Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[ephemeral.light]

There's this guy who I'm sure likes me. We have to sit next to each other for most of our classes and we have the exact same schedule. In PE, he always runs at the same pace as me and right next to me even though we both know that he could have run faster if he would have wanted.

Since we sit next to each other, we do talk and have conversations. Whenever he looks at me he has this kind of light in his eyes. I only consider him a friend, and nothing more, but everyone else is always like "You know who likes you".

My friends are always saying how they texted him before asking him, "how goes your love life?" And he responded by saying that he had this huge crush on me. It started perhaps a month and a half ago.

The problem with all this is that I like this other shyer guy that nobody knows about. This is pretty much a secret and nobody knows about this. It makes me feel guilty, because even though I've never spoken with that person that I actually like, I get the feeling that he likes me back. I can't like two people at once. And this shy guy that I like.. he has this girl that likes him and does similar things to what this boy does to me. Every time, he expressed dislike for her attention while I don't exactly do that with his. How should I handle this?

I would like to still remain friends with him without hurting his feelings by telling him that I actually don't like him. And also, as a side question, any ideas on how to show the shyer guy that I like him?

[ephemeral.light]

Hey guys. I need some help.

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I like two guys.

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UFO:

Pros:

• Is funny (understand my humour. Athletic (so am I).
• Plays those dorky awesome games (Like Skyrim and World of Warcraft) like me.
• And goes to ATC (Air Training Cadets) with me.
  
  Cons:
• He's 19, I'm 14,
• Has a girlfriend.
• Wants to be in the air corps.
  
  Other info:
• I can't tell him I like him. Because stuff like that at ATC is 'fraternizing' and it'd just be plain weird.
• There's alot of info about UFO in the other gb&c ... so if you'd like to know more search his name.

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J or birdie ... idk. I prefer not to give him a nickname like that. I'll just call him Josh~ then.

Pros:

• Good at guitar
• Good at writing songs
• He wants to have a career in aromatherapy (my mum does aromatherapy, and has taught me some - so I suggested that I could teach him some). He also said he was interested in having a job in ... something to do with games/gaming, and Herbology. Being a Harry Potter fan I love that last idea.
• He's 'creeper' in a joking way and weird - which is sorta like me. (It's really funny!)
• But when we talk (on fb), we talk for ages, and talk about some deep stuff too. We've talked about crappy government, religion, music, jobs. And we've talked until 2 am twice.
• Writing 4 songs atm. 2 are funny, 2 are emotional. 1 is finished.
• He's told me he wouldn't force anyone to do something they don't want to do. Perfect.
• We have really deep (in my opinion) conversations.

Cons:

• 16, I'm 14 (what's it with me and older guys?!)
• Not good at reading or writing
• He goes to parties and gets drunk and ...
• I seem to only be able to talk to him on fb ... (it's awkward irl)
• He hasn't talked to me since I told him I like him
• I know this sounds stupid. But his initials are JM.
  In year 5 this girl with the initials JM back stabbed me.
  In year 6 and 7 this boy with the initials bullied me
  In year 8 this guy with the initials JM broke my heart.

Other info:

• He said he'd play guitar for me some time :3 (I also challenged him to play a complex song (el Mariachi - lyrics - look it up on youtube) and he said it was easy)
• Backtracking a bit to first week of holidays, on good Friday, me and my friend were talking about him, and she said she wanted to meet him, so she asked me to ask him to hang out. I did. I asked when he was free, and I found out when she was free too. Tuesday 10. The first (official!) day of the holidays. [the night I asked him to hang out a friend asked me out, and I asked Josh~ how I could let him down. Josh~ said 'Just tell him sorry and that you don't feel the same way' and I did, and thanked him, then I asked if he'd ever been rejected. He had. And I felt so sorry for him! And told him that he could eat some of his easter chocolate. He didn't have much so I offered to buy him some chocolate for when we hung out. I bought him Whittakers Berry & Biscuit :3] So when we hung out on that day ... it was really awkward He invited a friend, I invitedd a friend, a random tagged along too. I'm avoiding eye contact with him. But half the time I did look at him, he was looking at me. And we went to this park (called birdie park which can be a dodgy place, but it's a good park to play on the play ground on :3) and our friends talked, while we're like ... silent. Then we go play on the swings when some people finally get off them. Good fun. Up until the part where the random friend that tagged along she twisted my seat, then pushed me ... and ... wow. I derped. I majorly derped. But apparently he hadn't laughed like that in a long time :3 I felt very proud of myself.
• Some time last week, we were talking and it was like 1 am, and we hadn't said anything in 5 minutes. So I said 'Wangoballwime?' If you've read HP GoF, you'd understand And then this Thursday when I saw him, I plucked up the courage and asked him. 'Hey Josh~ do you remember when I said 'wangoballwime on facebook?' He was confused, and I told him I'd text him, and to look it up on urban dictionary. On Friday (yesterday) I was expecting him at school, but he didn't have money for the bus so he stayed home. I really wanted to tell him face to face that I liked him. That was a bad idea. He looked it up, and was confused, and I explained to him that that was my subtle way of telling him i like him. Then he said he wasn't exactly single. I asked if we could still be mates. And he said we could. Tbh, I'm actually happy he has a girlfriend. But I do wonder what he meant by 'I'm not exactly single..' I mean yes (he's metrosexual, again urban dictionary it) it means he has a gf, but what if he didn't ... Like ... have a gf ... what would he have said then? He hasn't talked to me since ...
• That song by P!nk 'Just like a Pill' idk why, but after our first convo on fb I thought of that song ... but it doesn't didn't suit our relationship then.

