ProudHufflepuff wrote:ehsaas wrote:question: do you think long-distance relationships work? if not, why? if so, how?
i want to hear several opinions, so if you want to pipe in, then go right ahead c:
Im in a long distance relationship right now... They can work but you both have to be committed and able to trust each other. The things like that that are important in normal relationships are even more important in long distance. It's really really hard sometimes but it will all be worth it. Sometimes I think they're better than normal relationships because you learn to cherish the time you do have together and appreciate the little things more like seeing their face or hearing their voice even if it is just on Skype or the phone or something
- i've been in a long distance relationship with the same guy now for over a year and a half now, so i certainly believe it can be done. uvu
it can be done, but it requires a lot of trust between you and your partner for it to work. after all, you and your partner both have different lives, and will go out to different places with different people, so you have to be able to trust that your partner won't cheat or do something stupid and you would never find out. the fact that they can hide behind a computer screen makes it easy for those kind of things to happen. you just have to find someone that you know can be trustworthy 100% of the time!
also, the distance can be a huge challenge, especially if you're already used to a face-to-face relationship. the lack of physical contact can make you feel extremely lonely, but of course, the promise that you will get it with that particular person eventually usually makes it better. most of the time, you have to find a way to beat the distance part of it by finding things to do with your partner. things like playing games together, writing letters to each other and mailing them, sending little gift packages here and there, it honestly makes the distance feel like nothing when you're having a good time. also, facetiming or getting on video chat on skype also makes it a little better to deal with the fact that they aren't there personally.
personally i stand with the belief that these kind of relationships can work out just as good, if not better, than face-to-face relationships. mainly due to the fact that you end up falling in love with the person, their personality, etc., rather than their body and physical appearance. the distance can also bring out how willing your partner is to stick in a relationship with you, due to the fact that more than likely they're going to be waiting a long time before you meet up with them. i think as long as there's not a huge age gap, and as long as you really know the person you're talking to is the person you're talking to, that long distance relationships can work out fine, even if with a little bumps here and there.
