Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[HorseJess]

Okay. I've tried to act like that one time we were out with the group and she did actually back off a bit. And we've yet to kiss in front of people so I can try that too.

What worries and annoys me the most is the times I'm not around when she and him are around each other. This weekend is a great example. The group is going to the beach, and I am unable to go with them. She will bound to be acting the same way she has been. What do I do about that?

I'm no expert on relationships, so please remember to take everything I say with a grain of salt.
With that being said, I think you should talk to your boyfriend about confronting her.
Have him with you when you talk with her. This way she can see you two are a couple, and you are in sync with each other. She'll know it isn't just you being clingy, touchy, etc. She'll know you and your boyfriend are of the same opinion.
It sounds like whatever is said to her should be coming either from both of you together or from him alone. As long as she gets the point that he doesn't like the way she's behaving.
Perhaps that would show her that she has no footing and she'll back off?

[Vampyrum Spectrum]

Okay. That is a good idea. I go to his house tomorrow and can talk to him then. I just don't want him to be the one feeling suffocated. He doesn't see it in the way I do. He thinks it's just her being her. I'm now very sure that it isn't.

[thunderofthedrum]

Well it sounds like he is her target, whether it was planned or not. It sounds like she is being more than just annoying to me - stealing his phone, constantly reverting attention back to *him and her* (their texts, him coming over, etc) all sounds more like trying to move in on him, kind of flirting. It sounds incredibly tacky of her, like she hopes to catch his eye and lead him astray from you.

Now, I'm not saying this is her big master plan or that she even realises what she's doing. But I do feel that she is behaving a bit inappropriately. Anything alone would be fine, but it seems like she has quite the tally of little incidences next to her name by now. Maybe this IS just her being her, but to be so used to monopolising people's boyfriends is not right and she needs to be made aware of this.

I'm not good with conflict and confronting people so I don't have advice on what to say to her or your boyfriend, but I definitely agree with kissing him in front of her. Or at least, that's what I would try to do. xD

Sounds like your boyfriend is a great guy for trying deflect some of her attempts and generally not seeing it as anything other than friendly. Also kudos on having good communication! Lastly, you sound like me - not about to jump to conclusions, trusting your boyfriend, reasonable and definitely not clingy, etc. In reading your post you sounded fairly neutral, like you were being objective and STILL felt something was wrong - and I agree. I wish you the best of luck.

[Vampyrum Spectrum]

Thanks thunder (if I may call you that) I'm going to try talking to him about this tomorrow. From what people have said here, I'm now really sure that something needs to be done and very soon. I'm still worried about sounding clingy to him since guys see things differently, but I /will/ talk to him.

[GIGABITE]

I've liked the same person for almost 3 years (mentioned her before in here) and I feel really stupid about my feelings; which at this point are pretty strong. I fear that I will make the same mistake I did in my last relationship: Be too clingy and over obsess at my luck in her being my girlfriend. But I can't help it, my feelings for her are stupidly strong and I feel I should be more "cool" about it

[cautiousculpeo]

My two best friends Nitsud and Nodnarb came over and we were hanging out. We were chilling on my couch, all three of us. And Nodnarb turned to Nitsud and said "Let's so it." and then Nitsud looked at me and he said. "We've been planing this for a while." Than they laughed and tickeled me for twenty minutes. Both holding me down with brute strength. I'm so happy Nitsud broke up with his girlfriend, now we can hang out more.

[Pongo.]

I'm so confused v.v
the guy I like (who likes me back) we have been talking A LOT lately, but he hasn't said I word to me since last night >.<

Er... heaven forbid he's been busy?


This is directed to people in general - don't freak out so easily. It's so silly to be thinking of reasons like "omg did he meet someone prettier" and "what if he changed his mind" and "what if he's bored of me" when it's only been a few days. I mean, COME ON. Maybe the guy's been busy, grounded, distracted, out of town, working, etc. Heaven forbid he have a life outside of talking to you!

My boyfriend has texted me like once today and it was only to answer MY text. So? He's probably been busy, whether working or playing video games. He's allowed to do that; he's allowed to decide for himself when he will respond to a text. If I hadn't texted him first, he might've gone all day without texting me. And that's okay. It's healthy to be your own person. Heck, maybe he's been totally available all day, just hasn't felt like talking. There is always tomorrow. So RELAX, people. I see so many of you guys worrying and stressing when it's been only a few days, one day, even a few hours! People can't be glued to their phones 100% of the time - I personally wouldn't want to date someone who couldn't put their phone down; that's very dependent on electronics/technology, boring, even rude, and just plain unattractive. Neither would I want to be a needy, clingy person who starts texting "OMG R U OK" after one hour of silence.

So just.. whenever you guys feel like freaking out, BREATHE and be reasonable. Stress is not healthy, especially for such silly reasons.

I was kind of over reacting, but, we usually talked if we were busy, there really wasn't a time we weren't talking, besides when we slept, or took a shower, and once when I went out of town and had no wifi/bars on my phone.. but if there were times that we couldn't talk, we gave a reason why, but I was freaking out because he just didn't say anything at all about not being able to talk, but once he had a chance to talk, he apologized, but I told him not to be sorry ^.^ but, I will keep in mind what you said, thanks

[Queen~of~Crows]

With my last relationship I was in, we would talk all the time and hang out and what not. But for some reason we just STOPPED talking and hanging out, when he texted me I would get really embarrassed and not reply. Is there any way to avoid that when I am in a different relationship? ;-;

[Caribou.]

I've been seeing a lot of posts about thing like 'I like this one dude but he won't like me back because I'm unattractive, antisocial, out of his league, ect. In my personal opinion, I would forgot about boys, and relationships in general for now. Most of us are only teenagers on here and we have lots of time to find the right person. So take some time to focus on yourself, make a list of things you could improve on, try to make yourself a better person. I did this and I found I'm so much happier with myself.

Someone will love you for the way you are, but you will only ever feel truly loved and be truly happy if you are happy with yourself first.

{You don't have to take my advice, this is just from my personal experience.}

[houndoom]

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