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[Lightz]

I had a huge crush on one of my friends last year and I told him...a few days later he told me that he liked me back. Well, that was around 2 months ago and I just don't feel that way for him anymore, he's more of a friend again than a crush. Anyway, he keeps flirting with me and it's sorta weird, especially because I've told him multiple times to please stop, that I'm getting overwhelmed...but he just says a rude reply and walks off I'm confused and need help.

[KatLove]

:( I had a huge crush on one of my friends last year and I told him...a few days later he told me that he liked me back. Well, that was around 2 months ago and I just don't feel that way for him anymore, he's more of a friend again than a crush. Anyway, he keeps flirting with me and it's sorta weird, especially because I've told him multiple times to please stop, that I'm getting overwhelmed...but he just says a rude reply and walks off I'm confused and need help.

Well congrats on having enough courage to tell him! (Sorry about the other stuff)

[city of angels;]

So update on my last post (about some popular boy presumably trying to "get my attention"), he spoke to me today for the first time. It was just something really simple, he came up and asked for my pencil and smiled the whole time and kept trying to make eye contact with me. Then he went back to his seat and I heard his friends giggling and saying, "Do it, do it!" and literally five seconds after that, I got a friend request from him on Facebook.

So I think he's messing with me ._. Which is really rude and stupid and would be hurtful if I liked him, but I thankfully do not.

The question is, how do I make him stop? It's really annoying, actually.

Ive had this happen to me before. Its rude and hurtful. I just kept ignoring the boy and he eventually left me alone. Thats just me though.. You probably need to stand up to him and tell him to leave you alone if it continues.

It's so annoying -.-
I think I'm either going to ignore him or flat out tell him that I'm annoyed with him.
Thank you ^-^

[Dèvil]

Ok well I'm really embarrassed about saying this but it's going to be my 2nd year in high school and I want to know when a guy likes me and what I should do Any help is appreciatedthanks! <3

[malteser]

I was on here ages ago helping people and being happy for them, and even for myself but.
I broke up with my boyfriend because it wasnt a benefit to me, I decided I want to change and be myself without the pressure of sadness by him.
I found it really stupid why I even went out with anyone in the first place.
I dont know what Im doing until yesterday it hit me.
We dont have school yet and I just wanted to get it off my chest to him so I had to horribly tell him I couldnt stay in a relationship with him online, but it felt normal because we would talk more there than in real person.
But today he saw the message and didnt reply.
Then I get messages from people
asking me why I broke up with him
I told them to please just leave me alone because I dont want them to tell him that It was stupid of me from the beginning.
And then came the hurt.
IT wasnt that I broke up with him, that was fine to me and I thought hed take it alright because hes usually fine with my desicions but I started getting messages and started seeing screenshots of what people said about me.
I broke up with him because I wanted to be happy, and now theyre all calling me stuff that hurts me because Im not a harsh person, i dont intend to be at least, people call me caring and nice and apparently I do this one thing and everyone hates me.
I dont like it and I cant tell my parents because thatd be stupid, I hope it just blows off.
I feel so horrible.

I also got messages later from him, and I told him not to blame himself and he just said "I dont want you to make things worse so goodbye"

That really sucks, no doubt about it.
Hopefully it will all blow over; you said he just saw the message today. And, even though you say "he's usually fine with my decisions", that's kind of a ridiculous thing to say. Fine with you deciding what sandwich you want or that you want to see a movie with him is one thing - deciding to break up with him is completely different and affects him a lot.
One thing to keep in mind and possibly tell people is that you weren't happy, and that wasn't fair to him. My younger brother was dating a girl when he was.. maybe 16? And when he stopped seeing her and I asked about it, all he would ever tell me was "it wasn't meant to be". I don't know if that's a good route (it was frustratingly vague), but it was his choice not to tell me. And that's okay.

Who is sending you screenshots? I think it's important to figure out whether this person simply wants you to be aware so you aren't surprised that people are talking behind your back OR whether they want you to see these hurtful things, want you to feel hurt.

"I cant tell my parents because thatd be stupid". Explain. Saying something is stupid tells me nothing; stupid is a matter of opinion and, if anything, using only that as a description sounds impatient and immature.

Sounds like this guy is hurt and that's understandable. He may have been completely surprised by you breaking up with him. He may not be happy with it being online. And other people already know about it which is hard for you, but that's life. That's the cost of people knowing about relationships - they end up knowing when they're over, too, and then they ask questions. At the beginning you want to tell everyone about the new guy and how happy you are, but when you break up suddenly you don't want to talk about it. It's entirely normal, but it's the truth - it's a double edged sword.

