Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[StephyBoo]

Im a girl and I likethis boy (Ryan) and i talk to him all the time and he's always making me laugh and hes always so nice and hes so adorable but i dont know if he likes me ans my friend are always telling me to tell him that I like him but im affraid that he might regect me and hate me forever or just not see me the same what do i do just tell him or wait for him to sy somthing i dont really know just can someone help me

[Casistrophic]

Im a girl and I likethis boy (Ryan) and i talk to him all the time and he's always making me laugh and hes always so nice and hes so adorable but i dont know if he likes me ans my friend are always telling me to tell him that I like him but im affraid that he might regect me and hate me forever or just not see me the same what do i do just tell him or wait for him to sy somthing i dont really know just can someone help me

Ask him if he likes you. Hating someone forever for admitting they have a crush on you is not something that happens in the real world.

[CarsonGray]

So there is this guy that I can't stop thinking about. He lives with one of my best friend's boyfriend, so I'm at their house a lot. Him and I nearly slept together one night and neither of us has brought it up again. How can I stop thinking about this guy? I need too, especially since he isn't interested in me and I don't have any interest in dating him anyways.

[Retrouvailles]

Me and this guy (let's call him A) have been talking for a few months or so now. Today he sent me a text saying, "Hey I just have to say this I'm happy you are my friend and I love having you as a friend I love talking to you it is so much fun and I hope we talk a lot more anyways happy new year." I thought it was very sweet, and I realized I had feelings for him. He has a gf though, but he can't get in touch with her because she never gave him her number. She lives far way from me and A. I feel bad for liking him, but I don't at the same time.

I also flirted with him, and he seemed to flirt back...I dunno what to do about this.

[Bluemare40]

Well... I hung out with my friend today and she told me that she got a boyfriend.

She and this guy have been friends for about a year (they are in one of my school's sports together... Well, she's on the girls and he's on the boys but they still play for the same sport.)

Anyway... they have been spending a lot of time together lately, so I guess a couple of days ago, he told her that he wanted to spend more time with her. So yeah they're together now.

I'm really happy for her, she's the first one in my group of 5 main friends who has gotten a boyfriend. I... I just kind of started losing hope for myself... heh... I mean... I have crushes on two guys, one I know I could never be with, the second one maybe but I've only seen him a few times and I know him from this radio thing that I and a bunch of other people do. This is seriously stupid I have no idea why I'm worrying about this it's the least most important thing in my life but.... why? I don't need a boyfriend, I don't need anyone, I'm never going to find anyone...

I don't even really know if I want to date!!! I just want someone to be interested in me!!!

*sigh*

I need to stop. Really.... why do I even care about this? Sorry for annoying anyone with my ranting about my problems that aren't even important. This seriously isn't even important, I am such a privileged person, and a lucky one too, so why am I worried about this???

[Mari_hadalittlelamb]

Well... I hung out with my friend today and she told me that she got a boyfriend.

She and this guy have been friends for about a year (they are in one of my school's sports together... Well, she's on the girls and he's on the boys but they still play for the same sport.)

Anyway... they have been spending a lot of time together lately, so I guess a couple of days ago, he told her that he wanted to spend more time with her. So yeah they're together now.

I'm really happy for her, she's the first one in my group of 5 main friends who has gotten a boyfriend. I... I just kind of started losing hope for myself... heh... I mean... I have crushes on two guys, one I know I could never be with, the second one maybe but I've only seen him a few times and I know him from this radio thing that I and a bunch of other people do. This is seriously stupid I have no idea why I'm worrying about this it's the least most important thing in my life but.... why? I don't need a boyfriend, I don't need anyone, I'm never going to find anyone...

I don't even really know if I want to date!!! I just want someone to be interested in me!!!

*sigh*

I need to stop. Really.... why do I even care about this? Sorry for annoying anyone with my ranting about my problems that aren't even important. This seriously isn't even important, I am such a privileged person, and a lucky one too, so why am I worried about this???

Hey..its okay..I know how you feel.
Please PM me if you want, I'll do my best to help you

[Child_of_Death]

my one friend is head over heels for this guy, and she's constantly talking about him.
the thing is, it's getting quite annoying that every time i try to say something she cuts
me off with 'omg my crush looked so cute today' or 'i saw my crush at a swim meet.'
recently she sent me about a paragraph long text about how 'perfect' he is, and i don't
really care anymore. I've tried asking her to stop talking about him as much as she does
but she never listens. is there any way that i can get my point across without sounding
rude? i apologize if this is the wrong thread, i just didn't know where to ask this.

