Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Me <3]

Ok yal I need some help here. I like this guy and he likes me back as friends (I like him as a friend and I'm sure he agrees other way around). I also dream of him sometimes when I'm listening to love songs and I'm just barley awake I see him and me together. Some times in my dream I just see him smiling at me. I don't mean to it just happens and when I does I kind of freak out a little. He's now in my sisters band and I'll be joining them next year( he's 1 year older, sister 2 years older). So he has to be in marching band because that's the way it works here. So I went to the football game on Friday to watch them march. I sat next to my mom and we were only a few rows away from the band. Me and him made eye-contact like twice and when we did we both smiled. Later when they we're leaving the stands to do there march at half time my mom told me he was looking at me and he kind of was. He was looking around but he seemed to be looking at me for a bit longer then else where. Yet again he smiled at me. Then last night I was saying how loves to hard and how I'll be cool like my aunt and just watch my siblings kids, well something along though lines. Then my mom asked about him and I said were just pals and she said the way he smiled at me was out of love and stuff. I didn't believe her but last night I couldn't stop thinking about questions like does he really like me? Does he think I'm cute? What if he likes me? What if I love him? things like that. I couldn't stop thinking of these things no matter how loud my music was. I told my friend and she just laughed thinking I was being my old ridicules self. So please just help me I don't know who so maybe advise how can I tell if this is love or just a sign I'm going to grow soon. HELP!

[clarabow]

I love this one guy.
The story is way too long to tell right now but basically, nothing's ever happened between us in the wo ears I've known and liked him.
Don't give me the advice to just 'talk,' to him or just 'be friends,' or whatever.
Listen- life isn't a fairy tale and that isn't going to work.
Nothing will ever work. Nothing will ever happen between us, I can't even be his friend.
He's popular and I'm not and he doesn't like me.
Anyway, he ended up in two of my classes this semester and I find myself liking him more than ever.
He's a huge distraction and I just..I love him. A lot.
How can I stop this?

[harlical]

I love this one guy.
The story is way too long to tell right now but basically, nothing's ever happened between us in the wo ears I've known and liked him.
Don't give me the advice to just 'talk,' to him or just 'be friends,' or whatever.
Listen- life isn't a fairy tale and that isn't going to work.
Nothing will ever work. Nothing will ever happen between us, I can't even be his friend.
He's popular and I'm not and he doesn't like me.
Anyway, he ended up in two of my classes this semester and I find myself liking him more than ever.
He's a huge distraction and I just..I love him. A lot.
How can I stop this?

hold on a second, you never know if something will work or not if you don't give it a try !
have you tried getting to know him better ? if you like him, then you should get his attention.
before giving up on him, at least give it a try ! c:


well, i have this issue going on with my crush's little brother...
he calls me every day and is constantly at my house asking me if i want to hang out or something. one time, my friend happened to be over, and J [lets call him that] came over and started talking to me. my friend ran away giggling and once J left, she said, "Oh my god, he's flirting with you, that's so cute etc etc"
i didnt notice it at first but i guess now that she mentioned it, he kind of is. :/
problem is that i have a crush on his older brother, who also happens to be my ex, and i feel like if i act on it, it will hurt J. J is two grades below me, my crush is one grade up.

I don't know, is there any way i can tell J that im not interested without hurting his feelings or telling him that i like his brother, and not him ? both of them are close friends, i've known them for as long as i can remember, and they're almost like family to me...

[clarabow]

I can't talk to him period... He has known that I liked him for a really long time.
And I think he really doesn't like me.
And I don't want to embarrass myself by acting on him as if he did like me.
I just need to know how to let go of this huge crush I've had on him...

[. : cry : .]

.... Today I've really been thinking about something. There was this boy that I knew in second and half of third grade in my class, but I left the school. I recently found out that we're in the same high school together, actually in one of my classes. I find us looking in each others eyes occasionally and we chat sometimes on facebook but it's been so long since I've seen him. I really want to ask him to go with me somewhere like Frightfest or a movie or homecoming, but I don't know if it's been long enough or if it's such a good idea. I've heard two opinions floating around on the internet where guys like it that a girl is confident enough to ask him out but then there's some that think it comes off as desperate.... :\


Can I get some advice/opinions please? I'm really looking for some help here. <3

[Alpen]

can i be the asuna to your kirito????

[SamhokuFoopets]

This might be the opposite of the kind of problem this thread usually deals with, but I need help destroying a relationship.

There's a guy who just came to my school this year, who I met through a common friend. We have a lot of the same interests and enjoy talking to each other. The biggest issue is that since he isn't in my grade, the only time we see each other is at marching band events. At band camp, he got double food and drinks for me, walked me to my cabin every day, and even waited forty five minutes for me to finish my chores to do so one day. We have sat together at every marching band party we have been to, and he has invited me over to his house to play a new game along with his other friends sometime. I don't think I'm friendzoning him, he is just being a good friend, but no one else sees it that way. Rumor spreads like wildfire in marching band, and now everyone thinks that we're dating. One girl likes to give me updates on my "boyfriend" whenever she sees him with another girl, and all of the attention we draw whenever we are alone together really makes us both feel awkward. Neither of us want to be anything more than friends, but the rest of the band is putting so much pressure on us that I'm scared that we will have to stop being friends because it's too awkward.

Does anyone know how to save our friendship?

