♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[PixelChan]

Me and my boyfriend are both really open to each other. We talk about all our thoughts, and are always completely honest about our feelings for each other. But lately we've been talking about the future and the truth is, I think he really wants a future with me but... I don't. He's a great guy, I really love him a lot, but the paths we want for ourselves are so very different and I don't think either of us would really get the life I want if we were to stick by each other in the future. And I just have this gut feeling that he's not the right one for me. Plus, I'm moving across the country this summer (which he knows), and I don't think I'll really be able to hang onto him like that. Yet he still seems so happy about the idea of being with me long-term, and it makes me upset to know that my commitment isn't the same as his.

I love him lots, I really do. But the one thing I'm not open to him about is the fact that I don't feel the same way about the future.

So what should I do? Should I be honest with him and tell him that I really don't feel the same way about long-term commitment? But that might break his heart and I don't want that either?? I just feel weird keeping a big secret and sometimes lying to him about my feelings.

[Raven_Stephanie]

hi I know most people on here are asking for advice but I just wanna say: I!!!! love!!!! my!!!! girlfriend!!!! so!!!! much!!!!!!!

[DarkestWerewolf]

hi I know most people on here are asking for advice but I just wanna say: I!!!! love!!!! my!!!! girlfriend!!!! so!!!! much!!!!!!!

Oof. This is such a mood. uwu I wish you and your girlfriend happiness!
i love my boyfriend too!!!
he’s such a dork and i love himmmmm ughhhhhh

[wilbursoot]

hi I know most people on here are asking for advice but I just wanna say: I!!!! love!!!! my!!!! girlfriend!!!! so!!!! much!!!!!!!

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ur so nice I wish ur girlfriend would see this

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[Raven_Stephanie]

hi I know most people on here are asking for advice but I just wanna say: I!!!! love!!!! my!!!! girlfriend!!!! so!!!! much!!!!!!!

Oof. This is such a mood. uwu I wish you and your girlfriend happiness!
i love my boyfriend too!!!
he’s such a dork and i love himmmmm ughhhhhh

uedwfbhdfnoowij thank you! I hope you and your bf are happy as well! <3

hi I know most people on here are asking for advice but I just wanna say: I!!!! love!!!! my!!!! girlfriend!!!! so!!!! much!!!!!!!

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ur so nice I wish ur girlfriend would see this

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[Astellia]

Me and my boyfriend are both really open to each other. We talk about all our thoughts, and are always completely honest about our feelings for each other. But lately we've been talking about the future and the truth is, I think he really wants a future with me but... I don't. He's a great guy, I really love him a lot, but the paths we want for ourselves are so very different and I don't think either of us would really get the life I want if we were to stick by each other in the future. And I just have this gut feeling that he's not the right one for me. Plus, I'm moving across the country this summer (which he knows), and I don't think I'll really be able to hang onto him like that. Yet he still seems so happy about the idea of being with me long-term, and it makes me upset to know that my commitment isn't the same as his.

I love him lots, I really do. But the one thing I'm not open to him about is the fact that I don't feel the same way about the future.

So what should I do? Should I be honest with him and tell him that I really don't feel the same way about long-term commitment? But that might break his heart and I don't want that either?? I just feel weird keeping a big secret and sometimes lying to him about my feelings.

You need to be honest with him even if it hurts. It's not fair for him to grow more and more attached if you're getting more and more distant. People's paths are different and it happens. If you let it go any longer you'll be leading him on and you're only going to hurt him more.

Imagine if you were head over heels for someone only to find out that they had known for months they didn't feel the same way but dated you anyways?

[Chicken~Strips]

*wheeze*
I like my friend
They like me
Even the teacher knows
Everyone either thinks were dating or assume I'm going to ask them out
Their friend teases us
I just asked another friend's crush out for them,
So now they OF COURSE theyyy reeaaalllllyyyy want to tell MY crush
UghhhwvvKcivwvsjfii
Life

[bugroot]

im confused about something.

im with someone. ive been with them for a while now.
but i dont feel,,,, 'in love' anymore? like. the kind where im anxiously waiting for one of their texts, one of their 'ilys,' where my heart is pounding and i keep zoning out thinking about them and i get too self aware of my own heartbeat and i start freaking out slightly but then everything is okay.

