The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[Mysterious_Viking]

Ok i could use some advice

my mom told me yesturday that we might have to move to a new town and school district if my stepdad gets a new job. but then later on in the day i found it could be to a whole nother state (Wyoming or Kentucky. i live in Ohio.) So i told my bf of almost a year (it will be in 9 days!) that and now he is all bummed out. Yeah i was too but he told me that we can get through it and we'll spend as much time together as possible just in case i do have to move. So i calmed down about it but he seemed to have gotten worse. i have tried cheering him up and stuff the way i would if he was down about something before. That doesnt seem to be doing anything. My friend told me i should have wiated to tell him untill it was for sure that i was moving cause she figured this would happen.

So i guess im asking is should i have listned to my friend and just not have told him or did i do the right thing and what do you guys think i could do to cheer him up? We are going to hang out at his house tomorrow(friday) so i would like some answers tonight or before noon then if that is possible.

Thank you
Ellie

You did the right thing by telling him early. It's best to tell him when you did because if you do move, he'll have more time to cheer up. Just try to spend as much time with him as possible and try to make the best out of every tiny moment you two spend together. But if you end up not moving, then he'll be really happy again.

hi, me again,i just told my friend i dont like him no more, but i love him still... so do i wait untill she doesn't like the boy or what?

thankyou
-rainbow~pancakes

About the Friend:
Go with your feelings. If you really like him that much, then go for it! If you don't, then wait for your friend to get over him. Or, wait until he makes a move on you, if he does make a move, that is.

About the Crush:
Same advice as the first time; You should just try to be his friend and look for signs that he likes you, and if you think he does, hint him that you like him back. Just remember not to push it and be annoying.

[Stray Dog]

Well I just found this thread and though it may help me out in my current situation . . .
Well I know this guy and I have known him for 10 years and, I only realised this recently, but he is the only person that, ever since I met them, I have never fought with and have always considered a friend. We're pretty close and have things in common and he's great to hang out with, I sometimes leave my best friend to hang out with him and we always hug, just as friends and stuff. But I always feel an electric charge and never want to let him go . . . I sometimes get a little clingy but realise it quickly and stop, acting as if I was just in a huggy mood and hugging all my other friends too. When I first met him, we were 3 and I had a crush on him. A few years later and I liked him once more. It has been going on like this, me liking him for a bit then not because I consider him a great friend or because he gets a girlfriend or this really cute guy comes along and I like them instead. Yet we were once a couple and I only dumped him because I wasnt ready for a boyfriend - he was so upset he actually cut himself. But he got over it and we are, once more, great friends and close as ever . . . It all seems fairly fine and dandy, right? Easy to solve? Well, it's not.
He's a flirt - a MAJOR flirt. He's thirteen and has had more girlfriends then I can keep track of, having one currently, and he has done THINGS with his girlfriends . . . but I havent even been kissed/kissed someone yet. I have been tempted to tell him I like him ehen he doesnt have a girlfriend but then I remember that I was completely innocent and wanted to take it slow when he is rather fast-paced . . . although, the thing is, a year ago when we were together my friend pointed out that he DID go slow with me because we knew each other so well. So I am unsure what to do . . . just stay friends or tell this guy, who in a dream I hugged and we couldn't stop hugging because we never wanted to let each other go, how I really feel?
*rips out hair* Its driving me bonkers

[BluKerty123]

I have never had a boyfriend before in my life yet I have liked a few people in the past.

*I feel really weird because currently I don't really properly like anyone, I just sort of like them, or think they're cute. But there is this one guy who I have to sit next to who I do kind of like but my friend sits on the other side of him and she is constantly talking to him and I think he likes her better, she is always laughing and chatting and although she says she doesn't I think she might like him

*There is another guy who I think is quite funny, extrememly sarcastic and can be quite horrible yet I found myself starting to like him. He is going out with one of my friends at the minute and I haven't a clue if he likes me or not, I don't really think so.

*I always feel like no boy will ever like me and there have been plenty of them who said horrible stuff to me before. I try to talk to them but I am pretty shy to be honest and I think guys get the wrong idea and think I am very mardy and unsociable when with people I know, they can't get me to shut up

*I just feel really confused and is it unnatual for me to like more than one person yet not really love them?