From the information that you've proided, I think the first guy would be the better choice. The age part where he's five years older than you doesn't really matter too much, and I wouldn't worry about that. There are relations like that, and if the two of you like each other, it should be fine. ^^. The fact that he has a girlfriend would be posing a problem, and don't really try to go after him if he's with his girlfriend. You wouldn't really want to jump in the middle of a relationship, now would you? :3

For the second guy, I think the fact that he's drunk a lot should be a turnoff. Since you can't really talk to him except on Facebook, I think that's kind of awkward.

Yeah. So I would just say, go for the first guy. The only turnoff for him would be that he already has a girlfriend, but other than that, I honestly believe that he'd make a better choice.

[-Firesong-]

So I'm a little confused.
[Those who don't know, Buggy is my boyfriend of about a year.]
I hung out with Buggy after school Friday at his house, and we were completely fine, we played pool, went for a walk in the woods, watched a movie. Completely normal for us. He said he loved me and all that. We were texting that night, and he told me he loved me and so I told him I did more. And he never answered, which is weird. He didn't text me back later that night either.

Then, Saturday morning, I checked my phone at nineish, and I found a text from Buggy from about eight, and he said he had a question. So I texted back asking what it was. I never got an answer. He texted me about sixish that night, but it never went farther than "Hey". And he'd take a good thirty minutes between texts. But his signature was still "I love [mynamehere]"

Today is Sunday.
And I haven't heard from him all day.
Does anybody know what might be up? I don't have any other information besides that. :c

[Kecko]

Posted this on the Young Adults Thread for help, what do you all think though?

I got to go with my crush and his family and mine to a concert tonight (Friday), I was sitting by him, it was really fun, he put his arm around my chair and my family member (who is usually mentioned when I post on here as I am always with him and my crush) and pulled our chairs closer to him. He also asked if I know how to dance, I don't and I told him that I never had, he then asked if I even knew how to slow dance, I said no, after that he said I had a lot to learn, I kinda hope he will ask if I'd like him to teach me or if I'd like to dance which is hugely wishful thinking.

What I'd like to know is how do you know if a guy likes you? I asked on the crushes/boyfriends/girlfriends thread but I don't really want to watch a video to know, I wanted to know what you all think, hope that makes since and any response is really welcome and hugely thanked for!

Today (Sunday) he sat by me in Church as well which is fairly rare and I love it when it happens, he sang today since we were at Church and he has a great voice, also he is a really good Christian which means a lot to me, Could someone help me know if he likes me or not?

[arcticwolf]

So I'm a little confused.
[Those who don't know, Buggy is my boyfriend of about a year.]
I hung out with Buggy after school Friday at his house, and we were completely fine, we played pool, went for a walk in the woods, watched a movie. Completely normal for us. He said he loved me and all that. We were texting that night, and he told me he loved me and so I told him I did more. And he never answered, which is weird. He didn't text me back later that night either.

Then, Saturday morning, I checked my phone at nineish, and I found a text from Buggy from about eight, and he said he had a question. So I texted back asking what it was. I never got an answer. He texted me about sixish that night, but it never went farther than "Hey". And he'd take a good thirty minutes between texts. But his signature was still "I love [mynamehere]"

Today is Sunday.
And I haven't heard from him all day.
Does anybody know what might be up? I don't have any other information besides that. :c

You need to confront him. If he won't answer via text talk to him in person. Ask him "Hey, you've been acting weird lately. What's up?" And ask him about his question again.

[ephemeral.light]

So I'm a little confused.
[Those who don't know, Buggy is my boyfriend of about a year.]
I hung out with Buggy after school Friday at his house, and we were completely fine, we played pool, went for a walk in the woods, watched a movie. Completely normal for us. He said he loved me and all that. We were texting that night, and he told me he loved me and so I told him I did more. And he never answered, which is weird. He didn't text me back later that night either.

