s a g e wrote:heeeeeeelllllppppp......
whats wrong with me ?!
But at first ... my story :
so there was this boy, we were just friends, but with the time we became best friends and we wanted to spent our life together ( in more like a friendship way ).
But then the day came that he said he loved me, but I just don't loved him. So we stayed friends, but it just wasn't the same anymore before the day with the love.
1 month after this, he found a girl friend. His girlfriend was jealous about our friendship and she just doesn't wanted that we were friends anymore. And the most hurtful part was, that he just told me he don't wanted to be my friend anymore. I just accepted it, wished him a beautiful life and I blocked him on whatsapp. Since then, I never heard something from him.
And since then, its maybe 5 months ago, I just cannot stop thinking about him.
When I go sleep and just lay in my bed, I start thinking about him.
I feel like, I will never stop thinking about him...
Why can't I just stop thinking about him ?
How can I just forget him?
Any help is much appreciated
What's "wrong" with you is that you're human. You've lost someone you cared for deeply, who just brushed you off in a very apathetic manner. Of course you're hurt and missing him. He was a big part of your life and now he's totally gone.
My advice would be to stop forcing yourself to get over him or beating yourself up for remembering him. Let yourself grieve his loss. Let yourself be sad. Let yourself think of him. Process everything that's happened. Remember the good times and the bad. Feel the hurt over losing him. Only by letting yourself feel these things can you allow yourself to move forward and move on. It can be slow going. It will take a while. But let yourself feel. Don't let how you feel stop you from going out and trying new things and taking advantage of opportunities and having fun. But don't beat yourself up for having the feelings you do. Just keep taking it one day at a time, and one day you'll wake up and realize how far forward you've moved on with your life.
(Also, just because of the way you said some of this... Maybe look into the identity of aromantic?)
Banana. wrote:Okay so how do you let your partner know you think they need to delete the pictures of their ex? And I don’t mean selfies. I don’t want to bring it up out of no where but I feel like I kinda should because how is that convo ever even going to come up? Do you think I’m over reacting
I think you're making an... adult connotation that you can't actually say on CS? If so...
Keep it short, simple, and calm. Tell them you need to talk, make your request, and explain why you're asking. There's no way to just wait for this to come up naturally or just ease into a conversation like this. Find a quieter time when it's just you to, take a deep breath, and make the plunge.
But if you're just talking about pictures of them hanging out together, then you can't delete his past, and you either need to be able to trust him or re-think this conversation.
Elite_Ninja_Squad wrote:Elite_Ninja_Squad wrote:Ahhh I’m so mad at myself
So I tried to send s the letter, but now he likes another girl! (So I hear.) Gosh I’ve seen this guy date other girl before me and I don’t take it as hard as I used to, but it’s still upsetting! What do I do? How do I keep calm during these next 2 weeks to a month (cause that’s how long they normally last.)? Gahhh I really hate myself rn
Find something to do to distract yourself. A new hobby. An old hobby. A TV show. Whatever.
_Konata_ wrote:I'm a kinda socially awkward person and tbh I don't think I would even know if I've ever had a crush on someone.
Idk and to a lot of people this will seem like a weird question but do you think I would know if I got a crush on someone?
Maybe look into aromantic/asexual as well as quoiromantic/quoisexual? (Keep in mind that labels can change over time and you don't have to identify one way forever, but you might find something useful looking into those!)