Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[s y n]

Alright. I need help.
Like now.

So, M and I are sort of... I don't know, drifting maybe?
When we first started dating we had this big connection,
if you get what I mean, like a spark, that I just sort've...
Don't think we have anymore, I guess. We don't talk as
Much as we used to, when we hang out it's now mostly
just an awkward silence... And I'm thinking that maybe
it's best to just end it because I don't feel that bond
between us anymore. I just... I really don't even know.

And to make matters even harder, I hung out with A on
Saturday. On Saturday when we hung out he was constantly
flirting with me and saying that I should breakup with M.
That night, him and I went over to M's, and A just left.
He was being a total [not gonna say it...] to me and I didn't
know why. So later I asked him, and he finally admitted
to me that he likes me and has ever since he dated K.
He said he likes me a lot and he was going to ask me out
after the easter break, but by then, I was already dating M.

So A and I hung out again on Sunday, which didn't go too well.
He took me to Dairy Queen since it was lunchtime and he was
hungry and said that it was like a date. And then he was staring
at me and I got creeped out and he just said, "Well, when the
girl of your dreams is sitting right in front of you it's sorta hard
not to get a little distracted." Then we left and every five minutes
he'd say that I should break up with M. And once he said, "You know,
you deserve somebody better. Not mentioning any names or anything."
And I was like, "You?" and him just all shamelessly, "Yup." Then he was
upset because I "ditched" [air quotes] him, even though in reality,
he went down one side of the street and I turned a different way
and instead of him coming with he just kept going. So, because I had
nobody else to hangout with, I went over to M's, where we sat there
90% of the time in a horribly awkward silence until I went home for supper.

Today at school, we talked a bit, but he was mostly not around since
I was with M during the lunch break and they don't get along
at all. They were fighting on Saturday, like literally tackling
each other to the ground fighting, not just verbally but physically.
And then A showed me this picture that has people made out
of paper. It has like a paper boy and a paper girl holding hands,
and then another paper boy standing right in front of the camera
with a heart-shaped hole in his chest. He said that the
two paper people were M and I, and that loner was him.
It made me feel so bad, mostly because it's my fault that he feels sad.

Then today, A wanted me to go watch him play baseball, so I did.
I stood there by myself waiting, since he invited K to come with
too. When she got there, we just kinda sat in the shade, and
cheered for him whenever he scored a point [neither of us
really understand baseball, so we just kinda cheered whenever
the parents of the kids on his team did XD] and I talked to his mom
for quite a long time [again, XD]. She told me about all the stuff
he's going through between his parents and the guy that was
basically his step-dad, that he practically idolized, who left him
and who he really misses and it's really hard on him. It made me
see a whole new side to him - He projects himself to be all
tough and carefree and doesn't let anything bother him. At
least, not on the outside. On the inside he's actually taking
it all really hard and she said that the reason why he seems
like he has mixed emotions is because he's afraid he'll get close
to somebody and have them leave him again, so he acts like it
doesn't bug him and ends up taking it out on all the people
who he cares about the most, to push them away so that he doesn't
get too close to them and have to deal with that all over again.

Honestly, I see him as a totally different person now.
That story could've made me cry, since I've actually seen
some of that side of him when we're together, just me
and him. So it makes me wonder if I'm the only one
he trusts enough not to hurt him like that. But here I am,
hurting him even worse because I mean the world to him
and I'm with another guy. That, just that, made me totally
have feelings for him again. I'm the only one that can
bring that side out - his own mother has never even
been able to do it, and he's real close to his mom - and
I'm just making it even worse. Before, he seemed
sort of like a jerk to me. But now realizing that the
side I see of him isn't just normal, that it's exclusively
to me, and that it's something he doesn't show
because he's afraid he'll get hurt like that again,
I feel absolutely horrible for doing this to him and I
just want to freakin' hug him and never let go :'c

After the baseball we hung out for a little while.
We were walking to Dairy Queen because that's
where his mom was going to meet him. And he
said some of the sweetest things to me and just...
Made me in a way wish he didn't like me in that way.
K was on her bike and he was on his skateboard, so
I was way at the back by myself walking all slowly.
A insisted that I go on his skateboard, but I am NOT
anywhere near being a skateboarder and told him I
would probably kill myself if I tried. He just said that
he'd hold me and make sure I didn't fall, and catch me
if I did. So I reluctantly got on his skateboard anyways.
He held my hand, while his other arm was around me,
and pulled me forwards. K squealed about how adorable
we looked, and he just smiled at me. It was almost like
we were dancing but on a skateboard... You know? XD
Halfway there the board hit a rock and stopped. I assumed
that I would go flying off, forced to catch myself like I did
when M pulled me on his skateboard, but I didn't. I just
sort've stayed there. And I realized that A had kept his promise;
He caught me and made sure I didn't fall. The board was rolling
away out from under me, and he was holding me up a couple
of inches off the ground. I don't know how he can hold me so
easily, since he's like almost a foot shorter than me [okay, not
really, but sorta close enough D<] but he did it and gently
put me back on the ground then went to go get his skateboard.

We got to Dairy Queen admittedly faster than I wanted to.
He wanted me to come with him, and his mom was totally
up for that. But I had to be home in like ten minutes so I
couldn't. A made his signature pouty face that is probably
the cutest thing you'll ever see in your life, and ran up to me
and hugged me. But by the time that the length of a hug
between just friends came, he showed no intentions of
stopping. He just kept his arms around me, our heads
over each others shoulders, and didn't let go until his mom
started laughing and said that they had to go. Even after, it
took him a good five seconds to pull away, which he did very
slowly and - what seemed to be - reluctantly. Not even a
minute after I had left, he texted me with, "I miss you already."

