TheComfortCorner | v.6

[Unleashed Squiid]

How do I slowly break apart from my best friend of five years? She is getting into bad decisions and treating my other friends like garbage but I just can't let go because it would break both of our hearts. I know I need to but how can I do it as painlessly as possible?

[zoloft]

theres this kid.. really pokes at my low self esteem. first time i met him, he told me 'my teeth bother him' and made me open my mouth and show all of the other kids. he's called me ugly multiple times. he does things and i just let him, like he tore my art and he drew on my jeans in pen.. he made me eat a crest white strip for no reason, demanded i make him typography, took random pics of me and posted them on snapchat.. i had mentioned my brother was trans and he was really weird about it, then later when i did something 'wrong' he said 'careful or you'll end up like your brother'. i complimented my friend and he called me lesbian. he takes my stuff without asking and draws on my things.. the list goes on... idk what to do bc im very very passive and wont speak up.. hes so judgemental and makes me feel small.

[.zombie]

theres this kid.. really pokes at my low self esteem. first time i met him, he told me 'my teeth bother him' and made me open my mouth and show all of the other kids. he's called me ugly multiple times. he does things and i just let him, like he tore my art and he drew on my jeans in pen.. he made me eat a crest white strip for no reason, demanded i make him typography, took random pics of me and posted them on snapchat.. i had mentioned my brother was trans and he was really weird about it, then later when i did something 'wrong' he said 'careful or you'll end up like your brother'. i complimented my friend and he called me lesbian. he takes my stuff without asking and draws on my things.. the list goes on... idk what to do bc im very very passive and wont speak up.. hes so judgemental and makes me feel small.

I'd say you have a few options-
a] move out of the class. this will make sure that you stay as far away from him as possible, minimizing the bullying.
b] ignore him completely. if he is bothering you or touching any of your stuff, move it away from him without saying a word. the bully loves a reaction. giving no reaction gives them no satisfaction.
c] stand up for yourself. if he bothers you once more, use body language to stop him. clenching your fists [at your sides of course, dont try to start a fight lmao] or standing firm will make sure he knows you mean business. then just tell him to "stop". dont say anything cliche like "oh you make me feel terrible about myself and its not funny", cause like i said before, that will make him want to harass you more, since he knows you are distraught by it.

[zoloft]

theres this kid.. really pokes at my low self esteem. first time i met him, he told me 'my teeth bother him' and made me open my mouth and show all of the other kids. he's called me ugly multiple times. he does things and i just let him, like he tore my art and he drew on my jeans in pen.. he made me eat a crest white strip for no reason, demanded i make him typography, took random pics of me and posted them on snapchat.. i had mentioned my brother was trans and he was really weird about it, then later when i did something 'wrong' he said 'careful or you'll end up like your brother'. i complimented my friend and he called me lesbian. he takes my stuff without asking and draws on my things.. the list goes on... idk what to do bc im very very passive and wont speak up.. hes so judgemental and makes me feel small.

I'd say you have a few options-
a] move out of the class. this will make sure that you stay as far away from him as possible, minimizing the bullying.
b] ignore him completely. if he is bothering you or touching any of your stuff, move it away from him without saying a word. the bully loves a reaction. giving no reaction gives them no satisfaction.
c] stand up for yourself. if he bothers you once more, use body language to stop him. clenching your fists [at your sides of course, dont try to start a fight lmao] or standing firm will make sure he knows you mean business. then just tell him to "stop". dont say anything cliche like "oh you make me feel terrible about myself and its not funny", cause like i said before, that will make him want to harass you more, since he knows you are distraught by it.

thank you so much for your advice!!! the only thing is,, i dont think hes a bully? i just think hes a really judgemental and grabby person and thinks the world revolves around him. so to me, standing up or anything like that would be useless.

[Greenleaf]

I'm just feeling really tired nowadays. There is only one week left of this semester before exams start, but by goodness the idea of one more week of science just kills me. I know that by the end of the month I'll be finished with French ALP science for good and will only have to deal with an English biology class next year, but in the meantime I'm just praying I don't fail, though it seems at this point that the idea of a mark over 70 by the end of this course is laughable.

theres this kid.. really pokes at my low self esteem. first time i met him, he told me 'my teeth bother him' and made me open my mouth and show all of the other kids. he's called me ugly multiple times. he does things and i just let him, like he tore my art and he drew on my jeans in pen.. he made me eat a crest white strip for no reason, demanded i make him typography, took random pics of me and posted them on snapchat.. i had mentioned my brother was trans and he was really weird about it, then later when i did something 'wrong' he said 'careful or you'll end up like your brother'. i complimented my friend and he called me lesbian. he takes my stuff without asking and draws on my things.. the list goes on... idk what to do bc im very very passive and wont speak up.. hes so judgemental and makes me feel small.

I'd say you have a few options-
a] move out of the class. this will make sure that you stay as far away from him as possible, minimizing the bullying.
b] ignore him completely. if he is bothering you or touching any of your stuff, move it away from him without saying a word. the bully loves a reaction. giving no reaction gives them no satisfaction.
c] stand up for yourself. if he bothers you once more, use body language to stop him. clenching your fists [at your sides of course, dont try to start a fight lmao] or standing firm will make sure he knows you mean business. then just tell him to "stop". dont say anything cliche like "oh you make me feel terrible about myself and its not funny", cause like i said before, that will make him want to harass you more, since he knows you are distraught by it.

thank you so much for your advice!!! the only thing is,, i dont think hes a bully? i just think hes a really judgemental and grabby person and thinks the world revolves around him. so to me, standing up or anything like that would be useless.

To me he does sound absolutely like a bully, especially an emotionally abusive one. I had to deal with a person like that for some time, and if I learned anything from those years, I'll have to say that getting yourself rid of him as soon as possible using any one of z.ombie's excellent suggestions could be one of the best things you do. Also, I'm pretty sure that taking pictures of minors and posting them on the Internet without said minor's & minor's parents' permission is against the law in many places, or at the very least a form of cyberbullying. The other stuff you've mentioned also definitely sounds like bullying to me (calling someone ugly repeatedly = verbal abuse etc.) If you trust your school's authorities, you can possibly try reporting him using any of the above proof. I'm really sorry that all this is happening to you.

[leverage]

I know I'm just being over dramatic or whatever, but I dont want to go back to the way things were. I'm happy now, I don't want to leave it.
And I guess I'm just really upset about nothing in particular.
And I guess I'm also upset because last time I left home, my dog passed away and I couldn't be there for her, and my anxiety and paranoia won't leave me alone. All I can think is what if? What if I lose someone else?
And then I feel horrible because I used to be really close to my grandmother who I now hardly talk to and it's all my fault. She is just the most difficult person to talk with and I feel uncomfortable around her sometimes because she's really judgemental and I'm just trying to find myself. And yet...I don't want to drift apart from her. She's not in great health. I don't want to lose her wishing we were closer.
And I feel horrible because all I do is take and be selfish and no matter how hard I try I know I'll never be enough.

I guess I'm just a mess right now. I've been a mess all day and I suppose it's just coming out now.

[.zombie]

could someone who went through school stress/problems or is considered a "good student" pm me please? i feel like crap
right now, i need advice ;-;

[♥kittyfaith2210♥]

I'm slowly giving up. The constant body shaming towards me is tiring. It doesn't help everyone at school always says eww when I walk by or a family member calling me a fat pig

[EmilineRose]

I feel so alone.

[nana]

I really need a pm.