*This isn't really about me but my best friendsay she had this boyfriend who nobody had heard of and she was saying that her gave her flowers and kept texting her yet I have known her for 7 or 8 years and I think she is lying. Even if she was lying it won't ruin our friendship for me, I just think she wants the attention because almost all of our other friends have got/had boyfriends. She also said she fancies a cartoon character. PLus she always goes on about this boy called ALex and I am pretty convinced she likes him, I can tell but she would never admit it in a million years.

Anyway, I think I've written quite enough now I'm not really to bothered about these thoughts/situations up in my head but I often think about them and I could never talk face to face to anybody I know about this.

[Mysterious_Viking]

Well I just found this thread and though it may help me out in my current situation . . .
Well I know this guy and I have known him for 10 years and, I only realised this recently, but he is the only person that, ever since I met them, I have never fought with and have always considered a friend. We're pretty close and have things in common and he's great to hang out with, I sometimes leave my best friend to hang out with him and we always hug, just as friends and stuff. But I always feel an electric charge and never want to let him go . . . I sometimes get a little clingy but realise it quickly and stop, acting as if I was just in a huggy mood and hugging all my other friends too. When I first met him, we were 3 and I had a crush on him. A few years later and I liked him once more. It has been going on like this, me liking him for a bit then not because I consider him a great friend or because he gets a girlfriend or this really cute guy comes along and I like them instead. Yet we were once a couple and I only dumped him because I wasnt ready for a boyfriend - he was so upset he actually cut himself. But he got over it and we are, once more, great friends and close as ever . . . It all seems fairly fine and dandy, right? Easy to solve? Well, it's not.
He's a flirt - a MAJOR flirt. He's thirteen and has had more girlfriends then I can keep track of, having one currently, and he has done THINGS with his girlfriends . . . but I havent even been kissed/kissed someone yet. I have been tempted to tell him I like him ehen he doesnt have a girlfriend but then I remember that I was completely innocent and wanted to take it slow when he is rather fast-paced . . . although, the thing is, a year ago when we were together my friend pointed out that he DID go slow with me because we knew each other so well. So I am unsure what to do . . . just stay friends or tell this guy, who in a dream I hugged and we couldn't stop hugging because we never wanted to let each other go, how I really feel?
*rips out hair* Its driving me bonkers

I think you should tell your friend and say that you like him. If he went slow with you, then that means he either likes you more than the other girls or just cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you. Tell him that if he still wants to go out with you if things don't work out between him and his current girlfriend, then you'll go out with him if you feel that way about him. Basically, just tell him how you really feel about him.

I have never had a boyfriend before in my life yet I have liked a few people in the past.

*I feel really weird because currently I don't really properly like anyone, I just sort of like them, or think they're cute. But there is this one guy who I have to sit next to who I do kind of like but my friend sits on the other side of him and she is constantly talking to him and I think he likes her better, she is always laughing and chatting and although she says she doesn't I think she might like him

*There is another guy who I think is quite funny, extrememly sarcastic and can be quite horrible yet I found myself starting to like him. He is going out with one of my friends at the minute and I haven't a clue if he likes me or not, I don't really think so.

*I always feel like no boy will ever like me and there have been plenty of them who said horrible stuff to me before. I try to talk to them but I am pretty shy to be honest and I think guys get the wrong idea and think I am very mardy and unsociable when with people I know, they can't get me to shut up

*I just feel really confused and is it unnatual for me to like more than one person yet not really love them?

*This isn't really about me but my best friendsay she had this boyfriend who nobody had heard of and she was saying that her gave her flowers and kept texting her yet I have known her for 7 or 8 years and I think she is lying. Even if she was lying it won't ruin our friendship for me, I just think she wants the attention because almost all of our other friends have got/had boyfriends. She also said she fancies a cartoon character. PLus she always goes on about this boy called ALex and I am pretty convinced she likes him, I can tell but she would never admit it in a million years.

Anyway, I think I've written quite enough now I'm not really to bothered about these thoughts/situations up in my head but I often think about them and I could never talk face to face to anybody I know about this.

It's completely natural for you to like more than one person at a time on not be in love with any of them. The first guy you and your friend sit next to may just be good friends with your friend, and it may not be flirting at all. You shouldn't worry about not having a boyfriend; at least you're not one of those people who goes out with everybody, or like your friend who might be lying about having a boyfriend and has a crush on a cartoon character. Don't stress about not having a boyfriend yet because wouldn't you rather have a good boyfriend who likes you for you and treats you right rather than have a broken heart multiple times?

