TheComfortCorner | v.6

[*Infinity*]

I have a nasty cough that won't go away and has kept me up half the night, so instead of sitting around and getting cranky, I thought I'd come here and commiserate a bit....

my doctors keep changing my meds and its making me so much worse. my legs hurt more and im just. so much worse

I understand this all too well! It took about a year to get my meds close to "right". Just stick in there, and take them as they're prescribed. This helps your doctor get a better baseline and adjust to what you really need. It takes time for this stuff, so try to be as patient as possible!

I'm so upset. I feel like my whole day was off. We had the class spelling bee, but I'm homeschooled in the afternoon so I had to ask my mom to email the science teacher asking if I could do the spelling bee first period instead. At the beginning of school, he gave me a note saying that was fine, so I went there first period. The note said something like, "go to win the spelling bee first period" because I've won classroom spelling bees the last two years, the county bee one year, and the school bee one year. So, I'd been studying for it last night, so I felt fairly prepared. But I got thrown off my game because they'd already done half a round and I felt super awkward, so I mispelled my first word. And so did the entire class, except one guy. Well, we need to representatives, so someone said, "oh, give her another word!" So I got a second chance. I still felt a little weird, but I figured it was fine.

Well.

I got that one wrong too. Oh, and I forgot to mention---at the beginning of class, I'd left the note on my binder, so everyone who walked past saw it.

So I failed both words, and yeah, they were both hard. I could've spelled every other word anyone got, but no. Regardless, though, the class decided since I won last year I should be our class's other representative this year, so I'm going to the school bee. Which is great, right? I got what I wanted. But I just feel so weird. I didn't win. I'm completely useless. The spelling bee is a big deal for me, and this is my last year, so I'm really stressed. In addition, I can tell my depression is getting way worse, to the point that I really desperately need to tell someone, but I don't feel like I can, because it'll sound stupid. Maybe my counselor, but I won't see her again for three days, and I'm already planning to unload a bunch of stuff about my gender identity on her.

I just don't even want to exist anymore. I feel like the only thing tethering me is my friends and family. Besides that, I'm just so done with everything.

You have so much going on! I just want to say up front that I am amazed at how strong and confident you are!

My first real spelling bee I bombed because I got stage fright - no other reason. You are not useless. You are the obvious choice for your class, so don't feel weird about it. If everyone else was bombing, it was probably because the judges were intentionally picking on all of you, equally. Now that you know your weak points, you know where you need to prepare further, and when the school bee comes up, you'll shine like the star you are!

Definitely tell your counselor about your depression as well. If you keep it hidden, it'll only make it worse. The more you sweep it under a rug, the more it builds up until you have so much there that you trip on it (maybe that's a bad analogy - if so, I'm sorry).

I wish you lots of luck and support in the Bee, in your counseling session, and with everything else that's going on for you! You are incredibly strong, but it takes a really strong person to ask for help. Don't give up! You are the star that others look up to!

I just need to say things right now.

We'll be moving in less than a month. My parents are stressed, yell at my 8 year old sister and me for no reason, but I guess it's not their fault... They're really stressed because they need to sell all of our furniture, since we need the money to ship our stuff. We live in New Zealand and we're moving to France. Which is all the way around the planet. Honestly, we don't have lots of money and they really need it, which is why they get so stressed about it. But it's not fair for us, especially for my sister. Moving is really hard for her. Plus another problem.

The neighbors have two kids, both around the same age as my sister. They are all like brothers and sisters, they play together every day, and have lots of fun. Now their parents are divorcing, and the kids will be moving away very soon. And my sister will be alone, with only me. And she's getting worse, talking back to our parents, yelling at me and them for no reason, and I don't know what to do.

I'm stuck between my stressed out parents and my annoying sister. But she's not annoying as most sisters are, not all the time. She is just... I don't know, she just does stupid things all the time.

And I'm stuck between those three very emotional people, but I'm not... For some reason I don't feel stressed out, which I should. For some reason I don't feel sad about leaving, which I should. Why am I not normal? I should be annoying, doing stupid things, talking back, crying, something!? But I just stay by myself like I'm a blank wall, like I feel nothing. And I'm not quite sure if I feel anything. I feel like a blank wall too. I try to help my parents, but it's never enough. I try to help my sister, she just yells at me. And I'm just... Standing there. Why am I not normal?

You are 100% normal!!

You are a crisis interventionist - you have the innate, rare ability to keep your cool and calm in a crisis situation and work through it with a level head. That said, you will have your emotional breakdown - probably after the move when you are all settled in and things have achieved a level of "normal". Please be aware, and prepare. It is what you're good at!

I know moving and change can feel like you're being torn in many different directions, but it sounds like you are the rock your family needs right now. Speak to your parents about your concerns about how they are treating you and your sister. Stress is no excuse for emotional and verbal battering. Also explain your concerns about your sister's friends. They should be able to take a few minutes to address these concerns and for you.

