Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[provolone]

I need help, but it's not urgent, just peoples' opinions.
I've been with my BF for 6 months. Not exactly 6 months, as it's a really complicated story & neither of us remember the date. But anyhow... I love him a lot.
We have a 'slow' relationship. We're in school still, to give it some perspective. We've hugged a lot & held hands, but never kissed or anything. Personally, I like slow, steady relationships, simply 'cos that's how I roll.
Here's where the problems start:
All my friends are constantly trying to pressure us into kissing, hugging excessively, etc.
It's a pain up the behind. I can't hang out with him in a group of friends without at least one "Why haven't you two kissed yet?" comment.
It actually really insults me, as my friends pressure me about my slow relationship, but none of them have ever had BFs.
Does anyone have anything I can say to get them to leave us alone?? D:

This happened with my last relationship. I loved my slow relationship too! Tell your friends that that's how you guys like it and you would appreciate if they would stop. If they haven't ever had a boyfriend they shouldn't be giving you advice on this. They have no experience!

[thunderofthedrum]

If the idea of moving faster makes you feel uncomfortable, whether it's because you're not ready, you're happy as things are, you feel it would be foolish or ruin things, or because it's for the wrong reason (peer pressure), then don't do it. It's YOUR relationship, not theirs. Friends in grade school are tricky, there's a lot of finding who you are and trying to find where you fit in. Also, relationships are a new experience so your friends are determined to know exactly what your status is with a boy, how 'far' you've gone, what he's like, etc. They want to know what you are up to, they want to be able to compare it to their own experiences, they want to hear what it's like to have a boy like you, they may just love some good drama and gossip, they may want to live through you.

My relationship seems casual because we never go out on dates but we kissed on the first date and we are very comfortable with each other. In my case, we slipped right into being together casually and hanging out, watching movies, going to the park, etc. There is still a lot we will discover together and more things to learn about each other, but we're steady and care about each other. And hey, looks like I'll be the first of my friends to live with a boyfriend, because I'll be staying with him for much of the summer to be closer to my summer class. He's working on clearing out some shelves and drawers for me as his friend finally moves out (my bunny needs the door of the second bedroom between her and the other pets).

My friends are great girls and have never put much pressure on me, but they still love hearing about my relationship with my boyfriend and even living through me as my closest friends all are currently single. They like feeling special and getting the 'latest scoop' on how things are going with him preparing himself for his friend to move out and me to move in, if my mom still dislikes him as much, nice things he does for me, whatever. Of course, I have to be fair and not tell them things that are too private that my boyfriend obviously didn't want repeated, but it's nice to keep my friends in the loop; I know I can trust them.

[vanilla kitten]

OKAY, so this is my second time posting here and you guys kinda helped last time. I could really use some help. I have had a major crush on this guy {Lets call him Muffin (my nickname for him)} for a long time, since the beginning of 8th grade - and I'm now going into 11th. I've told him my feelings for him before but not quite the extent of them. He knows how long I've liked him as well and we have been really great friends since we first met. We pretty much tell eachother anything and everything. When I first met him he was an extreamly strict person on his moral views about girls and was overly polite and conservative. However over the last year and a half he was started dropping some of those barriers and began to flirt around and be sugestive. I have always been really flirty with him and quite open about how I feel with him, though most the time we both play if off as me just being a flirty person in general. Well since school let out we have been playing Truth or Dare with a group of our friens. During this I've had to kiss his cheek, get a starburst from between his teeth without my hands, and a few other things that I won't mention here to save time. Muffin has a girlfriend, and though she approved of all these activites she seems to really be getting mad at me for the attention I have been getting from him. I don't know if this is because of him letting go of some of his restraints or if he is actually starting to feel something for me.

Normally I wouldn't be so confused about this but at a party we had the other night I was getting ready to leave and we had just finished playing a game. Well as I was giving everyone bye hugs I noticed he was too busy picking up to give me a hug so I got permission from his girlfriend to slap him on the butt to get his attention and did so. When I did he turned around really quick and gave me a big bear hug and kissed me on the cheek right in front of his GF, which is something he would never do outside of a dare and even then he would get permission from her.... I don't know what to think or if I'm just over reacting.... can someone please help me?

the first thing i would do, personally, is wait it out before getting my hopes up. you guys have
obviously been friends for a long time, so maybe he is starting to feel things for you. but then
again, he might just be more comfortable with you in a "friendly" way. however, i wouldn't let
my bestfriend (who's a guy. i'm a girl) take a starburst from between my teeth, etc., but
we're two different people. i wouldn't jump into anything, i would probably just let things go with
the flow. it's the best route, instead of getting your hopes high and then having them crash to
the ground when something goes bad.

maybe you could talk to him about it? i dont know if this helped. but personally, looking at the
situation, i think he probably does like you xx

[Call Me Hero]

thanks shortiee! its not normally something we would do either but it was the end of the school year and thre was nothing to loose. waiing is probably what I'll do, I really don't want to make things akward for us.

