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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby compass; » Tue Dec 23, 2014 9:59 pm

Solarize wrote:
      Recently, my friend group has been getting to know some new people. Out of these, one of the guys has been talking to me alot. A few weeks ago or so, he confessed that he liked me. He's really sweet and nice and all, but hes just more of a good friend. Ive told him this, but he doesn't seem to understand that I don't like him that way. I really don't want to say anything to upset him, because he is a really nice guy, but I don't know what else I can do.


      Ah, I had the same problem with a friend, well he's not my friend anymore. I hate him so much, but anyway aha.
      The best thing to do is have a good talk with him, explain why you don't want to have a relationship with him, and also see what he has to say for himself. Hope this helps!
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby ScarWitch » Wed Dec 24, 2014 6:21 am

My boyfriend was homeschooled for two years in highschool, including the year that we get our class rings. (He was public schooled until then... it's a long, messy story.) So anyway, instead of letting me wear his nonexistent class ring, he gave me a dogtag of his that he's had forever. It's just got his name and birthday on it but I love it. <3
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby narwhallama » Wed Dec 24, 2014 6:32 am

He actually likes me back! I think.
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby amethyst, » Wed Dec 24, 2014 6:36 am

    i made my boyfriend some cookies for christmas.

    i shaped them into his pets (he has cats, dogs, and guinea pigs). hehe. c:
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby Beebs » Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:14 am

Hello, hello! Found this thread, couldn't help but poke around~.

I do have a boyfriend, although it was a rocky start. We met a few years ago, and well, we never did get along very well. I can't say we argued a lot. I do remember being under so much pressure when we first met. We would often disagree on many stupid things, like how to eat a sandwich.
Yep.
BUt then, he moved onto middle school and I didn't really speak much to him. He kind of drifted out of my life.

That changed when I joined the band program my fseventh grade year.
And who else was there but the jerk himself.
I tried to ignore him for the most part. He was more of a pest than anything, and I was used to brushing people off and letting them buzz away. The perks of being bullied.
But things started to go downhill real fast again.
And all of my friends either didn't notice or backed away.
So I felt entirely alone, especially since the only other person who could've helped me (A close friend of mine I've known since elementary school) was dealing with his own problems.

The one person who did reach out to me was the kid who had been bothering me all these years.
And for some strange reason, I took his hand.
He helped pick me up from my spot on the ground, helped me stand on my two feet again.
It was so bizarre; the kid who was once a nuisance was giving me a boost.
Another year passed, and when things were better for me, we went back to our usual arguing selves. But I felt something different in our friendship, and I'm sure he did too.
By the time we were in high school, two years later, I knew for certain I was crushing on him. I was, at first, skeptical of my feelings. I had never actually liked anyone in this way, so of course I was unsure. But after a while, I was certain.
I'm a patient and lenient person though. I never said a word about it. It hurt, but I wasn't entirely sure if he liked me back.

My buddy had to go ask him if he liked me as we were sitting at lunch though. I stood up and left the table, I didn't really want to hear his answer.
The next day, though, he personally told me he liked me. That apparently, he's known that he's liked me since the beginning of his freshman year. I told him that while I was glad, I had to be certain about my feelings. (In reality, I was so nervous. Like "oH GOSH, THIS GUY I'VE HAD A CRUSH ON ACTUALLY LIKES ME BACK OHH MY GOD" kind of nervous, and happy at the same time. XD)

Since then, we've been on great terms. He never really gave up after he told me, didn't take my words as a sign to just pack up and walk away. We're really good friends, and about nine months ago, I agreed to be his girlfriend.
I can honestly say I've never been happier.
I deal with a lot of crap at home and at school, and he seems to make it not matter. He keeps me smiling and laughing, and just fahsgfkajghe, he's the best. c: These past nine months have been the greatest, and honestly? I'm glad I met him. We may clash on a few subjects, but it's never been serious or detrimental. It's always been in good fun.

BLARGH, long story is long. But oh well. XD
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby hev » Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:40 am

@ solarize
    Hey there. DO NOT feel obligated to like someone because they like you back. If you simply do no like this boy, then he can deal with it. You do not have to feel bad for not liking someone. People do things like that end up getting abused. You decide who you want to go out with. Not him. Explain to him that you do not like him. You need to say that you are not interested. If he pressures you anymore, tell him to bug off.

