Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[fruitbat]

i know this may sound stupid, but does anyone else have trouble talking to their crush/s?
i really like his guy, but i cant talk to him. i know he likes be back and all, and im scared we'll get teased and whatnot.

GAH.
and i hate it how we dont go to the same school ;-;

[Lucid Dreamer]

i know this may sound stupid, but does anyone else have trouble talking to their crush/s?
i really like his guy, but i cant talk to him. i know he likes be back and all, and im scared we'll get teased and whatnot.

GAH.
and i hate it how we dont go to the same school ;-;

yeah, I get that too! I also feel really shy and nervous around a guy I really like :3

[P o m]

So I'm pretty sure I have a crush on this guy. And I know he likes me too, my friend has been trying to set us up for the past couple days and he's asked me out. I had to say, for lack of a better term, maybe. Because I'm out of town and my mom doesn't exactly approve of us talking the amount we do and we still need to talk with my dad when I get back home about it and arrange for me and this guy to meet before I actually go on a date with him.

I've never met this guy. (Let's call him S). He's a friend of my godsister, let's call her M. We have a lot in common; we both like Doctor Who, Marvel/DC, writing, drawing and acting. We both also have dirty minds. XD When he asked me out, I wanted to say yes and I nearly did, but I knew my parents would go ballistic if I did. From that, I can gather that I like him. I want to meet him so bad, because he's such a sweetheart and we've got so much in common and I know that we like each other.

But what if my parents don't say yes? What do I do then? I can't ignore my feelings for him, or his feelings for me. And if my parents say no, what do I tell him? I don't want to hurt his feelings and I don't want another broken heart.

I've never had a boyfriend, I've never had anything serious. The closest thing I've had is me and this guy (B) liked each other and we went to a dance and hung out at his place and watched Harry Potter. We drifted apart after a few weeks of liking each other. But I've liked a lot of guys and each and every time they break my heart. I've been lied to, one guy (we'll call him J) told me he liked me back. He flirted with me, sang to me and told me I was the most beautiful girl in the world.

That lasted for about 2 hours.

I found out J was lying. At first I denied it, but then I saw how thick he was laying it on. I asked him, and he told me that he was lying.

Other guys flat out ignored me or told me they didn't care about me.

I'm scared. I'm scared that S and I are going to get serious and that he's going to break my heart. But I could get into a relationship that makes me happy and for once I could just... Enjoy liking somebody. And if my parents say no, then my heart will be broken anyways.

;c I don't know what to do anymore.

[OceanBlast]

If your friend was a true friend, then she would surely understand if you went out with him. Yeah, she may be jealous, but I'm sure it will all blow over soon. She would want you two to be happy together, you cant not go out with a guy just because your mate likes him too.

Thanks, it really helps :3

[cobalt.]

ok, so i met this guy about a year ago {online might I add}. and we were talking and everything.
he had a girlfriend at the time, but since we had been talking for a month or so he broke up with her, because he liked me.
stupidly i gave him my home phone number, and he called my house and left a message. i didn't want to talk to him, and so i deleted him on facebook and blocked him, plus my mom was freaking out thinking he was a creepy old dude and made me block him, but who could blame her?
. a couple months went by and since he didn't call my house again or anything, i decided to unblock him. cue the other guy, he was from a town not far away from me, where the other guy lives in a different state but is 2 hours away. he had already told me that he liked me and had asked me if i would give him a chance. i said i would, and we talked for a while on facebook, and he would try to send me pictures of himself shirtless, which was a bit awkward for me but i never told him. well slowly he stopped talking to me, and was going to a local waterpark with his friends from his school, which i didn't make a big deal out of since they were his friends. well shortly after that he ended up in a relationship with someone else! i was really hurt, since he never said that he liked me. this was about the same time that the first guy, messaged me on skype and tried to call me when i was offline. stupidly i decided to talk to him out of desperation because of the second guy. well, now i've finally come to my senses and i've realized that i don't like him. but the problem is that he told me that he LOVED ME, and he writes it ILoveYou because there's no room for any other girls. i told him that i loved him too! he still has feelings for me and sends me hearts and those wink & kiss emojis. he calls me baby, sweetie, the works and i feel so bad since i don't feel the same way. he talks about how he wants to come up and watch me show horses this summer and go out to see a movie then eat. i don't want him to!

how do i first of all tell him that i'm not interested in him anymore without hurting his feelings, and also tell him that i don't want to talk to him, or have him come up to see me? i'm in deep crud here. :S

[Glazed Donut]

Hello guys.