Next time, ask her again to stop. From what you've said, she probably won't, and so this might be the time to grasp her shoulders, make her look you in the eye, and say something along the lines of "Stop constantly talking about your crush. I understand you like him, but it's getting really annoying." Be firm and straight-forward. Don't make it sound like a game, i.e. "Aw, c'mon, would you stop talking about him already?" Make it clear that you're serious. Tone of voice is an important factor in whether your words sound rude or not, so don't be exasperated or snide; just firm. Hopefully she'll get the message and take it down a notch.
Best of wishes and greatest of luck, my friend.

[Zynphera]

my one friend is head over heels for this guy, and she's constantly talking about him.
the thing is, it's getting quite annoying that every time i try to say something she cuts
me off with 'omg my crush looked so cute today' or 'i saw my crush at a swim meet.'
recently she sent me about a paragraph long text about how 'perfect' he is, and i don't
really care anymore. I've tried asking her to stop talking about him as much as she does
but she never listens. is there any way that i can get my point across without sounding
rude? i apologize if this is the wrong thread, i just didn't know where to ask this.

Just a year ago I was like your friend, because I was infatuated then later in love with that guy. However, next time whenever you guys talk, tell her in a serious-tone that you don't mean to hurt her feelings at all and that you care for her but you'd like it if she stopped talking so much about her crush because it's starting to get on your nerves. Hopefully she'll understand, depending on what type of person she is you can say it either more bluntly or nicely but make sure to get your message across. c:

[TheSiren]

Lately, I've had a serious issue with my best friend {sister/Kiyah} and her boyfriend {someone I really don't care for.. Tae} She will not stop bringing him up. All my friends are in relationships and I'm working on mine. I'm truly happy because I've never had someone like Tye before. I've told a little about Tye to Kiyah and that's about it. I try not to bring him up and I told her if I get on her nerves with it.. Tell me. She will not stop bringing up all the things they have done. It's been three months and honestly I told her I don't trust her boyfriend. The other day he was over here with her and I just hanging out. The entire freaking time they were all cuddled up and I asked repeatedly.. "Can y'all separate for a day please. I wanted to hang out as friends and you guys are being all couple like." Pretty much.. I was third wheeling in my own house! So she keeps telling me about his turn on spots and what she does to him. All their flirty stories and I'm just like. "Dude, we're in high school . It's only been three months.. Chill.," she's just like. "Why can't you be happy for me? My ex boyfriend only wanted to hop in my pants.. This one doesn't.," *sighs sadly* Tae kind of does seem to only want to get in her pants. He's been talking about it since I found out they were dating a couple days before their one month. I was just like. "Come on man! Chill. That's my sister.. She hasn't had her first and I don't want you to hurt her.," she thinks I want to break them up.. No.. Not at all. I want my sister to be happy, but Jesus! Stop with the freaky talk it's not the time for that. They make me so uncomfortable and I tried to tell her and she didn't tell him anything. She could've politely ask him to chill when I'm around. Once when it was Kiyah, Tae, and I sleeping over at Kiyah's house. again. Third wheel. Whoopdidoo. Kiyah and Tae snuggled all night and knocked me off the bed. Firstly.. It's awkward to me for three people to sleep in a bed and for two of them to be together and their friend is there. Or is that just me? Secondly.. We're in high school. If your boyfriend stays over he should sleep on the couch. At least while I'm there because it's awkward. Maybe I'm just being jealous or there's seriously something wrong here. I don't know what to do anymore. I want her to know I'm happy she found someone. Just don't brag.. Don't bring him to hang all the time! When you do.. Don't cuddle the entire day.. I'm uncomfortable. I expressed to her that when my previous boyfriend tried to cuddle while she was there I told him know. Because I didn't want her feeling like a third wheel. She pulled me aside and expressed her feelings and yeah. I told him to chill. Because she didn't have a boyfriend and I didn't want her to feel well.. Awkward. She's not really doing the same for me and I just don't know what to do.

[GIGABITE]

I need to rant. A lot. Too long for me to want to post it here. Can someone PM me? I'm having trust issues with a former friend and crush, involving a lot of blunders on my part and I just really need someone to talk to. There's not much advice that can really be given; I just need someone willing to listen to a really long (embarrassingly angsty) crush rant