Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[nimuulap]

Having relationship problems because of other people sucks. It seems like everyone is against us. Mostly because his ex still has feelings. She is fairly popular. I'm quiet, so I'm not. He tried it with her, but never felt anything for her. So he gave it up, and a few weeks later we got together. I used to be his best friend. And he pretty much hated her in the end. Now she harasses him, and pretty much stalks him, which makes me mad. And I've got guys who harass me, and it makes him mad.
I'm so afraid this will hurt us in the end. ;-; I love him, and losing him just isn't an option. He's happy with me. I know he is, because I changed him from player, to an awesome boyfriend.

It's wonderful you guys got together ^-^ Now regarding the 'harassing', is your boyfriend also noticing that from his ex? If he isn't, you should probably just kindly let him know. Don't say it in a way that you're trying to offend his ex, say it in a way as in to let him know you're feeling uncomfortable. After that, he can probably go talk to his ex about 'leaving you and him alone', because she's his ex for a reason.

For you, if it really bothers him that you're being 'harassed', then you should also talk to the guys that seem to bother you. Say something like, "Hey, look, I'm glad you appreciate me but it's making me uncomfortable so please leave me alone."

I hope it works out in the end ^-^* This is just my opinion but I'm sure there are other opinions as well


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So for the last few... weeks, I believe, my friend/classmate who moved from somewhere else kept talking about this one guy. Actually, she's been doing that since the start of the year. And believe me, they are not a usual couple. THEY DO THE MOST COUPLEST THINGS IN THE WORLDDDDD *dies*
They buy each other gifts 24/7, dance with each other, say "we'll be together forever" and all that sweet stuff and it just kills me because... They're. Not. DATING! And I'm just standing there watching her dream about him and not make a single move. So I've been feeling a bit 'pissed' so I gave her the idea to confess to him.

Her reaction? "he's gonna reject me"
They've been best friends for a really long time and by the way they act around each other, I really think they have feelings for each other.
So I started giving her confidence and ideas until she finally said, "Alright. I'll do it."

After awaiting many days, she finally sent me an email saying: I confessed to him.
I replied and she said that he felt the same way and he wouldn't stop sending her 'I love yous'.

My work here is done owo

So you should never be afraid to confess. Those who risk are the happiest!

[❝steℓℓar❞]

Well... He finally replied to my text that I asked him out in..
I have a boyfriend now 0-0

[nimuulap]

Well... He finally replied to my text that I asked him out in..
I have a boyfriend now 0-0

Awwww <3
I told you You have to be patient with love o3o
Congratulations!!!

[ｗｏｌｆ ｓｏｎｇ.]

Ok so here is my life story:
My parents got divorced when I was 10 and a half. About a month after it was final my mom got married to my stepdad, and my dad started dating again. He broke up with his first true girlfriend due to the long drive away from his to her house and his lack of being a father to my siblings and I. Then he found another girlfriend.(she had recently divorced and had two sons) After a month he dicided it was time for my brother, sister, and I to meet her sons. Her oldest is about my age and her youngest is my sisters age. We got along just like normal siblings would. Then one day my dad and their mom were watching a movie downstairs and we were all on the couch upstairs watching a movie. He held my hand and asked me out. (I said yes because I had clarified my own feelings before then) we were a happy couple for another month.. then my dad started talking about marriage. This would mean that my boyfriend would become my step brother.

I talked it over with him, asking if breaking up was the best idea. He said that it wouldnt change his feelings for me (and same for me). Although I have no idea how I can live with the fact that I am in love with my brother. I dont know what to do!!

[ｗｏｌｆ ｓｏｎｇ.]

Ok so here is my life story:
My parents got divorced when I was 10 and a half. About a month after it was final my mom got married to my stepdad, and my dad started dating again. He broke up with his first true girlfriend due to the long drive away from his to her house and his lack of being a father to my siblings and I. Then he found another girlfriend.(she had recently divorced and had two sons) After a month he dicided it was time for my brother, sister, and I to meet her sons. Her oldest is about my age and her youngest is my sisters age. We got along just like normal siblings would. Then one day my dad and their mom were watching a movie downstairs and we were all on the couch upstairs watching a movie. He held my hand and asked me out. (I said yes because I had clarified my own feelings before then) we were a happy couple for another month.. then my dad started talking about marriage. This would mean that my boyfriend would become my step brother.

I talked it over with him, asking if breaking up was the best idea. He said that it wouldnt change his feelings for me (and same for me). Although I have no idea how I can live with the fact that I am in love with my brother. I dont know what to do!!

I am truly torn because I could just come out and open up to my dad but he was really hurt after the divorce and he is so happy with his girlfriend. I would never want to hurt that relationship.
But I cant just hide my feelings for him. I love him.

[JustDucky]

Having relationship problems because of other people sucks. It seems like everyone is against us. Mostly because his ex still has feelings. She is fairly popular. I'm quiet, so I'm not. He tried it with her, but never felt anything for her. So he gave it up, and a few weeks later we got together. I used to be his best friend. And he pretty much hated her in the end. Now she harasses him, and pretty much stalks him, which makes me mad. And I've got guys who harass me, and it makes him mad.
I'm so afraid this will hurt us in the end. ;-; I love him, and losing him just isn't an option. He's happy with me. I know he is, because I changed him from player, to an awesome boyfriend.

It's wonderful you guys got together ^-^ Now regarding the 'harassing', is your boyfriend also noticing that from his ex? If he isn't, you should probably just kindly let him know. Don't say it in a way that you're trying to offend his ex, say it in a way as in to let him know you're feeling uncomfortable. After that, he can probably go talk to his ex about 'leaving you and him alone', because she's his ex for a reason.

For you, if it really bothers him that you're being 'harassed', then you should also talk to the guys that seem to bother you. Say something like, "Hey, look, I'm glad you appreciate me but it's making me uncomfortable so please leave me alone."

I hope it works out in the end ^-^* This is just my opinion but I'm sure there are other opinions as well


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So for the last few... weeks, I believe, my friend/classmate who moved from somewhere else kept talking about this one guy. Actually, she's been doing that since the start of the year. And believe me, they are not a usual couple. THEY DO THE MOST COUPLEST THINGS IN THE WORLDDDDD *dies*
They buy each other gifts 24/7, dance with each other, say "we'll be together forever" and all that sweet stuff and it just kills me because... They're. Not. DATING! And I'm just standing there watching her dream about him and not make a single move. So I've been feeling a bit 'pissed' so I gave her the idea to confess to him.

Her reaction? "he's gonna reject me"
They've been best friends for a really long time and by the way they act around each other, I really think they have feelings for each other.
So I started giving her confidence and ideas until she finally said, "Alright. I'll do it."

After awaiting many days, she finally sent me an email saying: I confessed to him.
I replied and she said that he felt the same way and he wouldn't stop sending her 'I love yous'.

My work here is done owo

So you should never be afraid to confess. Those who risk are the happiest!

Yes I have talked to his ex gf about him. He notices her harassing him. He tells me she won't leave him alone still. They have one class together. And she's always trying to get the teacher to pair them together, and since lunch is right after she always asks him to lunch. He only said yes the first time, and I told him it bothered me, so he hasn't done it again. His grandma lives down the street from her, and she always rides her bike around his grandma's house. She texts him at random numbers asking him to meet her somewhere, but he won't do it, because he knows it's her.
He is friends with her mom, and he was talking to her mom. And she went and told everyone he was at her house. So everyone thinks he is cheating on me. I know he isn't, though. He is always at my house, or working.

[intristin]

Ok so here is my life story:
My parents got divorced when I was 10 and a half. About a month after it was final my mom got married to my stepdad, and my dad started dating again. He broke up with his first true girlfriend due to the long drive away from his to her house and his lack of being a father to my siblings and I. Then he found another girlfriend.(she had recently divorced and had two sons) After a month he dicided it was time for my brother, sister, and I to meet her sons. Her oldest is about my age and her youngest is my sisters age. We got along just like normal siblings would. Then one day my dad and their mom were watching a movie downstairs and we were all on the couch upstairs watching a movie. He held my hand and asked me out. (I said yes because I had clarified my own feelings before then) we were a happy couple for another month.. then my dad started talking about marriage. This would mean that my boyfriend would become my step brother.

