Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Keletheryl]

How do you tell somebody who likes you that you aren't interested as... easily as possible. I hate breaking it to somebody, it hurts my kindness to do so. I made an oath to myself to be as nice to people as possible, and this is not nice, even if I don't like him.

But what do I say? Urg, I really don't want to do this. I feel so bad. But I have to. Or maybe is there a way to just slip out of it? I dunno. I'm lost here. I've never done it before. Please help!!

[Cirque]

I would like to ask everyone what they think is the appropriate age to date.Personally, I think it's 14 or 15. :3

I, personally, would have to agree, as those are my thoughts as well. However, everyone has different opinions, and certain people feel ready to date at different ages. It just depends on who you are and what your maturity level is I suppose.

Agreed; however, I feel like 15 or 16 would be more adequate. The age I personally don't agree with is dating in middle school or elementary school...

I agree with this as well. I feel like in elementary & middle school you're not emotionally mature enough to be in a stable relationship. So I think fifteen or maybe fourteen is an appropriate age to begin dating.
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my boyfriend & I have been together for nearly seven months so far. c:
I don't really think of him as my boyfriend, I think of him as my other half in a way.

[ojoku]

How do you tell somebody who likes you that you aren't interested as... easily as possible. I hate breaking it to somebody, it hurts my kindness to do so. I made an oath to myself to be as nice to people as possible, and this is not nice, even if I don't like him.

But what do I say? Urg, I really don't want to do this. I feel so bad. But I have to. Or maybe is there a way to just slip out of it? I dunno. I'm lost here. I've never done it before. Please help!!

I was given advice on this awhile ago. To you have a hobby that you're really into? I'm a skateboarder, so I always tell guys I have to focus on my career as a skateboarder. Usually they understand and don't take it personally, just figure that I'm a busy chick.
Maybe you can get your parents in on it? Like, ask them to tell that person that you're not able to date.
Another option is to just tell them that you're really not that into them. Say something like "You've been/would be a really awesome friend, but I don't want this to go any further than that."

I know how hard it is, as I've recently been trying to be kinder (I've had a rough past with being not-so-nice) but getting asked out totally crushes it for me. I'll admit, I've just ignored people before or made up excuses like "I'm sick" before, but that's a really bad way to go. Good luck figuring out what to do.

[Cirque]

How do you tell somebody who likes you that you aren't interested as... easily as possible. I hate breaking it to somebody, it hurts my kindness to do so. I made an oath to myself to be as nice to people as possible, and this is not nice, even if I don't like him.

But what do I say? Urg, I really don't want to do this. I feel so bad. But I have to. Or maybe is there a way to just slip out of it? I dunno. I'm lost here. I've never done it before. Please help!!

my general excuse is,
'sorry, but I'm not really interested in being in a relationship at the moment."
If they ask why, you can say it's because of stress, being too busy, not being allowed, having feelings for another person, etc.

[fruitbat]

ahhh.
im dying inside.

I like this guy, hes my first ever major crush. but we don't see each other each day, see, we go to the same sport club and see each other 2-3 days a week.
we cant talk to each other much because of teasing and that the coaches hate girls and boys talking [because of destructions and stuff]

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DOOOOO

gah just some random rant...

[hiraethe]

ahhh.
im dying inside.

I like this guy, hes my first ever major crush. but we don't see each other each day, see, we go to the same sport club and see each other 2-3 days a week.
we cant talk to each other much because of teasing and that the coaches hate girls and boys talking [because of destructions and stuff]

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DOOOOO

gah just some random rant...

he likes you?
maybe you can chat or skype or similar.. i'm in exactly the same situation, and i chat with him over the net and am trying to make a day to hang out with him and some of my other friends. your crush doesn't have to be from school to have something with him.

[Keletheryl]

How do you tell somebody who likes you that you aren't interested as... easily as possible. I hate breaking it to somebody, it hurts my kindness to do so. I made an oath to myself to be as nice to people as possible, and this is not nice, even if I don't like him.

