HeterocromaticQueen wrote:This is super weird cause I'm an old lady and have few years on my mind of relationship experience, but I just wanna get someone else's opinion.
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Yes, it's okay to be angry that your boyfriend refuses to make time to 'be' with you. I'm sorry you felt like you even had to ask if it's okay to be upset that you never get to talk to your partner. It's especially important for partners to make time to be with each other in an LDR. If he doesn't have time for you or doesn't want to prioritize you, then maybe it's time to have a conversation and make a decision.
It may make a difference if he only hangs out with his friend some days or if he hangs with him everyday, so that's also something to consider.
morioh wrote:-snip-
1) I have a girlfriend, although this relationship is totally uncommitted. She said (and I agreed) we could go back to being friends at any point, because in the beginning, our relationship was meant to be a joke.
2) the person I like... Is completely toxic. In what he does and how he acted not even three months ago. I met him through my ex (the creepy one who has a picture of me which I'm pretty sure he hasn't deleted). I never once thought I'd be friends with this guy, let alone be romantically attracted to him. Either way, he doesn't like me back and I know this for a fact. If we ever got into a relationship either way, it wouldn't be a healthy one. We wouldn't be able to contact each other. Id see him... Twice a week? I don't even know what to do.
I'm both worried about you and extremely confused. You know a relationship with 2 is toxic, you know a relationship with him wouldn't be healthy... what is there to consider!? Are you sure you should even be friends with him??? Definitely don't pursue somebody you know is toxic. Take some space from him!!! A lot of space!!! Get away from him!!!
Julmje wrote:I have this friend, hes a boy and he told me that he used to crush on me and still did a little. But everytime we planned on hanging, there was always something else in my schedule (?). So we went from talking alot to almost never talk, and i think he thought that i dont like him, and that i friendzoned him.. The thing is that i think i like him and wannna spend more time with him, but i dont know how to tell him. When we talk we tell eachother everything, no secrets, but i dont have the guts to tell him this.. what should i do? Anyone have some tips for me??
Gotta get this out of the way, but I saddened by the trend of people forgetting that "friendzone" is actually a derogatory term for being "only" friends with someone. It means "I pretended to befriend this person so they'd be physical with me but they refuse to so now we're not friends/I only complain about them and their right to say no". You didn't "friendzone" anybody. Friends are great! Friendship is such an important relationship. It is not any lesser than a romantic one.
Okay, that aside. If you want to spend more time with him, then try and make some time for him! I think you should work on reconnecting with him, at least just a little, first. If he's important to you, then try to make some time with him so he knows that he matters to you.
Kisiel wrote:-snip-
ANYWAY. My question is, after being fully committed to someone for so long, how can I convince myself to let someone in again? This guy I met is so lovely, I really enjoy his company and I know he's interested but I just don't know. Part of me wants to just go for it and see what happens but I have my doubts. It doesn't help that we pretty much act like a couple at this point either, but we're not if that makes sense.
Give yourself a little time and patience and understanding. Instead of trying to force yourself to do anything, accept where you're at now. Be introspective and explore what you've been through, what you learned, and what you want now.
And when you're ready to go for it - don't automatically jump into a serious, committed relationship with him. Even though you act like a couple now, make sure to go out on dates, kiss each other at the door, sleep in different houses, etc. Enjoy the beginning of a relationship by making sure there is one. ;3