So, yes, Iz be crushing for quite a while now. Close to a year. And I want to finally ask him out.

But.

I'm scared he'll say no. I'm scared of everything. I'm not really sure what he thinks of me. One day in Home Eck. after doing our work I was taking to one of my friends while sitting on a table, and he came over and sat right next to me and joined in. Like, really close. Our thighs were touching. We're kind of friends, but I wouldn't say super close friends. But then on Instagram he is following practically every girl in my class but me. Why doesn't he want to follow me? Did he just forget?

So, Im here to ask you guys. 1. Do you think I have a chance? 2. Should I ask him out? 3. If so, where? When? 4. What if he says no? :\

[Jenn.]

Key
A - Guy I like
B - Best girly friend who also likes A
C- Guy I was dateing
D- Another fiend.

{I know this is kind-of long, but please read. So far this is my current situation. I am in need of all the advice that you can offer. Thanks in advance{Also, there may be a few typos because I was typing that as fast as I possibly could}

So about a month ago while school was still is session, we {the whole school} went to a baseball game. At the game I talked to A a bit, just some random mumbo-jumbo about B. . . . At the game, I was hanging out with some of A's friends for most of the time becaues we were looking for B because she was hiding from A. And while A'a friends and I were walking around and looking for B, a very interesting conversation started up. A's friends were telling me that I'd make a better couple with A then my friend B would have. Then in response to that I basically to them that it would not be right {because B has a super big crush on A}. Then A's friends were trying to set me up with A. They told me that he was loaded {though I don't care}, and a bunch of other stuff about him. I myself though it strange that they would be saying that stuff to me.

Then a fews day after the baseball game my "friends" randomly asked this guy out for me and he just so happened to say yes. So then i had a boyfriend that I didn't even want. I did't want to tell him that it was just my friends being silly so I went along wth it.
The next day, B told A that I was dating C. A was all like that's what I thought. he looked angry when my frind told him that, but he just shrugged it off.

Then at the end of June I broke-up with C. He took it pretty bad. A few days after the break-up he sent me a text saying;
WELL IM SORRY THAT I EVER SAID YES!!!!!!!
I was really suprised by that, becuase he usually never gets upset.Then he was texting my friends telling them to tell me to leave him the *beep* alone. I wasn't even talking to him him so I had no idea why he was saying that.

A little under two weeks ago he sent me an email saying;
Look at this when you can.
Enclosed in the email was a youtube like. I clicked on it and it loaded the music video of Taylor Swift singing "We Are Never Ever Going To Get Back Together' {something like that, I usualy don't listen to her music}

At that point, since I thought that A was friends with C, I asked A to tell C that I'm sorry. Later on when I called A up {Him, B and i were all on the phone together} he asked me why I wanted him to tell C that I said I'm sorry. So I basically told him that it was because I broke-up with C, then he was asking me why, so I told him.

A week and a half ago I found out that D was texting C ever since we broke-up. And it turns out that she was one of teh friends that asked him out for me. She was even blushing when she was gabbing about him. So now I'm starting to think that she asked him out for me, knowing that I would break-up with him so that way the two of them would be better friends. Or to say in her hopes, boyfriend and girlfriend.

Sometime last week, I asked A to go to the aquatic center with me because I had no-one to go with. So he said no, so I then made plans with one of my other friends. But to my suprise, when I got there, A was already there. I went over to him and I was all like I thought you couldn't come, and he told me that he texted me saying that he could {I didn't get the text because my phone was off} then after he said that I basically said that i was glad that he could come. Then at that point in the conversation, some of my friends who were already there spotted me and were calling my name and running over to me to give me a hug. When A saw them he walked off to go swimming. About ten minutes later after me and my buddies finished talking, we happened to go to the same pool that A was in. my friends and i all got tubes and were just floating around in them. We saw A so we called him over to us and told him to get a tube so that way he could be lazy with us. So he did as we asked. We were all holding onto each others tubes, creating a big circles, in the poool. I got to hold onto A's tube. We were all talking, and I could tell that A was blushing. About 5 minutes later, A ditched us and went over to another pool, I pulled one of my friends out with me and we went over to A. My friend, A and I were swimming around together for about an hour. And during that hour he was flirting with me a bit {He usually doesn't flit from what I can tell}. Then we all went home.