Then, Saturday morning, I checked my phone at nineish, and I found a text from Buggy from about eight, and he said he had a question. So I texted back asking what it was. I never got an answer. He texted me about sixish that night, but it never went farther than "Hey". And he'd take a good thirty minutes between texts. But his signature was still "I love [mynamehere]"

Today is Sunday.
And I haven't heard from him all day.
Does anybody know what might be up? I don't have any other information besides that. :c

Yep, I agree with Arcticwolf. I think the best thing you could do would be to go ahead and talk with him in person. You would be able to get the answer quicker than through text, and it would be much more efficient. Maybe there's something going on with him at home that he just found out about or was busy and had something else on his mind. If his signature is still "I love [ your name here ]", I wouldn't really worry about it too much.

[peachie.]

gosh I haven't been on this thread for awhile ;P

So I'm a little confused.
[Those who don't know, Buggy is my boyfriend of about a year.]
I hung out with Buggy after school Friday at his house, and we were completely fine, we played pool, went for a walk in the woods, watched a movie. Completely normal for us. He said he loved me and all that. We were texting that night, and he told me he loved me and so I told him I did more. And he never answered, which is weird. He didn't text me back later that night either.

Then, Saturday morning, I checked my phone at nineish, and I found a text from Buggy from about eight, and he said he had a question. So I texted back asking what it was. I never got an answer. He texted me about sixish that night, but it never went farther than "Hey". And he'd take a good thirty minutes between texts. But his signature was still "I love [mynamehere]"

Today is Sunday.
And I haven't heard from him all day.
Does anybody know what might be up? I don't have any other information besides that. :c

I'm with arcticwolf, confront him. If you don't get to see him often in school or outside of school even try calling him. Usually, people will pick up their cellphones when someone who hardly ever calls does call them. Just ask him what has been going on lately. I hope you figure out what's happening soon! C:
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Ello Ello Ello!
R is doing good lately. We're both sick right now, so no handouts this weekend. All he dies is play skyrim and cod, which I am okay with because I am on here, but man sometimes I just want him to teach me how to play skyrim. One time I actually went over to his house and taught me how to play cod. He saved me like three times by shooting people who were coming up behind me. Lol. I failed at the game, and jumped like a startled little deer whenever someone shot at me, but still he said I did good for my first try. XD

[OcarinaGreen]

Hey, I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I just felt that we were too different and we needed to see other people because we're both young teens and this is the time to go out and meet people and get an idea of what it's like and that kind of stuff. I feel bad now because he liked me a lot but I didn't like him much anymore and I feel like I really hurt him. I thought that I would be relieved because it was the right thing to do, and I was for a while, but I only feel guilty now. I know that I'm over him, but I'm still afraid that he's not over me. I'm afraid to like other guys because I know he might still be hurt. What do I do?

[s y n]

A and I hung out again with R. Another amazing day :3 We met up at our school, then walked to K's house because she still owed me five dollars for kissing A (which I would've happily done without payment, too ^3^). We got there, hung out with her a little bit, I forced her to give me my money, then we left. A was hungry - BIG SHOCKER (not XD) - so we went to Dairy Queen. I used my money to get a mini blizzard. R got a mini blizzard, too, and A, of course, got the biggest burger he could afford.

There was this creepy guy who was like 40 years old at DQ. We were all sitting in a booth, R on one side with his back to the creepy guy, and A and I on the other side facing him. He kept staring at A, which made him creeped out, so he forced R to trade spots with him. After about five minutes he got up and said to R, "Alright, move, I'm jealous." R didn't move, so A grabbed him by the arm saying, "Okay, dude, get away from my girl," and pulled him away from me. I love how protective he is, even when it's his best friend <3

Then we went back to my house. It had been raining all day so my trampoline was soaked. What did I do? I took my phone and my money out of my pocket, put it on a chair, and sat on the edge of my trampoline. With wide eyes, R was like, "You're seriously going to go on there?" I said yep and began taking off my shoes. A just grinned, said all proudly, "That's my girl!" and ran after me, hopping on one foot since he'd already thrown one shoe off. R decided to join us, and we all got our feet completely soaked, and our feet were freezing - coupled with the cold of the outside weather and the freezing wetness of the trampoline, why wouldn't they be? - but we didn't really care. A was the first to slip and fall, laying on his back. When he got up his back was all wet and I refused to get anything but my feet wet. The minute I said that, A wrapped his arms around my waist and pulled me down. I was laughing and trying to fight him off, but we ended up both falling onto the trampoline and getting totally soaked. I grabbed R's hand, which A admitted after that he didn't exactly like, and pulled him down so that we were all completely soaked.