[Stray Dog]

thanks for the advice, I'll try telling him how I feel ^^

[splashfoot]

okay, well, I'm not sure if this topic is still active, but I guess I'll post here anyway XD

My boyfriend and I have been together since last year, but the school holidays are more than a month long, and we never saw each other during those holidays. Now I'm not that sure if he still likes me, and even still wants to go out with me. Last year, he'd smile when I smiled at him. Now, it's just a small twitch of his mouth, like the beginning of a smile, and only for a brief moment. We still talk now and then, and I've asked him if he still wants to go out with me, and he does his usual. He shrugs. He friends say he doesn't, and when I got my friends to ask him, he shrugs, and his friends say, "No, he doesn't. He hates her." but they're just being sarcastic. When I was asking him out, he shrugged and shrugged, but then, after two freaking weeks, I got an answer out of him. I don't want to wait two weeks for this answer, I need it now. I want to give him a hug, but I'm not sure if he wants to hug if he doesn't want to go out with me anymore.

I really need help. I still want to go out with him, but I'm not sure if he wants to go out with me.

[WolfWhisperer]

okay, well, I'm not sure if this topic is still active, but I guess I'll post here anyway XD

My boyfriend and I have been together since last year, but the school holidays are more than a month long, and we never saw each other during those holidays. Now I'm not that sure if he still likes me, and even still wants to go out with me. Last year, he'd smile when I smiled at him. Now, it's just a small twitch of his mouth, like the beginning of a smile, and only for a brief moment. We still talk now and then, and I've asked him if he still wants to go out with me, and he does his usual. He shrugs. He friends say he doesn't, and when I got my friends to ask him, he shrugs, and his friends say, "No, he doesn't. He hates her." but they're just being sarcastic. When I was asking him out, he shrugged and shrugged, but then, after two freaking weeks, I got an answer out of him. I don't want to wait two weeks for this answer, I need it now. I want to give him a hug, but I'm not sure if he wants to hug if he doesn't want to go out with me anymore.

I really need help. I still want to go out with him, but I'm not sure if he wants to go out with me.

I do not think he is the best guy for you. I think that maybe you should drop him, because he is going to end up breaking your heart. So if you give up now, less heartache.
If my boyfriend did that, I would feel very upset and hurt by that. You need a guy who will love you forever, someone who will always say "I love you". Make you happy when you're down. I don't think that he is that type of guy.

There are many other fish in the sea, don't just pick one. From what I see now though, is that you are a really great girl, and that he is just being a little.... thing.... and that you diserve better. If he is like that, I don't think that he really wants to go out with you.

I know that it is really harsh... but that is life. Plus you don't have to have a boyfriend, you have friends that love you and care for you. Maybe think of them at this time. Not someone who couldn't really care...
Maybe tell him that if this keeps up, your not too sure if you will stay with him, and then see what he does.

If he gets a little freaked out or something, then maybe you can stay with him. But if he keeps shrugging his shoulders.... he is not worth your time.

[Mazzie]

Ok I have a question: I asked this guy out like a week ago, and still no answer Do you think he isn't even thinking or caring about it or having a hard time to decide?What shoudl I do? I'm really sad

[dilsey]

How do you tell if a boy really loves you when he claims he does?

[Mysterious_Viking]

Ok I have a question: I asked this guy out like a week ago, and still no answer Do you think he isn't even thinking or caring about it or having a hard time to decide?What shoudl I do? I'm really sad

If he's taken a week and still hasn't decided, then he must think you aren't worth it. You should tell him that because you don't know if he cares about you you don't want to go out with him.

By the way, you have been blacklisted for breaking three rules; giving advice when not suppoed to, spamming, and being impatient (all posts I had you delete.) This means you aren't allowed to post here ever again.

How do you tell if a boy really loves you when he claims he does?

It depends on the guy. If he's saying he loves you, then he's probably the nice and/or sensitive type. They usually go out of their way to spend more time or do things for you. If he loves you, he probably smiles at you, gives you compliments, stands up for you when you need it, and basically is very sweet and caring towards you.