TheComfortCorner | V.7

[Kiyomice]

[size=85][list][list]i'm just going to start this quick reply off saying this:

i am sorry. i am so so sorry i have not been there to help people since the beginning of this year. I came on this thread every day to help people for hours on end, and I am so sorry i have let so many people down the past nine months.
i'm here to say this, and have (what is rare) my own post for this thread.

my mind is not mentally right right now. I seem to have fallen back into the hands of depression. at the beginning of this year (hence why i haven't been on CS much) I got a boyfriend, and I had my exams half way through this year like many of you. yes, I was more mentally stable at the beginning of the year as I now have someone to rely on. but the exams brought me down a bit. I got my results, I was happy for a day, but i'm just depressed again. I have started college and it has taken the energy out of me. i'm on such a low the past few months. I wish so much I could come back on this thread and help everyone. and I do always come and read it, I start a reply and then I just shut my laptop because I feel as though I can't help people if I can't help myself.

You are not at fault. You don't need to reply to everyone who is going through a tough time. Other people are here to offer support. It's unfortunate, but you can't help everyone on the planet. You need a break too. What's important is that you want to help. There are many people out there who don't want to. But all the world's problems are not on your shoulders, it's not your responsibility You haven't let anyone down.

[decembuary;]

just got out of my math class and i started crying in the middle of taking a test because i know i screwed up so bad. aahahaha end my life

[deathbell]

I hate having depression and social anxiety. I absolutely cannot talk to anyone and when I do I stutter and get flustered and sometimes I’m almost brought to tears. But unfortunately, a lot of my classes involve large group work and I’ve told my teachers that I don’t like working in groups, but they basically tell me that I’ll ‘get used to it.’ My parents, once again, say it’s just a side effect of my medication. I don’t need any more stress on top of what I have, I already come home and take a shower so I can cry in the bathroom where no one can hear or see me wallowing in my self-pity. I really wish people could understand how serious social anxiety and depression are, but unfortunately nobody around here believes in that and I have no friends to confide in. Just perfect. <3

[we leaving]

can i pm someone, if they have the time to listen to me?

[plecostomus enjoyer]

i'm so dissatisfied and bored with my relationship, and it makes me depressed. they only talk to me when they need comfort or need something from me. my messages are all unanswered and i get absolutely nothing out of it. i feel like i'm staying out of obligation because i'm the only person my partner is close with and their parents are not super nice people. i want to move on and see other people but i don't want to leave my current partner with nobody, so i just stay. i stay, sad and feeling honestly like i'm just being used as a therapist and not a partner. i've never been in a relationship before this and i don't know how to even go about trying to leave. so i guess i'll just continue quietly being unhappy.

[leverage]

i can hardly breathe.

i acted so out of line today.

i kept screaming at my friends.

we had a substitute in band, and i was so scared that the same thing would happen last time we had a sub.

it was chaos and two people broke down crying because it was so stressful.

so i tried to lead everyone and when we went into sectionals i got mad and starting at yelling at someone because they kept bothering me when i was trying to figure out why my flute wasnt working (it ended up breaking in the middle of class. never figured out what was wrong with it. still broken. doesnt play a low D and middle D sounds very airy and doesnt work after you play certain notes or during some songs. im scared it wont work by friday, were playing during a sports game and it means alot to me and i dont want to miss it.)

and my close friend seemed so upset and stressed and i feel like its all my fault. i feel so guilty.

my other friend almost cried because his brother was being a jerk to him these past two weeks.

im just-

its hard.

i know nobody is going to reply, i just needed to vent for a moment.

First of all, I'm so sorry that you had such a sucky time. I was in marching band myself in high school and I know just how easy it is for things to get way out of line so quickly, and the stress of a broken instrument certainly never helps;;
In terms of the social aspects of your day, you can decide if you want to just try and talk to your friends; you can apologize or just try and arrange a time to skype/chat/etc to try and calm down tonight. If you feel up to talking about what happening in band today, or you can leave it be for a time you feel calmer; it's up to you. If that doesn't work, try and plan some time just for you tonight- take a break from homework and just do something you enjoy, whether it be Netflix, drawing, or whatever else calms you down. And most of all, just remember: today didn't go so well, and that's okay. Tomorrow is another day, and you can make tomorrow good. You don't need to keep stressing out over what's already gone by; there's nothing you can do to change today, and you can just move forward. Try not to dwell on today too much, just try to move forward.

As for the flute problems- okay, I'll admit, I'm a saxophone player primarily (tenor sax, specifically, meaning I am super used to diagnosing instrument problems) but I do play some flute. I'm sure you know your instrument better than I do, so I'll keep this short, but it really sounds like you're having an issue with the pad under your right ring finger (sorry, I have no clue what the keys are actually called). It sounds to me like it might have come loose somehow, or not be covering correctly. I don't know how prevalent this is for flutes, but this happens pretty often to saxes. If you can't see anything wrong with the pad directly, try sticking a dollar bill between the pad the body of the flute and pressing the key hard a few times to try and 'reset' the pad. I don't know why this works, nor do I have a clue if this is your problem, but it would be the first thing I would try if none of the pads look out of place~ Also check for tears in the surface of your pads that can cause leakage. If none of that works, work with a fellow flute player and just try pressing one note a time until you see any differences between the motions of the keys between the two. If none of that works, maybe see if your school has any spare flutes you can use for the event until you can get yours fixed? I apologize if none of this is helpful whatsoever, I'm trying to do this by memory as I don't have my flute at college, and on top of that I obviously know very little about flutes to be able to help ;; Best of luck!