He proceeded to tell me how much I mean to him and how
much he wants me to be his and nobody elses. About how he
wants to be the one hugging me and he wants to be the one
cuddling me and he wants to be the one I hold hands with
while walking down the street, not M, or any other guy for that matter.
He told me about how it hurts to see me and M together, even if
we're just standing there talking, and how he had to leave the night
that M and I were cuddling not because he was annoyed with M, but
because it was too much for him to see that and he couldn't bear it.
He was just belting out his feelings like he's never done to me or to
anybody else, and he told me that I'm the only one that he actually
trusts, the only one he actually feels close to. How I'm the only one
that he actually cares about and how I'm the only one he wants to
talk to when he's in a bad mood and needs some advice or cheering up.
He said that he didn't feel comfortable talking like this to anyone
else but me, and how I was the only one he could share his true feelings with.
Even through text I could tell the emotion, I could picture him saying these
things. I could see his facial expression and I could practically hear
his voice as I read all this. And then he just randomly said that he
could've explained all of that in five words and one sentence and
didn't have to waste time rambling on like an idiot. When I asked him
what he meant, he said that he could've explained all of his feelings,
all of his thoughts, all of what he feels towards me, with the five words:
"I'm in love with you". The biggest thing that hit me there was that
he didn't just say "I love you". To me, "I love you" and "I'm in love with you"
both mean two waaaaaaay different things. I love you is what all friends
say to friends, and they don't actually mean it, and it's like a playful gesture.
Saying I'm in love with you is legit and serious, much more serious
than just saying that he loves me. Because that's saying that he's
willing to make a commitment and to me it just seems so sincere.

Then we were talking about favourite dreams and memories.
So he asks me what my favourite dream or memory is. I didn't
really know, so I asked him. He instantly replied with, "My
favourite memory will always be your beautiful face and
my dream will always be you." I could've died right there.
Why does he have to be so sweet? It's making this so hard.
I'm thinking about breaking up with M, mostly because I don't
feel it anymore, but A is making it worse by being so...
Just perfect. And amazing. And adorable. And horribly sweet.

He said he'd give me a million chances, even if the odds
of it working out in his favour were one in a million.
He said it'd be worth it. It'd be worth all the waiting,
all the pain of seeing me with other guys, all the
wondering if it was ever going to happen, if just once
in his life he would be able to call me his girl.

I can't reject that. I can't resist that.
Now that we're so close and we've both
opened up to each other, he's revealed
himself to be the guy I've always wanted,
always needed. But how on earth do I
break up with M gently enough so that he
isn't completely sad and upset?

;-;
well, I'm just gonna go cry for another hour,
because my weak little heart doesn't seem
to realize that tears won't fix anything.

[Tess]

Alright. I need help.
Like now.

So, M and I are sort of... I don't know, drifting maybe?
When we first started dating we had this big connection,
if you get what I mean, like a spark, that I just sort've...
Don't think we have anymore, I guess. We don't talk as
Much as we used to, when we hang out it's now mostly
just an awkward silence... And I'm thinking that maybe
it's best to just end it because I don't feel that bond
between us anymore. I just... I really don't even know.

And to make matters even harder, I hung out with A on
Saturday. On Saturday when we hung out he was constantly
flirting with me and saying that I should breakup with M.
That night, him and I went over to M's, and A just left.
He was being a total [not gonna say it...] to me and I didn't
know why. So later I asked him, and he finally admitted
to me that he likes me and has ever since he dated K.
He said he likes me a lot and he was going to ask me out
after the easter break, but by then, I was already dating M.

So A and I hung out again on Sunday, which didn't go too well.
He took me to Dairy Queen since it was lunchtime and he was
hungry and said that it was like a date. And then he was staring
at me and I got creeped out and he just said, "Well, when the
girl of your dreams is sitting right in front of you it's sorta hard
not to get a little distracted." Then we left and every five minutes
he'd say that I should break up with M. And once he said, "You know,
you deserve somebody better. Not mentioning any names or anything."
And I was like, "You?" and him just all shamelessly, "Yup." Then he was
upset because I "ditched" [air quotes] him, even though in reality,
he went down one side of the street and I turned a different way
and instead of him coming with he just kept going. So, because I had
nobody else to hangout with, I went over to M's, where we sat there
90% of the time in a horribly awkward silence until I went home for supper.

Today at school, we talked a bit, but he was mostly not around since
I was with M during the lunch break and they don't get along
at all. They were fighting on Saturday, like literally tackling
each other to the ground fighting, not just verbally but physically.
And then A showed me this picture that has people made out
of paper. It has like a paper boy and a paper girl holding hands,
and then another paper boy standing right in front of the camera
with a heart-shaped hole in his chest. He said that the
two paper people were M and I, and that loner was him.
It made me feel so bad, mostly because it's my fault that he feels sad.

Then today, A wanted me to go watch him play baseball, so I did.
I stood there by myself waiting, since he invited K to come with
too. When she got there, we just kinda sat in the shade, and
cheered for him whenever he scored a point [neither of us
really understand baseball, so we just kinda cheered whenever
the parents of the kids on his team did XD] and I talked to his mom
for quite a long time [again, XD]. She told me about all the stuff
he's going through between his parents and the guy that was
basically his step-dad, that he practically idolized, who left him
and who he really misses and it's really hard on him. It made me
see a whole new side to him - He projects himself to be all
tough and carefree and doesn't let anything bother him. At
least, not on the outside. On the inside he's actually taking
it all really hard and she said that the reason why he seems
like he has mixed emotions is because he's afraid he'll get close
to somebody and have them leave him again, so he acts like it
doesn't bug him and ends up taking it out on all the people
who he cares about the most, to push them away so that he doesn't
get too close to them and have to deal with that all over again.