But what do I say? Urg, I really don't want to do this. I feel so bad. But I have to. Or maybe is there a way to just slip out of it? I dunno. I'm lost here. I've never done it before. Please help!!

I was given advice on this awhile ago. To you have a hobby that you're really into? I'm a skateboarder, so I always tell guys I have to focus on my career as a skateboarder. Usually they understand and don't take it personally, just figure that I'm a busy chick.
Maybe you can get your parents in on it? Like, ask them to tell that person that you're not able to date.
Another option is to just tell them that you're really not that into them. Say something like "You've been/would be a really awesome friend, but I don't want this to go any further than that."

I know how hard it is, as I've recently been trying to be kinder (I've had a rough past with being not-so-nice) but getting asked out totally crushes it for me. I'll admit, I've just ignored people before or made up excuses like "I'm sick" before, but that's a really bad way to go. Good luck figuring out what to do.

Ahhh, thank you so much! That makes things a whole lot easier ^^
I'll just get my mom to back me up when I say I'm not really into a relationship thing right now or whatever.

How do you tell somebody who likes you that you aren't interested as... easily as possible. I hate breaking it to somebody, it hurts my kindness to do so. I made an oath to myself to be as nice to people as possible, and this is not nice, even if I don't like him.

But what do I say? Urg, I really don't want to do this. I feel so bad. But I have to. Or maybe is there a way to just slip out of it? I dunno. I'm lost here. I've never done it before. Please help!!

my general excuse is,
'sorry, but I'm not really interested in being in a relationship at the moment."
If they ask why, you can say it's because of stress, being too busy, not being allowed, having feelings for another person, etc.

Thank you, I'll take your guys' advice. ^^

[.yuanfen]

I'm quite curious about this issue that popped up when one of my friends started dating.

I think that when people are dating in high school, it should still be similar to dating as adults- the guy should text or call the girl first. However, everyone was, for some reason, really upset about me saying that, telling me that I was completely wrong and insane for thinking so.

.__. The reaction to my statement was uncalled for, in my opinion, but anyhow, I was wondering what all of you think about it...?

[ Oh, and please excuse any terrible grammar mistakes. I'm really tired and should be going to bed. ]

[Country.]

So I had a crush on this guy, we were almost in a relationship, he was really close to asking me out...my ex BFF 'stole' him from me. & they just broke up last week. I saw him yesterday outside the dollar tree..(I had to sit in the car with my dog to wait for my mom). I was staring at him...-.- because I saw his shoes and I swore they looked familiar..(he was wearing sunglasses & a hat). Then he looked up from whatever he was doing and he looked at me and was just about staring at me so, i pretended to 'act casual' (FAIL). The problem is...is that I just finally got over him. Now I miss him again. We used to talk all the time. & the best part is that my friends didnt even have the intention of telling me. I want to talk to him, I have his number, but I don't think he has mine. (Exbff probably deleted it. figures.) Ah. Life why must you be complicated...? Im thinking of just waiting until july 31st (our county fair) to txt him and ask him to come to the fair. Is that a good idea, so it casual, no pressure? What should we do? just walk through the animal barns and talk & maybe sit somewhere to eat?
Sorry my life has so many problems...dont worry, I hate it too.

[Country.]

I'm quite curious about this issue that popped up when one of my friends started dating.

I think that when people are dating in high school, it should still be similar to dating as adults- the guy should text or call the girl first. However, everyone was, for some reason, really upset about me saying that, telling me that I was completely wrong and insane for thinking so.

.__. The reaction to my statement was uncalled for, in my opinion, but anyhow, I was wondering what all of you think about it...?

[ Oh, and please excuse any terrible grammar mistakes. I'm really tired and should be going to bed. ]

I believe your both right. Every one is entitled to their own opinion about their love life. Honestly I don't have a prefrence of txts first. They maybe more comfortable with a guy txting them, instead of themself txting the guy. Its just what the person is comfortable with. Although they had no right to say you were wrong, your just as right as them. c: