The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[average]

So yesterday I told the Spencer, my -huge- crush, that I like him.

Back story:
I've known him since 2nd grade when I came to the same elementary school. We were great friends, and his 2nd grade classroom was right next mine. In 3rd, 4th, and 5th we had the same teacher, Ms. Carson, for G.A.T.E class. I liked him from the first time I talked to him/saw him. We used to take walks around the track and talked, and in 5th grade we hate sort of a love-hate relationship. We teased each other in a joking, hateful way all the time, all the way through middle school. Here comes the bad part. The summer before 11th grade I got really doubtful and started thinking that he will never like me and stuff like that.

I began to think that if I can't have him, then I might as well hate him. I was terrible and ruthlessly mean to him. The first to months his reaction was complete shock. But he began to hate me too. We had all classes together except that in P.E, we had different teachers, but still the same period.

Our language arts and social studies teacher was Mr. Bort, and we had this huge, funny, terrible war thing in his class all the time. We made it obvious that we hated each other. Mr. Bort had/has a club for NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month), and we were both in it. This year we both joined it again.

This time though, I didn't really go to any of the meeting and preferred to write at home instead, and I have zero classes with Spencer, not even the same lunch. But I came the first few meeting, and we both went on the activity bus (after school activity bus), and we talked. I began to like him, a lot. Ever since, I can't stop thinking about him, and in January I texted him hour sorry I was for being such a ***** and he forgave me. Still, I couldn't look him in the eye in the hallways, because I like him.

Yesterday I texted him that I like him. This is how it went:
Me (Ali:
"Hey...
Look, after that long text of how sorry I am, I still can't look you in the eye when i see you. You probably already figured it out, I mean it's pretty obvious that I like you... again. Since late oct. when we talked on the bus, But I wasn't sure then.. But now..
See, I liked you from 2nd to the end of 10th grade, hated you in 11th, and now I like you again, I guess in 11th grade I though that if I can't have you, then I might as well hate you. Stupid logic, I know. And I will never forgive myself for ruining our odd-todd friendship. I know that you like someone else, but I just... I guess I just wanted to tell you.."
Him (Spencer):
"I don't have a crush on someone else."
Ali:
"Oh.."
Spencer:
"Ya"
Ali:
"Well then. Yay? xD"
Spencer:
"I don't know yet."
Ali:
"What do you mean?"
Spencer:
"I have forgiven you, just I dont know if I like you."
Ali:
"Oh, well thats kind of a duh, considered I was so mean and stuff. I dont expect you to like me at all.."
Ali:
"I gotta go take a shower, cya tomorrow!"

What should I do?! D:
Oh, and he just stopped liking Hannah, who used to be my -best- friend from 1st grade until 3rd, when in 4th she became all popular and stuff... and he liked her since 5th grade. x.x

EDIT: Just realized how long this was. Sorry guys! Kodus to you guys who actually read through it all. xD

[Sun Bean]

Perfect timing! I need help and I didn't know I would find it on CS!! And sorry this is like 3 questions in 1) Iv'e been dating this boy Brandon for a while and we were great friends before we dated but now it's akward because I am very shy and have trouble talking to him and it usaully ends up in akward silences. I am trying to have my first kiss with him but I know he won't make the first move and I know I am shy so I have NO clue what to do. And it does not help that there is this dude Joseph that really likes me and knows I'm with someone. But I feel bad because he gets so sad even when I talk about other guys and I hate to hurt people's feelings.

[WolfWhisperer]

If anyone wants info from me, please PM me as I dont really look here, and it also gets really tiring having to look at millions of them and having to answer them all.

[WolfWhisperer]

Pm's have been sent out to: Sun Bean, Freakishlyesterday, Ilovepatch and Sophiebubbles1.

[Mysterious_Viking]

Sorry I haven't been able to come online lately. I've been extremely busy and haven't had a lot of time for CS, let alone taking time to give advice. So just to let everybody know, I may not be online that much for the next month, and if longer, I'll let everybody know.

[Lady B]

Okayyyy I need advice... There's a guy in my class who I reallllllly like, how do I tell if he likes me? He always talks to me (even in class x3), asks to pair up with me and my friends when the teacher says to get into groups and once when I dropped my books he picked them all up and carried them to the next class. Plus during the Chch quakes, whenever there was an aftershock he'd email me and go, "Are you okay? That one was pretty big..." and stuff like that. Is he just being a good friend??

[Cirque]

I like this guy now.
My best friend got me into liking him. Because I just had to complain about the lack of hot guys that are as tall as me at our school.
There are several problems with this.

1. I don't know him. Never said a word to him. My best friend sorta knows him, but I don't.
I'm planning on talking to him this weekend since my friend is coming over, and then we can talk to him over facebook/texting.
Another way I've been planning to talk to is that I'm very, very tall. So is he. I wanna ask him to see how tall he is compared to me [[out of honest curiosity and desire to talk to him]], and then that could possibly spark some kind of conversation.

2. He's the "hottest guy in school". He's not a player, but there are a lot of girls who like him.
When I presented this issue to my best friend, saying how "there are so many girls that are prettier than me that he could go out with..." she said, "Stfu and accept the fact that you're gorgeous!". I still argued, but she managed to shut me up about that.
I have seen him look at me quite a lot, and whenever he walks by to the generally area where my friends and I hang out, I try to not look at him, so I turn around, and my friend says that she sees him glance at me quite a lot.
But...still. I just don't believe in myself enough to think that he would want to go out with me.