By what I meant when I said hes usually fine with my desicions; at the time I didnt know how to phrase it exactly so sorry if it sounded overly ridiculous, but I meant he was never on a bad side, and I know how it effects me and I truly do feel bad about it, but I really just wanted to not be dragged down by a guy, I say sorry and for him to stop blaming himself so I dont mean to hurt his feelings.
But he was being ignorant after I said that stuff with responses like "So if you want to Pee (you know what word I actually mean) me off even more fly (again you know what I mean) off."
But with what you said about me not telling my parents,
Im not a person with understandable parents.
My parents just blow it off, and so whats the point on telling them somethings up, if theyre just waiting for it to pass?
Thats what Im trying to do, wait for it to pass.
I know what you mean by the double edged sword, either way Im gonna be hurt no matter what side I face.
And plus when you're in such a hurry, in such an emotional wreck that you have to get it over and done with... you have to do it.
I thought he wouldve understood, because I cleared the reason why I broke up with him in the first place, and also he knew I had depression (which having a boyfriend did effect me in some sad way)
I think it has blown off and my friends have been really supportive and still make me laugh.
"" I didnt mean to break your heart, I was just lonely, and everybody falls apart sometime. ""

[thunderofthedrum]

I guess you can say I'm back with my ex... Technically we are because we've been hanging out, and when we hang out we're exchanging I love yous, kissing, hugging... And then when he goes home, he face times me and we FaceTime all night. While we're in school he's talking to me all day, which he never used to do.. He talks to me more and treats me better than he ever did, yet says he's not ready to be in a relationship with me yet. I'm just confused. I mean honestly I'm not ready either.. So I'm ok with waiting but just confused with how we've been acting together the last couple days..

To be honest here, I would set some boundaries and let him know that you are confused. It's not fair to you that you guys are completely involved yet he doesn't have to be tied down. The same goes for you - you need to have a serious little thought session with yourself and decide what you want. You say you aren't ready either, but what's the difference? You're already acting 100% like a couple, so how are you not ready? I know the labels can sometime seem intimidating, like a commitment, but that's something you guys need to discuss. Being in a relationship yet not in one, well of course that's confusing! You guys need to lay it all out and decide what you are going to do.

Hello. （＾ｖ＾）

So me and my boyfriend got together Janurary 18th this year. When we're first met each other we completely hated each other, but after two months of talking we became closer and closer to each other. 3 months ago we became best friends, and we told each other everything. I love that I know everything about him. I know that I found love, he is my love. My first ever love, and hopefully my only. Anyways, so for my birthday me and him were going to go somewhere, but my family wants to come, which I understand why. Does anyone know any romantic, but you know kid friendly places? Thanks in advanced! ❤

Generally, one thought is a place with activities so that everyone could participate or people could split up. Are there any places that are event centers, such as having bowling, billiards, laser tag, that sort of thing? A park is also possible, like cooking out and you two could take a little walk at some point.

Ultimately, with your family being there you WILL have to share your time and attention. It may be a good idea to focus more on your family that day (but explain this to him so he doesn't feel ignored) and as a chance for him to hang out and get to know your family, then another day can be for just the two of you to see a movie or go bowling or something. You could also talk to your parents about splitting the day up, such as doing something with him first and then everyone doing a group thing such as bowling or going out to eat.

[Jaaay]

I guess you can say I'm back with my ex... Technically we are because we've been hanging out, and when we hang out we're exchanging I love yous, kissing, hugging... And then when he goes home, he face times me and we FaceTime all night. While we're in school he's talking to me all day, which he never used to do.. He talks to me more and treats me better than he ever did, yet says he's not ready to be in a relationship with me yet. I'm just confused. I mean honestly I'm not ready either.. So I'm ok with waiting but just confused with how we've been acting together the last couple days..

To be honest here, I would set some boundaries and let him know that you are confused. It's not fair to you that you guys are completely involved yet he doesn't have to be tied down. The same goes for you - you need to have a serious little thought session with yourself and decide what you want. You say you aren't ready either, but what's the difference? You're already acting 100% like a couple, so how are you not ready? I know the labels can sometime seem intimidating, like a commitment, but that's something you guys need to discuss. Being in a relationship yet not in one, well of course that's confusing! You guys need to lay it all out and decide what you are going to do.

By not ready, I mean I still dont fully trust him. He really did hurt me when he left me, he was very immature the way he did it. I want to be with him, I love him. Im so happy when Im with him. I guess I just dont know how to discuss it with him, I mean I'll ask him if he still wants to be with me and without hesitaion he'll say yes... Any ideas on how to discuss to him that I'm confused...

