TheComfortCorner | V.7

[Spearow]

i love when people treat me like trash

[pebblick]

i love when people treat me like trash

You are not trash, you are an amazing artist I saw your art, you are creative, you are unique, you are amazing, you are you

And these are all facts. If you need anything, I'm open for pms

[pereyra]

i'm pretty sure my girlfriend is only staying with me out of pity or because of how the relationship is benefiting her.
i love her and i don't think she loves me.
she barely even talks to me anymore.

[Musicality]

So... I don't know if this is allowed but like my good friend and exBFF's mom just passed from cancer. The last time I talked to le madre was her saying how she wished I would come over more and how she missed seeing me. It's eating me alive that I haven't seen her since that and idk what to do.

[Sunflower Skies]

I have some things and some are decently horrible and some things are silly to some people

So I was just checking my old posts for the first time in weeks when I see something for Sin's giveaway pop up. I had won my ultimate dream pet, and hadn't picked it up in time to actually get it. WHY

So that's the more silly thing..

The more serious thing is that my Dad has stage 4 colon cancer, and it's been really hard to deal with lately. His hair has started to fall out from the chemo, and he tries to hide it from me and my 8 year old brother so that we don't get upset. He wears a hat all the time. I only know because when I came home one day he forgot that he didn't have a hat on and his entire top of his head was bald. It was bald. I felt horrible afterwords and pretended like I didn't see it so that he didn't get upset. A few days later I was talking with my mom and she mentioned that Dad was scared because he thought that I had seen him. He was upset because he thought I wouldn't like him without hair. This has just made me very sad for the last few weeks and I don't know who to talk to, because a lot of my friends aren't the most supportive or social, and they all have their own problems.
There is one guy who I think I might like a bit. I told him about my dad and he talked with me for a bit, that kind of made my day, but I also realized that I hate telling people, because I'm afraid they might treat me differently. What did help is that his uncle just died (which isn't a good thing, by the way) so he felt like he could relate to me, and it wasn't really pity as much of mutual understanding.
At this point I'm ranting and I don't even know what to say anymore. Thanks for your time.

[jellybutter]

I have some things and some are decently horrible and some things are silly to some people

So I was just checking my old posts for the first time in weeks when I see something for Sin's giveaway pop up. I had won my ultimate dream pet, and hadn't picked it up in time to actually get it. WHY

So that's the more silly thing..

The more serious thing is that my Dad has stage 4 colon cancer, and it's been really hard to deal with lately. His hair has started to fall out from the chemo, and he tries to hide it from me and my 8 year old brother so that we don't get upset. He wears a hat all the time. I only know because when I came home one day he forgot that he didn't have a hat on and his entire top of his head was bald. It was bald. I felt horrible afterwords and pretended like I didn't see it so that he didn't get upset. A few days later I was talking with my mom and she mentioned that Dad was scared because he thought that I had seen him. He was upset because he thought I wouldn't like him without hair. This has just made me very sad for the last few weeks and I don't know who to talk to, because a lot of my friends aren't the most supportive or social, and they all have their own problems.
There is one guy who I think I might like a bit. I told him about my dad and he talked with me for a bit, that kind of made my day, but I also realized that I hate telling people, because I'm afraid they might treat me differently. What did help is that his uncle just died (which isn't a good thing, by the way) so he felt like he could relate to me, and it wasn't really pity as much of mutual understanding.
At this point I'm ranting and I don't even know what to say anymore. Thanks for your time.



i know i might not be able to relate- well, i definitely can't. i've never had anyone super close to me go near death or be dead, so i can't empathize, but i'd like to help. if it might help, sit down with you're dad, and point out, "i still love you, hair or no hair. i can see why you would want to hide it, but you don't have to because i don't care what you look like as long as you're my dad." having a talk with parents is always a way to let them know that
1. you care
2. you are doing this on you're own terms and not just being forced to do it by a family member
3. that this is a serious matter.
and at least you found somebody who can empathize with you. having someone who will listen no matter what is always nice :)



i'm pretty sure my girlfriend is only staying with me out of pity or because of how the relationship is benefiting her.
i love her and i don't think she loves me.
she barely even talks to me anymore.



im sorry that that's happening. ive never been there myself, but it sounds pretty harsh when someone you care about so deeply hasnt felt the same way in ages. but sometimes, that's how it is, i hate to say it. life pretty much sucks a lot, and at this point we can only expect these turns to happen. and maybe a bit after the relationship, you find yourself so much more free and feeling better.