Honestly, I see him as a totally different person now.
That story could've made me cry, since I've actually seen
some of that side of him when we're together, just me
and him. So it makes me wonder if I'm the only one
he trusts enough not to hurt him like that. But here I am,
hurting him even worse because I mean the world to him
and I'm with another guy. That, just that, made me totally
have feelings for him again. I'm the only one that can
bring that side out - his own mother has never even
been able to do it, and he's real close to his mom - and
I'm just making it even worse. Before, he seemed
sort of like a jerk to me. But now realizing that the
side I see of him isn't just normal, that it's exclusively
to me, and that it's something he doesn't show
because he's afraid he'll get hurt like that again,
I feel absolutely horrible for doing this to him and I
just want to freakin' hug him and never let go :'c

After the baseball we hung out for a little while.
We were walking to Dairy Queen because that's
where his mom was going to meet him. And he
said some of the sweetest things to me and just...
Made me in a way wish he didn't like me in that way.
K was on her bike and he was on his skateboard, so
I was way at the back by myself walking all slowly.
A insisted that I go on his skateboard, but I am NOT
anywhere near being a skateboarder and told him I
would probably kill myself if I tried. He just said that
he'd hold me and make sure I didn't fall, and catch me
if I did. So I reluctantly got on his skateboard anyways.
He held my hand, while his other arm was around me,
and pulled me forwards. K squealed about how adorable
we looked, and he just smiled at me. It was almost like
we were dancing but on a skateboard... You know? XD
Halfway there the board hit a rock and stopped. I assumed
that I would go flying off, forced to catch myself like I did
when M pulled me on his skateboard, but I didn't. I just
sort've stayed there. And I realized that A had kept his promise;
He caught me and made sure I didn't fall. The board was rolling
away out from under me, and he was holding me up a couple
of inches off the ground. I don't know how he can hold me so
easily, since he's like almost a foot shorter than me [okay, not
really, but sorta close enough D<] but he did it and gently
put me back on the ground then went to go get his skateboard.

We got to Dairy Queen admittedly faster than I wanted to.
He wanted me to come with him, and his mom was totally
up for that. But I had to be home in like ten minutes so I
couldn't. A made his signature pouty face that is probably
the cutest thing you'll ever see in your life, and ran up to me
and hugged me. But by the time that the length of a hug
between just friends came, he showed no intentions of
stopping. He just kept his arms around me, our heads
over each others shoulders, and didn't let go until his mom
started laughing and said that they had to go. Even after, it
took him a good five seconds to pull away, which he did very
slowly and - what seemed to be - reluctantly. Not even a
minute after I had left, he texted me with, "I miss you already."

He proceeded to tell me how much I mean to him and how
much he wants me to be his and nobody elses. About how he
wants to be the one hugging me and he wants to be the one
cuddling me and he wants to be the one I hold hands with
while walking down the street, not M, or any other guy for that matter.
He told me about how it hurts to see me and M together, even if
we're just standing there talking, and how he had to leave the night
that M and I were cuddling not because he was annoyed with M, but
because it was too much for him to see that and he couldn't bear it.
He was just belting out his feelings like he's never done to me or to
anybody else, and he told me that I'm the only one that he actually
trusts, the only one he actually feels close to. How I'm the only one
that he actually cares about and how I'm the only one he wants to
talk to when he's in a bad mood and needs some advice or cheering up.
He said that he didn't feel comfortable talking like this to anyone
else but me, and how I was the only one he could share his true feelings with.
Even through text I could tell the emotion, I could picture him saying these
things. I could see his facial expression and I could practically hear
his voice as I read all this. And then he just randomly said that he
could've explained all of that in five words and one sentence and
didn't have to waste time rambling on like an idiot. When I asked him
what he meant, he said that he could've explained all of his feelings,
all of his thoughts, all of what he feels towards me, with the five words:
"I'm in love with you". The biggest thing that hit me there was that
he didn't just say "I love you". To me, "I love you" and "I'm in love with you"
both mean two waaaaaaay different things. I love you is what all friends
say to friends, and they don't actually mean it, and it's like a playful gesture.
Saying I'm in love with you is legit and serious, much more serious
than just saying that he loves me. Because that's saying that he's
willing to make a commitment and to me it just seems so sincere.

Then we were talking about favourite dreams and memories.
So he asks me what my favourite dream or memory is. I didn't
really know, so I asked him. He instantly replied with, "My
favourite memory will always be your beautiful face and
my dream will always be you." I could've died right there.
Why does he have to be so sweet? It's making this so hard.
I'm thinking about breaking up with M, mostly because I don't
feel it anymore, but A is making it worse by being so...
Just perfect. And amazing. And adorable. And horribly sweet.

He said he'd give me a million chances, even if the odds
of it working out in his favour were one in a million.
He said it'd be worth it. It'd be worth all the waiting,
all the pain of seeing me with other guys, all the
wondering if it was ever going to happen, if just once
in his life he would be able to call me his girl.

I can't reject that. I can't resist that.
Now that we're so close and we've both
opened up to each other, he's revealed
himself to be the guy I've always wanted,
always needed. But how on earth do I
break up with M gently enough so that he
isn't completely sad and upset?

;-;
well, I'm just gonna go cry for another hour,
because my weak little heart doesn't seem
to realize that tears won't fix anything.

Dude.

I couldn't even read 4 paragraphs - let alone over 4 pages.

