Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Mystial Entity]

To those in established relationships: What kind of activities did you do together in the lead up to being an "official" couple?

[Hano]

To those in established relationships: What kind of activities did you do together in the lead up to being an "official" couple?

A lot of just hanging out after class and doing fun stuff C: Watching movies, having dinner together, going to the arcade, going on hikes, painting pictures together, riding bikes, ice skating, etc. Those are all things my boyfriend and I did before we were together!

[vulture,]

To those in established relationships: What kind of activities did you do together in the lead up to being an "official" couple?

My boyfriend and I really didn't do much together outside of school before we were dating. We had one class together in which we would always get ourselves in trouble for talking too much and always partner up for projects. After becoming good friends, we'd stop to chat in the hall during passing time or lunch. This year was when we really picked things up. We joined the same clubs to have an excuse to spend lunch with one another, we've done volunteer work together, and had lunch together outside of clubs. There wasn't a single thing we did together outside of school other than volunteer work before we were dating. Really it doesn't take money to get to know someone. It's all about just spending what time with the other you can and getting to know them.

[Mystial Entity]

Hano, Mimosal, those are some nice answers. Thank you.

I have a "not quite yet boyfriend" who seems to spend a lot of free time playing video games. I'm having a difficult time finding video games we can both play. Hmm. I think I might invite him out for hikes or volunteer activities!

[Retrouvailles]

Is this a good or bad sign?

I sit by a guy that I like (I guess he's my friend) and it seems like I have to sit by him. He won't ever sit by me, I have to. Does this mean he's nervous? Because he always seems to smile at me when I come over.

Anyone please?

[Mystial Entity]

Is this a good or bad sign?

I sit by a guy that I like (I guess he's my friend) and it seems like I have to sit by him. He won't ever sit by me, I have to. Does this mean he's nervous? Because he always seems to smile at me when I come over.

Are you saying you'd like him to take the initiative to sit by you first? Maybe he's gotten used to you making the first move.

[northern downpour ;;]

Ughhh so I have a major crush on a guy who has a girlfriend
The thing is I kinda want him to know that I like him like that
But the other thing is
I don't want to drive him away
Like, to me, it's ridiculous to worry about driving someone away by telling them you like them, but what I worry about is that they'll see all the *pokes* as, like, flirting. I'm trying not to flirt with him, I'm trying to act like a really good friend, but it's hard.
I'm tempted to tell him that I USED to have a crush on him but I'm sure he'll probably figure out that I still do...
I don't know what to do xc I don't like hiding my feelings

@Foxtail I think that maybe it isn't a totally bad sign. I mean... maybe he IS just nervous that he'll seem clingy? or maybe that he'll seem annoying? if he always sits by you first. Maybe he figures that, if you want to sit by him, then you can, (as you always do) and he doesn't wanna risk bothering you...
I dunno. There's a lot of reasons people do things.

[kaplantai]

i met this guy last week or so and he's super sweet and handsome. we have been talking for a while and i feel like this will turn out to be good. there is just one things, im a super shy person when it comes to being around new people, and its hard for me to be comfortable around him. i want to talk a lot but i end up tripping over my words and then i blush beet red, literally beet red. what should i do to "keep my cool" and stop myself from getting embarrassed?

[oddball.]

…so I'm pretty frustrated with myself. I've had a crush on this guy for awhile now, but there's only one real problem with this: we never talk. I know him pretty well because we're in the same activities, and I've wanted to be able to simply go up and talk to him for the longest time, but I'm always afraid that I'll come across as creepy for all of a sudden starting to talk to him when I never did before.

Any tips for breaking the ice? Strategies to get myself to stop chickening out? I'm also a really shy person, and conversations have never been my strongpoint. I guess I really want to know how I can become friends with him first so that later we could possibly be more.

[grizzly.]

…so I'm pretty frustrated with myself. I've had a crush on this guy for awhile now, but there's only one real problem with this: we never talk. I know him pretty well because we're in the same activities, and I've wanted to be able to simply go up and talk to him for the longest time, but I'm always afraid that I'll come across as creepy for all of a sudden starting to talk to him when I never did before.

Any tips for breaking the ice? Strategies to get myself to stop chickening out? I'm also a really shy person, and conversations have never been my strongpoint. I guess I really want to know how I can become friends with him first so that later we could possibly be more.

I might be able to help you in this aspect, as a few years ago Intoo was a super shy person. Normally I'm all for the guy making the first move, as that's how I was raised and taught, but sometimes we need to make that first step to break the ice. I was in a similar situation about three years ago, and here I am, over three years later dating the same guy. Anyway, how it worked for me, was simply saying hey on Facebook, and striking up a conversation that way. What I've found is that it is soo much easier for those who are shy to strike up a conversation over an electronic device/website where you cannot see their face directly, also giving you the chance to try and think of something to say as a cover up if something awkward was said, but it could be a good start. Just the hardest part is working up the nerve to press 'send'. My suggestion, type up a simple hey, close your eyes and press send. Once it's sent there is no going back, and you can't go wrong with a simple hey. The worst that could happen is that he doesn't even reply, but a decent person would reply and from there just strike up a conversation about whatever, ask him questions about him, get personally closer to him, and no better way of doing that then asking them about themselves, but I suppose it wouldn't hirt to add in; 'but you don't have to answer if you don't want to' just to ensure that they don't have to answer if they don't want to, giving them that feel that you're not too pushy, and that you actually do respect them and their privacy.

Hope this helps (: