♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

[.headrush.]

I want to love somebody and have somebody love me. I want to hug and watch films and eat junk food with somebody I love but I haven't got anybody. I'm weird and no guys like me. I'm too desperate, I should value my time being single but I've never had a relationship and it's lonely...

[chewbecca]

I was in a relationship with a guy that I thought was absolutely perfect. Well in February he randomly broke things off with me after nearly six months for no reason. It was two days after Valentine’s day, which we had gone out and had a great time and he said he loved me. I thought everything was perfect. But then, he broke up with me and refused to give me a reason. So basically about two weeks after that he came back to me begging for forgiveness. Of course I still loved him and so I let him back in. Within a week we were back together and for a week or two, happier than ever. Then everything began to come crashing down. He suddenly became verbally abusive. It began as small little things he’d say that I would barely even catch onto and then progressively got worse. Then he began to completely ignore me and would only talk to me if I wanted to mess around… So about three months after being back together he cheated on me, right in front of me. The same week that our band program went to the beach on a trip. He tried to turn all my friends against me saying I was ignoring him and that I was being rude and stuff. Luckily, my friends knew the entire story and didn’t believe him. At the very end of that trip he told me he just wanted to be friends and I agreed but I still loved him. It then took him two days to come back to me. TWO DAYS. But I still cared for him very much and agreed that if he could prove to be trustworthy, that we could still work out. That short five days were amazing! He was not abusive at all and acted extremely apologetic for everything he did. It was so perfect and I'd believed he'd truly changed for the better. It was probably the best five days of my life but of course the happiness didn't last long. It took five days for him to tell me he lied. He gave me one week believing that he still loved me and then he told me he only wanted to be friends with benefits. So I turned him down because my friends talked me into it basically. I knew the relationship was toxic but I felt so trapped by the way I felt about him… However, here I am almost three months later still just as in love with him as I was three months ago. So now we’re returning to band after summer break and I have to see him every day for a solid 8-10 hours. At first I would get super angry when I saw him and it would make me so mad. Because of that resentment I really thought that maybe that was the next step to kind of like get over him. So I thought I was progressing but now I'm back to where I was three months ago. Literally, crying all the time over stupid things. I can't talk to anyone in my real life about this because my friends used to care but now they just want me to drop it. However, I can't drop it because I am literally so miserable ALL the time and I don't know what to do about it.

So now I'm sitting at home, by myself, about to text him. I can't do this anymore... I'm so tired of being 'strong' all the time. I just want him back in my life so bad. I feel so hopeless and I don't know what to do. The only thing holding me back from texting him is I'm actually scared of his answer but things that have happened the last three weeks lead me to believe he would still be interested. I just need help...

[Wonder.]

sigh
i'm totally in love with this girl i know
she kinda knows i had a crush on her
but i told her "no, no, i dont."
so, she doesn't believe that i have a crush on her.
I DO, AND THE OTHER DAY I SENT HER A SELFIE AND SHE REPLIES WITH;
"Damn, you're gorgeous." With a heart emoji
I DON'T KNOW IF SHE'S JOKING BUT OHHHH MY GOSH
I'M DYING <3
HELP I NEED TO GET RID OF HER
I MEAN MY CRUSH ON HER

Is there a reason you need to get over her? o.O

Time is really the only thing that can help you sort this out and get over her. But taking time means that you also need to get space from her. Ie, stop texting her/sending her pictures.

It's hard to move on when you stay so wrapped up in the life of the person you're trying to get over. ;3

The thing is, we're really good friends. I haven't yet come out to my family (I'm a lesbian) and it's really hard.
We can still be friends, but it's just awkward.

I'm in the same boat over here :/ it's almost funny how similar the situations are :p

[lady beneviento]

I was in a relationship with a guy that I thought was absolutely perfect. Well in February he randomly broke things off with me after nearly six months for no reason. It was two days after Valentine’s day, which we had gone out and had a great time and he said he loved me. I thought everything was perfect. But then, he broke up with me and refused to give me a reason. So basically about two weeks after that he came back to me begging for forgiveness. Of course I still loved him and so I let him back in. Within a week we were back together and for a week or two, happier than ever. Then everything began to come crashing down. He suddenly became verbally abusive. It began as small little things he’d say that I would barely even catch onto and then progressively got worse. Then he began to completely ignore me and would only talk to me if I wanted to mess around… So about three months after being back together he cheated on me, right in front of me. The same week that our band program went to the beach on a trip. He tried to turn all my friends against me saying I was ignoring him and that I was being rude and stuff. Luckily, my friends knew the entire story and didn’t believe him. At the very end of that trip he told me he just wanted to be friends and I agreed but I still loved him. It then took him two days to come back to me. TWO DAYS. But I still cared for him very much and agreed that if he could prove to be trustworthy, that we could still work out. That short five days were amazing! He was not abusive at all and acted extremely apologetic for everything he did. It was so perfect and I'd believed he'd truly changed for the better. It was probably the best five days of my life but of course the happiness didn't last long. It took five days for him to tell me he lied. He gave me one week believing that he still loved me and then he told me he only wanted to be friends with benefits. So I turned him down because my friends talked me into it basically. I knew the relationship was toxic but I felt so trapped by the way I felt about him… However, here I am almost three months later still just as in love with him as I was three months ago. So now we’re returning to band after summer break and I have to see him every day for a solid 8-10 hours. At first I would get super angry when I saw him and it would make me so mad. Because of that resentment I really thought that maybe that was the next step to kind of like get over him. So I thought I was progressing but now I'm back to where I was three months ago. Literally, crying all the time over stupid things. I can't talk to anyone in my real life about this because my friends used to care but now they just want me to drop it. However, I can't drop it because I am literally so miserable ALL the time and I don't know what to do about it.