[provolone]

Okay guys, here's a quick update.
I have been single for exactly 7 weeks now. And I still had all the cute notes and presents Dylan had given me. Last night I tore them up. And it felt great! I told everybody I was over him, when truthfully I wasn't. I kept ahold of those notes for no reason. And then I just randomly got all them and tore them up! I have no idea why, but I really believe I let him go now. The memories will never go away, but I don't care for him anymore. I'll never see him again! I felt like I just turned the page and started a new chapter. I can't begin to explain how free I feel! It's amazing!!!!:D

[Scarlett Redd]

Okay guys, here's a quick update.
I have been single for exactly 7 weeks now. And I still had all the cute notes and presents Dylan had given me. Last night I tore them up. And it felt great! I told everybody I was over him, when truthfully I wasn't. I kept ahold of those notes for no reason. And then I just randomly got all them and tore them up! I have no idea why, but I really believe I let him go now. The memories will never go away, but I don't care for him anymore. I'll never see him again! I felt like I just turned the page and started a new chapter. I can't begin to explain how free I feel! It's amazing!!!!:D

This is what I did to everything from me ex's, and it's the biggest step away you can take, so congrats!
The only thing I haven't got rid of is my diaries, as they were expensive.

[delete,]

I really like this guy. I went to Doe River with him. But I can't even remember his name! What do I do? I can tell he likes me, but he's like, two years older than me.

[meerkatgirl]

I got to hang out with my boyfriend today ^^

His name is Dillon, and he is pretty fantastic. We went to the center of town and just sat around on a bench with three other friends, then two of them left so it was the three of us. I felt really bad for the other guy, because on one hand I wanted to hang out with him, but on the other making out with my boyfriend is also lovely... So we all hung out for a bit, and then the friend went for a little 'walk' and listened to his music for a few minutes so Dillon and I could spend time sort of alone, even though we were in public.

I'm really happy at the moment, I don't know. This is my first actual relationship and I've already posted about it, but I'm kind of excited. We haven't even gone on a real date, but we're planning to go see The Hangover 3 soon.

[bola11]

my crush gave me his phone number uvu

[kimmy1479]

So Parra started coming to Youth Group, which is great because I missed him.
What isn't great is that I'm not there now, and it's for a really stupid reason. T_T So I'll wait until next week to see him again.

Here's the thing though- I'm pretty sure he likes my friend, who I'll call Ciel.
You see, before he took his hiatus from Youth Group, he and I were getting along really well. I couldn't tell if he liked me, but we laughed, and talked, and sometimes he'd even give me 'rides' and just pick me up and carry me.

Well it hasn't been long since he's been back, but he seems a lot less interested in me- as a person. I mean he seemed to not talk to me. Whenever he said anything, (unless I directly made a comment or asked a question to him) it was always to either someone else, or just to the group.
We didn't joke much- and there has definitely been no rides.

But he did give both me, and Ciel his number.
Ciel wasn't here when Parra used to come, and I didn't have a phone.
But that night he texted me, and asked me to text Ciel, to ask her to text him. (Because he gave her his number, but didn't get hers)
And he really seemed to like her. Some texts about her from him-
"Tell your nice friend who likes Ichigo to text me. Please? XD"
"Get Ciel to text me. I really like this girl. :3"
"DX she seems so awesome. Just like you. X3"

That last one is a compliment for me too, but I feel like it was added as a sort of afterthought.
I want to be mad and upset, but he's so frickin' open and sincere that I can't be.

The thing is, he's usually really hard to read, because... he's sort of like a sincere flirt. He compliments everyone, so I've known a few girls who started to like them because they felt flattered. But the thing is he's nice to girls not because he's a flirt and wants them to date him, but because he's very sensitive to other people's self esteem.
Like you honestly cannot insult yourself, even jokingly, while he's around. Because he'll immediately reassure you that your smart and funny and beautiful and fun.
I know he had been bullied, and had his own self esteem issues, so he tries his hardest to raise other's self esteem.

So basically he is just insanely nice to everyone.
But I am pretty sure he likes Ciel.

I'm sort of torn because I like Parra a lot, but Ciel is my friend and I honestly think the two of them could make a great couple.