Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[delete__me]

okay, I guess I have a problem.
First of all I've never been in love or at least I think so. I can get very attached to people but I've never felt the urge to kiss them/be in a relationship with them and I simply don't know what it feels like to be in love with someone even though my friends tried to describe this feeling. (I know that sounds kinda stupid but I just can't imagine what it feels like). Some people tell me that I'm cold and distant but I don't know if that's true.
I'm friends with that new guy in my class for 3 or 4 months now and he's a real sweetheart. My friends are telling me that he seems to be interested in me and people asked us a thousand times if we're in a relationship. We just tell them to mind their own business since it's a very bad feeling to hear your friend say things like "omg never/are you kidding me?/with him/her?!" and so on. In school we hang out together or at least he used to come to me pretty often, now that has changed somehow and we only talk before class, very seldom in a break (I don't know how it is in other countries but we have a break of 5-15 minutes between every lesson) or when we can go home. I've to admit that we're doing our homework in the morning and I'm always sitting on his chair because a friend of mine sits right next to him and we're always doing our homework together. He used to hug me from behind, ruffle my hair and sit on the table/wait behind me when I'm not done with homework even when I was sitting on a chair of another classmate. Now that's different too, he still comes up to me and put his hands on my shoulders but that's it. I honestly don't care much about that since I'm trying to do my homework there but it's kind of strange...However, sometimes he just pulls me into a hug for a few minutes after a lesson and leaves afterwards. A few weeks ago I was waiting for the bus and he just waited over an hour with me even though he had the opportunity to take his bus around three times. We know a lot about each other, he told me that he only had two relationships that lasted longer than half a year and so many other relationships that only lasted some weeks to three months that he can't remember how many girlfriends he actually had. That's kind of disturbing and he said that he didn't like big age gaps (he said he had never wanted to be in a relationship with a 14 years old when he was 16) and if he's really interested in me what other people keep telling me I don't know if it's much of a problem for him that I'm 16 (I'm turning 17 soon) while he's 18. We were on a party some weeks ago and almost everyone (including me) thought that he was going to kiss me since he got so close to my face that I started to feel uncomfortable and he clearly wasn't drunk at that time. Back to the main problem: he changed somehow, I know that three/four months aren't a long time but I'm not sure if it's possible to act like that for so long if you don't even like the other person. He used to gave me nicknames and all that and he's still very sweet to me when we're texting but almost everything what he did in the last months stopped or is going to stop soon. I asked him if everything's all right and he told me that everything is okay. I don't know if I should really believe that or if I'm just imagining the whole changing thing. I got the feeling that it has to do with the whole being-in-love thing even though he told me that he really don't mind what other people are thinking, maybe he's embarrassed or whatever. He doesn't have a girlfriend though and I don't think that I'm pretty, I don't think that it would work out well if we really had a crush on each other because I've never had a boyfriend before, I'd live in fear that I'd be another "up to three months"-thing and I'm pretty sure that my parents would kill me.

I'm so sorry for that long text x.x
I'm confused, I don't know what to do or to feel and I don't know if he's interested in me or not. I don't know why he has changed and I don't know what to do with that girl in my class. She has a big crush on him, is very annoying and mean and he told me that he doesn't even like her but she doesn't give up and is teasing me. I don't want to bore him but I'm very shy and sometimes it's really hard to find a good topic we can talk about.
I could need some help...

Banshee

[Mystial Entity]

I have a problem I don't know how to deal with....[here's the story]

So on Friday last week there was a school dance and one of my guy friends(j) asked me if was going and I said Idk ..and j said if you go ill go so I said okay and j gave me his number just to make sure that if I couldn't go I could call him anyway I was texting him and we were just chatting and he gave me a Nick name then at the dance j danced for a while and kept leaving and because I didn't feel good ..(i didn't tell him that) I wasn't dancing and at one time j went by the stands with his hands on his face like what am I doing sort of look and then he found out I didn't feel good and I told him my legs felt with wobbly like hello and then he picked me up and carried me ...

And today we haven't talked at all and there was a play going on at the school and I went and he was there I also forgot to mention that j and this other girl like each other so it's awkward for me... any way I was giving huggs to my friends I waited for him to hug me be cause he always hugs me and then I saw him run into the cafeteria where it was pich black and no one was there he looked like he was crying but I don't know why but I think it's me and he doesn't know what to do about the awkward Ness so what should I do ?? I need help!!

Well, I would imagine the crying might not have anything to do with you fuzzyanni.