[the folly of man]

okay I know just posted here earlier but I really really need someone to talk to just randomly
like not even about my current predicament I just really really need to talk
I feel really lonely because my internet friends are probably all sleeping and even if they aren't then they sure aren't online
and I'm really scared because my dogs are barking and I don't know at what and it's really scary cause it's currently 12 AM
somebody please just talk to me
I might not reply but it would still help me so much because I am actually on the brink of tears right now

[fika.]

Why won’t the breeder respond?? She has puppies. Says they’re available. Promises to send pictures- never does. It’s not like it’s a bad breeder - very reputable actually. She just doesn’t respond?? It’s driving me absolutely crazy. I’m alre so obsessive of this, it’s just getting worse.,,

i am so sorry they aren't replying! have you tried calling them and asking why they aren't responding?? it sucks that some people can be so irresponsible and letting you down; it always happens to me. i hope you get the puppies!<3

Hey....
I need help.

Lately ever since my parents died, I tried keeping a barrier between me and reality, because I knew people would never except me.

SO I did. and now... My BF and my friends are trying to help me. mostly my BF.
He would tell me that he loves me and say I don't deserve it and also say he doesn't want me to die and wants me to live a happy life, he says I am talented.

My friends would say I am nice, kind, talented, amazing, ETC....

But, I have no self confidence. The only self confidence I have is nothing. I don't like my own art, and sometimes I'd spit out compliments that I don't mean, and when i do mean the compliments, it never comes out right. It has gotten to the point that the love I feel for the people in my family and stuff, that... I cant even speak without thinking I will be something wrong.

I tell myself "you dont care what they think" but I want to... But... I don't know what I want. I don't know what I need. I don't know, this barrier in me is saying I don't know anything, but do I?

I seem so dumb, I never pay attention when I think I am, I go nonstop. I need help...

How do I stop bad habits?

How do I figure out who I am?

How do I become self confident?

Who am I? ....

I am so scared...
please help.

i am so so sorry to hear what you are going through. it is so terrible losing someone in your family, especially your parents. please remember mourning takes time, and you can take as long as you need. something to keep in mind though is that your parents wouldn't want you to cut yourself off from people or things (not claiming you are, just a reminder) and that they want you to continue to live your life to the fullest that you can because you deserve it. it is so amazing that you have friends and a boyfriend there to support you through everything, you are super lucky to have them in your life, and vice versa!

how do I stop bad habits?
unfortunately, a habit is a habit for a reason. they're rubbish and make it feel like they are taking over your life, i understand. to help, pinpoint what the bad habits are and remind yourself they are what make you you. you wouldn't be you without those little quirky habits. as for stopping them, or preventing them from occurring frequently, whenever you see it happening try to divert your attention on to something else; it sounds a lot easier than it actually is i know but distractions are a great help (maybe watching videos, talking to someone, or going for a walk/jog or even having a shower). if they are mental habits, such as talking negatively about yourself, i advise to imagine your own body / mind being a friends, and remind yourself you wouldn't talk negatively of your friends so treat yourself like a friend. think of something you like about yourself, whether it is you are always there for someone or you love your freckles.

how do i figure out who i am & who am i?
life is life, and very little people know who they truly are. but that's okay! we as humans are constantly evolving into different people, so if we knew who we are, it would be a different us every day. you don't need to necessarily know how you are, except that you are your parents child and your boyfriends partner. you are the person anyone can come to, and you are your own person.
there is no rush or secret recipe to finding out your true self, but if you want to help ease your mind and maybe get that bit closer to being more secure and confident with yourself do meditation. it really helps calm the mind.

how do i become self confident?
unfortunately not many people are self confident, but that is also okay! we are surrounded by social media where we will always believe on person is better than us, or prettier/cuter, or nicer, or better. but the truth is, no one is better than anyone. i used to live in sweden, and my family and every other person living in sweden live by "lagom". there is no direct translation, but it means that there isn't too much or too little, but everything is just right. so, to help practice loving yourself you need to come to terms with the next person isn't necessarily better than you or worse than you, we are all human and we are all equal. another thing i advise is what i said earlier, i advise to imagine your own body / mind being a friends, and remind yourself you wouldn't talk negatively of your friends so treat yourself like a friend. think of something you like about yourself, whether it is you are always there for someone or you love your freckles.

i hope this is of some help to you. learning to love yourself and all your habits is a process, and though frustrating eventually you will get to the place where you're happy; and please remember your parents are always always looking down on you and wishing nothing but the best for you. good luck<3

I'm nice, I never say anything really, I've never said anything
rude to anybody, I've never gotten into a fight with siblings.

yet, everybody is so rude to me????