Don't count on my advice. But. Seriously.
I think you should take a break. Not go 'on a break' with your current bf (M). Just break it off, apologize, and just enjoy being single. Sit at home, watch some tv, not give a damn how you look.
Because, before (I'm sorry), but you were posting every little thing you were doing with M, and well:

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I know I'm not exactly doing the first one at the moment. But seriously. M's your bf. If you want him as a bf and you still feel something between you two. KEEP HIM! If it's no more, apologize and dump him. But don't post about all your little get togethers on here.
I've been happy for you. It was cute the first 3 times. The rest. omg.
I am so sorry. I really am. But ... HONESTLY!! You want to dump him because there's no spark? I dumped my bf because he was being immature. You guys are just like ... awkward ... Maybe you should try and talk to him. try keep a long term relationship. Instead of being one of those 12 year old girls on facebook who 'marry' their bestfriend ('wifey') and have a boyfriend for 2 weeks.
Sort out your priorities. I know this thread is for help with bfs, gfs, and crushes. But some of these things you've asked ... you just need a little initiative.
If you dump M, and straight away go for another guy. DUDE. You broke up with your ex-ex-bf, to date a charming guy who you said you loved after ... what a week of dating? I'm sorry. I know I believe in love at first sight. But. You're more like a 'nek minnit', OMG I LOVE YOU!

[Nimble Awesomeness]

i think it's finally happened.
it's taken six months, but i truly believe i've finally gotten over sawyer. not quite until AFTER he got a new girlfriend (ouch, that one did hurt) and... well, i got asked out on a date. by one of his friends.
eli has got to be one of the nicest guys i have ever been friends with. he doesn't just care about me, he's actually willing to go to great lengths to convince me i'm special. plus, he prefers soccer over football (hate football), has an adorable smile, AND HE HAS A KILT. which he wears proudly since he is actually of scottish descent. and, well, i have this thing for Scotland and Ireland and... yeah.

i just don't know what to do!! he's soooo sweet, and i think i may have formed a small crush, but i just don't know if i'm ready for another relationship anytime soon. i have so many conflicting emotions about everything and i hate the idea that i might drag another guy into my problems wih depression. i don't want to lose another good guy friend because of my issues.



what in the heck do i do??

If you really think it'll corrupt your friendship, don't go for it. I think I know what this is though.

I'm kinda the same way. I "like" this guy as if I was crushing on him, but we're just bros, right? Yeah. I don't need to crush on another guy. One is pleanty. So, even though I like him, I don't. Get it? It's like, if you have a crush on him, whatever. If you think having a crush on him will ruin your friendship, then don't act on it. You follow me? Look at my help on the front page for "I think I like a guy but I don't want to ruin our friendship". It pretty much applies to you. Hope this helps! :) Good luck!

So this guy i REALLY LIKED named Elliott and me have been friends for a long time. So we just recently had gotten in a huge fight. But we made up and were friends again. THEN MY FRIEND Jordan told me shee heres Elliott talking about e behind my back. So confronted him about it and he said he hasnt said anything about me (LIE). So when we were at PE that afternoon he hit my bestie Danielle in the chest with a ball when when we were playing some weird game (we had to not let 5 pins get nocked over) and she said it hurt really bad. THEN he hit this other kid in our class in the eye. So then i started to say he shouldnt hit people with the balls. He said he didnt do it on purpose (LIE) then he said he had rather hit me with the ball than Danielle or the other kid.
It didnt bother me at first but today i realized how much it DOES bother me IT DOES SO MUCH it hurts alot. Please pm me if youve had something said to you that hurts as much as this did :thumbdown: :cry: :thumbdown: :cry:

Look, just ignore him. The more you react like this, the more he's going to do it. I know it seems so stupid and it sucks to hear, but it's SOO SO true. If you just stop reacting, he'll get bored and sretty much stop. Don't tell him off. Don't react when he hits you or your friend's with the ball. Just don't do anything. Give him the silent treatment, ignore him entirely. It seems like a mean thing to do, but you're only trying to prevent him from being mean to you and your friends. Tell your friends to do this do, so that he really gets the picture that you guys just don't care. Bullies are jerks, but most likely they're just doing it because they're "bullied" at home.

Read this site's articles on bullies, it's really helpful. It's got some great tips that might help out with you and your friends.

http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/friends/bullies/ It's a kids TV station, but the show is mainly for teens. There's a ton of stuff on there, esp. about bullies. I suggest you check it out. :)

I have recently gotten over my crush, L. It seemed impossible at first but i had to give it time. But there is this nagging feeling that i should still go for him, like still have a crush. But he likes another girl i really thought he likes me though. :( I really don't know what to do! One day i'm for him and the next day i'm not. I need help with this!

Well, not much we can do about it. I mean, you feel how you feel, and we can't change that. If he likes another girl and you've almost gotten over him, just wait a little longer and don't go after him. It's ok if you still have feelings for him, most likely you just need more time. Time is the best doctor when it comes to love.

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I have a problem myself, though. . .
a guy in my class likes me (his friends spilled the beans). He's cool and all, but as a friend. He'll trail me around and stuff, an I don't know what to do. I don't want to tell him I like him as a friend, 'cause that'll break his heart. . . WHat should I do?!?!!?

You have to break his heart. It's basically leading him on, even if you're neutral on it. Neutral = leading on. Either you're interested in him or you're not, and you're not, so you need to make it clear that you're not into him. Let him loose, because you're just letting him annoy you and wasting his time that he could be using to crush on other people. There should be some tips on the front page about asking someone out, use those but for "breaking up" with him. Simple. (Someone remind me to put the leading on thing on the front page, as well as how to break up with someone. *derp*)

Okay, here goes. I am in kinda a big dilema here.


Well, see, my crush who I have liked for over a year now has been acting lately like he likes me. Just before the holidays, which were three weeks ago, we started talking. Since then, there have only been two days where we haven't talked, and we have always talked, but not like this. But there is the other girl, called Laura, and my crush reallly likes her. She talks to me about him all the time for tips and stuff, because I have known him way longer then she has, and me and him are practically best friends. So, she likes him, and he likes her. Yet he won't ask her out, and when I asked him if he was going to ask her out, he said he had prioroties, and the other day he said to my my friend that he might, he might not.

