♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

[♥GingerSnap♥]

I had this crush from beginning of the school year till now, I sorta did expressed my feelings to him and he rejected me hard 😂 I was gonna plot a revenge on Monday~

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update:
my friend "T" sent me a startling message about how I was untrustworthy in all caps, and I kind of lost it. It was only something small that I had accidentally hinted to one of our other best friends, but it made me so anxious I felt like throwing up and crying. I then proceeded to rant about "R" and "C" and all the issues. I confessed all my feelings towards "T" and "R" having a strong and unsettling connection and how I liked "C". I told her about past things (a while back I was basically forced to choose between "R" and "C" when I liked them and they liked me, and I had chosen "R".) I told her how I regretted choosing "R", because he broke up with me 4 days later and yet still liked me which made me upset. "C" always told me how he was heartbroken, and I sort of laughed it off hesitantly. Now I understand "C" would've been the better choice because in his previous relationship, he cared, he was faithful and 100% committed, he showed affection to his girlfriend and got emotional after SHE broke up with HIM after a 5 month span.

Everything's killing me and I feel that this experience made everything come out in a jumble of surprising events I'd never told anyone. And for some reason I had the urge to hurt myself - which I didn't because that would be bad, but it felt like I should have. I know it's wrong to think that but I pushed it back anyway

[Ducky_Dearest]

Dang it... This is so random but like... new feelings. I feel like i have a crush on my best friend, but i cant tell if its real or im just being dramatic... Like I always am with crushes. Im just kind of freaking out, especially since I awkwardly told her over text that im kind of questioning my sexuality and made everything really awkward between us. Goodness gracious....

[NebulaeSoul]

So let's just say that I am really bad at talking to people, especially boys. I really want to talk to my crush, but i cannot start conversations. We're both teenagers, if that helps. Also, he has a tough sense of humor, so some tips on how to make him laugh would be helpful, too.
Any advice is appreciated!

[Rising]

So let's just say that I am really bad at talking to people, especially boys. I really want to talk to my crush, but i cannot start conversations. We're both teenagers, if that helps. Also, he has a tough sense of humor, so some tips on how to make him laugh would be helpful, too.
Any advice is appreciated!

'Trying' to make him laugh is probably going to backfire. You don't want to look like you're acting unnaturally around him. When you talk to him, try not to think of him as your crush, try to think of him as just another human. The more you talk to him, the better you'll get to know his sense of humour and be able to judge the sort of thing that would make him laugh. Though if it turns out you have entirely different senses of humour, well maybe you just aren't compatible. If that happens it's normal to feel very disappointed but it would be far better to have that happen than to never even try talking to him. Think about how much you'd regret never trying to talk to him at all and missing the opportunity, that could inspire you to go and start the conversation.

[appi]

can i get advice on how to get over someone?

okay before you even say anything - it wasn't a relationship. i just saw this guy..
and i fell for him. we never talk, ever, and i'm pretty sure i've made a bad first
impression of myself and he'll probably never talk to me. he's popular and i'm very
socially awkward. point is, it's an impossible relationship. there's no way he'll fall
for me and that's 99% fact, he's surrounded with girls that are prettier, funnier,
more popular, and probably just overall better people?? but my imagination is
a dangerous thing haha just simple eye contact with him drives me crazy and
it's just ughhh. it's pathetic that i fell for someone whom i don't even know personally
and someone i've talked to only once in my life. i need to get over him before
i self destruct even more and send myself into an endless loop of despair, lol

i know that if i stopped seeing him my brain would eventually forget about
him and move on, but i can't help it. i see him everyday and what's worse is
that it's just small glimpses of him everywhere like in the hallways or in the canteen
at lunch. it's torturous and super annoying. i really don't know how to deal with
this. thanks to anyone who can help!

[autumnsoundtrack]

So last night at a party I went outside because I wasn't feeling well and sat down. This guy, let's call him A, sat down next to me and - long story short - I ended up practically cuddling him with my arms around his waist and head on his shoulder while he constantly ran his fingers through my hair.