[Mystial Entity]

okay, I guess I have a problem.
First of all I've never been in love or at least I think so. I can get very attached to people but I've never felt the urge to kiss them/be in a relationship with them and I simply don't know what it feels like to be in love with someone even though my friends tried to describe this feeling. (I know that sounds kinda stupid but I just can't imagine what it feels like). Some people tell me that I'm cold and distant but I don't know if that's true.
I'm friends with that new guy in my class for 3 or 4 months now and he's a real sweetheart. My friends are telling me that he seems to be interested in me and people asked us a thousand times if we're in a relationship. We just tell them to mind their own business since it's a very bad feeling to hear your friend say things like "omg never/are you kidding me?/with him/her?!" and so on. In school we hang out together or at least he used to come to me pretty often, now that has changed somehow and we only talk before class, very seldom in a break (I don't know how it is in other countries but we have a break of 5-15 minutes between every lesson) or when we can go home. I've to admit that we're doing our homework in the morning and I'm always sitting on his chair because a friend of mine sits right next to him and we're always doing our homework together. He used to hug me from behind, ruffle my hair and sit on the table/wait behind me when I'm not done with homework even when I was sitting on a chair of another classmate. Now that's different too, he still comes up to me and put his hands on my shoulders but that's it. I honestly don't care much about that since I'm trying to do my homework there but it's kind of strange...However, sometimes he just pulls me into a hug for a few minutes after a lesson and leaves afterwards. A few weeks ago I was waiting for the bus and he just waited over an hour with me even though he had the opportunity to take his bus around three times. We know a lot about each other, he told me that he only had two relationships that lasted longer than half a year and so many other relationships that only lasted some weeks to three months that he can't remember how many girlfriends he actually had. That's kind of disturbing and he said that he didn't like big age gaps (he said he had never wanted to be in a relationship with a 14 years old when he was 16) and if he's really interested in me what other people keep telling me I don't know if it's much of a problem for him that I'm 16 (I'm turning 17 soon) while he's 18. We were on a party some weeks ago and almost everyone (including me) thought that he was going to kiss me since he got so close to my face that I started to feel uncomfortable and he clearly wasn't drunk at that time. Back to the main problem: he changed somehow, I know that three/four months aren't a long time but I'm not sure if it's possible to act like that for so long if you don't even like the other person. He used to gave me nicknames and all that and he's still very sweet to me when we're texting but almost everything what he did in the last months stopped or is going to stop soon. I asked him if everything's all right and he told me that everything is okay. I don't know if I should really believe that or if I'm just imagining the whole changing thing. I got the feeling that it has to do with the whole being-in-love thing even though he told me that he really don't mind what other people are thinking, maybe he's embarrassed or whatever. He doesn't have a girlfriend though and I don't think that I'm pretty, I don't think that it would work out well if we really had a crush on each other because I've never had a boyfriend before, I'd live in fear that I'd be another "up to three months"-thing and I'm pretty sure that my parents would kill me.

I'm so sorry for that long text x.x
I'm confused, I don't know what to do or to feel and I don't know if he's interested in me or not. I don't know why he has changed and I don't know what to do with that girl in my class. She has a big crush on him, is very annoying and mean and he told me that he doesn't even like her but she doesn't give up and is teasing me. I don't want to bore him but I'm very shy and sometimes it's really hard to find a good topic we can talk about.
I could need some help...

Banshee

Hey Banshee,

Relationships don't have to happen overnight. I think he does like you. Why not enjoy a friendship for now (it doesn't mean you are friend-zoned!) don't worry about having a boyfriend/girlfriend label and just see where it goes. Enjoy the unfolding as it happens at its own pace, and don't worry about what other people say, what your parents think, or what it "should be".

[Mystial Entity]

I'm a new student at my school and I've had people come up and talk to me, but now I've fit back in and strangers don't usually come to me anymore. Today, at lunch, a guy in my lunch period decided to sit next to me. The guys around him were not his friends and I took more interest in their antics than he did. Well, about halfway through lunch, he turns and starts trying to start a conversation. These were general questions that I always find hard to answer. My favourite animal (I don't wanna be known as the odd fish girl, so I told him it was a cat), favourite band, and favourite colour. I told him that I didn't have one, and he tried to push blue-green as my favourite colour. About that time I realized his eyes were blue-green. It has to be a coincidence, right? He kept talking until the bell rang and found me in the hall on the way to fifth period. I didn't really seem too friendly to him the entire time and I found our conversation awkward, yet he still caught up with me? Could he possibly like me? Most people aren't like this around me, especially since I've finally gotten used to everything and have a group of friends that I talk to during lunch. What do you think?

It's possible he likes you. You could make a potential friendship out of this. (If you are thinking more than friends, that can be something to grow over time.) But a word of advice: Be honest if you want someone to be your fiend. Don't pretend to like/dislike things to fit in. I know that may seem difficult with highschool being the popularity contest as it is, but if you stay true to yourself, you may find some long-lasting friendships.

