KASEY
she/her // 22
sticks and stones // riot // mare // 4
she/her // 22
sticks and stones // riot // mare // 4
My mother had a stroke in the early spring of 2014.
I found her on the kitchen floor as I bounded down the stairs to meet a client for a horse sale. Had I not misplaced my keys, I might well have missed her entirely. Just like that, all of our hopes and dreams and successes caught flame in the fear that I might lose….well, everything.
Thankfully, Judy Cavallo is a fighter; she came out of the hospital with difficulty speaking and moving, but her old personality remained fully intact. Still, after a few weeks of recovery, it became clear that the farm life wasn’t for her anymore. Oh, how she cried, walking with hackneyed steps down the barn aisle and leaning her head in close to each and every one of her beloved horses. We both knew that even with the years of experience I had managing various aspects of Cavallo Combined Training, there was no way I’d be able to keep all 18 horses afloat.
Despite having plans to travel to Europe, as she’d always dreamed, to move in with friends and kick back in comfort, she refused to leave the farm until she was certain that each of her magnificent mounts was to be taken care of. Thankfully, there was a great market for the majority of the animals; we watched a number of ambitious young riders walk away with a number of them, the same riders I’d been showing against for ages.
After three weeks of intense advertising and sales, we had but five horses left; Atlas, our elderly cream draft stallion, and the four feral horses I’d been training for years. My mother advised me to just keep them and let them roam in the largest paddocks on the property; Atlas and Soda could live out the rest of their lives in peace, and the other three, having once been feral themselves, could enjoy time spent in a true herd. All I had to do was make sure there was plenty of hay and grass available, maintain the integrity of the run-in sheds, keep the water troughs full when the pond dried up, and bring them in for worming every now and again. She took in her last view of the four stallions romping as the cab came to whisk her away to the airport.
For two years, the farm rotted. While the paddock where the remaining horses roamed remained relatively clean and cared-for, the once-magnificent barns started to deteriorate, weeds and animals beginning to take over the dirt paths and buildings. I took up a work-from-home job to make ends meet, and another when I lost that one, since the leftover money I’d been left wasn’t going to last forever. When I wasn’t working or trudging down the fenceline, I laid in bed, too exhausted to sleep. I wouldn’t admit it to myself then, but I was depressed, horribly so. I watched my connections to the outside world start to die the same way the farm did. Even the horses, in a way, seemed like they were already gone; I rarely saw them anymore, since they spent much of their time at the pond in the far end of the pasture. It was almost comforting to watch the property blink off the map.
It was raining something horrible the fateful night I went into town for groceries. Like any other food trip, I took the backroads, always having hated the busy city streets. Had I been more focused on the road, I might not even have noticed the white blur leaning listlessly on one the barbed wire separating cow pasture from shoulder.
She was a grey mare, an Arabian, and with her was a black Tennessee walker. Both were shivering and starving, clinging to one another. I called up the nearest horse rescue without hesitation, standing close enough to evaluate their body conditions without frightening them. I waited with them until the trailer arrived.
Even though I knew the rescue was reputable and that both horses would be taken care of, I couldn’t get something about that white mare off my mind. It felt childish and stupid and superstitious, but I tossed and turned in bed for ages, something about her face branded into my mind.
After two days spent resting my hands lifelessly on my laptop’s keyboard - something I now referred to as “working” - I finally decided to go to the rescue and see the mare for myself. Maybe if I saw her as what she was - a skinny, whipped horse - instead of a wavering figure through sheets of rain, her strange importance in my mind would fade.
Of course, nobody at the rescue recognized me, but when I asked about the grey Arabian mare they led me right to her. I froze. She had a look to her, the same one I’d seen when I first saw her but hadn’t recognized until just now; skittish, neurotic, tainted by harsh hands but not yet ruined. The exact same look Soda had to him when I first bought him. It lit something up in me, something that’d been there since I was just a kid. What was I put on this earth to do?
Rightly so, the adoption protocols included an inspection of my farm before I was allowed to take the mare home. Naturally, the inspector was perturbed at the state of most of the buildings, however, with the good condition of the resident horses, he could find no reason to turn me down (on the condition, of course, that I made at least one of the barns usable in case of inclement weather). I named her Gøta; I figured after letting her fatten up and get used to people once more for a few months, I’d sell her as a prospect to one of the same riders I sold my previous horses to.
I didn’t want to turn her out with Novea straight away when she came home; even though I knew my little mare was a gentle creature, I had no idea if the Arabian was nearly so good-natured. I brought her to the old isolation paddock, overrun with weeds but with the fences still in acceptable condition. It was almost therapeutic, mixing her some gruel in the feed room, lit for the first time in years. I’d forgotten what it was like to give individualized attention to each and every animal on the property.
On the way back to the mare’s paddock, I strayed from the dirt paths to cut through the overgrown median between. It was then that I tripped over a large stone, managing to preserve the feed by throwing my arms out instinctively to keep it upright. Annoyed, I kicked away the weeds and rolled over to get a good look at the offending rock. On it were carved the words:
“O L Y M P U S
1990 - 2014
The kindest and gentlest stallion to roam the Earth.
May the grass be greener on the other side.
R.I.P.”
1990 - 2014
The kindest and gentlest stallion to roam the Earth.
May the grass be greener on the other side.
R.I.P.”
I don’t know why running across the grave struck me so strongly, but I immediately hung my head in my hands. What had I done? How shameful was it that I’d let the once-magnificent land go to waste? That I’d even let my mother’s favorite horse become mired in weeds? I sat in the greenery and cried like a pathetic child, suddenly consumed with grief for the glory days. I don’t know what got into me; perhaps I was sleep-deprived, perhaps I was drunk (I can’t recall), perhaps my daddy issues had finally caught up with me, but I had such a longing deep in my chest to go back to spending long days under the sun on horseback, finding underdog horses and coaxing them into becoming talented, happy mounts. More than that, I had a childish, cliched urge to make that happen again. Kasey the Rider would sound better than Kasey the Desk Jockey if I ever had to explain myself to 10-year-old me.
I’m not going to lie and say that I got up the next day and went to work, tearing down rotted boards and hacking away weeds in a frenzy of passion. Rather, I paced the house anxiously all day, staring out the window at the overwhelming mess i’d created, a mug of long-cooled coffee clutched tightly to my chest. I did the same thing the next day, and the day after that. I could only manage little things at first; replacing one corroded water pipe, nailing two boards back into place, filling three stalls with shavings. Some days I couldn’t even manage that; those days I just took care of the horses and spent the rest of the day staring off into space in a folding chair outside of Gøta’s paddock. She became quite used to my presence from these sessions.
Even with the achingly slow progress, things started to come together. Often when I’d complete a project I’d become so filled with joy I’d immediately move onto the next one, and the next one after that. I never was able to put enough of my pride aside to go to therapy, but in a way, the construction was therapy in and of itself. Once, I even pulled Soda out of the paddock and threw his old saddle on him for a quick ride in the newly-completed arena; he was understandably tense and concerned after not being extensively handled for years, but I surprised myself with how I settled into the tack as though my last ride had been yesterday.
I made my first post on Facebook in ages that night, a photo of the new sign hung at the front gate:
“CAVALLO STABLES
FERAL & RESCUED HORSES”
FERAL & RESCUED HORSES”
I never finished all of the projects, since new ones cropped up constantly, but gradually I shifted my attention from the farm to the horses themselves. I was out of shape; I heaved and wheezed after rides. I ran, lifted weights, did exercises at home to build muscle. I read all sorts of forums and articles online to brush up on my riding. Every now and again, when I was feeling brave, I took one of the horses to a clinic. I started taking in boarders and leasing parts of the property to bring in a steady income. I even found another horse, a cheap nokota filly with potential on the cross-country field, to add to my stock. Maybe I could have a foal again, that would be nice. Why not?
I have my off days, sure. I’m nowhere near where I used to be in skill-level, either. Still, when I saw the Mustang Million being advertised, I just couldn’t help myself. Who was I if I wasn’t going to go find the crappiest horse of the bunch and make myself a confident little mount? I’ve been back in action for a year now, relearning and revising the training technique that has created countless athletes before. I might crash and burn, might have to scratch, but auctions starting at $125 are hard to pass up.
I hope my mother will be proud when I tell her.