Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[bad2thebonedog]

So i dated this guy since my freshman year of high school. All in all with a few months break we dated around 5 years. Right before Christmas he calls me and says he wants to break up. Other then feeling completely heartbroken it was fine. The reason he gave was that he was afraid he was going to miss out on things and look back and question it plus he didn't want to put the effort into a relationship right now. Now where it gets weird...we were both on holiday break and we literally hung out all break even though we weren't dating. It's like nothing ever changed and I mean at all. Like we did everything that a boyfriend and girlfriend would do. We had a talk and he basically said that he's not looking for a relationship and he just wants to hang out with his friends. I asked him well what about when you're over that phase? He said well we will probably get back together. He also said that he was coming down for my birthday (it's a special number and we live 2 hours away during college). I know I don't want a relationship with anyone else right now but should I wait for him? I'm scared to wait and then we not get back together but at the same time I feel it wouldn't be fair to a new guy if I didn't wait and tried a new relationship. Any advice is welcome.

[northern downpour ;;]

Hahaha... if I didn't know any better, I could swear he's flirting with me... But I do know better.
He has a girlfriend he loves and I shouldn't get in the way of that. And I won't.
But something inside me says "What if he is flirting with you?"
I don't know anymore, I just needed to rant, but if you think you can help... PM me, I guess?

[Dangerous Girl]

okay so my first post here and i need help like pronto.....my boyfriend and i hang out..a lot..and well i have this thing ware i don't want to kiss people romantically until after high school....want to stay focused on studying and stuff...ya well he like keeps trying to kiss me or like trying to convince me to and i don't want to....its not like wouldn't want to....but ya HELP ME PLEASE

[Dia.]

okay so my first post here and i need help like pronto.....my boyfriend and i hang out..a lot..and well i have this thing ware i don't want to kiss people romantically until after high school....want to stay focused on studying and stuff...ya well he like keeps trying to kiss me or like trying to convince me to and i don't want to....its not like wouldn't want to....but ya HELP ME PLEASE

Why kissing someone makes people not focus on studying and school, I'll never understand. That's just coming from an honors student who's been happily kissing her boyfriend for two years.
I've also witnessed a long relationship between my friend and her boyfriend fall apart after three years because she wanted to take it slow and not kiss him.

You just need to talk to him and explain your thoughts to him. If he doesn't respect your decision, he's not respecting you. Just communicate and go from there.
You've made up your mind, so what do you need help with?

[Eazeybreezy]

Hi there. So um, I have a problem.

Me and my boyfriend started dating about two months ago. We are both on the Track team, and everyone on the team says we are the cutest couple. They always comment on us, and tell me that they think we will last for a very long time. Around after one month of us dating, we told each other we loved each other, which was true, then. Well, very recently, and I don't know why, I feel like I'm losing my feelings for him. He hasn't done anything different, and it isn't like he isn't a great guy, I just don't know what I'm going to do. Since we are on the team, we will see each other every single day for 5 more years. If we broke up, which I don't know if I want or not, not only would we have to see each other and hang out with each other for 5 more years, all my friends and everyone on the team would be weird around us and make fun of us.

Please someone help me, I have so many mixed feelings right now i don't know what to do.

[HRMARCEA]

Eazeybreezy....
Look at your username. It suggests relaxation (unless it is an inside joke), and I suggest that. Calm for a bit. Don't overthink the situation. If you are having mixed feelings, chances are, inside you know, but you are struggling to get it out. Just let things flow for a bit, and maybe the answer will appear.

That's my suggestion, but I'm not sure if that's what you want. But maybe think about it? (sorry if you hate it...)

[vvoland]

as of about an hour ago, I no longer have a crush on Joseph, which is truly exciting. One of my friends showed the rest of us his tumblr and I'm not actually sure if I can avoid collapsing into giggles next time I see him, as he is one of those people with an entirely different internet persona and I know it was probably hella creepy to go through his blog but I'm also so glad I did.
just venting a bit ^_^;

[spring.]

K so I had my 20 seconds of confidence. I snaochatted him saying I missed him. Done. I really do miss him, but I could never say that to him. But I did. So yay!

[ScarWitch]

okay so my first post here and i need help like pronto.....my boyfriend and i hang out..a lot..and well i have this thing ware i don't want to kiss people romantically until after high school....want to stay focused on studying and stuff...ya well he like keeps trying to kiss me or like trying to convince me to and i don't want to....its not like wouldn't want to....but ya HELP ME PLEASE

Why kissing someone makes people not focus on studying and school, I'll never understand. That's just coming from an honors student who's been happily kissing her boyfriend for two years.
I've also witnessed a long relationship between my friend and her boyfriend fall apart after three years because she wanted to take it slow and not kiss him.

You just need to talk to him and explain your thoughts to him. If he doesn't respect your decision, he's not respecting you. Just communicate and go from there.
You've made up your mind, so what do you need help with?

I don't understand it either... I kiss my boyfriend all the time and I'm an honors student with over a 4.35 GPA....but anyway...

I agree with Dia. Trying to kiss you is all about if he respects you or not (after you talk with him about it), but then it may end up pushing him away because of the lack of intimateness. I've was in that position, after over six months of dating a boy we broke up, the only reason being is the lack of intimacy.. I'm a very physical person in relationships, so it just didn't work. Hope this helps a bit.

[Eazeybreezy]

Eazeybreezy....
Look at your username. It suggests relaxation (unless it is an inside joke), and I suggest that. Calm for a bit. Don't overthink the situation. If you are having mixed feelings, chances are, inside you know, but you are struggling to get it out. Just let things flow for a bit, and maybe the answer will appear.

That's my suggestion, but I'm not sure if that's what you want. But maybe think about it? (sorry if you hate it...)

Thanks. It really helped. I guess I'm just going to go with the flow