miss brightside wrote:Hiya! I need some advice.
See, I have this problem with getting crushes: I do it too often. Any boy who pays any sort of attention to me becomes a little crush and I think it's from wanting a boyfriend as I no longer have a best friend and I want to fill that gap. So, there was a boy who I met in September and I would say he's the first crush who's not out of my league. Id always kinda liked him but it only really developed when we started texting. It only lasted a couple of weeks but I really enjoyed texting him and he would initiate conversations so I thought he did too and I learnt a lot about him (and I don't know if this means anything but we were texting with two x's at the end of each text and even on a couple of occasions four) but then he just suddenly stopped? One time he wanted to play a video game with me so gave me his number so I could ring him but the game wouldn't download and I never rang him. And I used to see him in a few lessons at school but our seating plans changed and I don't sit near him any more, however I sit next to one of his friends and one lesson he snuck over to sit opposite me and I actually had a good laugh with him and his friends.
He's really nice and funny and I just want him to like me like I like him. Plus he started a streak with me on sc a couple of days ago so I'm thinking maybe he does think of me sometimes?
The real problem is my social anxiety. I've never told anyone that I like them, or asked them out, or even had anyone ask me out. Basically I've never had a relationship because people have never wanted to date me. Yet, these past months I've been trying so hard to get over my fears and although I'm still anxious I'm not as bad and I feel much more comfortable in my body than I used to so I feel ready for a relationship. Do I tell him how I feel? Should I try texting him again? Please help, thank you!!
Also sorry this is so long.
miss brightside wrote:Hiya! I need some advice.
See, I have this problem with getting crushes: I do it too often. Any boy who pays any sort of attention to me becomes a little crush and I think it's from wanting a boyfriend as I no longer have a best friend and I want to fill that gap. So, there was a boy who I met in September and I would say he's the first crush who's not out of my league. Id always kinda liked him but it only really developed when we started texting. It only lasted a couple of weeks but I really enjoyed texting him and he would initiate conversations so I thought he did too and I learnt a lot about him (and I don't know if this means anything but we were texting with two x's at the end of each text and even on a couple of occasions four) but then he just suddenly stopped? One time he wanted to play a video game with me so gave me his number so I could ring him but the game wouldn't download and I never rang him. And I used to see him in a few lessons at school but our seating plans changed and I don't sit near him any more, however I sit next to one of his friends and one lesson he snuck over to sit opposite me and I actually had a good laugh with him and his friends.
He's really nice and funny and I just want him to like me like I like him. Plus he started a streak with me on sc a couple of days ago so I'm thinking maybe he does think of me sometimes?
The real problem is my social anxiety. I've never told anyone that I like them, or asked them out, or even had anyone ask me out. Basically I've never had a relationship because people have never wanted to date me. Yet, these past months I've been trying so hard to get over my fears and although I'm still anxious I'm not as bad and I feel much more comfortable in my body than I used to so I feel ready for a relationship. Do I tell him how I feel? Should I try texting him again? Please help, thank you!!
Also sorry this is so long.
WastedSpace wrote:What do you want to do? =3
appi wrote:i hv the same problem, i'd advice u to try to get to know this boy a looot more before you even think about dating though x
seems like you got to the first stage of initiating a friendship and stuff but you need to go further!! get to know him betterrrr, get to know his personality and how he reacts to things, learn his struggles doubts etc. this might take a while - don't rush it! enjoy the process ~ try to get closer to him and initiate a conversation. try msging him about that game - maybe you two can hang out sometime and play it onn his computer? ooo, who knows. talk to him!! more!!
Pinesong wrote:Hey there! Need some help : )
So I have this massive crush on my best friend.
He broke up with his ex, which he's still friends with I guess, for the 'better'. Well, actually she broke up with him for the 'better'. I feel like we could totally have something but I have no idea if he still has feelings for his ex. Sort of killing me. How would I find out if he does?
I feel like it would be really pushy to straight out ask: hey so do you still have feelings for her? Also He might read something into it and I really don't want it to come off as me asking if he were interested in me.
Sorry if this seems abrupt just trying to make this short =)
Thank youuuuu
miss brightside wrote:WastedSpace wrote:What do you want to do? =3
I was just sort of wondering wether I should straight out tell him how I feel or do other things first,
WastedSpace wrote:Pinesong wrote:Hey there! Need some help : )
So I have this massive crush on my best friend.
He broke up with his ex, which he's still friends with I guess, for the 'better'. Well, actually she broke up with him for the 'better'. I feel like we could totally have something but I have no idea if he still has feelings for his ex. Sort of killing me. How would I find out if he does?
I feel like it would be really pushy to straight out ask: hey so do you still have feelings for her? Also He might read something into it and I really don't want it to come off as me asking if he were interested in me.
Sorry if this seems abrupt just trying to make this short =)
Thank youuuuu
I agree that it'd be pushy to just ask how he feels about his ex. And I'll add that I think you're too caught up on his ex, jmo. Talk to him! Make friends with him! Get an idea for where he's at and if you're comfortable admitting your feelings. And if you're doubting that he's ready to move on, then keep waiting.
I do want to caution and say that people are capable of holding deep feelings for more than one person. His feelings for his ex, if he does have them, may never go away. But that doesn't mean he can't move forward with a different, healthy relationship. ^^ However, I think you should talk to him and just get to know him more as a person. Then judge for yourself if he seems interested. =)
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