TomBoyCOOLCH13 wrote:Can I have some advice? My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now but my mother still really dislikes him. He is religious and so is his family. My family is atheist but I love to listen to my boyfriend teach me a bit about the bible and I try to respect their family beliefs in every way I can. My mother on the other hand straight up thinks he and his family are stupid and she doesn't respect my boyfriend and especially doesn't respect his mother for two reasons. 1) she is heavily religious and 2) she doesn't earn a lot or work unlike my parents who both have well paying jobs. My boyfriends family aren't financially stable and my mother blames my boyfriends mother for that saying "she wouldn't have money troubles if she just didn't get married so early to an idiot then got left by him!" And I just can't stand to be put between that. I've voiced my opinion to my mother and she doesn't listen. Now at this point my boyfriend is scared of my family. What do I do?
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Rivs wrote:TomBoyCOOLCH13 wrote:Can I have some advice? My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now but my mother still really dislikes him. He is religious and so is his family. My family is atheist but I love to listen to my boyfriend teach me a bit about the bible and I try to respect their family beliefs in every way I can. My mother on the other hand straight up thinks he and his family are stupid and she doesn't respect my boyfriend and especially doesn't respect his mother for two reasons. 1) she is heavily religious and 2) she doesn't earn a lot or work unlike my parents who both have well paying jobs. My boyfriends family aren't financially stable and my mother blames my boyfriends mother for that saying "she wouldn't have money troubles if she just didn't get married so early to an idiot then got left by him!" And I just can't stand to be put between that. I've voiced my opinion to my mother and she doesn't listen. Now at this point my boyfriend is scared of my family. What do I do?
This is a really difficult situation to be in! If your mum is not willing to listen to you, is she willing to talk with your boyfriends parents? Or dad, since she doesn't like his mother? If not, there's not really much you can do. It might be best to keep them seperate, even though it's not the ideal solution, it might be the best you can do for now..
Be sure to stand up for your boyfriend if your mother disrespects him, though! Call her out, so he feels you have his back.
TomBoyCOOLCH13 wrote:Can I have some advice? My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now but my mother still really dislikes him. He is religious and so is his family. My family is atheist but I love to listen to my boyfriend teach me a bit about the bible and I try to respect their family beliefs in every way I can. My mother on the other hand straight up thinks he and his family are stupid and she doesn't respect my boyfriend and especially doesn't respect his mother for two reasons. 1) she is heavily religious and 2) she doesn't earn a lot or work unlike my parents who both have well paying jobs. My boyfriends family aren't financially stable and my mother blames my boyfriends mother for that saying "she wouldn't have money troubles if she just didn't get married so early to an idiot then got left by him!" And I just can't stand to be put between that. I've voiced my opinion to my mother and she doesn't listen. Now at this point my boyfriend is scared of my family. What do I do?
xan wrote:help? My boyfriend gives me serious anxiety.
for the first time in a long time, I have a great relationship. But my boyfriend gives me mad anxiety i stg. So there was this guy I caught hard feelings for, and none of my previous relationships lasted because I was so hung up over this one guy I kept chasing and couldn't get over. He treated me like dirt but I couldn't get rid of those feelings, I thought that maybe one day he'd change. He never did.
My best friend told me that one of my good friends liked me. I was shook. It was just weird because I never expected it. But I thought he was cute, funny, sweet, just the total package so i'd give it a go. There was clearly a spark, I forgot all about the guy I couldn't get over, something I wasn't able to do for a long time. My boyfriend was like a game changer for me, and I love him. I'm terrified he might leave, dump me. He's not that type of guy but, I just have that fear. I'm scared that he'll leave me and i'll just go running back to the same guy who only wanted me for my body. But I know my boyfriend wouldn't do that, he's sensitive, a sweetheart and he loves me for me. I just can't get those negative thoughts out of my mind. They are constantly lurking. Anything I can do to maybe push those thoughts out? Anything positive I could try to keep in mind when i'm upset?
xan wrote:help? My boyfriend gives me serious anxiety.
for the first time in a long time, I have a great relationship. But my boyfriend gives me mad anxiety i stg. So there was this guy I caught hard feelings for, and none of my previous relationships lasted because I was so hung up over this one guy I kept chasing and couldn't get over. He treated me like dirt but I couldn't get rid of those feelings, I thought that maybe one day he'd change. He never did.
My best friend told me that one of my good friends liked me. I was shook. It was just weird because I never expected it. But I thought he was cute, funny, sweet, just the total package so i'd give it a go. There was clearly a spark, I forgot all about the guy I couldn't get over, something I wasn't able to do for a long time. My boyfriend was like a game changer for me, and I love him. I'm terrified he might leave, dump me. He's not that type of guy but, I just have that fear. I'm scared that he'll leave me and i'll just go running back to the same guy who only wanted me for my body. But I know my boyfriend wouldn't do that, he's sensitive, a sweetheart and he loves me for me. I just can't get those negative thoughts out of my mind. They are constantly lurking. Anything I can do to maybe push those thoughts out? Anything positive I could try to keep in mind when i'm upset?
peachy.. wrote:I have a huge problem.
Four months ago I had a short flight with an old flame of mine. I distinctly remember him being completely intoxicated, and him saying that he wanted me to tell absolutely nobody about our encounter. I said "alright" because I thought he was embarrassed or something.
On instagram a couple weeks ago he posted a few photos of him and a girl and captioned it "7 months of torture <3" (also Christmas Things I Love as the location tag). Aaaaand it's leading me to believe that he cheated on her with me.
I'm not sure if I should (discreetly) confront him about it? I don't wanna start up drama, but I feel like the girl should know what happened. After all, this is not the first time he's cheated on someone.
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