I talked it over with him, asking if breaking up was the best idea. He said that it wouldnt change his feelings for me (and same for me). Although I have no idea how I can live with the fact that I am in love with my brother. I dont know what to do!!

I am truly torn because I could just come out and open up to my dad but he was really hurt after the divorce and he is so happy with his girlfriend. I would never want to hurt that relationship.
But I cant just hide my feelings for him. I love him.

First off, I'm sorry your parents divorced.

Now, I think you should tell your dad about your feelings about him. Even if it may trouble him, he needs to know. If your father does marry, I suggest you break up with him. Dating your own brother, even if it isn't your real brother, just wouldn't work. It's sad and unfair, but it's what you should do.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

[Rosaria]

Back in 2012, my boyfriend's brother and I had a thing for each other that ended abruptly. He started dating a girl who was a complete jerk to me for no particular reason (I bent over backwards to prove that I wasn't a threat but the behavior continued), while I tried to move on and started dating someone for a year and a half, which ended about a week before June 23rd (when I started dating my current boyfriend). We stopped talking in general over what happened and I feared for the longest time that he absolutely hated me, however, after years of not speaking to him, on December 27th I decided to confront him and we became friends again. It turns out his girlfriend dumped him on December 20th, leaving him heartbroken. He acts as if nothing happened between us and we've been friends this entire time. Long story short, I'm in love with my boyfriend, but I've never gotten over my feelings for his brother and it's tearing me apart.

[ScarWitch]

Ok so here is my life story:
My parents got divorced when I was 10 and a half. About a month after it was final my mom got married to my stepdad, and my dad started dating again. He broke up with his first true girlfriend due to the long drive away from his to her house and his lack of being a father to my siblings and I. Then he found another girlfriend.(she had recently divorced and had two sons) After a month he dicided it was time for my brother, sister, and I to meet her sons. Her oldest is about my age and her youngest is my sisters age. We got along just like normal siblings would. Then one day my dad and their mom were watching a movie downstairs and we were all on the couch upstairs watching a movie. He held my hand and asked me out. (I said yes because I had clarified my own feelings before then) we were a happy couple for another month.. then my dad started talking about marriage. This would mean that my boyfriend would become my step brother.

I talked it over with him, asking if breaking up was the best idea. He said that it wouldnt change his feelings for me (and same for me). Although I have no idea how I can live with the fact that I am in love with my brother. I dont know what to do!!

I am truly torn because I could just come out and open up to my dad but he was really hurt after the divorce and he is so happy with his girlfriend. I would never want to hurt that relationship.
But I cant just hide my feelings for him. I love him.

My aunt had a similar thing with her not-a-brother. During their teenage years my uncle spent a lot of time at her house because my grandparents unnofficiailly adopted him (he had a bad home life with his biological parents). My uncle even changed his last name legally to my grandparents' once he was 18. My aunt and him dated some during high school but broke up and married different people. However, after ten or so years they both were divorced and found each other again.

They are now happily married with a little boy that is named after my grandfather. I know this isn't the exact same situation but I think you should tell your dad. Just because your parents get married (or adopt) doesn't make that "sibling" totally off limits for a relationship, especially if you're into them before they are officially your sibling. Now, I'm not saying it won't be weird if you continue to date, but it's not impossible or horrible for ya'll to. There are worse things.

[Evil Muffin Overlord]

90% sure that I just asked someone out
Hngh
I am so nervous
I've never actually been in a relationship? Definitely never asked someone out before
ESPECIALLY not my best friend
But here I am
Oh dang I've got all sorts of flutters and knots going on inside my stomach and my heart
I'm so nervous, what if he thinks I'm weird? Or if our friendship gets all weird
I'm not scared of being rejected
I mean
I literally have nothing to lose
I'm just scared that if I DO get rejected, it'll put a weird dent in our friendship
which would kill me
Because I care about him soooo much
Urgh
I dunno anymore

I don't really need any advice? Just a rant. <3
(Although if anyone has advice, I'm willing to listen)