TheComfortCorner | V.7

[~IronRose~]

My ex boyfriend just told me that I'm choosing to be depressed....

Your ex is an ex for a reason! Try not to over think anything he says

But is he right...? Is it my fault I'm like this?

[hellebore]

My ex boyfriend just told me that I'm choosing to be depressed....

Your ex is an ex for a reason! Try not to over think anything he says

But is he right...? Is it my fault I'm like this?

No. No one ever wants to be depressed; obviously if you could help it, you wouldn't be. It doesn't sound like you should still be in contact with him.

[Thalassic]

My ex boyfriend just told me that I'm choosing to be depressed....

Your ex is an ex for a reason! Try not to over think anything he says

But is he right...? Is it my fault I'm like this?

Being depressed is about as much of a choice as choosing to catch a cold or choosing to have asthma.
It's not.
Depression is caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, and you can't just wish it away any more than you can wish away a virus or any other illness. And that's all it is, an illness of an organ. No one ever goes up to someone who has pneumonia to tell them "just don't think about it! be positive and you'll be okay!!" because that's not how illnesses work.
Your depression is 100% real and valid and he's trash for saying that honestly (and probably grossly misinformed).

[DrinaLestrange]

My ex boyfriend just told me that I'm choosing to be depressed....

Your ex is an ex for a reason! Try not to over think anything he says

But is he right...? Is it my fault I'm like this?

As the others have said, who would choose to be depressed? Your ex sounds like a jerk and I'm glad hes an ex. Clearly he isn't a good fit for you if hes blaming you for your feelings/conditions. Keep your head up, dont let him get to you

[snubbulls]

God, I finally put myself out there and it just hurts me more.
Why? It's all I've wanted to do for a year.
Why is it just hurting me?
It's like achieving my goals is only pushing me farther away from them.

[critter]

I told my friend that I liked this girl, on instagram, and he messaged her that I liked them and they said that they were in a relationship and they liked me as a friend.

Ouch.

[SilentMelody]

(( little rant ))

apparently i've lowkey had a stomach bug the past week and i didn't even know until i got really sick last night
then my mom has the audacity to ask me if there's any chance i'm pregnant....
and then after i tell her i only like girls she comes back with "you've liked guys in the past"
**news flash**
yes i've liked guys in the past but over time i figured out i'm not attracted to them in any way
so the only way i could get pregnant is when i'm married to my lovely wife and we want to have a child

[.zombie]

please help. i dont know how to feel about my father and i have to get my feelings straight.

first off, my dad likes his vodka. he comes home after work and likes to pass out on the couch. he also has to smoke atleast five times a day to "feel normal".
second, he's very selfish. to me it seems as if he doesnt care about my mothers health whatsoever. when hes not drunk, he likes to turn on the tv and watch his stupid russian movies.
third, he's very rude. when he wants me or my brother to do something, we have to do it. he wants everything his way. i cant think of any instances on the top of my head, since there are just so many ive lost track of them. for example, for some reason he hates when i reply with the word "okay" instead of "yeah: or "sure" or whatever. he would stomp into my room and get so intimidating and so close. sometimes he would hit me as well. ive been taking self defense classes and i want to fight back, but i cant. he'll just get even more mad and it would turn into an all out battle of whose the strongest.
i try to ignore him now, but i remember a few years back, when i just started realizing how terrible his addictions were. it hit me very hard. i used to cry thinking about how other kids have fathers who cared about them, and did little things like bake and tell stories to show love. -removed- if not we just stay home all day. it sucks.

heres the second side to the story though. i feel so terribly bad for him. this is always usually my emotion towards people- i may hate them with a passion, but at the same time, i feel so sorry for them.
my dad is very smart. my mother has told stories of him being able to read a russian newspaper by the age of five [which i believe is true]. when i have a question about a history problem, he always has the answer. -removed- it makes me want to cry.
he also has no close friends except for work partners [hes a carpenter]. he doesnt have anyone to have a good laugh with either. he usually entertains himself with the internet and the tv. he hasnt lived his life to the fullest, and thats what gets me heartbroken.
and my mother has been very affected by him as well. most husbands support their wives both emotionally and financially. he doesnt really do that. my mother usually cries to herself when she struggles with her emotions. my mother has no one to turn to. shes working two jobs which require a tremendous amount of work, and shes on the verge of possibly retiring. she is older than the average mother, to say it nicely. adding on to her stomachaches and work, she has my fathers addictions dragging her down as well.

theres still more to say, but ive got homework to do. id appreciate any advice given.

please help.
my mom and dad are fighting.
my mom worked all day today. came back to him sleeping on the couch.
dads drunk. drank a whole bottle of my moms wine.
she's threatening to call the cops.
I feel bad I feel so bad. he's so so bad to my family but I feel bad. he's going to die with no friends. he gets drunk all of the time but I think he has feelings too.
help please please


edit- I'd appreciate a pm from someone who is experienced with these feelings [family problems, divorce, etc]

[hellebore]

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[~IronRose~]

So, I had three people reply to my last post and I just started crying, but don't worry they're happy tears. I didn't think so many people would care because lately I have felt like no one does. People have been telling me to just love myself, and be happy being alone but they don't understand how much I can't do that. But thank you guys so much for understanding Thank you so much <3