Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[audball(:]

It might be for the best. If he really isn't committing to the relationship, then theres no point.

[TailsDovah]

It might be for the best. If he really isn't committing to the relationship, then theres no point.

Yeah, I know. As much as I don't want to do it. :/

[coriander.]

I just went through the same thing. It's gonna be hard and you're gonna hurt a lot... but it'll be a relief. Even when it does hurt you'll have time to just better yourself. Let him make his mistakes. My ex-boyfriend decided he was going to start smoking pot the day after he broke up with me. His reason for breaking up? "I want my own life". aka... he wants to do crazy things and be stupid.

[Kecko]

Maybe you can try to talk to her. If she really is your friend she wouldnt be flirting or anything with your long term boyfriend. If you have her number or can contact her maybe you should talk to her

I would, but she doesn't have a phone or anything.
I don'tthink the problem is her though, because the last time we talked, she had a boyfriend too.
The problem is that my boyfriend is putting her first..
I don't know, I've been thinking about just breaking up with him because he just doesn't act like I'm important to him anymore..

You said she has a brother, what if he's just hanging out with the brother?

[cobalt.]

Maybe you can try to talk to her. If she really is your friend she wouldnt be flirting or anything with your long term boyfriend. If you have her number or can contact her maybe you should talk to her

I would, but she doesn't have a phone or anything.
I don'tthink the problem is her though, because the last time we talked, she had a boyfriend too.
The problem is that my boyfriend is putting her first..
I don't know, I've been thinking about just breaking up with him because he just doesn't act like I'm important to him anymore..

You said she has a brother, what if he's just hanging out with the brother?

from what she said earlier he is prioritizing spending time with the brother and other girl over his own girlfriend. when she tried talking to him about it he pretty much blew it off and tried to turn the blame on her. i don't think its really a matter of hanging out with other people its the fact that he's neglecting her feelings/needs and isn't acting like a bf. xP

[serendipitydaring]

Wait, he talked about marriage after breaking up with you? That's quite ridiculous if you ask me. You said that you started crushing on someone else... explain that to your ex. Mention that he had/has no rights in making up plans as big as marriage without your consent at all. Say that what you two had is gone and you've moved on. This guy sounds like a douche, no offence. I know it may be hard and you might feel confused, but just stay strong and hold tight, it's bound to blow over sooner or later C:

thank you, and i dont blame him entirely because i more or less did the same thing (except i didnt talk about marriage, and i bided my time with trying to win him back, not randomly text talking about marriage!)

[serendipitydaring]

im sorry to interrupt, but i really need some advice

i mentioned previously that the guy i liked who was my ex rejected me when i tried to get him back

I got over him. It took awhile, but i got over him. I even started crushing on someone else. he was no longer on my mind.

BUT THEN LAST NIGHT HE TEXTED ME

and was like, talking about how he was gunna date me when i was sixteen and stuffs and marriage and babies and im like "HOLD UP, HOLD UP. WHAT THE HELL" and hes like well you like me blahblahblah and im like, "NONONONONONONONO, YOU CANT DO THIS. I JUST GOT OVER YOU."

and hes like, "oh ive had this plan for over three years"

"WELL IF YOU TOLD ME OF THIS STUPID 'PLAN' I WOULDVE WAITED FOR YOU"

now im really upset and i dont know what to do

That is RIDICULOUS of him. If you're not even 16 YET, how can he be possibly talking about marriage and kids?And why would he have a plan of waiting until you are sixteen anyway? And he rejected you - he didn't say let's take a break until we're 16, he straight up rejected you. If he really had a plan and cared about you then I don't think he would do this. Who cares how long he has supposedly had this plan? He sounds like he's changing his mind a bunch and if he doesn't even know if he wants to date you, then don't even THINK about marriage and beyond!

Tell him he had his chance, in my opinion. Tell him if he had a plan he should've told you a heck of a lot sooner and NOT spring it out of nowhere just now. Tell him that you're over him. Don't make it easy for him to get you back; it sounds like he already wasted some of your time and is about to waste more of it now. I agree with DJ Aden - to reject you and then be talking about marriage and HIS plans for you guys is ridiculous and sounds like someone not worth your time.

thank you, and actually when he first brought it up i said "Gee did your girlfriend dump you?"

the guy that i like is showing a lot of interest in me, and he cares and he has the same standards, so hes willing to wait until im 16. he tells me im beautiful and he gave me an adorable nickname and i love his family... hes everything that my ex wasnt

[cobalt.]

i'm trying not to be so annoying, but he hasn't been messaging me lately or liking any of my posts, pics or statuses like he used to. also trying not to get jealous when he flirts with girls from his school, why should i be jealous we aren't dating or anything. he's been so distant, i'm worried that i said something wrong or annoyed him. :c
#rant-ish post

[thunderofthedrum]

Just had a really rough breakup with my boyfriend. Fourteen months and we literally spent every day together.

He wanted to have his own life without having to worry about me.

His family was my family. And everyone in my family bawled their eyes out when they found out.

And...now we're 99.9% sure I'm pregnant

joy.

So it's clear that you were sexually active with him, so have you taken pregnancy tests and seen a doctor? No sense in freaking out before you know for sure. If you say 'we' then you have already spoken with your family about it, so that's good. I'm sorry to hear everyone is sad to see him go, but it sounds like he felt.. I don't know, not ready to have to think of you too in all of his decisions, or perhaps tired of it. He may have begun to feel that was like a leash, always communicating with you, spending time with you, making sure you'd be okay with his decisions. I'm not saying dumping you was justified, but obviously he was unhappy enough to make a radical change. Whether he will be glad or regret it, I can't say.

I don't know if you're under 18, but regardless you do have *options* regarding handling a pregnancy, especially if it's very early on. I don't know your feelings on that but particularly if you are very young that may be a path worth considering. It sounds like you have family support so far, and that's really great - sadly a lot of others cannot feel the same. It would be unfair to ask your parents to help you raise a child but if they are willing to step in and be actively involved then at least they know what that entails since they've raised you and any siblings you have. A baby is work. All day and all night for the rest of your life - even after they've grown you still meddle, worry, help, etc. They are super expensive and will change your life. Sure you will fall in love with your child (or at least I would hope so!) but also your life will never be the same. It's a very big thing to decide.

If you have confirmed that you are pregnant I would just work on communication - see how your ex feels about the situation, see how your family feels about the idea of you having a baby or terminating the pregnancy. Weigh your options, spend some time alone deciding what is best for YOU. Because once a baby is born it needs to become what is best for the BABY. So before that day comes, you have to ask yourself some hard questions.

You have the support of CS at least!

[anomaly.]

So the guy i have liked for two years has been leading me on then letting me but when i start liking someone else he does it again. And i dont know how to let go of him.