by April410 » Sat Mar 18, 2017 7:17 am
I am supposed to make a list telling how to fix my life. How I'm going to make the biggest differences in your life to "fix the tree" there's a problem with how your seeing your analogy however. Trees grow to the side due to the relentless pounding of wind, the hard trials it's faced. I will accept my analogy as the tree you saw in the gardens, the trunk bent to the side instead of it going straight up. You also understand the supports that are used so that young trees don't bend in the wind like that. My problem that you don't realize or don't want to admit is that the supports are much like supports in our own life. Family is a major support that allows the young tree, the young soul, to grow straight and true. The reason why you compare me to my sister is due to the fact that she was supported properly. Loved and nurtured and when her winds came the supports for the young tree were strong enough that she was able to grow into a beautiful healthy tree, one that you are so proud of. Now you realize though that the tree next to it is crooked because while the tree's sister got the supports in the wind, the older one did not get nearly as much support and has bent in the wind. While you tell the strong tree that she could do anything you wait for the bent one to fail her first semester of college. You call me the problem. That I just "chose" to grow crooked where in reality I tried my hardest to grow straight with what I had with the support I got. And when the winds came, when I needed support, I found nothing strong enough to keep me slowly bending to the side. And now you see two trees, one straight and one crooked and blame the crooked one for the reason why it is crooked and while it is true that it it wasn't able to keep itself straight, it's because when the winds were at it's largest, when it needed the help to grow straight the supports were nowhere to be found. That tree needed those supports, especially in it's early life but it was denied with getting hurt if it didn't say or do exactly what it was supposed to. It wasn't getting supported, quite the opposite actually. And in turn it felt alone because even the fundamental supports didn't help it. It stuffed everything inside for fear of getting hurt.
Cutting branches doesn't fix a bent trunk, if you cut the wrong one in fact you might make it worse and cause it to topple over. It's grown to that. All you can do now is tend to it and hope that it's damage doesn't hurt it any further. It will always be bent unless you just chop it down completely.
Likewise I have some severe psychological damage that you don't understand. You just expect "normalcy", whatever that may be, and don't even try to understand where I'm coming from. And now that I'm much older you don't get why I'm so crooked, so out of shape and believe that it can be fixed which just a snap of the fingers. Changing who we are will take an amazing amount of time, the rest of our lives even. I'm willing to put in the work if you're willing to be patient with me. It's not going to happen overnight so please stop acting like I can just spring up into a normal, straight tree, as if I haven't gone through the life experiences I have. Please for once let the crooked tree show you the painful winds it's endured that has caused it to be so misshapen so that you can understand where that tree is truly coming from. Please look at the problem from a different angle and realize I'm trying the best I can for what I'm doing. I want to succeed but I need help.
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