Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[river1999]

Alright, so there is this boy, he's been my best friend for a few years now and I'm going to see him this weekend since he moved away last year. The thing is, I think he really really likes me :3 I mean, he made a note on my fridge that said I Love You. And he also told people that I was his girlfriend.
But I feel really bad because I don't feel the same way. I think i have feelings for another guy.
I don't know what I should do, should I say something or just let it be?

[iWonder]

I would want to be honest here and tell him that you don't feel the same way. If he takes it badly tell him that maybe someday you interests might change. Well uhm that's what I would do if A. Was your friend and I were you.

[iWonder]

@viva la vida,
Sounds like a normal crush relationship, I wouldn't stress about it. Sometimes it passes and others it doesn't and it hangs on.



My question or comment about A.

So today I accomplished a great feat and I told A. He replied (via email)" You ARE the woman!! " I expected that much... "you are the petal to my flower, the Yin to my Yang." and some other things. I did not expect him to ever say that.
I said " awwws! *blushes* do you mean it? Really?" . I didn't know what to say. He compliments me all the time, even when I am not there. He tells me I am pretty, and "pulchritudus" which means, beautiful, fair, and stuff like that.

What do I do now?

And he replied, he said "I really mean it". I think that this is probably progressing too fast for me or maybe its just because I am not used to the compliments and stuff like that. I don't know, I will have to talk to a few friends and see.

[rare animal]

Alright, this is awkward for me to say since I usually act like I'm an aromantic, childishly saying boyfriends and girlfriends are gross, since I don't really like anything... romantic. I think I might have a slight crush on somebody and like. I think they already have someone they like as well. and like.. she's a girl. my parents will freak out if they do find out I have a small crush on a girl, since I'm a girl too. they want me to be straight. I'm not sure if I am though, bisexual/asexual I guess x//D I don't know her in real life though ;D; she's a couple years younger than me, which is weird imo xD and it's just. I don't really know what to do now. I'm not sure if she stil likes me back though. It's so strange for someone like me to post here though, sheez..

[G.L'S]

^ if you want to know if this girl also likes you, you're best to hang around her more and see how she is around you. She may later initiate a conversation on who she likes. As for your parents, that's great good and wonderful that they want you to be straight but asking you to possibly pretend you're someone you're not isn't fair to you. Be who you want to be, your parents should accept you despite what they want.

@Machenza, if hes just complimenting you, there's nothing wrong with that. If he was taking it to new levels then yes, you have every right to tell him to hold his horses.

[provolone]

Hey guys! Okay so I said earlier that I've been reading an amazing book, and I thought that I would share some more advice with you. If you want to know if a person actually likes being in a conversation toward you, hear are some things you can notice. Also,try them out with people! You can figure out if someone (or even you) is really enjoying the conversation.

"Keep your palms poem. Keep your hands on the sides of your body; don't up hide your hands in your pockets, and don't sit on them.
Don't fold your arms and clench your fists.
Don't cover your body with your arms. Don't touch your face, ears, or neck - this shows insecurity and anxiety.
Turn toward the person. Adjust your whole body to face him. Point your feet toward him; turn your torso face-to-face, so the angle between you is quite minimal. A slight lean toward someone say that you are interested in what he is saying. A dramatic lean will make him feel like you a trying too hard in the conversation. Plus it would look really odd.
Stand upright and tall, and don't slouch. You appear more confident, interested, and assured.
Get rid of objects between you and the person. Don't put chairs or kittens or anything else between you and the person your talking to.
Smile... But not all the time. There is a world of difference between smiling responsively and smiling all the time. Constant smiling means you are feeling tense or nervous and trying to cover it up."

That's what the book says. It's really helped me in conversation, and I've been able to tell if people want to talk to me or not. So if you want to find out if a guy or girl likes you or not, try this out. However, this isn't a sure sign that he really likes you in a romantic way. I guess it'll just help you figure a few things out! (sorry if I'm just spamming here) o.O

[autumnsoundtrack]

*Sigh* I decided to hug my former crush today, just to see what it feels like. I haven't been feeling okay for the past few months. Nothing really has gone right in my life this year. But hugging him, took it away. I felt safe and like everything will be okay. When people say they feel electricity, I felt this warm, glowing feeling lighting me up. Is that it? Because if it is, I shouldn't be feeling that. He has a girlfriend, one of my best friends, and I promised myself I'd stop liking him. Heck, I even ditched them during lunch everyday so I wouldn't have to see his face. But I still get that feeling. Anyone know how to make it go away? It hasn't gone away in months and I need it to if I don't want him finding out that I like him more than a friend.