This happened to my sister once. Try to make sure that people know that you are just friends if they ask. Eventually it will calm down. I wouldn't risk asking him what he thinks of it, but that is just me. If you feel comfortable enough with him to ask what he thinks of it, then go ahead. Maybe you can both figure out a way to stop the rumors. Have an extra friend around. Often times being seen alone with a boy is like a green light for people who like to gossip. So if you have a couple of extra friends around, it won't seem is odd to them.

[pumpkin.]

so... there's this guy.
I know, you're probably all gasping your vocal cords out.
but I am dead serious about this.

let's call this boy skittles, okay? inside joke?

anyway, skittles and I have been friends for a while, I guess you could say. we met in fifth grade, and I, being the antisocial young girl I was, only had one male friend in the class-- him, of course. it wasn't a major friendship or anything; I mean, we chatted sometimes in the hallway, and he was occasionally assigned a seat next to me in class, nothing much else. and then all of a sudden-- bam. he's my best guy friend. we joined a group of others-- the "freaks" of the school-- and started sitting together at lunch. being the most humongous weirdos you've ever met, my group of friends and I came up with a new way to entertain ourselves at lunch... truth or dare and spin the bottle. the con was I was twelve years old and had no idea how to react towards having a crush, so when they asked me who I liked during truth or dare, I chickened out and stalled until we were dismissed for gym class. same with spin the bottle. it was a "cute puppy love" occurrence, as my mother likes to put it. I'm positive we both liked each other back then, back when I was still coming out of my shell, because we would just stare at each other with the most adorable smiles. or at least I think they were adorable. and then there were those moments when we almost held hands out on the track and my prepubescent mind would just have a total fan-girl attack (cx) and I'd run away. but then summer rolled around, and I'd have to wait three months-- oh lawd, three months until I saw him again! #firstworldproblems

that's the summarized version of when the crush formed.
then there was middle school, with hormones and bullies and-- well, just crap.

that was when the mental disorders came up. my bipolarity, depression, schizophrenia, schizotypal, dependent, anxiety, etc., etc... yeah, I guess you could say all those got in the way of everything. occasionally we sat together at lunch or maybe ran into each other-- literally-- in the hallways, but we never got the opportunity to converse much. nonetheless, the crush still remained. for almost five years. I've almost liked this one single boy for five years. I don't know, am I crazy? well, yeah, but is my hopefulness delirious? everyone says he likes me, and most people know I like him, but I don't think either of us see it. or do I? I think I do, but I don't know. the end of last year and this year, though, we started to progress a bit more up the friendship chain, I believe. we visit each other's houses, go out to the park and the mall, and sit together at lunch again. everyone thinks we're dating, but psh, I wish. I really want to tell him how I feel, but I don't want to ruin anything; cliche, yes, but true. and there's another problem, yay. (sarcasm.) I've just recently discovered my brother's best friend has had an on-and-off again crush on me since preschool. I know; what's so wrong about that? but I think I sort of like him, too. but **** it, skittles, get the balls to ask me out because I've been waiting for five years xD

or not. or I could tell him. either or.
is there any advice? should I just move on? how can I tell him?
ermahgerd, I hate love liking someone a lot.

[soreii]

Today was unexpected... in a good way.
So here's what happened.

Today at lunch time, we went to our usual spot. A nice and quiet place, I've never seen anyone else go there before.
You could say it's kind of our secret place.

Can you guess what happened next?
I'll leave it to your imagination ♥

[Pikmin12]

Ok yal I need some help here. I like this guy and he likes me back as friends (I like him as a friend and I'm sure he agrees other way around). I also dream of him sometimes when I'm listening to love songs and I'm just barley awake I see him and me together. Some times in my dream I just see him smiling at me. I don't mean to it just happens and when I does I kind of freak out a little. He's now in my sisters band and I'll be joining them next year( he's 1 year older, sister 2 years older). So he has to be in marching band because that's the way it works here. So I went to the football game on Friday to watch them march. I sat next to my mom and we were only a few rows away from the band. Me and him made eye-contact like twice and when we did we both smiled. Later when they we're leaving the stands to do there march at half time my mom told me he was looking at me and he kind of was. He was looking around but he seemed to be looking at me for a bit longer then else where. Yet again he smiled at me. Then last night I was saying how loves to hard and how I'll be cool like my aunt and just watch my siblings kids, well something along though lines. Then my mom asked about him and I said were just pals and she said the way he smiled at me was out of love and stuff. I didn't believe her but last night I couldn't stop thinking about questions like does he really like me? Does he think I'm cute? What if he likes me? What if I love him? things like that. I couldn't stop thinking of these things no matter how loud my music was. I told my friend and she just laughed thinking I was being my old ridicules self. So please just help me I don't know who so maybe advise how can I tell if this is love or just a sign I'm going to grow soon. HELP!

From what I have read I definitely believe he has stronger feelings for you than friendship, and it sounds as if the feeling is mutual. I know for a lot of people I know, including myself, the guy I like is constantly in my head a it pops up at random times. It's very distracting, like the thought is tap dancing in the back of my head. Your mum noticing either means that he was staring at you so mic it's obvious he likes you, or she wants you two to be together. My mum is always bothering me about the guy I like. I recommend watching and seeing what he does around other girls. Does he treat you differently? But beware, this happened to a good friend of mine, that the love interest may have a sibling affection for you, while yours may not.

I hope this helps you!