♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[Ventru]

i need some help.
i posted not too long ago about this kid i liked.
and well,, i just don't know what to do. i love him so much. on instagram, he's posting about how he has a crush.
we've been talking a bit. we share alot of similar interests. he's probably one of the funniest people and i love him for that, although, his friends are... annoying. one of them said something, like, "oh, do you like --? you follow him around alot." right. in. front. of. him. i shrugged it off, obviously, trying to make it look like i didnt. people say i'm a good liar. my crush just kinda stood there, or maybe i just couldn't hear what he was saying.
he's out of my league, though. he's on the football (or atleast was,, the seasons over) and basketball team. i'm just a normal girl, i dont do sports, and im kinda paler than everyone - so i get pushed around and called "albino" sometimes. but i'm also the hyperactive kid, and he is too.
i wanna tell him. i wanna tell everyone, really. i just don't know what to do. this never happens, im one of people who think crushing on people is stupid, so this, well, it barely happens. can someone quote this or pm me? please? i need help with this.

Leagues are a thing of imagination imo. If you don't care what people think, leagues don't matter at all. Feelings don't care about leagues.
So if you want to tell him, I think you should.

[van Wolf]

My boyfriends phone was unlocked and I took it (please keep in mind he does it to me all the time just messing around, I’ve never gotten to his unlocked before) and he freaked out. Should I be concerned?? I was only kidding and I didn’t check anything, because I trust him, I was just taking pictures of myself lol.

You could always ask him why he freaked out. It could just be that he doesn't like having his phone taken from him, I would probably freak out too if somebody took my phone, even if I have nothing to hide. I don't really know why, I think it's just part of my anxiety. But if you are concerned, I would definitely talk to him, just be mindful of what you say. ^^

[.Coffee]

My boyfriends phone was unlocked and I took it (please keep in mind he does it to me all the time just messing around, I’ve never gotten to his unlocked before) and he freaked out. Should I be concerned?? I was only kidding and I didn’t check anything, because I trust him, I was just taking pictures of myself lol.

Ngl, when my boyfriend and I started dating I didn't like it when he went on my phone. I didn't have anything to hide, I just really didn't feel comfortable with it at that point in time. It was a weird thing, I know, but it was my first relationship and I took a while to get comfortable with things like that; I thought he would judge my stupid selfies or my singing voice. Eventually, I warmed up to it! We'll have been dating for three years come February and now we go on each other's phones and goof around all the time Sometimes people are just shy!

That isn't to say that your concern is unwarranted, though. I think the best policy is to tell him that it concerned you a bit, apologize/state that you didn't realize he was uncomfortable with it, and maybe ask if he's comfortable telling you why. It's totally natural to be concerned over something like this, but realize that it could just be that he's still adjusting to having a girlfriend if you're new together.

[prejudiceu]

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do i tell "E" i like "C"?? its so far into our friendship and it would be so late and such a bad time after they've broken up to then suddenly tell her. should i carry on getting close with "C" because i love him i really do.

"C" - the guy i like and i have been friends with before "E"
"E" - my very close friend and is "C's" ex


okayy so today "E" found out that i have been talking to "C". its been a while since they both broke up and "E" claimed she had moved on but...

it turned out one of my friends lied to me and told "E" about me becoming closer to "C". that annoyed me because i wanted to tell "E" myself. so clearly "E" got mad and said she wanted to hear the whole story from me. i told her how "C" and I are just friends but I've liked him for ages, even when they were going out but i never got involved. now baring in mind "E" has moved on and is talking to another boy, she proceeds to be angry with me and says that i can't be friends with "C" because thats her ex. I tried reasoning with her and then she suddenly claimed that she still has feelings for "C".

basically "C" and I are very close friends, but people say we're flirting or they tend to exaggerate the whole story which has made "E" angry.
"E" has moved on and found another boy but she's now suddenly claiming that she still likes "C" even though he hates her after what happened between them.
"E" knows I've liked "C" for so long but she is now saying that I'm not even allowed to date him otherwise she won't be friends with me.
"E" is a bit hypocritical since she is practically dating her best friends ex right now.