So now I'm sitting at home, by myself, about to text him. I can't do this anymore... I'm so tired of being 'strong' all the time. I just want him back in my life so bad. I feel so hopeless and I don't know what to do. The only thing holding me back from texting him is I'm actually scared of his answer but things that have happened the last three weeks lead me to believe he would still be interested. I just need help...

Oh wow, this is tragic. From what I have gotten from this, he DOES NOT DESERVE YOU. If he has done all those things to you then he has proven he cannot be trusted. I cannot stress this enough. You can do so much better. Your best hope, in my opinion, is to just try to get over him. Don't keep letting him walk all over you. Believe me, it took my best friend 3 months to convince me that my girlfriend was manipulating me, and when I finally saw it for myself, it hurt. But I am over her now, and it only hurt for a little while, and it gets better, so don't worry. You will find someone who respects you and treats you equally. Don't just settle.

[JustDucky]

My bf is so over emotional almost all the time. Like when I leave he cries. If I'm away from him he cries, and when I tell him I can't see him he gets slightly mad, but never for very long n he won't admit that he's mad, but I can kind of tell. If I joke around with him he takes everything I say to heart. If I don't text back he blows up my phone cuz he thinks something happened to me. When I get mad at him he will not leave me alone until I am happy with him again, cuz he gets scared. He has separation issues and I have a lot of patients but sometimes he's just so frustrating. He makes me happy anyway but he goes a little overboard when I can't see him. And he will keep begging me to see him, even after I explain why I can't. It's kind of like dealing with a kid who doesn't want their mom to leave them.

If this is the case, I would normally say talk to them about it, but judging off of what you've already said, you seem to have already tried that, and it doesn't seem to work. So, here are two options for you.

A.) If you are annoyed by this/it is frustrating, and it happens a lot, then it might be at a point where you guys should break up, or at least have some breathing space. I'm not going to say this will be pretty, based off of what you've told us, but it might be beneficial to both of you in the end if you don't feel you can handle the relationship anymore. If you feel like a mom with a little kid, that isn't good.
B.) You try to work through the relationship. This does normally involve a lot of talking, and if he decides not to listen, then it won't work. It's got to be a two way take and give, and you'll probably need a lot of patience. Be sure to explain that you aren't mad quite a few times, as then I'm sure he'll be too busy trying to make you happy to listen.

Ok so I talked to him. I'm not going to break up with him. I mean yes he's frustrating, but not all the time. I told him how I felt on the situation and he apologized (like a million times) and he said he didn't realize it was making me feel that way. After that I apologized for being mean about it, and he told me not to, because he likes to hear how I feel and if I'm uncomfortable with anything he would want to know, so he can fix it. He does have a lot of issues but I'm willing to help him get through them. I know he does have separation anxiety, but when I first started dating him (almost 6 months ago) was a lot worse. I mean he would follow me everywhere, and he did it before I asked him out too, because he always had this fear something bad would happen to me, and he wanted to protect me. I'm hoping with time it will get better. The more he gets used to being away from me the less he will have that fear (I hope). It does not bother me that he does this, but I do get a little annoyed. He still makes me really happy. Oh and someone asked what he does in his free time; he has few friends but I dont think its much of a distraction, and other than that he really doesnt have much. A couple times I made him go look for a job, and he filled out apps with me. He is supposed to be getting a call from his old job soon. Thank you guys for the advice. It helped.

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I'm hoping that anyone will have good time here^^

[Rising]

You know he's a keeper when you start having conversations about making smoothies out of dead rats.

[mikoliko]

I want to love somebody and have somebody love me. I want to hug and watch films and eat junk food with somebody I love but I haven't got anybody. I'm weird and no guys like me. I'm too desperate, I should value my time being single but I've never had a relationship and it's lonely...

Shhh. I feel the same way. lonely... I want to enjoy being single but I also want to fall in love and have the things other people in relationships do. But you're not weird, you're unique and a boy should see you and love you for who you are. I have to keep telling myself that, because I'm a bookworm and I game sometimes, and no boys seem to like female bookworms and gamers these days, all they care about are those 'perfect' girls (not perfect to us, but perfect to them). No boys seem to have liked me since fifth grade (at least to my knowledge, which is limited) so you're not alone there, but the right person will come. Also, I have really liked a boy for nearly two years now. I think he felt the same way, as he asked me to watch some movies with him, but he got a girlfriend so I was rejected. either way, he's not my type, but i still like him, even when i see him with his girlfriend. I know we will both find the right person one day. It'll be fine <3

[skunkiii]

I want to love somebody and have somebody love me. I want to hug and watch films and eat junk food with somebody I love but I haven't got anybody. I'm weird and no guys like me. I'm too desperate, I should value my time being single but I've never had a relationship and it's lonely...

Shhh. I feel the same way. lonely... I want to enjoy being single but I also want to fall in love and have the things other people in relationships do. But you're not weird, you're unique and a boy should see you and love you for who you are. I have to keep telling myself that, because I'm a bookworm and I game sometimes, and no boys seem to like female bookworms and gamers these days, all they care about are those 'perfect' girls (not perfect to us, but perfect to them). No boys seem to have liked me since fifth grade (at least to my knowledge, which is limited) so you're not alone there, but the right person will come. Also, I have really liked a boy for nearly two years now. I think he felt the same way, as he asked me to watch some movies with him, but he got a girlfriend so I was rejected. either way, he's not my type, but i still like him, even when i see him with his girlfriend. I know we will both find the right person one day. It'll be fine <3

I feel you guys too. I'm here like, look at my username. it says it all.. i want someone who is close and someone I can connect with easily, but it just doesn't work out for me..

[knifekind]

liking boys is so stressful why can't i just,,, Eject my feelings yikes