess we were just too similar.

i'm sorry. i know this is something that hurts. time will heal it. it honestly does sound like this is for the better. there are some people who just aren't affectionate, and that's okay. but it's good to always have a little affection. you two may of just been too similar, neither of you were the affectionate type to be able to fulfill each other. you'll find someone eventually who you can connect with ♡

Well, my boyfriend and I broke up today. We'd been together for a little over 2 years. I guess what did us in is that neither of us are particularly affectionate people. We care, sure, but we never really did the usual couple-y stuff together. Rarely kissed, held hands, cuddled, that sort of thing. Didn't really help that he lives two hours away from me and recently stopped coming down for visits. I can't drive, so I wasn't able to visit him as often.
It hurts, but I guess it's for the best? I dunno, I guess we were just too similar.

hi hun, i know this is a week late but my year and a half relationship ended a week or two ago and it's been up and down for me - we were an ldr (he lives in canada, and im in the states) so we never really got to do any of the sweet stuff either, and it still kinda hurts sometimes so if you need to talk at any time, my pms are open!! i promise i'll ilsten <3

Thanks, both of you. c': I'm feeling better now, we decided to stay friends so it didn't hurt as much as if we had just cut contact. I've sort of been dipping my toes back in the "dating game", and I met a guy that I'm developing feelings for. We've spent pretty much the entire past three days together, just connecting and laughing and enjoying each other's company.