Whyyyyyy.

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My eyeballs are making these weird popping noises
when i blink?
everything looks very fuzzy
and i'm sorta dizzy.
its scaring me.

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My sister is being rude
My outlet on my side of the
room totally went out
and shes only using one
of her 2, So i asked
to use hers and she freaking
screamed at me. What did i ever
do to you? i've never ever
been rude, or mean to you?

i am so sorry your sister is treating you this way! unfortunately, people cannot always see what kind of things their actions can do to people. my best advice is to talk to her and ask why she reacted in that way, and remind her of all the things you have done for her (without shouting or arguing). it's hard, but hopefully things will work out! as for your eye, if the problem continues i advise calling the doctors and seeing them within the next few days. good luck!

my mom doesn't trust me at all. she never believes anything i say. she doesn't believe me when I came out as trans (she wants me diagnosed or something?)
she got mad at me for not making my bed, she told me to and I forgot. "Oh sure, you forgot, maybe you'll remember if I take away your phone next time" thanks mom, sorry I don't have the best memory on earth.
Shes "concerned about who im talking to" on the internet, when I really only Skype text my 1 internet friend of 4 years. I know my friend well, I don't text strangers.
And she has this stupid tone of voice, I hate it so much. She talks to me like when my brother gets in trouble. She also talks to me like i did something bad when she talks to me about me being trans. She thinks she's so superior to me, thinks she know so much and I know nothing, she's the best!!!! ive been growing farther from her the past year, and even farther since I came out as trans. I just really want to move away, get an apartment with my friend or something, put my family behind me and not look back. My mom is the most lgbt accepting of the family, and she didn't react well to me being trans, I can't imagine the great responses I'm gonna get from the other family members

i am so proud of you for coming out!! i can understand how challenging it may be, and i am so so sorry that she isn't as of accepting as we all hoped she would be! i can see why she may be resistant at first as it is hard to suddenly switch pronouns, names and getting used to the physical changes, however she is in the wrong for not being open with you and not being supportive. the best thing to do in situations of getting told off is not biting back, i always find i have a sharp tongue so i do bite back to my parents but i can say (as you may know) the outcome is terrible :c you're a much better person for remaining quiet.
for making your bed, i advise doing it as soon as you wake up. my favourite video is this video about making your bed first thing in the morning, i hope you can find some use and motivation from it like i did. good luck!<3

... i feel so overwhelmed and lost i
don't even know what to type here ...

sometimes , i wish someone could read
my mind , it'd be so much easier .

i'm sorry i don't know how to speak .

it is normal and okay to feel overwhelmed and lost. everyone feels it at some point, and even more than once.
it's okay you don't know how to put thoughts into words. if you really want to express yourself, but can't find the words to do it,
draw it. find a song you can relate to and belt the lyrics. get a paper and a crayon and scribble as hard as you can. life isn't easy,
and we can all let our little childish emotions come out sooner or later. ever wonder why children are so happy? it's because they do simple things in life, and they just bite things when they're angry. you can try doing that too (please nothing alive though of course ;p a pillow works great). good luck, i hope you feel better soon!<3

Who doesn't love going through depression, having 'friends' who don't even care about you or anything you have to say all while having your own parents tell you what failure u are and how perfect your sister is.
I just wanna give up

life can get kinda poo, can't it?? i understand how it feels, and when you feel so deep in a hole it does feel like friends don't care. but the thing is, your friends do. i know it doesn't feel like it but they may be doing small things to help you feel better. what makes it feel like they don't care? can you pinpoint it? maybe discuss with them how you feel, although i do realise how hard confrontation is. as for your parents and sister, i am sorry. i'm not positive of course, but i'm sure your sisters intentions aren't to hurt you. some people have a higher capability to certain things than others, maybe you speciality is baking or drawing or writing. explore yourself, explore what you are good at. arts and crafts? diy? your parents can't expect you to excel in everything,
so it's a bit unfair they compare like that. i'm really sorry you're treated this way, if you ever need a shoulder to cry on my inbox is open! good luck <3