[u w u]

Is it to much to ask..... for a PM? Please? My friend has been ignoring me, and it's for no reason.

[chooch]

just got out of my math class and i started crying in the middle of taking a test because i know i screwed up so bad. aahahaha end my life

it's okay, everyone makes mistakes and you shouldn't bring yourself down because of them. Instead, look at those mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow. This is what my teachers usually tell me and it does help me a lot because it allows me to think positively instead of negatively at my mistakes. So next time that you mess up think, what could I do next time to fix this so I don't make the same mistake again? it really does help, so I suggest you give it a try

i'm so dissatisfied and bored with my relationship, and it makes me depressed. they only talk to me when they need comfort or need something from me. my messages are all unanswered and i get absolutely nothing out of it. i feel like i'm staying out of obligation because i'm the only person my partner is close with and their parents are not super nice people. i want to move on and see other people but i don't want to leave my current partner with nobody, so i just stay. i stay, sad and feeling honestly like i'm just being used as a therapist and not a partner. i've never been in a relationship before this and i don't know how to even go about trying to leave. so i guess i'll just continue quietly being unhappy.

in my opinion what you are doing is not healthy, even though your partners feelings matter in the situation it shouldn't be all about them. You both need to contribute to make it a relationship and if he's not willing you should leave. It's toxic to be stuck in a relationship where you aren't getting the satisfaction or happiness that you need out of it. First thing you should do is try to talk to them about it, over the phone or in person. Text is never good. If they still won't answer or acknowledge you, you should leave. It's your relationship, not mine but if you are dissatisfied than don't stay. I wish you the best of luck!

I hate having depression and social anxiety. I absolutely cannot talk to anyone and when I do I stutter and get flustered and sometimes I’m almost brought to tears. But unfortunately, a lot of my classes involve large group work and I’ve told my teachers that I don’t like working in groups, but they basically tell me that I’ll ‘get used to it.’ My parents, once again, say it’s just a side effect of my medication. I don’t need any more stress on top of what I have, I already come home and take a shower so I can cry in the bathroom where no one can hear or see me wallowing in my self-pity. I really wish people could understand how serious social anxiety and depression are, but unfortunately nobody around here believes in that and I have no friends to confide in. Just perfect. <3

I have/had the same problem as you, it's hard to deal with social anxiety because you feel like everyone is always judging you. In reality, they probably aren't. It's just your mind over-thinking. I try to break away from that mentality and think positively, you should try that too. Tell yourself that you can do it and you will be able to. Know that you can cope with the situation. Whatever happens, if you are embarrassed or frightened you will deal with it and life will go on. It's not something that you should dwell on because that's what's leading up to the outburst. Also, realize that the people you are talking to are humans to, they all have self-doubt and issues that they are dealing with just like you so you aren't alone!
Lastly, you're saying that people don't believe that you have depression and social anxiety. I feel like my therapist doesn't believe I do either. If you feel it in your gut that you really do, it's probably correct. You know yourself the best. The best advice I have for that is to not listen to what they say because they don't know what you are going through.
I hope you find your own ways to cope and deal with your anxiety and depression. It's important to know that it's not something that will go away entirely, but it's something that you can learn to deal with over time.

[Light Bringer]

Ouch. I think I just got foed for asking to roleplay with someone.

[fishstix.]

Right now, I'm staying with my dad, (I go back and forth between parents since they're divorced and can't chose who gets to keep me and it confuses me so much) and he just annoys me so much.. I spend a lot of time on my laptop, or in my room doing homework/studying. I usually walk my dog for about 3 minutes then head back into my room. He keeps leaving for the entire day, he leaves at like 11 AM but then comes back at 9 PM and I can't always go out and buy food which isn't the biggest problem but I wish he didn't leave me home all the time without food. He comes back to the house and gets mad because I apparently never take care of the dog, and he talks to the dog and says stuff like "she never takes care of you, she doesn't love you, why do we have you in this house" and it just annoys me so much that he says that out loud to my dog just to make me mad. I've already been having problems with one of my chickens, Nevaeh, because she got bit by the neighbor's dog who got out of their house and ran around the street for like two days... Yet my dad keeps saying it's my fault that Nevaeh got out of the coop and went to eat ants by the tree in the front lawn.
I know both of my parents try to raise me correctly, and that I'm not the only person with problems, but it just bothers me so much how they purposely do things to make me mad thinking I'll "do better" when really it makes me feel worst

Typing all this out just makes me feel better, I don't want people to think I'm seeking attention from this thread again