[ojoku]

You guys don't have to help me, my problem's really stupid and probably minuscule compared to most of your guys' posts... but if anyone could possibly give me advice, that'd be really cool~
Apparently when summer is coming or has already come, everyone starts asking you out. So far I've been asked out by two guys. I don't not like them, but I don't like them... they're the kind of person I'd be more inclined to just give a peace sign in the hallway then actually talk to. Telling them no was so hard and honestly, I never really gave them an answer... how do I tell them that I don't like them? Recently I've been using the excuse of "I really need to work on my career", even though that doesn't go well during practice sessions because of my next problem.
I kind of like a guy named David and about everyone in the school had told me that he likes me. As far as I know, nobody but one or two of my friends know I likes him. I can't tell one of my friends that actually happens to be a girl but is great with relationship advice because she's his ex and basically hates his guts. He used to beat me up a lot but now he sticks to just kind of watching me and occasionally saying hey. Sometimes I would tell someone to meet me at a certain locker number and he was almost always around there with his friend group. How do I figure out whether they're right or I need to just forget about him? It's beginning to affect my skateboarding, which is really bad, especially if there's a competition coming any time soon.

Don't feel inclined to actually answer these. Again, mine can wait. Thanks to anyone who actually bothers to listen to this.

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Yeah I pretty much have the greatest guys ever. eeeee

Only problem is, I'm not allowed to kiss and holy CRAP do I want to kiss him

really badly

Everyone time he says something sweet (which is often) I literally have to turn my head away and cover my eyes with my hands so I don't look at him because I have to stop myself from kissing him. I'm wondering if maybe I should slow things down, or if it's probably ok because kissing isn't all that bad..I dunno. we'll just see where it goes

he's so great though omg. We're going out next Monday. We went to prom together a while ago. We're crazy about each other, and are most likely going to become boyfriend and girlfriend near the end of summer/after summer. We talk ALL the time. it's pretty much perfect

He's so sweet, and he's SUCH a gentleman, you don't even know. It goes much farther than just opening doors. Ugh, I'm just sitting here smiling thinking about him, he's so great.

How do you get this with a guy, you may ask? (I mean the whole knowing you like each other and stuff lol) Communication! :D We just talk a lot! We have all our family's dating rules laid out, we both know that we probably want to end up being together, we both know we're interested because we've TOLD EACH OTHER! 8D I cannot stress this enough. You will be a thousand times happier if you just get everything out in open air with this person. (..whomever it may be, I mean)

and I do apologize ever so much for how horrible this post is, it's a bit late and I'm tired and not thinking straight. it's terrible i'm so sorry. Anyways. Bye guys, that was your 2:30am ramble from good ol Nimmy. I'm good with relationship advice I swear i'm just a bit off today. ramble ramble ramble

[Rated R]

You guys don't have to help me, my problem's really stupid and probably minuscule compared to most of your guys' posts... but if anyone could possibly give me advice, that'd be really cool~
Apparently when summer is coming or has already come, everyone starts asking you out. So far I've been asked out by two guys. I don't not like them, but I don't like them... they're the kind of person I'd be more inclined to just give a peace sign in the hallway then actually talk to. Telling them no was so hard and honestly, I never really gave them an answer... how do I tell them that I don't like them? Recently I've been using the excuse of "I really need to work on my career", even though that doesn't go well during practice sessions because of my next problem.
I kind of like a guy named David and about everyone in the school had told me that he likes me. As far as I know, nobody but one or two of my friends know I likes him. I can't tell one of my friends that actually happens to be a girl but is great with relationship advice because she's his ex and basically hates his guts. He used to beat me up a lot but now he sticks to just kind of watching me and occasionally saying hey. Sometimes I would tell someone to meet me at a certain locker number and he was almost always around there with his friend group. How do I figure out whether they're right or I need to just forget about him? It's beginning to affect my skateboarding, which is really bad, especially if there's a competition coming any time soon.

Don't feel inclined to actually answer these. Again, mine can wait. Thanks to anyone who actually bothers to listen to this.

hey there, i'm Rated R and i feel like I can help you c:
as for your first bolded question, let them down easy. i think a nice phrase could be like, "i'm just not interested in dating right now, but thank you" or something like "dating isn't a priority for me this summer, my apologies. but i really really appreciate that you asked me. thank you."
okay, as for your second/third bolded question, you shouldn't base your opinion after your friends. who knows, maybe your friend just doesn't want you to get with him and is telling you bad things to make up for it? i'd say you should trying just being friends. friendship is the foundation to a good relationship, in my humble opinion, and if you guys can't really be friends, how could dating work? on the other hand, while you're friends and if it works out and you date, you can make your own thoughts on him as a guy. i mean, keep your friends warnings at the back of your head, but allow yourself to make some as well.
sorry if this advice sucked. /i've never been in a relationship or asked out, sooo/
it was just a compilation of my thoughts.