my paranoia is so terrible
why am I assuming the worst?
my friend keeps vanishing and not allowing anyone to talk to them and it's worrying me so bad
I really hope they don't see this and feel guilty
I'm so dang nosy
I wont stop bugging my friends unless I know they're fine and they usually aren't
I keep trying to hard to keep them
I need to be willing to let go
but I can't
I want them to stay with me
I can't live without my friends
if they weren't here, I'd be bawling my eyes out more often than I already am
I really need to settle down
it gets to the point where I can actually feel my heart beating without even putting a hand on my chest
I wish I had someone to hold me

assuming the worst is completely normal, it's okay. and how you are feeling is also okay. from personal experience, when i'm not fine but my boyfriend keeps bugging me or pressuring me i end up feeling worse than originally. it isn't that case for all people, but sometimes i just wish he would hug me and say i'm okay and it's going to be okay. that's all they need,
and what you definitely need. you are okay! you will be okay! your friends are so so lucky to have someone so caring like you, so don't feel like you drive them away. good luck!<3

i love when people treat me like trash

okay whoever is hurting you you seriously need to sit down and tell them it's not okay and you are a human and you have feelings. it's so sad to see you posting every day because no one deserves to be in that much pain. you are only human and you can't be expected to do anything, and you definitely aren't trash so i don't get why they treat you like it. as reaper said, your art is gorgeous! i especially love the little tribute piece for your rat, Willow. i hope tomorrow is a better day for you!! good luck <3

i'm pretty sure my girlfriend is only staying with me out of pity or because of how the relationship is benefiting her.
i love her and i don't think she loves me.
she barely even talks to me anymore.

unfortunately some people take others for granted. i certainly know how you feel, and you do not deserve this much pain. if you are capable to and not in a LDR, why don't you go out on a date. take her to her favourite place, museum, or just go to a park and show her how much she truly means to you. it might make her open her eyes a little. while out, talk with her. say you feel like you have drifted, and you want to talk more than you do. i hope things work out for you both, no one deserves to feel the experience of a person not sharing the same feelings. good luck <3

So... I don't know if this is allowed but like my good friend and exBFF's mom just passed from cancer. The last time I talked to le madre was her saying how she wished I would come over more and how she missed seeing me. It's eating me alive that I haven't seen her since that and idk what to do.

i am so sorry that you lost someone like that, and your friend lost her mum! cancer is such a vile thing and takes too many lives. my best advice is to visit your friend and be there for them, and don't let it eat you alive. you aren't the reason anything happened, so you can't turn back time and change things. what you need to do is remember memories with the family and your friends mother, and take as long as you need to mourn. i am wishing you the best of luck!<3

I have some things and some are decently horrible and some things are silly to some people

So I was just checking my old posts for the first time in weeks when I see something for Sin's giveaway pop up. I had won my ultimate dream pet, and hadn't picked it up in time to actually get it. WHY

So that's the more silly thing..

The more serious thing is that my Dad has stage 4 colon cancer, and it's been really hard to deal with lately. His hair has started to fall out from the chemo, and he tries to hide it from me and my 8 year old brother so that we don't get upset. He wears a hat all the time. I only know because when I came home one day he forgot that he didn't have a hat on and his entire top of his head was bald. It was bald. I felt horrible afterwords and pretended like I didn't see it so that he didn't get upset. A few days later I was talking with my mom and she mentioned that Dad was scared because he thought that I had seen him. He was upset because he thought I wouldn't like him without hair. This has just made me very sad for the last few weeks and I don't know who to talk to, because a lot of my friends aren't the most supportive or social, and they all have their own problems.
There is one guy who I think I might like a bit. I told him about my dad and he talked with me for a bit, that kind of made my day, but I also realized that I hate telling people, because I'm afraid they might treat me differently. What did help is that his uncle just died (which isn't a good thing, by the way) so he felt like he could relate to me, and it wasn't really pity as much of mutual understanding.
At this point I'm ranting and I don't even know what to say anymore. Thanks for your time.

ugh, missing out on a chance completely sucks!!