With most guys, being over protective isn't good for me. Being too protective is a no. But with A... It just makes me adore him even more, and for some reason, when he's over protective, I love it. I love knowing that he cares that much, and it doesn't bother me like it did with every other over protective guy I've ever dated. And neither of us like clingy people. We hate dating clingy people. Whenever I'm dating someone, I can't be around them constantly. It annoys me, and they start to irritate me. But with A I just can't have enough of him. The minute he leaves I wish he would just come running back, and the minute I get a text I jump to see if it's him. I talk to him all day and night, whether it's through text or in person, and I hang out with him every day all day even at school. Normally, that would be way too much for me. A also said he feels the same way, because for some reason, he always needs more of me. He said he never wants to leave and never wants us to be apart. He said that if he had all the time in the world, he'd spend every second of it with me<3 Honestly, I feel like I'm the luckiest girl in the world.

Every girl he's dated says that when you date him he changes into a complete [stream of inappropriate words], but with me, it's the complete opposite. He's only gotten sweeter and more attached to me. He says that it's because I'm really the only girl he's actually felt something strong for, and he says that we have a sort of connection - a spark, chemistry, whatever you want to call it - that he's never experienced. He says that I actually understand him better than he understands himself. And with all the stuff that he's been through, he says he couldn't be happier to know that when everything seems like it's turned it's back on him, he knows there's one person he can go to who'll be waiting with open arms, and who'll listen to him complain no matter how long he rants on and no matter how stupid it is and can always make him smile on the darkest of days. I could've melted into a pool of lovestruck jelly right then and there. I've never heard anybody, especially a guy, go so deep like that. Especially with his best friend around!

He continuously insisted that I owed him another kiss. I was playing hard to get and playfully said no. He literally insisted upon it every five minutes. I became uber cold and ran inside to get a blanket. A and I ended up laying on my trampoline, his arms around me, wrapped up in the blanket. I was turned away from him, so he super lightly kissed the top of my head, which is something that - I don't know why, I really don't - I find incredibly sweet and cute. Then we all got thirsty so I ran inside to get some Kool-Aid. We ended up having a Kool-Aid throwing fight. A would throw the Kool-Aid up in the air, then it flew over the net, so he ran out to get it. It happened to be MY Kool-Aid, too. Then he tried to throw it from the outside of the trampoline over the net, and overshot it into my neighbour's backyard. He ninja-ly scurried into my neighbour's backyard, grabbed the Kool-Aid, and threw it. Guess what? OVERSHOT. It flew over the net into my backyard. So he went to go get it, blah blah blah. When I finally did get it back, I had no straw to open it with. A had my straw, and he said that he'd only give it me if I kissed him. We argued playfully for a little while, then I gave in, saying that I really wanted that Kool-Aid. So we kissed, and then I asked him to give me my straw. He insisted that he needed one more or else he just wouldn't have the strength to reach for my straw, pull it out of his pocket, and hand it to me. I rolled my eyes, but we kissed anyways, and he gave me my straw. Our number of kisses in total was now four, two the night before, and two that day. Then R slapped him across the face, and he claimed that he needed a kiss to make it better. I went to go kiss him on the cheek, and he just went for the lips, which I was okay with :3 After that we were cuddling together and he mentioned to me that the number of times we've kissed was now six, but the number of times that K hadn't seen us was only five, and five was an odd number. I gasped and said, "Odd numbers are bad luck! We can't have that, can we?" he smiled and replied all softly, "No, we'd better make it six, just to make sure." so we kissed AGAIN, making the total number of times seven and the number of times K hadn't seen it six.

Later after that he had to go home 3:
They always say that after the first kiss you have no trouble doing it again. Well, after the first two, I still wasn't too comfortable about it and still was nervous. After the seventh... I'm pretty sure I can do it now with no hesitation.
<3

[Kecko]

Posted this on the Young Adults Thread for help, what do you all think though?

I got to go with my crush and his family and mine to a concert tonight (Friday), I was sitting by him, it was really fun, he put his arm around my chair and my family member (who is usually mentioned when I post on here as I am always with him and my crush) and pulled our chairs closer to him. He also asked if I know how to dance, I don't and I told him that I never had, he then asked if I even knew how to slow dance, I said no, after that he said I had a lot to learn, I kinda hope he will ask if I'd like him to teach me or if I'd like to dance which is hugely wishful thinking.

What I'd like to know is how do you know if a guy likes you? I asked on the crushes/boyfriends/girlfriends thread but I don't really want to watch a video to know, I wanted to know what you all think, hope that makes since and any response is really welcome and hugely thanked for!

Today (Sunday) he sat by me in Church as well which is fairly rare and I love it when it happens, he sang today since we were at Church and he has a great voice, also he is a really good Christian which means a lot to me, Could someone help me know if he likes me or not?