i just don't know what to do. "C" and i want to date but not make it so public but in secondary school thats a bit hard. we're so close and we've liked each other for so long, but if "E" finds out it will be a huge storm and she will make everyone turn on me. I hate the feeling and knowing that I might date one of my friends exes but to be fair, she's currently doing it to her friend.
I don't like dating friends exes and all of that drama but I've liked him for so long and we get on so much. I just don't think its fair how "E" is now saying that I'm not allowed to date him or talk to him. "C" said its petty and he will still talk to me no matter what.
I've been silly enough to say to "E" that i won't date him when i know i want to and people are twisting my words and going against me. I'm not a hurtful or sly person. i can't stand drama and i hate loosing friends.
its not my fault "C" comes up to me in school and talks to me.
am i meant to ignore him?? do i listen to "E"?? do i even tell "C" how much i like him?? its still early for me.
I'm scared because "C" has treated my friends/his exes quite badly and has a bad rep so far. i don't want to just be "girlfriend number 3" but all of his mates say I'm "special" and he wasnt like this with any other girls (as in treats me the way he does now. he's so nice and funny and listens to me). ahhh i procrastinate so much lol

[Vixem]

I’m still getting over a heartbreak and I had a good friend of mine come
over to give me company and advice on a few things. Our night got a
little heated..

It was comforting but I don’t feel as though I’m ready to move on this
quickly.

Hayes said he had strong feelings for me and that he was waiting for a
moment like this to tell me. I like Hayes too, but only as a friend. I mean,
I’ve never pictured myself with him because I thought we had a genuine
girl-boy friendship. Should I give him a chance? He’s completely different
to my ex douchebag boyfriend. He works close to my home and is a very
open person, who doesn’t lie. Hayes and I have been friends since we were
6, so we know each other pretty well.

Maybe he’ll distract me from all this..? I’m not trying to say I’ll use him, I
feel like maybe this is a fresh start to 2018.

[Vixem]

I’m still getting over a heartbreak and I had a good friend of mine come
over to give me company and advice on a few things. Our night got a
little heated..

It was comforting but I don’t feel as though I’m ready to move on this
quickly.

Hayes said he had strong feelings for me and that he was waiting for a
moment like this to tell me. I like Hayes too, but only as a friend. I mean,
I’ve never pictured myself with him because I thought we had a genuine
girl-boy friendship. Should I give him a chance? He’s completely different
to my ex douchebag boyfriend. He works close to my home and is a very
open person, who doesn’t lie. Hayes and I have been friends since we were
6, so we know each other pretty well.

Maybe he’ll distract me from all this..? I’m not trying to say I’ll use him, I
feel like maybe this is a fresh start to 2018.

Dealing with a breakup is almost never easy. I think it's good that you have a support cushion to bounce back to - after all, that's what friends are for.
It sounds like Hayes and your ex are very different people. I think your best course of action might be this:

1. Take some time off.

It's best not to just into anything while you're still recovering from previous emotions. This leads to rash and sometimes regretful decisions. If it were me, I would definitely wait a bit until you're 10000% clear-minded and totally over your ex. This is the most fair option for both you and anyone you might want to date, like Hayes. Don't jump into whatever's "available" just to have a distraction.
2. Figure out what you're looking for.

I've personally had trouble with this one. Basically, what traits are appealing to you in a boyfriend? What traits do could you tolerate, though not particularly care for? Once you know exactly what you want, consider this: who am I looking for? Does Hayes fit these qualities? Does my ex? Someone else? This step helps in preventing problems in a relationship later on.
3. Consider the other side.

For a moment, put yourself in Hayes' shoes. It must have taken a boatload of courage to open himself up to you like that after all those years. Whatever you choose, be cautious and considerate of his feelings - no one likes to be someone you use to get over an ex. If you are both genuine, I think you'll be good to go (:


If you feel you are able to have open, honest conversations with him, just tell him exactly how you're feeling. The rest will work itself out. ~

I spoke to him about how I'm feeling and that I may still need time to recover,
he said he's happy to wait. I respect how he feels and I know how he reacts in
certain situations, so I am cautious not to hurt him.