But lately, just like the past few days, he has been acting weird. I don't really know how to explain it, but...well, he seemed...different? Well, normally we talk about random stuff, but at school yesterday all he said to me most of the day was " Can I play on your phone now?". And he didn't talk to laura either, I guess he just seems kinda quiet. And last night, I was in a group conversation with him and one of my best friends, and it was...the convo was just really bland...idk.


Anway, that is only a tiny dilema, here is the big dilema.

Oli.

Oli, is cute, and super smart. Oli also happens to be my best friends crush. Like major crush. But...I think I may like him. Yesterday, I was just doing my thing, talking to people, getting ready to go home, and because I was going home with my gran, I could be a little bit slower then usual, so I put my bag down, and did what I do most days. I (This is crazy, but I just love doing it) walked up to Oli's locker, and asked him if I could go through his locker. He said no, so then we had this conversation about why his locker is awesome. And then two other guys came over, who were Oli's friends, and we all had this argument about whether LJ's locker is better then oli's. But my locker is basically next to LJ's, and so, ofcourse Oli's is more interestnig.

So then one of his friends went away, and I talked to Oli for a bit more. But then his friend is just standing there looking at us talk, and he randomly blurts out " YOU GUYS SHOULD GO OUT!". I looked at him weirdly, and then kept talking to Oli.

Sometimes I see oli staring at 'us', which is mainly me and my friend who likes oli. I always tell her whenever he is, and she always tells me she doubts it, but lately, I don't think he has been staring at us. I think he has been staring at me. Yesterday ( which is initially when I started liking him, although, I think I have always had a secret 'thing for him' I looked up towards his direction, and saw he was looking at me.


So I think he may like me, for a few different reasons. But I defiantly donot want to like him because my freind likes him, and it wouldn't be fair. And anyway, I just recently went out with one of his good friends D:...

What do I do about oli? My friend says she is fine with it, but I know she is not.

Help? And congrats to anyone who read this all.

Well, for the year long crush, it sounds like he might have something going on at home. It might be at home, or he might just have something on his mind. I would let him alone about it; it might not be a big deal. He could have just been having an off day. But if it keeps up and/or gets worse, you might want to ask him about it. Face to face, of course. Just mention it. "Hey, so I've noticed you've been really quiet and out of it lately. You ok? Is everything alright at home?" But only ask the home thing if you're sure that something IS wrong, otherwise you'll just embarrass yourself. Simply asking "you ok?" is fine though, as it's pretty safe. If nothing is wrong, it just makes you seem a bit like a jerk.

With the second one, well, girl. I know how you feel. Just ignore him. Like, seriously. Dont' act on it, don't discourage your friend, just keep doing what you're doing, it's really for the best.

Well.... OK, so a few days ago I went on a date with the guy I have liked for a long time. It went very well! We held hands and talked a lot and had a lot of fun. But it also at the same time, crashed. Like, apparently, my best friend had no clue that we were going on a date THAT DAY and right at THAT TIME!! And guess what? She was so happendly there, and siktting a few rows behind us in the theater.... So she was texting me evey few seconds asking how the date was going, and thretning him that if he toutches me she will cut off his hand. She basicly spoiled the date. But I dont mind. I still had fun...

So here is the problem. Im duying to go on another date with him but I dont know how to bring it up casually, coz he is probably stil lrecovering from our first fdate... Help?

No, don't not mind. Mind. What your friend did was awful. To you, to your date, and just in general a horrible thing to do. Threats like that should be taken seriously and not just shoved off. You need to talk to your friend and explain that you trust this guy and there's no need to threaten him. She really needs to back off.

If he really likes you, he'll be fine with going on another date. Just ask him about it. Trust me, it'll be fine. There are tips on the front page for asking someone out. Good luck! :)

Z has been really nice. Like wierd nice
One day he told me I was funny and he blushed and smiled
Then he told me I was like his best friend
Then today he gave me a lolipop.
It sounds stupid but I thought it was sweet.
<3
He likes someone and wont tell anyone

Ok so today he admitted he was going to ask someone to the dance.
So we talked alot today and we planned on maybe going to a lazer tag place and yell at random people { xD yes I know strange}
So we were talking and then he went to play basketball and a ball rolled over to me and my friend dared me to throw the ball at his head. I did and he would usally yell at me and stuff but it hit his head and he laughed saying I had good aim. C:
Then whenever I look at him he is looking at me and he smiles and waves.
Its so cute! C:

Do you huys think he likes me? C:

Oh yeah. Girl, he likes you so much it's freaking adorable. Trust me, he's into you. A lot. If you're still not sure, there are helpful links to youtube videos on the front page. :)

I am really sad at the moment cuz i feel like i'm the only out of my friends who haven't had a bf...(i havent ever) and i start crying when my friends text me: Guess what?! I got asked out! Or: I just had my first kiss!
I have never had that experience ever and i literally burst out crying when i hear it... My parents and my friends say i'm beautiful and i dont think i am at all.. trust me i'm not. I haven't done anything wrong, and i'm a little older to not have a bf yet. What's going on??? :(

Well, your emotions are just running a little wild, and it's totally normal. I know it can suck to be single and watch everyone around you get to be with someone, but it's not all bad! Being single can be a great thing. You're free from committing to another person's schedule, you don't have to worry about all that relationship stuff. Being single is underrated, and it's a lot better than you think. At times in a relationship, you'll miss being single, so embrace it! Love it for what it is, and enjoy it while you can! It's not something you'll always have.