The first thing you’re talking about isn’t actually really love. It’s attraction, it’s a crush. Getting butterflies around your s/o is something that happens in the first couple of months in a relationship. (Or sometimes longer). It’s that fun, exciting stage of love where everything is new and you swoon and get exciting about seeing them. It’s the kind of love movies portray. However, in all honesty no relationship stays in the so called “honey moon phase” forever. Once you’ve been with somebody for a while it simmers down. You loose that specific kind of excitement and it turns into something else. It becomes a love born of familiarity and comfort. And it doesn’t mean it’s any less passionate or important. It just sounds like you’ve maybe gone through the initial stages of a relationship and are now experiencing what a long term experience is like. The fact you wish to stay with this person and that you still love them, but without the super romantic element to it is actually pretty normal. You stop being excited by your relationship and become comfortable in it instead.

Unless you actually start to find yourself genuinely growing distant and no longer liking your s/o, then odds are you’ve just passed into a new level of dating with them. Doesn’t mean you don’t love them anymore, just that you love them different to before.

here's a more eloquent analysis - although this is more about people old enough to have kids in couples, and may not be applicable really, the concept of what they are saying is the same as what I'm talking about.

Im so glad someone else understands this concept ^^^
Tbh I’m glad to have become comfortable with my bf. I think it’s far better than the honeymoon phase. I still get my butterflies but In a different way. In a way, you learn to love the comfort if you truly are for someone. I like that I can tell him everything, (even gross habits) they become less like a crush and more like your best friend. But I wouldn’t trade that mutual feeling of love for anything. Just because you aren’t excited anymore doesn’t mean you don’t love them anymore. People just become bored or comfortable after they learn so much about someone. But every I love you he says still affects me the same way it did the first time. It’s great to be in love, but many people confuse infatuation and love. You may “love” someone at first and then the feelings fade. If you question your love for them. Maybe it’s just not the right time or person for you. I hope this helps!

[bugroot]

I got a question for you guys...

There's this girl that I like a lot, and I told her and she said she likes me back, but we promised to not date until we were 16 (I'm not saying how old I am now). There's one thing though... She seems to have gotten obsessed with me or something. She constantly follows me around like a puppy and taps on my shoulder every other minute just to say hi to me, especially when we're sitting right next to each other in class or when we're working independently on things. She also gets really sad when I tell her stuff like, "Not right now," or, "In a bit, okay?" when I'm trying to work, and I do it nicely, not rudely or anything... I feel like it's to the point where it's unhealthy for both of us... I don't want to say anything because I feel I was the same way as she was in my last relationship and my worst fear is being a hypocrite.... What do I do??

Well if I get this correctly, she definitely has some insecurities. If she can’t Handle a certain “not now.” It May show that she tries to find happiness only when you praise her. Sadly no one can change that until she wants to change and realizes that could push you away. Trust me, I’ve gone through this stuff in my past and I understand where both you and her are coming from! I feel she likes the idea of being with you but not the reality of being with you. I think that she only wants to be around you to just simply feel happy only if you let her be happy. It’s not healthy and all that you can do is ask her if she is only happy when you approve of her or praise her. It’s hard to help someone when they won’t want to help themself! I hope this helped

[Pinesong]

I am in need of assistance :c

So some of my close friends keep coming up with suspicions and stuff about my relationship and the person that I'm with and it's making me feel soo awful and kinda scared that they might be right?? (I do overthink a lot though) :c
it's all really conflicting because I know the person that I'm with so well and I do know that they're a good person and yet as soon as my friends mention something, I start to have doubts?
I know they probably just want the best for me/are protective of me but I don't know what to think of the things they've said.