i am so so so sorry to hear about your dad. my nan also had cancer, coming on to stage four, and she lived! she's still alive. the best thing you can do for your dad is be there for him. explain that you still love him, no matter what this terrible illness does to him. maybe you and your family should go out together. your dad can wear a beanie if he feels more comfortable, or if you don't want to go out play some board games. they are a great way for the family to have a laugh (avoid: monopoly) and can help bring a connection back. at least the guy you have been talking to recently is being a bit supportive, maybe you can both lean on each other and support one another. it doesn't hurt to have someone to help you through the tough and rough times. i am wishing you,
your guys family, and your own family the best of luck. <3

okay I know just posted here earlier but I really really need someone to talk to just randomly
like not even about my current predicament I just really really need to talk
I feel really lonely because my internet friends are probably all sleeping and even if they aren't then they sure aren't online
and I'm really scared because my dogs are barking and I don't know at what and it's really scary cause it's currently 12 AM
somebody please just talk to me
I might not reply but it would still help me so much because I am actually on the brink of tears right now

hopefully you managed to get some sleep!! i hope this day has started off a bit better than your last. i can't say much now, but just know you aren't ever alone! i am here along with this thread and the entire community. you never are alone,
i promise you. good luck <3

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to help you smile:
list of little things - list of little things to help make you smile and be happy
cutest - cutest tumblr to help with your self esteem
smile things - cute colours and tumblr page to help you out
adorable - basically another tumblr that does the same as the ones above

to help you with anything else / distractions:
emergency compliments - if you ever feel poo, and nothing seems to cheer you up, this site is full of 'emergency compliments' which can make you laugh at how ridiculously brilliant they are.
automatic flatterer - you know what's cute about this? you put in your name, nickname, whatever (it doesn't save it) and it pays you compliment after compliment after compliment. it's the cutest idea ever.
the dawn room - do what it says. after doing that, loads of encouraging messages will come your way!
hugs - hugs is all i have to say.
thunderstorms - control them!<3
beautiful places - if you're looking for a sign, this is it. set a goal to visit one of these places. don't change that goal. you won't regret it.
how to change your life - just read it. it's amazing. too good.
player two - if you're feeling hurt or upset, visit here. it's a game. it's good.
koalas - if you're in need of a distraction that lasts a good five minutes, play this. it's fun, and if you love koalas it's even better!
stick man game - good distraction with a hopefuly message i made at the end!
just say yes - this blog was made by zoella and good for anyone who suffer with anxiety disorder, have panic attacks, depression, have social anxiety or are just a very negative or shy person this may be good for you!
random acts of kindness (video) - may make you feel all warm and gooey at how kind people are
list of things for those having a bad day!
more bad day remedies - is similar to the one above
how to love yourself - if you struggle with self esteem, pleasep lease read <3
quiet room - one of my favourite places <3
comfort box - i highly recommend looking at this because it's the most amazing idea i've ever seen
ground box - similar to the one above

to help you with panic attacks:
i have loads of things that can help with your anxiety and panic attacks.

facts !!!!:
what not to say !!! - to someone who is having a panic attack, do not say these things
facts- if you're confused about a few things

i've also made a tumblr! you can message me anonomysouly on there for advice if you don't want to post here. i also will start reblogging things (nothing triggering or sad !) so if you ever need someone, you can go to me on there! http://happinesscomeswithnoregrets.tumblr.com/

[emporio!]

I just feel real stupid sometimes.
all these people have problems significantly worse than mine, I should have no right to be crying over stupid little things or stuff that happened forever ago

like?? why do I have the right to be depressed? I really don't, not anymore, and its just

really stupid of me

[FLYBOY]

I just feel real stupid sometimes.
all these people have problems significantly worse than mine, I should have no right to be crying over stupid little things or stuff that happened forever ago

like?? why do I have the right to be depressed? I really don't, not anymore, and its just

really stupid of me

Somewhere out there there is one person with the absolute worst problems in the entire world.
Aside from that unfortunate person, for literally everyone else, there are people who have it worse than them. Does that mean their problems don't exist? Nope. That would be ridiculous, and if we say our problems don't matter because someone else has it worse, then there's only one person on earth whose problems actually matter. But that's not how it works.
There's no real way to measure who has it worse. Difficult things affect different people in different ways. Help and sympathy are not finite resources. You're not hurting anyone else by doing what you can to help yourself. And just because other people are struggling too doesn't mean that you aren't.