So in the key, it say that b has a crush on a witch is very true. The only subject that tehy usually talk about when they text would be me. Usually because sometimes A finnds me annoying and they both like tlaking about that.

Though lately, A and i had sorta got into a fight. So I was at the pool with B and were talking and texting A. I called him Jr, a few time just jokeing around. {he hates to be called Jr. becasue he is named after his dad} And he got pretty mad at me for that and B and I were calling and texting him a lot. So he hasent been talking to me much since then.

I will put the current conversatin that we had, texting, today and yesterday bellow.
Me; Why did you hang up on me? I just wanted to talk to you super quick. If you don't mind, could I call you back? Oh, and if you don't reply to this I'll probably call you again in like 10 minutes.
Him; Okay ive been busy this entire few days with _____ _____ preperation yet u still insist on bothering me with these same questions. Now pls stop.
Me; Okay. Just one last question. So is that only reason that you haven't been talking to me or are there more? That's all. Sorry for bothering you.
Him; Did u learn nothing this is what B and i were talking about we say stop u continue talking about "one last question" then make a conversation.. Out of it
Me; Just read this through.. . . . I just wanted to say that I got the text the you sent me last night. Thanks for putting it to me like that. I honestly had no reason to text you in the first place, so I promise you that I won't be again.

[Me <3]

To Berje Robel

So I've never been in a relationship so I'm not positive for this but Its what I would do. Even if your friend likes A then its ok to be friends with him. You don't have to isolate yourself from him and if he flirts with you go with it, your not betraying her your not doing anything actually. With c if you ever see him tell him your sorry and that he is nice but your heart belonged to another, just complement him and say the break up wasn't his fault. I feel the best way to fix most these problems would be talk face to face. Texting is good for small talk and quick questions, but not fixing arguments. I don't text but I do know some people are bolder on line then face to face. Like in texts one could swear and use fowl langue and say horrible things, but if you talk face to face they could either be a real jerk or be a shadow of what you thought. If your annoying A then just turn it down a bit, like don't repeat questions and text him all the time. What I would do is check my phone when ever and if he's text me since then replay fallowing the flow of the conversation. If he's trying to end it let him say your busy to then go do something fun that you like to do. If you and A end up together and your friend get mad and yells at you she was never a real friend in my opinion. If she was she would except it and be happy for you even if she's upset. Sorry if this doesn't help and really mixed up, I don't text or have ever been in a relationship (ok that's a lie I've never been on a date with a guy, that's true) but that's what stuff I would do.

[thunderofthedrum]

ok, so i met this guy about a year ago {online might I add}. and we were talking and everything.
he had a girlfriend at the time, but since we had been talking for a month or so he broke up with her, because he liked me.
stupidly i gave him my home phone number, and he called my house and left a message. i didn't want to talk to him, and so i deleted him on facebook and blocked him, plus my mom was freaking out thinking he was a creepy old dude and made me block him, but who could blame her?
. a couple months went by and since he didn't call my house again or anything, i decided to unblock him. cue the other guy, he was from a town not far away from me, where the other guy lives in a different state but is 2 hours away. he had already told me that he liked me and had asked me if i would give him a chance. i said i would, and we talked for a while on facebook, and he would try to send me pictures of himself shirtless, which was a bit awkward for me but i never told him. well slowly he stopped talking to me, and was going to a local waterpark with his friends from his school, which i didn't make a big deal out of since they were his friends. well shortly after that he ended up in a relationship with someone else! i was really hurt, since he never said that he liked me. this was about the same time that the first guy, messaged me on skype and tried to call me when i was offline. stupidly i decided to talk to him out of desperation because of the second guy. well, now i've finally come to my senses and i've realized that i don't like him. but the problem is that he told me that he LOVED ME, and he writes it ILoveYou because there's no room for any other girls. i told him that i loved him too! he still has feelings for me and sends me hearts and those wink & kiss emojis. he calls me baby, sweetie, the works and i feel so bad since i don't feel the same way. he talks about how he wants to come up and watch me show horses this summer and go out to see a movie then eat. i don't want him to!

how do i first of all tell him that i'm not interested in him anymore without hurting his feelings, and also tell him that i don't want to talk to him, or have him come up to see me? i'm in deep crud here. :S

I can't tell if I'd be of any help because your post is hard to read.

So I'm pretty sure I have a crush on this guy. And I know he likes me too, my friend has been trying to set us up for the past couple days and he's asked me out. I had to say, for lack of a better term, maybe. Because I'm out of town and my mom doesn't exactly approve of us talking the amount we do and we still need to talk with my dad when I get back home about it and arrange for me and this guy to meet before I actually go on a date with him.

I've never met this guy. (Let's call him S). He's a friend of my godsister, let's call her M. We have a lot in common; we both like Doctor Who, Marvel/DC, writing, drawing and acting. We both also have dirty minds. XD When he asked me out, I wanted to say yes and I nearly did, but I knew my parents would go ballistic if I did. From that, I can gather that I like him. I want to meet him so bad, because he's such a sweetheart and we've got so much in common and I know that we like each other.

But what if my parents don't say yes? What do I do then? I can't ignore my feelings for him, or his feelings for me. And if my parents say no, what do I tell him? I don't want to hurt his feelings and I don't want another broken heart.

I've never had a boyfriend, I've never had anything serious. The closest thing I've had is me and this guy (B) liked each other and we went to a dance and hung out at his place and watched Harry Potter. We drifted apart after a few weeks of liking each other. But I've liked a lot of guys and each and every time they break my heart. I've been lied to, one guy (we'll call him J) told me he liked me back. He flirted with me, sang to me and told me I was the most beautiful girl in the world.

That lasted for about 2 hours.

I found out J was lying. At first I denied it, but then I saw how thick he was laying it on. I asked him, and he told me that he was lying.

Other guys flat out ignored me or told me they didn't care about me.

I'm scared. I'm scared that S and I are going to get serious and that he's going to break my heart. But I could get into a relationship that makes me happy and for once I could just... Enjoy liking somebody. And if my parents say no, then my heart will be broken anyways.

;c I don't know what to do anymore.

Okay your post was kind of confusing. So have you guys even talked at all or was your godsister relaying all of the messages? I find it bizarre that he would ask you out without meting you.

If you haven't had a boyfriend then it's pretty obvious you haven't had anything serious, either. There's nothing wrong with no experience in dating. Everyone experiences good times and bad, just like some friends you can count on and others may gossip behind your back. It's all about getting to know people. The trouble with dating is that there are more expectations for the relationship than a friendship and sometimes you enter it without knowing hardly more than the other person's name.

And having things in common is fun, but it's certainly not all important. I have some things in common with my boyfriend like many movies we like, we both love to read, being competent with a computer, good vocabulary, enjoy the outdoors, drawing, love animals, etc. However, we also have a ton of differences, like I am getting a college degree in a few weeks and he moved here after high school to be a musician (heavy metal, which I have zero interest in) and now works in construction related stuff. But it's the values that I feel are more important. We both treat animals well, we both know how to live cheaply, we both handle meeting people well, neither of us are religious, we both respect each other's privacy and don't easily get jealous, etc.

Being disappointed when someone doesn't like you back isn't what I would call getting your heart broken - to me you have to be truly invested in someone and in love to begin with to have your heart broken.

Risking that things won't end well is just that - a risk. Even if it DOES end, why couldn't you be happy until then? Even long relationships often end, but that doesn't mean they were a waste of time. Emotions are part of the human experience.

Eventually it comes down to this - are you more scared of being hurt or more scared of the regret of missing the opportunity to date him? Either way, you have to first wait on what your parents say, so don't start freaking out yet. See if they give you permission, THEN make that decision for yourself.

[thє dσctσr]

Now I've come to the conclusion she's my world. My everything. She may never be mine. But I promised he I will always be here. Waiting for her. <3 I removed everyone else from my life. No boyfriends. No more girlfriends. A promise is a promise. I will always be here for her. I may be hurt on the way. But she's worth it.