Starry-Sapphire wrote:I've had crushes, but none of them turned out well. One guy found out I liked him and never talked to me..Ever..Another guy, Ryan we were friends for a long time, until he found out I liked him and he turned his back on me and said mean stuff about me behind my back. Kaleb, we are still friends but we haven't seen each other for a long time, since like June. It's not easy anymore, I'm homeschooled and to have friends that want me to come back to public school, and Kaleb misses me a lot.. Me and Kaleb have been through a lot as friends, rumors, fights with his friends, etc.. I was considered the peacekeeper in his life, the one that had to make his problems dissapear... Ahh...But he's just a friend now. I think I'll be done with crushes until I get old enough, maybe I'll go back for 9th grade..Who knows..
I'm in 8th grade now, last year too much happened..
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Supernuk48 wrote:ok im tired of this...
it started when i met him. we became best friends and did everything together. everyone said we would make the best couple ever, i mean, 2 emo dorks/ Star Wars geeks are supposed to be with each other they said. but he loved my best friend but she was a jerk and got with him, then dumped him. all thru that time, i talked to him and helped him. he told me after she dumped him that i was his best friend and that he loved me and would do anything for me.
then i fell in love with him and told him. i thought that he liked me back. he was acting kinda weird to me, like if he liked me. but he told me he didnt at all. then he started hanging with the quote on quote "cool people" at our skool. hes a super cool guy, dont get me wrong, but he was cool cause he was a geek and he didnt care what people thought of him. now he's all wanna-be cool, turned into a complete jerk, he's player-ish and says all this bad stuff to me when he's with them. we still text, laugh, and such, but when we're with them its like he hates me. we're still friends but he denies the fact that he ever told me that we were best friends and that he loved me (as a friend).
he says he just wants a girl that is like him and likes him for who he is not for what he looks like (hes a super cute bass player btw). but i asked if im his "dream girl" but he says no. we have almost EVERYTHING in common and i love him for who he is. he still says that im not even close to his type of girl. and i for some reason i still love him. so my question is, how can i handle this? some tell me i should forget him and some tell me to still try. what should i do?
First off, it seems like you really like him. If you try to forget about him, it might make you really upset not being able to be around him, so that's not the best idea. There's a quote that goes, "When you forgive someone, it means you still want them in your life," or something close to that. The fact that you two text each other and are still friends even though he shows off in front of his cool friends shows that you still want him in your life and he still wants you in his life. My advice would be to try and restore the friendship you two had before he hung out with the cool people. If he liked you before, being friends like you were when he liked you might make him like you again. If he never did, then he might start to like you.
Maximum wrote:Oh, wow. I love this thread; it's a great idea!
Well, as pretty much all the other people have said, I like this guy. Let me start off by saying he's one of the smartest people I know, a great athlete, and is adorable. But he's also mean, annoying, oblivious, and, well... Ian.
I've liked him for the longest time; since January of last year when we sat by each other in Science. (the longest time I've ever liked someone that much)
At the end of the year, my friend told him that I liked him, and he said he didn't like me, probably only as a not-so-close friend. But, despite this, I was not deterred. I don't like him nearly as much, and I don't blush bright red when I see him or steal his stuff anymore, of course. I've gotten more mature. (you'd only hope)
Right now, I'm trying to become a friend of his. Only then will I...you know.
What should I do to accomplish this?
Find out what he enjoys doing. If you two have something in common, talk to him and use what you two have in common as the subject. Since you said he's a great athlete, talk to him about sports. If you don't understand something in your homework, ask him about it. Anything that will start a conversation. As you find more that you both have in common, the better friends you'll be.
spotedleaf5 wrote:Just the place I needed!
Okay so I used to hang out with these really inappropriate people. They swore and talked about, {shudder} well you know.... bad stuff.
So the boy I like hangs out with them and he used to ask me "how are you doing?" like twice a day when I hung out with them. Now he asks me like once a week. I hate those people but love him. I am being pulled two ways. We are... young, so I don't want to freak him out incase he is just being polite. But even more we were at this retreat for my church and he asked me how I was doing and everyone was like "Ooh, T likes S, T likes S." And he just blushed and I don't know if he knew I heard. I hope he does like me and I am not overreacting. So I need adult advice, how should I handle this?
Oh T how could you do this to me?
Ask one of his friends if he likes you, or ask one of your friends (that you trust) to ask him himself. If he likes you, then hint him that you like him. If he doesn't like you, then there's nothing you can do to change that but try to be better friends with him.
Ech.