So I have some crazy health problem right? I fall over at random times and I start cryign and hyperventalating and screaming and thrashing and stuff like that. So its not that bad ok? Well, I finally desided to tell my half way, kinda, sorta, almost, half, boyfriend about it. Now he is beyond stressed and worried that the next time he getts a cal from me I will be in the hostpital again, or in another ambulance for it or something... I dont want him stressing because im not stressed about it. Even if it is serious, I dont mind and I dont want him scared... How on earth can I calm him down and re-assure him that im ok?

Hey, don't worry. You'll get him to calm down. Invite him over, sit him down, and explain exactly what's going on with your mind/body. Meaning, your health issues. Most likely, he's scared about it because he doesn't fully understand what's going on. As soon as you explain that to him and make it clear it's not as bad as he thinks it is, he'll probably believe you. Good luck with that! :) Hope this helped.

So me and my ex boyfriend were like best friends. We had been since 5th grade, and we were very close. This year, he asked me out and I felt like the happiest person in the world. Everything was perfect, and we texted eachother a ton. We would always hang out and hug, and in about 2 days a rumor got passed around that I was breaking up with him. He stopped hanging out with me and I texted him saying: 'Listen, I dont know what people are saying but its not true. Im not breaking up with you.' he said: 'Okay good because I really like you and thats why I wasnt hanging out with you.' and we were good again. Then, a few days later, he started giving really crappy hugs, and cuddling with another girl, right in front of my face! Then, he would walk away with his friend, I mean, I know he needs guy time too, but he would basically just ditch me. Then, apparently his friend was saying: 'You need to break up with her, you can do so much better!' But honestly, my friends told me that too and people who I told we were dating, some didnt even know him! Anyways, after a bit of talking and stealing him away from me, his friend finally convinced him to break up with me. Guess what he did? Broke up with me... Over text! I was pissed, and I felt like we never had a chance. Now, he is always blushing and he has mentioned a couple of times: 'Im sorry, _____ made me break up with you." Whats also weird, is he sometimes blushes.... And in the only class we have together he moves seats to sit next to me when the teacher isnt looking. He acts like he still likes me, but I am also thinking that he might just be so used to being that way because of when we were dating and before. Honestly, I still sometimes have feelings for him but its on and off. I want to just text him everything I feel to see what he says, but I dont want to make a fool of myself because I think he would be really surprised and it might ruin our friendship even more. I really want to know what to do, so any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated. Please help! Thanks guys, Bye! :)

If someone made him break up with you, he would want you back. Most liekely he's just using that as an excuse to make you feel better. Well, it has good intentions, but not good results.

But, looking over the rest of your post, it sounds like he still likes you. So why not just get back together with him? Might at well, you still like each other. By the way, don't text him. Talk to him face to face rather than a note, kay? Best way to go. Long story short, people could hold notes against you if you ever break up or if you get rejected. Looking back on them can be sweet if the relationship lasts and works out, but if you ever break up than a note is just another way to mock your ex to make yourself feel better and them feel worse, so it's really not the best idea. Tips on asking people out on the front page. Good luck!

Whaa I love spending the whole weekend with somebody you love. <3
Good weekend :3 Construction working, movie watching, curling up in sleeping bags on the floor of an unfinished building... And wrapping it all up with roller skating. :3
And on Tuesday were going ice skating. c:

If anybody needs any help from me, PM me. I'm in my counceling mood. B)

D'aww, that sounds awesome! Yay :3

What should I do because Ryan pays so much attention to me outside of school but then in school with classes and everything we don't really talk much and we have our own groups in school x.X Although I occasionally talk to his group since I am so welcomed there >.<

Sorry, what exactly is the problem? Can I have a direct question please? *derps*

Alright. I need help.
Like now.

-snip snip snipity snip-

Alrighty m'dear, I see your need for help and I raise you one post of help!

Imi, (I shall now always call you Imi. Like Emi, but Imi. *approves*) I know this is hard for you, but break it off with M. A was always the one for you. You know that I was always rooting for A, and that getting back with M was never a good idea. That was always my mindset. Well, I guess I was right. I wish I wasn't, but I am.

So, break up with M. Obviously, you would have a long lasting relationship with A; something you would never (and did never) have with M. M didn't work out. So why would he work out now? Get with A. It's really the best thing. You care about him so much, and he's always cared about you. Always. Remember just a little while ago, when he was going out with K and you asked him not to? That's how much you care about him. Imi, you were insane about this guy.

Q: Why would you give that up?

A: Emotions from your past. It's something everyone gets and can't avoid nostalgia. You saw M, and remembered how much he used to mean to you. You got with him and now the honeymoon phase is over. What next? There is no what next. There's whatever happened before. History is bound to repeat itself, especially in cases of getting with your ex.

You just need to explain to M what you're feeling, and that pretty much everything that went on between you guys was just moments being relived. Imi, the moment's over, and you need to get out of the moment. Find a newer, nicer moment. One that will treat you like you want. A is that moment, always has been. M had his moment. It was nice, but it's not coming back. You tried, and it failed. Nothing more to it.

Imi, get with A. You know you want him, and you know he wants you. This guy is worth it; they don't come around all the time. It's not like he's throwing out "I love you" on a whim, you've known each other for a long time. Plus, the average person falls in love around 6 times in their lifetime. So he might really be in love.

...And from where I am, you're in love with him too. I really hope this helps Imi, and stay strong and hold tight, things will work out. <3 Good luck!

[Kecko]

Sorry, never mind

[Refugee]

Okay, so I think I'm going to ask Brian out this week. You know, the guy I've been in love with this whole year?

SO, what are the chances he'll say no? Everyone knows and tells me that he likes me back... so would asking him out in a note be a bad idea? Please help!!! I don't wanna screw this up! If I have to, I will ask him in person but it seems so hard...

