TheComfortCorner | v.6

[LonelyGuldfisk]

Just lookin' for friends. I don't have a lot right now, at least none that I feel comfortable to be myself around. The last one I had has been turning her back on me for a guy. Guess any sane person would tell me that that makes her not a friend. But I have no one else..
In need of a chat buddy or long term friend. ^.^

[lisica,]

this week i've felt rubbish to say the least, and for once not over school but
like
i don't know what i feel it's like
regret and self loathing and anger towards myself mixed in one and i don't know what to do
generally i'm quite a happy person but i'm questioning a lot and it's just really horrible and idk how to put it
i haven't felt like this in a while
im fine with school, there are one or two idiots but i'm lucky to be in classes with people with the decency to not join in
i don't know what i'm feeling it's just suffocating now

[*Infinity*]

Just lookin' for friends. I don't have a lot right now, at least none that I feel comfortable to be myself around. The last one I had has been turning her back on me for a guy. Guess any sane person would tell me that that makes her not a friend. But I have no one else..
In need of a chat buddy or long term friend. ^.^

I am a very friendly person (at least I think so), but for some reason I have a hard time making actual friends too.

You're right, though. A friend that turns you out because of a romance is no friend, *but* (and it's a big butt) perhaps your friend is going through issues herself, and she needs a little time to make this romance work. Or she thinks that for some reason you won't approve. Or she doesn't want to rub her romance in your face.

Giving friendships space to breath often makes them stronger. Maid Marion on Disney's Robin Hood said "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." Don't discount your friend yet. It may just be a phase. She might be feeling the same way.

As for all that, I'm very willing to call you my friend.

this week i've felt rubbish to say the least, and for once not over school but
like
i don't know what i feel it's like
regret and self loathing and anger towards myself mixed in one and i don't know what to do
generally i'm quite a happy person but i'm questioning a lot and it's just really horrible and idk how to put it
i haven't felt like this in a while
im fine with school, there are one or two idiots but i'm lucky to be in classes with people with the decency to not join in
i don't know what i'm feeling it's just suffocating now

It sounds a lot like depression. Depression is very hard to describe to someone else.

Please find a school counselor, parent, or mentor to talk to about this. Depression is no joke, and sometimes seems to have no reason. It just is. Certain things can trigger it, but other than that, depression is indescriminate.

Please talk to someone about it. Don't be shy. You are important!

How do I slowly break apart from my best friend of five years? She is getting into bad decisions and treating my other friends like garbage but I just can't let go because it would break both of our hearts. I know I need to but how can I do it as painlessly as possible?

Explain to her that you need some personal space right now. Tell her you would like to stay friends, but because you are both going through stuff, you would like to focus on that for a while.

You don't have to give up your friend, but you don't have to socialize with someone with a bad attitude or behaviour, either.

Give the friendship some breathing space and see where it goes, see where you both go. Who knows in a few months or a couple years you may both be sitting back together laughing at the dumb memories you share! Arguments become comedy with time.

Good luck!

[hellebore]

I need advice on how to deal with situations in which family members expect me to take a side and I don't want to.

[wriolette enjoyer]

My cousin is driving me crazy. He first hit me in the kidney and didnt apologize. He then claims and stresses me out by saying im a unfair person when he is the one lying. Then he constantly keeps hurting me and hitting me and his mom, my aunt, says "Why are you so mean." to me instead of him. I tried telling the rest of my family but they just keep shouting at me and leaving me behind. My mom, on the other hand, shouted and almost beat me up because of me being 'rude' and 'stupid' towards him.

[wriolette enjoyer]

My cousin is driving me crazy. He first hit me in the kidney and didnt apologize. He then claims and stresses me out by saying im a unfair person when he is the one lying. Then he constantly keeps hurting me and hitting me and his mom, my aunt, says "Why are you so mean." to me instead of him. I tried telling the rest of my family but they just keep shouting at me and leaving me behind. My mom, on the other hand, shouted and almost beat me up because of me being 'rude' and 'stupid' towards him.

[hellebore]

My cousin is driving me crazy. He first hit me in the kidney and didnt apologize. He then claims and stresses me out by saying im a unfair person when he is the one lying. Then he constantly keeps hurting me and hitting me and his mom, my aunt, says "Why are you so mean." to me instead of him. I tried telling the rest of my family but they just keep shouting at me and leaving me behind. My mom, on the other hand, shouted and almost beat me up because of me being 'rude' and 'stupid' towards him.

This may be a bit of an obvious thing for me to ask, but is there any way you can avoid your cousin? How often and on what occasions do you see him?

[wriolette enjoyer]

My cousin is driving me crazy. He first hit me in the kidney and didnt apologize. He then claims and stresses me out by saying im a unfair person when he is the one lying. Then he constantly keeps hurting me and hitting me and his mom, my aunt, says "Why are you so mean." to me instead of him. I tried telling the rest of my family but they just keep shouting at me and leaving me behind. My mom, on the other hand, shouted and almost beat me up because of me being 'rude' and 'stupid' towards him.

This may be a bit of an obvious thing for me to ask, but is there any way you can avoid your cousin? How often and on what occasions do you see him?

Everyday. There is no way to avoid him. Im his only cousin.

[leverage]

I don't mean to sound like I'm trying to control everything, but please stop this discussion. There are people trying to be heard who don't deserve to be run over because everyone wants to get the last word in.
Webmonkey, no one is saying you don't deserve to be heard- you do! But the people who are trying to help you don't deserved to be ignored or dismissed either. And please don't turn this into some sort of point system- you don't get to be rude just because you think someone else was rude to you. That's not the most mature way of handling things, and though I know you're going through a difficult time, other users shouldn't be put down either.

So please please please let's all move on, alright?

My cousin is driving me crazy. He first hit me in the kidney and didnt apologize. He then claims and stresses me out by saying im a unfair person when he is the one lying. Then he constantly keeps hurting me and hitting me and his mom, my aunt, says "Why are you so mean." to me instead of him. I tried telling the rest of my family but they just keep shouting at me and leaving me behind. My mom, on the other hand, shouted and almost beat me up because of me being 'rude' and 'stupid' towards him.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're being treated this way! It's absolutely not okay for him to be treating you this way. I know that in the heat of an argument or within other situations things can get really tense. Perhaps you can try speaking to a trusted family member one-on-one in a calm environment, away from everyone else? Just broach the subject of how he's bothering you, but keep it calm and non-accusatory- for example, don't say it's all his fault and everyone else's fault for not listening to you, just try and point out what happened without it becoming a blame-game or too emotional. People respond well to simple logic better than emotional backlash after all.
Best of luck!

[Thalassic]

Oh boy, don't I love being misgendered. Feels good, man, feels good.
It's bad enough I've gained weight and feel gross and have all these curves in all the wrong places hahaaa


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my last exams are on wednesday and I still have so much to dooo
and I'm starting to hate one of my ideas for one of my assignment, but if I start it over, I have to redo another assignment and its just so much work.. I'm super scared of not doing well. It's not just about passing, the several top students get money from the university all next sememster, and last year it was the only income I ever had, aside from the rare art commission. And I'm scared I won't do well enough to get the money. So scared. I don;t know what I'll do without it. So far my average is 9/10, but last semester the people I competed with had like, averages of 9.2 and 9.4 so I don't even know if there's hope for me..