@ amethyst,
    Congrats! Here's to another happy rest of the year!
    And that's so sweet of you. I'm sure he will love them.

@ besy
    Have you tried asking him out?

@beebs
    What a nice story! Remember, an argument here and there are good for you. Especially if it's on stupid things. I'm glad you two are happy together and hopefully will continue to be.
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby ❝steℓℓar❞ » Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:44 am

Well my guy best friend/crush was talking about this "anonymous girl" who he liked.. I was really curious and it took a while to find out who it was.. It was me... And I really like him and I always have. Last night, I sent him a picture that said "I really like u" and he sent it back to me and said "Ditto".. This morning I texted him and asked him out. I would rather do it in person but he's out of state for a while and I couldn't wait. I haven't gotten a reply for more than three hours and I'm really confused. He knows how I feel and he feels the same. I kind of feel let down and I don't know what to do. Should I text him again? Let him be? I don't know... ):
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby city of angels; » Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:45 am

My ex-best friend Adam and I had the perfect love story. We met as kids and were great friends, but then after the summer ended, we didn't get to see each other. I figured I'd never see him again.
Flash-forward about nine years to the day of my city's fair. I was walking down the sidewalk when I ran into my friend Kara and she was with a semi-familiar cute boy holding a skateboard. I'm sure you can guess that the cute boy was my old friend Adam.
We talked all the time again, just like we used to, but over text this time. He helped me through a lot of my struggles in ninth grade, which was the hardest time of my life. Without him, I wouldn't still be here. I thought that our story was perfect. We knew each other when we were young, we found each other several years later. Obviously, he was meant to be in my life again. I told myself I should love him. It was perfect! We had the perfect story to tell our children when we got older. But I felt nothing for him. I tried to make myself like him, but I couldn't.
We had a falling out not too long ago and we don't talk any more. I see him in the halls and I feel a little bad for that whole thing, but there's nothing I can do about it now. I'm not sure he'd take "sorry, let's be friends again". But anyway, I just wanted to share that because I found it weird...how perfect that story almost was.
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby amethyst, » Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:47 am

[quote="Hev"
@ amethyst,
    Congrats! Here's to another happy rest of the year!
    And that's so sweet of you. I'm sure he will love them.[/quote]

      thank you so much. c:
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby nimuulap » Wed Dec 24, 2014 7:53 am

星巴克 wrote:Well my guy best friend/crush was talking about this "anonymous girl" who he liked.. I was really curious and it took a while to find out who it was.. It was me... And I really like him and I always have. Last night, I sent him a picture that said "I really like u" and he sent it back to me and said "Ditto".. This morning I texted him and asked him out. I would rather do it in person but he's out of state for a while and I couldn't wait. I haven't gotten a reply for more than three hours and I'm really confused. He knows how I feel and he feels the same. I kind of feel let down and I don't know what to do. Should I text him again? Let him be? I don't know... ):


I know how you feel ;w;

Just wait for him, and don't stress too much about it. He's probably busy at the moment or he's just panicking and not sure what to say. I'm sure he's really happy that you feel the same way as him. Just wait a few more minutes or how long it might take. If that doesn't work and he still doesn't reply, then when you guys meet again, maybe you could tell him then. Of course, don't suddenly go up to him and be like "remember the text?", just casually slip the topic when you guys are conversing or when he asks you about the text.

I've once had a similar experience too a couple years ago. This guy bullied me and hated me until one year, we were the only two who were in the same grade on this one bus, so we kept talking to each other until my friends started suspecting he liked me. I honestly didn't know how I felt. By coincidence, we were also having a truth, dare or fire in the barn championship. So one morning, he chose truth and I asked him (my friends wanted to know...) "Do you like me?"

And he hesitated a little, and tried to look away, it was pretty awkward for the poor guy. ;-; Then he banged his head on the seat etc. He said "you already know." but that wasn't a yes or no answer so I kept asking him the question, I was feeling honestly flustered at the moment. However he then finally muttered a yes.

So after I rejected him (stupid me ;-;), we went our own ways for about one year, but then on a school trip, we started talking to each other again and we became besties and etc etc hugged, walked, said our apologies etc. etc. he dated a girl last year, broke up, single, comes to me, still single, many ships.... My point is: you just need to be patient with love :D

Of course, all guys are different but they probably panic at one point of their lives.
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