Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Medusa72]

Still need some help on this, any reply is welcome.

Can y'all tell me if this guy likes me?
We shall call him M.
I've known M for maybe six years.
Since the moment we've first met we've gotten along very well. (But he's just really nice so he gets along with everybody pretty well.) Because of this I thought we were just friends when people kept on teasing me that he was my boyfriend while I insisted that we were just friends because I didn't like him like that back then.
We got along so well that when I was around 11 me and him were playing outside and my mom came out and asked if I wanted to stay or go home. I was having so much fun that I didn't want it to end so I said I wanted to stay. I ended up staying the night and just considered him a best friend from then on.
Then when I was maybe 12 me and my older siblings stayed the night at his house because his parents needed someone to watch him and his younger siblings. Well I only went along to help with the littlest but we ended up playing together a bit and he ended up not brushing his teeth when my older sister told him to because he had mentioned before that he had a telescope and told me I could use it if I wanted to. Anyways he didn't brush his teeth because instead he was setting up the telescope. (Also ended up going to bed late.)
He was going to our church group and that was how I was seeing him up until I was 13. His family stopped coming and I didn't see him for a while.
A year later I saw him at a church camp and I notice he kept on stealing glances at me and we kept on running into each other... Quite literally... It kind of hurt. At night we and a couple of other teenagers were in the game room and all the girls there who kept on chasing after him had gone to bed he asked me if I wanted to play a game and we went away from the other teenagers to our own table and were looking at different games to play. Well then his mom came in and told him to take a shower so we didn't play a game and I went to bed soon afterwards...
Also, after a little pacing he decided to sit next to me at lunch the next day and he noticed that I had braces... This is about how our convorsation went...
M: When did you get braces?
Me: Like a year ago.
M: Whaa?
Me: Yeah, we haven't seen each other in like a year.
M: Hmm... You look really different.
He said this very seriously and while looking me strait in the eye. I found this confusing because he is usually cracking jokes every five seconds so it was a little unusual that he was so serious.
Anyways a little while later (after camp) he got a facebook and I said hello and he said... "Ho Hey"
Ho Hey is the name of his favorite song which so happens to be a love song.
But then I later saw a picture of him dance with this girl. And they both were always sitting with each other at camp and it looked like they were together... I know they hang out alot so I think they like each other...
Anyway that and the fact that our last conversation (which was on facebook) ended in him saying "Go Away" Makes me think that he might not like me. Also everytime I've seen him since he seems to avoid me a little. I'm kinda bummed.
Help?
Sorry this is so long!

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[Ssilnah]

OK I need help. A guy asked me out on Friday just as we were going home. I was kinda stunned and he quickly said "You can think about it over the weekend." and I was just standing there stunned for like 5 minutes. Now I'm panicking because it's school tomorrow and I'm not interested in a relationship but I don't want to hurt his feelings since he's a nice guy. : /

[Dia.]

OK I need help. A guy asked me out on Friday just as we were going home. I was kinda stunned and he quickly said "You can think about it over the weekend." and I was just standing there stunned for like 5 minutes. Now I'm panicking because it's school tomorrow and I'm not interested in a relationship but I don't want to hurt his feelings since he's a nice guy. : /

You'll only hurt him more if you get into the relationship when you don't want to be since it wouldn't be fair for him.
Believe me. I've been there.
You need to tell him that. Just tell him he's a really nice guy but you're not interested in relationships at the moment. He'll probably act a little hurt because being rejected sucks, but it'll be better in the long run and maybe you've gained an awesome new friend. ^^

[-Ash's-Outlaw-]

So...I think I have my first girlfriend.
Its not my first relationship, I've dated two other guys, but never a girl before. She helped me come out and everything, she is so important to me...the only problem? She lives about 8 states away.
Does anyone have advice for long distance relationships?

[foxycritter]

First off, I'll say that my one-year anniversary with my boyfriend is coming up in October, and we're super happy together.

But on a more important note, I wanted to talk to you all about the phrase "Boys will be boys", and why it's unhealthy, especially in relationships.

This phrase starts being said to girls at a very young age, when a boy starts teasing them, picking on them, destroying their blocks, or being outright rude. "Boys will be boys" is the excuse for this behavior. They get away with, and are never punished for behavior that may hurt someone else's feelings. Two things come of this.
1. They don't learn the importance of personal space, politeness, or when enough is enough.
2. Girls grow used to it, and stop calling guys out on bad behavior. They expect it, and let them get away with it.

Even more unhealthy is when people say "oh, he's just picking on you because he likes you". This leads to the two points I already mentioned above, PLUS, girls thinking it's okay to be picked on and mistreated in a relationship. Because after all, that's how they show they care, right?

Wrong.

This phrase and this norm for guys has led to abusive relationships. The girls are so used to guys acting out, that they don't call them out on it until it's too late. They fail to recognize the warning signs of a potentially abusive partner.

They begin to think that boys just can't help themselves with all of this stuff, and the girls should be the ones to prevent all this from happening. We put the blame on ourselves, clean up their messes, and continue to let them do what they did in the first place because well, boys will be boys.

This phrase, and this way of thinking needs to stop. Both boys and girls need to be taught responsibility and kindness.
If you ever find yourself using the above logic to justify someone's actions, especially in a romantic situation, please stop and think.

I apologize for only making this about heterosexual relationships. All kinds of relationships can be abusive. However, this is a key thing to look out for in your partner.

[Crystal Gems]

Hi everyone! I need some help, because I've just got my first boyfriend (squeal) but I'm not really sure what to do/ how to act. We've been really good friends for a long time, and I asked him out two days ago. What do I do?!?!?!? Please help.