[cautiousculpeo]

Hello. （＾ｖ＾）

So me and my boyfriend got together Janurary 18th this year. When we're first met each other we completely hated each other, but after two months of talking we became closer and closer to each other. 3 months ago we became best friends, and we told each other everything. I love that I know everything about him. I know that I found love, he is my love. My first ever love, and hopefully my only. Anyways, so for my birthday me and him were going to go somewhere, but my family wants to come, which I understand why. Does anyone know any romantic, but you know kid friendly places? Thanks in advanced! ❤

No way no way no way! The 18?! How insane! My boyfriend and I got together a year ago on the 18th <3 congratulations!
I don't know what you guys are into, but you could go see a movie, parents can come and sit a few rows back, no problem! You could go to a musem? Sometimes they have cool things going on, again parents can be there but not with you every second, so you two can enjoy eachothers company as well.

Congrats again! And how funny, my boyfriend was my first and will be my last haha. We're planning on staying together, probably/maybe getting married down the line.

[surfiez]

Hello. （＾ｖ＾）

So me and my boyfriend got together Janurary 18th this year. When we're first met each other we completely hated each other, but after two months of talking we became closer and closer to each other. 3 months ago we became best friends, and we told each other everything. I love that I know everything about him. I know that I found love, he is my love. My first ever love, and hopefully my only. Anyways, so for my birthday me and him were going to go somewhere, but my family wants to come, which I understand why. Does anyone know any romantic, but you know kid friendly places? Thanks in advanced! ❤

We don't know any places because we do not know where you live. Try asking your friends who know you in real life instead of online people around the world

[thunderofthedrum]

I guess you can say I'm back with my ex... Technically we are because we've been hanging out, and when we hang out we're exchanging I love yous, kissing, hugging... And then when he goes home, he face times me and we FaceTime all night. While we're in school he's talking to me all day, which he never used to do.. He talks to me more and treats me better than he ever did, yet says he's not ready to be in a relationship with me yet. I'm just confused. I mean honestly I'm not ready either.. So I'm ok with waiting but just confused with how we've been acting together the last couple days..

To be honest here, I would set some boundaries and let him know that you are confused. It's not fair to you that you guys are completely involved yet he doesn't have to be tied down. The same goes for you - you need to have a serious little thought session with yourself and decide what you want. You say you aren't ready either, but what's the difference? You're already acting 100% like a couple, so how are you not ready? I know the labels can sometime seem intimidating, like a commitment, but that's something you guys need to discuss. Being in a relationship yet not in one, well of course that's confusing! You guys need to lay it all out and decide what you are going to do.

By not ready, I mean I still dont fully trust him. He really did hurt me when he left me, he was very immature the way he did it. I want to be with him, I love him. Im so happy when Im with him. I guess I just dont know how to discuss it with him, I mean I'll ask him if he still wants to be with me and without hesitaion he'll say yes... Any ideas on how to discuss to him that I'm confused...

What you're saying seems conflicting to me. You say you don't trust him but you are already acting like a couple again and don't seem to really be holding back. You are still giving him a LOT of your time and attention, yet then you say you aren't sure he even deserves it? There's never a magical, fool-proof way to know whether you are putting effort into the right person. You can always get hurt, even by someone who loves you and didn't mean to.

Well then BEFORE you speak to him, you need to figure out what you want, like I said. And decide on some possible boundaries or rules. For example, do you mind that you guys hang out in public and in school and are affectionate yet not an official couple? Do your or his friends ask about it? If he ends up not wanting to be a 'real' couple again, will you feel like you've wasted this time with him? Asking questions like these may help you better decide where to draw the line. Maybe you are willing to be pretty laid back, or maybe you aren't. Everyone is different and every situation is different. I put up with a lot more than my friends from boyfriends but I still draw the line somewhere. With one guy, I wasn't sure if we were going to date (we were sort of seeing each other a little?) and it seemed to be heading towards friends with benefits instead, which wasn't what I wanted, but I was terrified and felt so awkward and uncomfortable asking him about it. But I'm glad I did. We were both clumsy with dating and kept sending each other mixed signals so clarification was needed. And you know what? I ended up deciding that since he hadn't even been able to answer me, it wasn't worth it. Because even if we did date, that suggested he felt awkward or uncomfortable having those talks also and, if we are both like that, then we'll never have the important conversations! Communication is NEEDED. We just weren't right for each other at that time; both had growing and maturing to do, despite being like 21 at the time.

And it's okay to want things for yourself, like a couple rules or requirements for him, as long as you are reasonable with what he says as well. Compromise happens and it's important for people to be on the same page, for them to WANT to be on the same page. Because if not, then you may just be living in a little fantasy, assuming things that aren't true - whether good or bad.