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Okay, so I think I'm going to ask Brian out this week. You know, the guy I've been in love with this whole year?

SO, what are the chances he'll say no? Everyone knows and tells me that he likes me back... so would asking him out in a note be a bad idea? :what: Please help!!! I don't wanna screw this up! If I have to, I will ask him in person but it seems so hard... :cry: :?

NO. NOTES.

Ever. Trust me, no notes.

By the way, don't text him. Talk to him face to face rather than a note, kay? Best way to go. Long story short, people could hold notes against you if you ever break up or if you get rejected. Looking back on them can be sweet if the relationship lasts and works out, but if you ever break up than a note is just another way to mock your ex to make yourself feel better and them feel worse, so it's really not the best idea. Tips on asking people out on the front page. Good luck!

[Gianna11]

I like a boy called Sam but I think he likes someone els and she is pritty and I were glasses hellp me

[-Firesong-]

Alright. I need help.
Like now.

So, M and I are sort of... I don't know, drifting maybe?
When we first started dating we had this big connection,
if you get what I mean, like a spark, that I just sort've...
Don't think we have anymore, I guess. We don't talk as
Much as we used to, when we hang out it's now mostly
just an awkward silence... And I'm thinking that maybe
it's best to just end it because I don't feel that bond
between us anymore. I just... I really don't even know.

And to make matters even harder, I hung out with A on
Saturday. On Saturday when we hung out he was constantly
flirting with me and saying that I should breakup with M.
That night, him and I went over to M's, and A just left.
He was being a total [not gonna say it...] to me and I didn't
know why. So later I asked him, and he finally admitted
to me that he likes me and has ever since he dated K.
He said he likes me a lot and he was going to ask me out
after the easter break, but by then, I was already dating M.

So A and I hung out again on Sunday, which didn't go too well.
He took me to Dairy Queen since it was lunchtime and he was
hungry and said that it was like a date. And then he was staring
at me and I got creeped out and he just said, "Well, when the
girl of your dreams is sitting right in front of you it's sorta hard
not to get a little distracted." Then we left and every five minutes
he'd say that I should break up with M. And once he said, "You know,
you deserve somebody better. Not mentioning any names or anything."
And I was like, "You?" and him just all shamelessly, "Yup." Then he was
upset because I "ditched" [air quotes] him, even though in reality,
he went down one side of the street and I turned a different way
and instead of him coming with he just kept going. So, because I had
nobody else to hangout with, I went over to M's, where we sat there
90% of the time in a horribly awkward silence until I went home for supper.

Today at school, we talked a bit, but he was mostly not around since
I was with M during the lunch break and they don't get along
at all. They were fighting on Saturday, like literally tackling
each other to the ground fighting, not just verbally but physically.
And then A showed me this picture that has people made out
of paper. It has like a paper boy and a paper girl holding hands,
and then another paper boy standing right in front of the camera
with a heart-shaped hole in his chest. He said that the
two paper people were M and I, and that loner was him.
It made me feel so bad, mostly because it's my fault that he feels sad.

Then today, A wanted me to go watch him play baseball, so I did.
I stood there by myself waiting, since he invited K to come with
too. When she got there, we just kinda sat in the shade, and
cheered for him whenever he scored a point [neither of us
really understand baseball, so we just kinda cheered whenever
the parents of the kids on his team did XD] and I talked to his mom
for quite a long time [again, XD]. She told me about all the stuff
he's going through between his parents and the guy that was
basically his step-dad, that he practically idolized, who left him
and who he really misses and it's really hard on him. It made me
see a whole new side to him - He projects himself to be all
tough and carefree and doesn't let anything bother him. At
least, not on the outside. On the inside he's actually taking
it all really hard and she said that the reason why he seems
like he has mixed emotions is because he's afraid he'll get close
to somebody and have them leave him again, so he acts like it
doesn't bug him and ends up taking it out on all the people
who he cares about the most, to push them away so that he doesn't
get too close to them and have to deal with that all over again.

Honestly, I see him as a totally different person now.
That story could've made me cry, since I've actually seen
some of that side of him when we're together, just me
and him. So it makes me wonder if I'm the only one
he trusts enough not to hurt him like that. But here I am,
hurting him even worse because I mean the world to him
and I'm with another guy. That, just that, made me totally
have feelings for him again. I'm the only one that can
bring that side out - his own mother has never even
been able to do it, and he's real close to his mom - and
I'm just making it even worse. Before, he seemed
sort of like a jerk to me. But now realizing that the
side I see of him isn't just normal, that it's exclusively
to me, and that it's something he doesn't show
because he's afraid he'll get hurt like that again,
I feel absolutely horrible for doing this to him and I
just want to freakin' hug him and never let go :'c

After the baseball we hung out for a little while.
We were walking to Dairy Queen because that's
where his mom was going to meet him. And he
said some of the sweetest things to me and just...
Made me in a way wish he didn't like me in that way.
K was on her bike and he was on his skateboard, so
I was way at the back by myself walking all slowly.
A insisted that I go on his skateboard, but I am NOT
anywhere near being a skateboarder and told him I
would probably kill myself if I tried. He just said that
he'd hold me and make sure I didn't fall, and catch me
if I did. So I reluctantly got on his skateboard anyways.
He held my hand, while his other arm was around me,
and pulled me forwards. K squealed about how adorable
we looked, and he just smiled at me. It was almost like
we were dancing but on a skateboard... You know? XD
Halfway there the board hit a rock and stopped. I assumed
that I would go flying off, forced to catch myself like I did
when M pulled me on his skateboard, but I didn't. I just
sort've stayed there. And I realized that A had kept his promise;
He caught me and made sure I didn't fall. The board was rolling
away out from under me, and he was holding me up a couple
of inches off the ground. I don't know how he can hold me so
easily, since he's like almost a foot shorter than me [okay, not
really, but sorta close enough D<] but he did it and gently
put me back on the ground then went to go get his skateboard.