[Crystal Gems]

Still need some help on this, any reply is welcome.

Can y'all tell me if this guy likes me?
We shall call him M.
I've known M for maybe six years.
Since the moment we've first met we've gotten along very well. (But he's just really nice so he gets along with everybody pretty well.) Because of this I thought we were just friends when people kept on teasing me that he was my boyfriend while I insisted that we were just friends because I didn't like him like that back then.
We got along so well that when I was around 11 me and him were playing outside and my mom came out and asked if I wanted to stay or go home. I was having so much fun that I didn't want it to end so I said I wanted to stay. I ended up staying the night and just considered him a best friend from then on.
Then when I was maybe 12 me and my older siblings stayed the night at his house because his parents needed someone to watch him and his younger siblings. Well I only went along to help with the littlest but we ended up playing together a bit and he ended up not brushing his teeth when my older sister told him to because he had mentioned before that he had a telescope and told me I could use it if I wanted to. Anyways he didn't brush his teeth because instead he was setting up the telescope. (Also ended up going to bed late.)
He was going to our church group and that was how I was seeing him up until I was 13. His family stopped coming and I didn't see him for a while.
A year later I saw him at a church camp and I notice he kept on stealing glances at me and we kept on running into each other... Quite literally... It kind of hurt. At night we and a couple of other teenagers were in the game room and all the girls there who kept on chasing after him had gone to bed he asked me if I wanted to play a game and we went away from the other teenagers to our own table and were looking at different games to play. Well then his mom came in and told him to take a shower so we didn't play a game and I went to bed soon afterwards...
Also, after a little pacing he decided to sit next to me at lunch the next day and he noticed that I had braces... This is about how our convorsation went...
M: When did you get braces?
Me: Like a year ago.
M: Whaa?
Me: Yeah, we haven't seen each other in like a year.
M: Hmm... You look really different.
He said this very seriously and while looking me strait in the eye. I found this confusing because he is usually cracking jokes every five seconds so it was a little unusual that he was so serious.
Anyways a little while later (after camp) he got a facebook and I said hello and he said... "Ho Hey"
Ho Hey is the name of his favorite song which so happens to be a love song.
But then I later saw a picture of him dance with this girl. And they both were always sitting with each other at camp and it looked like they were together... I know they hang out alot so I think they like each other...
Anyway that and the fact that our last conversation (which was on facebook) ended in him saying "Go Away" Makes me think that he might not like me. Also everytime I've seen him since he seems to avoid me a little. I'm kinda bummed.
Help?
Sorry this is so long!

Bump? Help?

I may not have any bfs but I've had my share of rejections. First, find out if M and this girl are together. If they are, just try to be friends with the guy until they break up. If they aren't together, or have broken up, start talking to this guy regularly. Try to be funny, and try to show him your better side. Don't be too perfect though, because you gotta be human, as well. If you don't want to ask him out yourself, hint that you like him. He'll ask you out if he likes you, so ta-da. My best advice.

[Asia_Grey]

Hi everyone! I need some help, because I've just got my first boyfriend (squeal) but I'm not really sure what to do/ how to act. We've been really good friends for a long time, and I asked him out two days ago. What do I do?!?!?!? Please help.

well first off i dont know how old you are so it might not be that acccurate
if you in jr high, basically you hold hands, talk to each other hang around together, just be yourself, if he asked YOU out, he wants YOU
not fake you! and in time, maybe a few kisses
if your in high school, i cant help you, sorry

[Crystal Gems]

Hi everyone! I need some help, because I've just got my first boyfriend (squeal) but I'm not really sure what to do/ how to act. We've been really good friends for a long time, and I asked him out two days ago. What do I do?!?!?!? Please help.

well first off i dont know how old you are so it might not be that acccurate
if you in jr high, basically you hold hands, talk to each other hang around together, just be yourself, if he asked YOU out, he wants YOU
not fake you! and in time, maybe a few kisses
if your in high school, i cant help you, sorry

Thanks so much, this is perfect.

[vvoland]

alright. It feels awkward asking for advice.

But anyways, about eight months ago, this jock showed up at my soccer game. He was in my Spanish class, and seemed reay vain. (he took off his shirt and did flips off the storage units) Next day, some guy told me to talk to the guy, Hunter. I ignored him. Next day, some popular girls told me that all he talks about in PE is about how pretty I am. I just felt awkward then. Finally, I stayed after class to talk to him. He said he really liked me, and that I was beautiful. He didnt know me though. I act like I'm smarter than everyone in that class, (my grade was a good 7% higher than everyone elses) and I can be an ass in that class. I said if it went any where, I'd be willing to give it a try (going out with him) It didn't. I avoided him. Even though he thought I was pretty without any make up, after a soccer game. He walked me out of class for a week, then asked me to go to the movies with him. That wouldve been my first date. Ever. I said maybe, then quickly walked away. He stopped, and then it was awkward in class. I didn't look up for the next four months. Everyone in the class said he started wearing muscle shirts for me. Ew. And school ended.
Anyways... I just got back from backpacking and went out to dinner with my family. I got up to use the bathroom, and one Of his friends said he still really liked me.

So, about this guy. We come from completely different social classes. He is part of a group of jocks, tall (10 inches taller), blonde, one grade higher, and a year and a half older. I come from a group that's a mix of the schools few hipsters, and nerds. We are both in highschool, and school starts in two weeks. What do I say when I see him? I'm not interested. I like tall( not a foot taller >_<) skinny dark haired guys, who are nerdy like I am, and exceedingly smart, who will be taking APs too. This guy doesn't fit any of that.