3. I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't really know what to do in a relationship. D:
None of my friends know why, but it's true. I've never had a boyfriend, despite all the flirting and looks from guys I get, I've never been asked out. So, naturally, I would freak out about being too clingy, being to...opposite of clingy? For lack of a better word.
If I started dating him, when should I start giving him hugs? Immediately? Later? Wait until he hugs me first?
Well...one thing I'm thankful for is that I have lots of experience with hugs. xD I give my guyfriend ten hugs a day, so at least I'm not nervous about how to give a hug, that would be pretty bad. Anyways...well, yea. My relationship experience is at zero. :C

Despite all these problems...I'm thinking I'll try to go out with him.
I'll give it a shot, at least.

Okay, so I also posted about that guy in the Crushes/Boyfriends/Girlfriends thread, but I feel like I should post it here.

Well, he had a chat conversation on facebook with my best friend.

Guy: Do you know [insert my first and last name here]?
Friend: Ya? I'm kinda her best friend.
Guy: Oh nevermind, then I cant tell you
Friend: Tell me what?
Guy: Things.

Before she had the chance to ask what those 'things' were, he logged off.
I find it kinda weird he knows who I am, but I guess it might also be a good thing?

I'm very...confused. Maybe he likes me, maybe his friend likes me or something or...what.
My mind has been dying from wondering about it so much.

[Kisiel]

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So, I need some advice or opinions on my current situation when it comes to mu crush. Well, that may not be an approoriate word... I have a feeling that this is more than that.
Anyway, here's what's been happening recenty:
I have been 'stalking' C's facebook, and he wrote something along the lines of 'I love <insert C's girlfriend's name> so much! xxx'. And even though that's (unfortunately) not me, every time I see something like this makes my feelings for him even stronger. He's kinda sweet in that way, not mentioning that he's very protective of his friends, and I saw him stand up for them a few times, like last week they were being annoyed by about three guys from their year, and C was raging, barely managing to tame his temper. For once I'm not giving up on something, but I will not interfere in his relationship, as long as he's happy. In fact, I want to make sure that he will be satisfied and will have a long term relationship with his girlfriend. I'll wait patiently for C to realise that I'm always there for him, no matter how much pain each day brings: I will be strong, or at least try.
Sometimes he looks at me for a brief moment, but I'm too shy to meet his gaze. Sometimes he comes over to stand close by, but I always move away, afraid that he'll notice what kind of reaction his presence has on me. Sometimes he goes the longer way to his classes so I won't follow him, but I still do, desperate to see his face for at least a second. Sometimes... Just sometimes I think he's scanning the place to see if I'm somewhere out there, watching him as usual.
But this doesn't mean anything. At all. And I know it for sure.
Oh, I'd do everything to hear his voice once more before I leave school for two weeks (going away on wednesday). Even if it's not directed at me, I want to hear him speak and I really don't care what he'd be talking about. I don't want to start a conversation with C because it would just make me want to get close to him more. I'll admit that about two months ago we ha this awkward 'hi' exchange of words, but that was everything. However, I will never forget that moment when I looked into his eyes and he smiled at me during our short time together, which lasted about two minutes. But it made me excited and happy for ovwr a whole week, and that's not like me at all to jump about and hug everybody, grinning from ear to ear.
Anyway, I doubt that we will ever be friends. He's a year younger, tall, dark haired and clearly individual, different from the crowd. That's why I picked him to be the one who makes me sigh each time he walks by. And I... I'm nobody, not even from the counry where I live: I am underweight, not pretty enough to be noticed, rather hard to socialise with and tormented by life.
I'm sure that I could tell C all my secrets and fears... He would understand and accept, I know it. Like once when I had a really close friend who was always there for me when I needed support. Now he's gone, thinking that this way he'll protect me from getting hurt. No, he doesn't know that his dissapearance made things a lot worse, despite saying 'goodbye' over six months ago. I can't get over the fact that he isn't here to give advice, comfort me... But that will never happen with C. Want to know why?
The answer is simple: we'll never be together.
And I'll live with my feelings locked one boy who can't be mine..

What can I do? This is harder than I thought it would be, but how can I cope...?
Thanks to those who will bother to read and reply.
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[Miss Captain Sexy]

I have a dilemma....

Bachelor #1- REALLY CUTE, funny, sweet, and likes to joke around. PROBLEM: He likes someone else that is totally out of his league.

Bachelor #2- SUPER NICE, also funny, cute, athletic, and is very easy to talk to. PROBLEM: He can be WAYY to serious.

Bachelor #3- UUUUBER NICE, cute, funny, he could be my brother, and he's verry easy to talk to. PROBLEM: There's a rumor going around that me and my BFF stalk him ;.;

Help?

[splashfoot]

John is a really cute boy. He's shorter than me, and has these cute little cheeks and is just absolutely adorable and amazing as it may seem, I like him as much as I liked Troy (OMG I LIKED TROY SO MUCH!!! no, seriously. I liked him HEAPS...now he's a dipstick and I hate him). The problem is, he doesn't like me. In fact, I think he hates me....I kinda found that out when I tried to play a joke on him...and he got really annoyed at me....but that might just be the joke, because when I sit next to him he doesn't make any attempt to move away.

I just want to know if there might be any way I can get him to like me. Because, when I liked Troy....you would not believe how much I liked him...even my friend said that when I first hug him I probably won't be able to let go until I die. I like John that much as well. I NEED HELP -turns into weeping beggar-