I hope the move goes well for you all, and wish you the best of luck in France (I've always wanted to visit France - they have some of the worlds best private libraries I've read). It will be a real adventure! You will see things and meet people that others around you now will envy. Why not share it? Keep in touch with your neighbors and get their address so you can stay penpals or something. In this day and age, goodbye is not really goodbye - everyone is just a stamp or a mouseclick away!

You are perfectly normal, and have a wonderful gift. Don't worry, and learn how to use it. Police, firefighters, military, and all kinds of first responder types usually have to learn this skill, while it comes natural to you. Be proud of it! You deserve it!

ugh I feel so ill, I have a nasty chest infection and it sucks...

*Hugs!* I'm feeling you right now!! My chest and throat feels disgusting.

Lots of tea with tons of honey if you can get it... Honey is a natural antiseptic as well as soothes inflammation, and tea flushes impurities from the body - combine that with any medicine you're taking and you will be better before you know it!!

Iiii feel like trash
I caved in and spoke to my ex again
he was a majr part in my life for 4+ years so I mean
talking to him was really comforting? like jsut seeing his name in my phone again made me a little bit happy
but then learning about how well hes doing in ever way and how everything in my life sucks its jsut

I really hate myself now
I feel pathetic for breaking down while talking to him
and now he has to deal with my emotional baggage and Im jsut
god
I feel so embarassed
so hopeless
Ijsut dontknow where to put my feelings anymore Im so hurt by all of my life and I feel miserable
no one is ever going to love me, I'm going to die alone and miserable, just as Ive always been

It's not breaking down to speak with someone, especially someone that was such a huge part of your life for so long. It just means that you still care. Don't be embarrassed about caring!

Soon things will just seem to click. You will meet someone who cares about you the same way. Don't devalue yourself - you deserve to be happy and loved! You *will* be happy and loved! Right now you are in a place where you have the room to learn to love and value *yourself*. Take advantage, and love will literally fall in your lap when you least expect it. Don't rush it! It will come!

My wrist hurts...

Stretching exercises, self massage, alternating heat and ice... Feel better soon!!

[pirelliskrt]

Here's an inspirational quote that made my day.

Dont tell me the sky's the limit when there's foot prints on the moon.

[saturnz barz]

too stubborn to message first after an argument SIGH

it's been 22 hours, we can't usually go 22 minutes without messaging each other

[bowiee]

kind of sad because my friend canceled on me and my other friend because her crush wanted to come over. last minute. bummed because i was so looking forward to it.

[critter]

My mom wants everything perfect, the second I make a common mistake she losses her head. I can't wait until I move out. She'll never have to deal with my imperfects again :)

I am so ready to leave. I hate both of my parents and you have no idea. It actually hurts. I wanted a normal life, nope.
I cant have that.
Whatever, she can just leave, she wants so much from me but the second I ask for something, I am called ungrateful.
Yay.

[Light Bringer]

My mom wants everything perfect, the second I make a common mistake she losses her head. I can't wait until I move out. She'll never have to deal with my imperfects again

I am so ready to leave. I hate both of my parents and you have no idea. It actually hurts. I wanted a normal life, nope.
I cant have that.
Whatever, she can just leave, she wants so much from me but the second I ask for something, I am called ungrateful.
Yay.

I know how you feel. My mum is exactly like that. If you ever want to talk to someone about it, feel free to shoot me a pm.

[*Infinity*]

can i just have a hug? :")

*Big hugs!!* It'll be better. Whatever it is, it will not be like this forever. *Huggle*

[miito]

I have a nasty cough that won't go away and has kept me up half the night, so instead of sitting around and getting cranky, I thought I'd come here and commiserate a bit....

I'm a bit late here, but if the cough still persists, I would reccomend taking cough medicine/ drinking warm water. I also reccomend holding a lemon in your mouth(cut a slice of lemon/lime, and just let the juice melt. Spit the lemon out after about 3-5 minutes.) These methods seem to sooth the throat and lessen coughing for me.

can i just have a hug? :")

Ghostly hug sent^^ Hopefully whatever is troubling you ceases soon.

Edit: changed consists to persists because my grammar is dying. Thanks for correcting me c:

[KittyWarrior]

I have a nasty cough that won't go away and has kept me up half the night, so instead of sitting around and getting cranky, I thought I'd come here and commiserate a bit....

I'm a bit late here, but if the cough still consists, I would recommend taking cough medicine/ drinking warm water. I also reccomend holding a lemon in your mouth(cut a slice of lemon/lime, and just let the juice melt. Spit the lemon out after about 3-5 minutes.) These methods seem to sooth the throat and lessen coughing for me.

[ Call me a grammar nerd but the word 'consists' bugged me because it was out of place and I'm slightly crazy about things like this, I do apologize! I think the word you're looking for is 'persists' (: ]

My advice would be just drink plenty of water. Fluids fluids fluids!! Sleeping in an upright position may prove to be uncomfortable, but it always helped me when I had a cough. Don't think about your cough. Daydream during the night, in other words, and the results may be what you were looking for!! Feel better soon!

[Eagle's Eye]

I'm tired of people with no manners
They just literally snatch something out of my hands without a "thank you" or anything