When you're new people will be curious and want to approach them. But if constantly you sit back and wait for people to come, they may assume you want to be alone.

[vulture,]

Eeep~
My crush asked me out today.
Sort of.
He texts me everyday after school to see how my day was and whatnot. We always get off task about random little things and tend to have playful little arguments. Today, just a few moments ago, he texted me and elaborately asked if I wanted to be more than friends. I told him that of course I did, but only if he were to ask me in person because I wasn't going to let him pull that crap. He's not a shy person, so I wasn't worried about pushing him out of his comfort zone or anything. To that he responded that that's what he would do before giving me some sass.
I'm so excited, but also very entertained that for once I am the one giving him the hard time about something. So, tonight is my last night of being single (at least for some time) and tomorrow shall be an interesting day.

I texted my best friends the screencap and all of them flipped out, it was quite funny.

[Taylor-Rae]

Ok, sp I'm dating someone right now and I really like this person but ive become to like another. So let me start at the beginning of the day;
My friend J and I have been friends since school started, hes been being my history partner since second term and he knows I have a boyfriend. ButI told my friend P this and so P wants to find out if J likes me. So he asked him and J said maybe, and J's twin brother said that I was cute. J and I have been texting a lot but today it was weird. I think J knows that P told me and so he wasn't my partner today in history but he talked to me at the end of the hour. But J hasn't texted me today. I know I shouldn't want him to text me but I do.
Help??? Please PM me!

[Pyrrha Nikos]

Eeep~
My crush asked me out today.
Sort of.
He texts me everyday after school to see how my day was and whatnot. We always get off task about random little things and tend to have playful little arguments. Today, just a few moments ago, he texted me and elaborately asked if I wanted to be more than friends. I told him that of course I did, but only if he were to ask me in person because I wasn't going to let him pull that crap. He's not a shy person, so I wasn't worried about pushing him out of his comfort zone or anything. To that he responded that that's what he would do before giving me some sass.
I'm so excited, but also very entertained that for once I am the one giving him the hard time about something. So, tonight is my last night of being single (at least for some time) and tomorrow shall be an interesting day.

I texted my best friends the screencap and all of them flipped out, it was quite funny.

Eeeek! I'm so very happy for you! I wish you the best of luck tomorrow :3

[compass;]

Ahhh, I hate and love my friends interfering with my love life!
I've just had the best day ever. So, there's a guy I liked (lets say he's R) and my friends got really involved with it and he ended up coming over to me. I said hi, he smiled and said hi back then we just kind of awkwardly looked around. Then R started grinning and his friend said that he was 100% single and that got me really excited but you see ...
In our school there are popular people, mildly popular and total losers. I'd be in the mildly popular and there's two girls who are popular and they hang around R a lot. It's really bugging me because they know I like him and I think they want to throw him off because they hate me. Standing up to them would cost me embarrassment so don't suggest that please.
Another question too, what're the chances he likes me back? At the end of he day he turned around, saw me and smiled, obviously I smiled back then he turned away.
Thanks for any help. ^-^

[Mystial Entity]

Ahhh, I hate and love my friends interfering with my love life!
I've just had the best day ever. So, there's a guy I liked (lets say he's R) and my friends got really involved with it and he ended up coming over to me. I said hi, he smiled and said hi back then we just kind of awkwardly looked around. Then R started grinning and his friend said that he was 100% single and that got me really excited but you see ...
In our school there are popular people, mildly popular and total losers. I'd be in the mildly popular and there's two girls who are popular and they hang around R a lot. It's really bugging me because they know I like him and I think they want to throw him off because they hate me. Standing up to them would cost me embarrassment so don't suggest that please.
Another question too, what're the chances he likes me back? At the end of he day he turned around, saw me and smiled, obviously I smiled back then he turned away.
Thanks for any help. ^-^

Hold your head up high (not to show off! just be naturally confident!) and let things be.

If he smiled at you, it means he might possibly like you. Any chance you can talk to him? Just say "hi"?

[ProudHufflepuff]

He was coming....he was gonna be here now....but roads were closing cause of snow....he talked to a cop...they told him to not even try to get here....he had been driving all day too...I feel bad...he was coming all the way up just to see me for a couple hours...no he has to turn around and go back...I have been all excited since friday....when we decided he would come now...I had been freaking out all day and made sure I'd be able to stay home alone today....we found out late last night...now instead of being with him I'm gonna be lonely like normal and disappointed...and just ugh...I can't stop crying....I haven't seen him since August and I miss him so much....nothing ever works out when we try to plan these things and Idk....idk what to do anymore...
He was supposed to be here right now
I just...I want him here...