Chicken lady wrote:Okey so im in love with one of my best friends and i really think that he only likes me as a friend and it gives me so much anxiety about telling him, what do i do to make it easier to tell him?
Chicken lady wrote:Okey so im in love with one of my best friends and i really think that he only likes me as a friend and it gives me so much anxiety about telling him, what do i do to make it easier to tell him?
Illumié wrote:So I'm in a relationship with a guy and I'm very happy with it, no problems with us two at all
But the problem is when it's more than just us two, like if we're hanging out with friends or sth. I feel like when I'm with other people, I set our relationship back temporarily, and I don't think that's fair to him. I have a habit of being more distant with him, which in theory is fine bc it would be super awkward for my poor friends if we acted exactly like we did when we're alone (there should be some restraint), but I do it more because I'm worried that my friends will judge us for the way we interact each other. I certainly say we interact in a normal fashion, but neither of us would feel fufilled if we did because we're just strange people. It works for us. But still, I just don't feel comfortable interacting with him like that when other people are around, I just worry too much what people think of me and us. Once he had one of his friends that I didn't know (who also didn't know the two of us were dating) and I couldn't even speak a word to my boyfriend because I was so afraid of his friend thinking I was a weirdo, despite the fact his friend was surely aware he couldn't be with any sort of normal person. I just don't know what to do about it, and I'm very worried about how meeting his parents will go because of this problem.
What I've been doing is trying to get better at it slowly, and I've become able to interact with him mostly normally with my close friends... But I think it'll be very difficult to do that around people I know less well because I just generally have a lot of trouble with trust. Any other suggestions? Also, does anyone have any specific insight on how to act around him with his family? I really don't want to mess that up, haha^^;
Pinesong wrote:So um, this is for my friend who needs relationship advice:
Y= my friend
J= her crush
So three years ago, my friend group found out that J liked my friend Y. It wasn't that much of a big deal because at this point, Y liked someone else. At the begging of last year, Y started to like J. Throughout the year they began getting closer and started becoming really good friends. Y started liking him on and off until the end of last year (ish). Then she started crushing on him BIG time. Everyone knows that they like each other and they have told each other that they like each other, it's just that nothing ever happens between them. Y really wants something to happen and she wants to start dating but J doesn't 'want to start dating anyone yet' just because they're young and everything. From my point of view, they're actually really comfortable around eachother and actually get on so well. I guess they're just tuning right now. Y gets really frustrated sometimes and doesn't understand why they can't just date already. I mean, J has told her himself that he 'really likes her', and hangs around Y all the time. It's things like this that Y just doesn't get. That he's liked her for 3 years and still doesn't want to go anywhere. I guess she does just have to respect J's opinions but they're getting so much closer but nothing seems to be happening for her.
Just looking for some advice on what she should do/think?
sunflower, wrote:
my ex and i tried "reconnecting" after 8 months of no talking
and we're friends again, i guess, but we're on bad terms.
my best friend and my ex are friends, and they constantly hang out and talk about each other
and it just really hurts and bothers me
i know i can't control who my best friend hangs out with
so what do i do?
how do i stop letting this bother me so much?
Halographic wrote:months ago, last year, my boyfriend liked someone else at the start of our relationship. he liked her for quite a few months, and kept lying about not liking her. i know it's not the worst thing to like someone else while in a relationship, but it still hurt obviously.
this girl is one of my friends at school.. and his partner for one of the subjects (although said subject is ending this year). she's never at school because she's sick, but i'm still scared that he might like her (that's just me being paranoid though)
me and my boyfriend have been talking about it, and we've kind of came to the conclusion to tell her that he liked her and stuff.. because i feel that it would just help me get it all off my chest and actually give me peace of mind.
but i'm absolutely terrified that when i tell her, she'll do something with that information (like try to make a move on him or something..) i trust him but i don't trust her. i don't even know her that well because she's off so much. i'm so scared, i don't know if i should tell her or not or if telling her would benefit us or what
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