My friend keeps insisting that he likes me, because "guys don't just play with any girl's hair". While we were talking he mentioned that he believes us to be close friends, even though we've only known each other for a couple weeks, which makes me feel like her statement can't be true.

Is there any sort of stigma or connection between a guy playing with a girl's hair and their interest in them, or is my friend just making things up because of her own desire for us to get together?

[L.V.L]

Well, I'm currently in a weird situation and it seems like everyone has it figured out except for me. There is a guy that I see a couple of times a day and even have lunch and math class with him. He's new this year and something clicked as soon as I saw him, it was weird because he always kept glancing over at me in the beginning and I didn't think much of it. But later on in a couple of weeks, I got information that he did like me and that's when I realized what I was feeling. Ever since the beginning of the school year we've been glancing at each other so many times and even for a long period of time also. The hard part is, is that he doesn't speak English and I don't speak Spanish. It's the only real wall between us, and I have no idea what to do now.
I don't know what to except tomorrow when I see him - I don't even know what to except later on in the year. All I know is that I feel safe and comfortable when I'm around him.

[username by me]

I have a question about boundaries…

So to summarize my situation I think I may be asexual and potentially aromatic and I'm currently dating a sexual person. I don't want to mouth kiss them (at least no tongue kissing/ making out) because even though I don't really find just lip kissing repulsive I think its still uncomfortable and and weird and a little gross. Tongue kissing is really repulsive to me (probably even more so than sex) and I just don't want to tongue kiss. However, I was perviously uncomfortable with hand holding and cuddling and that sort of thing, but I was able to get comfortable with it. I think I might be able to do the same for lip kissing but absolutely not for tongue kissing and probably not for anything more sexual than that.

So everyone is always talking about compromise, you need to compromise and do this thing you are uncomfortable with and your partner needs to compromise and settle for less. So yes I want to compromise and I am willing to work towards lip kissing. But is it okay to set boundaries such as nothing beyond lip kissing? I mean obviously that would make my partner compromise more of their happiness so that I'm not uncomfortable, but is that okay? Is that okay to tell them to be unhappy so that I can feel comfortable? Is it not okay? Where can I draw a line?

I know there is a clear philosophy that one can draw a line whenever they please with sex. Sex should theoretically always be consensual. But then again I know some asexual people who don't want to have sex and still do it for their partners as a sort of compromise.Is that better than saying no and accepting the consequences? I'm just confused because I've never felt forced to do something I was uncomfortable doing (in a romantic or sexual way at least) and so I don't know what is expected and what is acceptable. Can a relationship with so much compromise ever work?

I just really need some advice because I don't know what to do with my feelings right now...

[Firedancer77]

Hey guys! For once I'm not here for advice. I just needed to get down somewhere how happy I've been these last few days crush-wise somewhere.

Okay, so my technical ex (we never dated however apparently my entire class thought we did and some even say it still counted even though I told them I was not allowed to date. also I pretty much had to break up with him) was sick the last two days of school. And to be honest, those days at school were wonderful. Things were so much less awkward between my crush (let's call him C) and honestly I was just so happy. He admitted to my friend - and even said in a conversation with me - that he does have a crush. He just won't say who. He's been super sweet too. We had a chapel that I ended up crying during and the first time he saw me, he checked up on me to make sure I was okay. He knows I have difficulty with accepting compliments (and I'm working on it), but I've noticed he has been giving me more personality-related ones recently. He also has been texting me more often (and he never texts, so it's a big deal) and actually talks to me about my problems/tries to give me advice.

Yesterday was the best though. We went to laser tag with some other friends and his sister, and it was just so much fun. I was making him really mad actually because I kept killing him. It was so much fun and my "ex" wasn't even able to ruin it. It was just amazing and he's just been so sweet. I love talking to him so much, because he's one of my best friends. <3 Just wanted to share how great it's been, and the fact that these were the first few days I barely stressed over my crush.