We got to Dairy Queen admittedly faster than I wanted to.
He wanted me to come with him, and his mom was totally
up for that. But I had to be home in like ten minutes so I
couldn't. A made his signature pouty face that is probably
the cutest thing you'll ever see in your life, and ran up to me
and hugged me. But by the time that the length of a hug
between just friends came, he showed no intentions of
stopping. He just kept his arms around me, our heads
over each others shoulders, and didn't let go until his mom
started laughing and said that they had to go. Even after, it
took him a good five seconds to pull away, which he did very
slowly and - what seemed to be - reluctantly. Not even a
minute after I had left, he texted me with, "I miss you already."

He proceeded to tell me how much I mean to him and how
much he wants me to be his and nobody elses. About how he
wants to be the one hugging me and he wants to be the one
cuddling me and he wants to be the one I hold hands with
while walking down the street, not M, or any other guy for that matter.
He told me about how it hurts to see me and M together, even if
we're just standing there talking, and how he had to leave the night
that M and I were cuddling not because he was annoyed with M, but
because it was too much for him to see that and he couldn't bear it.
He was just belting out his feelings like he's never done to me or to
anybody else, and he told me that I'm the only one that he actually
trusts, the only one he actually feels close to. How I'm the only one
that he actually cares about and how I'm the only one he wants to
talk to when he's in a bad mood and needs some advice or cheering up.
He said that he didn't feel comfortable talking like this to anyone
else but me, and how I was the only one he could share his true feelings with.
Even through text I could tell the emotion, I could picture him saying these
things. I could see his facial expression and I could practically hear
his voice as I read all this. And then he just randomly said that he
could've explained all of that in five words and one sentence and
didn't have to waste time rambling on like an idiot. When I asked him
what he meant, he said that he could've explained all of his feelings,
all of his thoughts, all of what he feels towards me, with the five words:
"I'm in love with you". The biggest thing that hit me there was that
he didn't just say "I love you". To me, "I love you" and "I'm in love with you"
both mean two waaaaaaay different things. I love you is what all friends
say to friends, and they don't actually mean it, and it's like a playful gesture.
Saying I'm in love with you is legit and serious, much more serious
than just saying that he loves me. Because that's saying that he's
willing to make a commitment and to me it just seems so sincere.

Then we were talking about favourite dreams and memories.
So he asks me what my favourite dream or memory is. I didn't
really know, so I asked him. He instantly replied with, "My
favourite memory will always be your beautiful face and
my dream will always be you." I could've died right there.
Why does he have to be so sweet? It's making this so hard.
I'm thinking about breaking up with M, mostly because I don't
feel it anymore, but A is making it worse by being so...
Just perfect. And amazing. And adorable. And horribly sweet.

He said he'd give me a million chances, even if the odds
of it working out in his favour were one in a million.
He said it'd be worth it. It'd be worth all the waiting,
all the pain of seeing me with other guys, all the
wondering if it was ever going to happen, if just once
in his life he would be able to call me his girl.

I can't reject that. I can't resist that.
Now that we're so close and we've both
opened up to each other, he's revealed
himself to be the guy I've always wanted,
always needed. But how on earth do I
break up with M gently enough so that he
isn't completely sad and upset?

;-;
well, I'm just gonna go cry for another hour,
because my weak little heart doesn't seem
to realize that tears won't fix anything.

So. You've dated M for about a week, and you guys have told each other you love each other. After a week. In my mind, that raises a red flag, but whatever. It's not my relationship. And after a week you feel you guys are drifting? I don't really get that. I'm not trying to be mean... but I don't get it. How well can you know somebody after a week?
And then you have A, who seems to have been in the background all along. My question, if you have these feelings for A now, and you didn't have them last week, how can you be sure you'll still feel this way about A next week?

He held my hand, while his other arm was around me,

You're dating somebody else! It's not okay to let guys do that when you are in a relationship with another guy.

Long story short: Break up with M and then take a break from relationships for a while.
If you still have these feelings for A in a few weeks, then date him. But don't date him right after you break up with M, that's kind of rude, regardless of whether M still likes you or not.

[c h r i s t m a s]

So Z wasnt here today. *sigh*
I think I want to ask him to the dance...maybe just as friends for a start....
Can you guys help me just search Z and look at my status with him from my posts

[-Firesong-]

So Z wasnt here today. *sigh*
I think I want to ask him to the dance...maybe just as friends for a start....
Can you guys help me just search Z and look at my status with him from my posts

Mkay, I searched your posts. I think he likes you, and maybe is too shy to ask you. Or doesn't want to sacrifice your friendship, maybe he's afraid you'll say no. There's also the possibility he likes you and that ex girlfriend you were talking about, and is confused.
-flashbacktime-
Before my boyfriend asked me out, he acted a lot like Z did. He'd be nice some days, and we wouldn't talk other days. He'd sit with me on the bus, or he'd save me a seat and then sit with his friend. It was confusing to say the least. What I did, and I don't recomment doing, was date one of his best friends for about two days to get a reaction. That did work, but I felt bad about it.
-endflashback-
What you could do is maybe hang out with some other guys, maybe some of his friends, and see how Z reacts. Also try to spend more time with him, and drop some hints about the dance. You could talk about the dance with your friends in front of Z and then casually ask if he's going. /endfailadvice

...
Okay I need a bit of help. What do I get my boyfriend for his birthday? He tells me I don't have to do anything, but I want to because he's gotten me stuff for Christmas, Valentine's Day, and my birthday. Any advice?