♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[WastedSpace]

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I guess what I'm trying to ask here is two things:
1.How do I tell him I like him, and how am I sure he still likes me? and
2.How do I get my parents to let me go with him?
Thanks if you can help me!!

Just say it! And just ask him! The best way to know how someone is feeling is to ask them. Yeah, it's nerve-wracking to admit your feelings, but that's the best way to share them.
Without knowing anything about your age (which you're not allowed to share!) or their reasons for not wanting you to date, there's not much advice to give, sorry.

[pizilo]

this is the most beautiful babe in this entire world i swear on my life right now
the freckles
the eyes
the smile
the hair
i've never been in such physical and emotional pain because of one person
i see them, and i start shaking to no end
send help

[Constellation.]

This is a situation I didn't foresee myself being in until a couple years down the road.

A little background, I had been on one date before any of this happened, have never been asked out, and never really had a guy like me that much until now.

So I liked this guy, and had liked him for quite a while. However, while on a school trip to Europe, I found out that another guy likes me. Problem is my best friend has liked him for a long time and even though she said she was cool with it because she'd want both of us to be happy, I avoided it as long as possible and thought I didn't like him. But on the 10 hour flight home and even a couple of days before that, I knew I liked him too. It's been a few days and we've been on a date and we talk about doing more things in the future. But here's where I actually need advice.

How do I tell him that for the time being, I like where we are? I like how it's unlabelled right now and kind of just our thing and that for now we're "in like". I don't care if he's told people but all my friends are under the impression I'm going to let him down because of what all of us talked about together really late at night on the trip and I thought I would too, but I don't think it was that I didn't like him. I think I've liked him for a couple months but didn't want to acknowledge it. I think the reason I wanted so badly to avoid him and everything is because I felt pressured by other people, directly and indirectly, to take some sort of action and that was stressful. Do I encourage it, let him down, distance myself, help promote my friend who likes him, etc. I found out I really do like him when I'm alone with him. That's when we're at our best.

For the time being I don't feel like I want to involve people where I don't have to, so I am really happy just being "in like". That can change maybe a few weeks down the road once more people figure it out, but for now I want to stay. I get that I'll have to tell him everything I said above, but how do you go about starting a conversation like that?

Edit: We did talk somewhat about this and he did agree that things are good as they are for the time being.

I'm just really happy, I'm an upperclassman but this just didn't seem like something I imagined happening to me for a while.

[loulouie]

So I like this guy, and I believe he likes me back, but just a few problems. It's hard to imagine a relationship with him. 1. he's always joking around 2. i can't imagine a heart to heart conversation with him, which is really important to me to be able to have one.


Should I give up now or? if I try what could I do?

[teethfae]

Oh my l o r d, so i'm a girl who a a crush on well...

A straight girl that has a boyfriend

I've tried getting over it and plus shes one of my good friends and I really don't really know what to do? It's kinda obvious I like her and she has nothing against gays and other lgbtq+ things. Any advice for maybe getting over it? Because, no matter how much I like her I don't want to ruin her relationship or possibly ruin my friendship with her.

[Pinesong]

Um
I have a massive crush on my best friend
I mean I have already posted on here about what I wanna do about it and I decided that for now I’d just rather be his best friend and maybe be with him later if I was lucky?
But it’s getting harder to just act like I feel nothing but a good friendship between us and thats what I need help with.
How do I act like I feel nothing when I do?

[charmanerd]

@boyf-riends, @pinesong

Because I can answer both of your issues in one post, I'm going to go ahead and do that. Hopefully this helps. :)
I see this as a common issue where people usually get stuck. Someone becomes interested in someone who they're not "supposed" to be interested in, but they're absolutely dying to tell them the truth. The reason this is, is because of the possibility of the potential of there something there.

Here's my best advice. While the potential may very well be there, the best way (imo) to get over it while still maintaining a friendship is to casually tell them the truth. Expect nothing out of it, and don't ask them if they'd like to be with you. For example, you could say something along the lines of, "Hey, I know we've been friends for a while, and I respect our friendship enough that I want to be honest with you. I just wanted to let you know that I do have some feelings for you, but I don't want that to affect our friendship and I expect nothing from you in return, just that we can continue to have the friendship that we do. Sound good?"

That way you're honest so you don't feel like you're losing out on anything, whether it be the truth or a relationship, and they've got the information so they can always make a move if they'd like to.
The key thing is, don't make it emotional. Don't say you've liked them for over a year and that you just couldn't hold it in anymore. It's harder for them to process that way if for some reason they don't feel the same way towards you. Make it casual, that's the most important thing.

It takes confidence and courage to tell someone you like them, especially if they're your best friend. If you choose to do so, good luck to both of you and whether or not they reciprocate, know that you're an amazing person and feel proud of yourself for doing so. Hope this helps~

[Wheeping Will0w]

So, I and my bf live a ways apart, but not that far, since we go to the same schools. But his schedule is completely different than mine. So we rarely see each other. Maybe 20 min per day. and I never go to town on weekends. but sometimes we meet up with each other. I'm scared it won't work out. Any advice?

[WastedSpace]

So I like this guy, and I believe he likes me back, but just a few problems. It's hard to imagine a relationship with him. 1. he's always joking around 2. i can't imagine a heart to heart conversation with him, which is really important to me to be able to have one.


Should I give up now or? if I try what could I do?

Could be a persona he puts up. Maybe he doesn't know you well enough to let down that wall. However, communication is really important in a relationship, and if you can't see you two being able to talk... well, that is something to seriously consider.

When in doubt, go with your instincts. Make a gut decision on what you want to try.

Oh my l o r d, so i'm a girl who a a crush on well...

A straight girl that has a boyfriend

I've tried getting over it and plus shes one of my good friends and I really don't really know what to do? It's kinda obvious I like her and she has nothing against gays and other lgbtq+ things. Any advice for maybe getting over it? Because, no matter how much I like her I don't want to ruin her relationship or possibly ruin my friendship with her.

Aww, sorry. =( You can try training your mind out of the crush. Any time you have crush-like thoughts, stop and catch yourself and address the thought and make an argument for why it can't or shouldn't be. Like if you think she's cute, stop and correct the thought "yes, she is aesthetically pleasing, but that's the extent of my feelings" or something. Mostly, give it time and be patient with yourself.

Um
I have a massive crush on my best friend
I mean I have already posted on here about what I wanna do about it and I decided that for now I’d just rather be his best friend and maybe be with him later if I was lucky?
But it’s getting harder to just act like I feel nothing but a good friendship between us and thats what I need help with.
How do I act like I feel nothing when I do?

Be conscious of your actions and words and think before you act. Don't overthink it, though. Let yourself just have fun with your friend.

So, I and my bf live a ways apart, but not that far, since we go to the same schools. But his schedule is completely different than mine. So we rarely see each other. Maybe 20 min per day. and I never go to town on weekends. but sometimes we meet up with each other. I'm scared it won't work out. Any advice?

Talk with him and see how he's feeling about the relationship. Hearing from him could ease some fears or help you come up with a plan to spend some more time together (although honestly, it sounds like you're doing pretty well). Try to enjoy the now instead of fretting over the future. Any relationship could fizzle out at any time. If you only spend time worrying about that, you're going to miss having fun in the present and could make these fears come true. What relaxation techniques work for you? Try those before you go to bed or whenever you start getting too anxious.

[Pinesong]

@charmanered @wastedspace

Thanks so much for the advice, definitely taking it on board