I really do hope things will work out between us since we've been friends for
this long and to ruin a friendship like this will have a massive impact on me.

Thank you for the reply and advice, it's really helping me get through a lot <3

[Constellation.]

Tomorrow's the moment of truth.

I'm asking the guy I like to the dance. I'm going to make sure he knows it's as friends and with his group and not mine (he's the grade above me so we have few mutual friends but enough). I'm nervous as I've never asked a guy in person, and only once before. I'm going to try really hard to do it in person to seem confident and to see his reaction, but worst comes to worst I'll fall back on texts.

Wish me luck haha!

[bobochicken]

So this last weekend my school had its Winterball and I saw my crush there from two years ago and he looked so hot. Our situation was really horrible.

Short story: I liked this boy my best friend at the time said he was ugly and that I shouldn’t like him bc i could do better. Over the course of 6 months his friends would always nudge him when we walked by so we thought he liked me. Turns out he like my best friend at the time. She rubbed in in my face and said she liked the attention. We had a fight and weren’t friends she went after him to rub it in my face. He found out I liked him and didn’t do anything about it. He found out she didn’t really like him and decided he didn’t like her anymore. I made a bad decision and forgave this friend and said i was over him and developed a new crush on someone else.

Is there any advice for me I really want to be over him and stop getting nervous when I see him.

[bobochicken]

Tomorrow's the moment of truth.

I'm asking the guy I like to the dance. I'm going to make sure he knows it's as friends and with his group and not mine (he's the grade above me so we have few mutual friends but enough). I'm nervous as I've never asked a guy in person, and only once before. I'm going to try really hard to do it in person to seem confident and to see his reaction, but worst comes to worst I'll fall back on texts.

Wish me luck haha!

You got this good luck! If you guys are friends it shouldn’t be awkward unless you make it awkward so just be you because you guys are already friends. Let my know how it goes

[Simmy]

Around March last year I met a boy, he was friends with some of my male friends and he seemed alright.
About a month or two later we became sort of friends, not talking out of school nor directly going out of our way to talk to each other, we had a few classes together.

Maybe three months after I first met him I realized I was thinking of him a lot, and that I had a crush on him. We shared similar interests and got talking on Instagram every now and then. One time at school I was messing around with my friends and him and he hugged me, which made me euphoric and so happy at the time.
After going to a mutual friend's party, we gave each other our phone numbers, which we hadn't done before. After that, I took my opportunity to confess how I felt about him. He didn't really give me much of an answer, but I could tell he didn't like me back. We didn't talk much after that, but when we did I could tell he had changed.

He started to say things about my body and asked for inappropriate pictures (Of which I refused to give him), And started manipulating our conversations to that topic. This obviously made me feel uncomfortable, and I asked for him to stop, but that didn't have any effect. He used to be such a nice, funny guy.

I stopped talking to him for a while, and he would only message me occasionally, so I started to stop thinking about him. But he knew that I liked him, and his course of action was to manipulate me.
If I started a conversation with him, he would follow through for a short time, giving me what I wanted, to have him talk to me like any other human being, Then change the topic back to what he wanted, as always.
This hurt my heart a lot, and I didn't realize he was doing it until I told one of my close friends.

This escalated to him threatening me, which in a later conversation, he stated that he knew it wouldn't work and that he should've known that "A smart girl like me" wouldn't have fallen for it.
Things slow down here, no contact for a month, and we get to where we are now.

I've started thinking of him lately, and I don't know why I can't move on. But school is coming back for me soon, and I'm nervous about what is going to happen with him, if he's going to continue this or stop. When our school meets up, his class sits behind mine and he sits directly behind me which makes me uncomfortable, and I can't change that. I want to be friends with him, but I don't want to have any classes with him or have to be near him at all.

I hate him so much, but I love him.
I don't know what to do or how to feel.

Any guidance?

Please reply, I know it's a long read but I really need help