Richie Tozier wrote:I usually do not like posting on these because of the sense of bothering others, but I really need to now. I might just be paranoid, but everytime after I watch some video relating to ghost hunting and such, I feel such a strong prescense with me and I’m honestly getting so scared. It’s gotten so bad I always beg someone to go with me just to walk down a hallway with me. There’s a voice in my head telling me I’m safe but still. I see my cat who recently passed running down the hallway like he always used to and I always feel somebody watching me. Not evil or good, just there. I’m probably just paranoid and being a little kid but it’s just gotten so bad. Even at school I feel them. That is, if they’re even there.
yoo, this is actually super neat. i strongly believe in the supernatural, and currently in my English we talk a lot about it and everyone's experiences with the supernatural. honestly, there isn't anything to be afraid of! I often get those feelings too and have actually seen a few ghosts or had an encounter with them. it is normal to feel scared, it is completely normal so don't feel ashamed of it if you do. are you able to talk to someone about it? maybe talk to a trusted teacher, who knows, they might believe in the super natural too. if you ever feel anxious over it, i recommend something called rescue remedy. it is super helpful with calming anxiety / nerves! also, don't ever be afraid of posting on here either! you're bothering no one, and it's here to help comfort others, you included!<3 if it really unnerves you, try to avoid watching ghost related videos. i know it's so tempting because i absolutely love watching them and i get the same as you, but it's worth not being afraid. good luck!<3
Keriae wrote:im such a terrible friend
i get jealous too easily and i feel like the past couple of weeks we've hardly spoken
and she's got all of this work for her a levels and im sat at home doing nothing bc ive graduated uni
and like she's such a good person but i feel so lonely
i have no friends
and now she's basically telling me off bc im lazy and i dont cook at home and i dont know how to cook
and i feel guilty bc she's got all of this work and she's got a chronic illness and she does so much more than me
and now im crying
im such a toxic, selfish, lazy person
okay, please do not think of yourself as toxic, selfish or a lazy person. though it may feel like it, you're not. everyone deals with things differently. in my opinion, it's a bit harsh of your friend to say you're lazy. she is definitely thankful of you being her friend, but the difference in education may put a strain on your friendship. since you have graduated, you aren't as busy with work-load compared to her. do you have a job? if not i advise getting one as a distraction. learn to cook! do simple things. boil pasta. make a fried egg sandwich. it sounds difficult, and i used to burn water, but i took foodtech as a GCSE so i learnt. maybe you can join a cookery class in your local area to help you learn? you're not any of those things you said, i promise,
so please don't make yourself believe you are because you're such a lovely person! maybe talk to your friend about how you feel and how what she said made you feel bad. it's not fair for her to say such horrible things. good luck!<3
Smoogiepie wrote:I'm so freaking bummed. It's not a choice. I keep trying to shake it off and do chores to distract myself but today is just not my day. My roommate is hanging out with her friends having fun and my only other friend is hanging out with his friends having fun. I don't have anyone. It's a beautiful day outside. I wish I had friends. I wish I had someone. I'm a thousand miles away from home and I have no one.
I'm almost certain I have cancer and I'm nervously awaiting the results of my biopsy. I don't want to be alone right now.
Every day I'm on the verge of tears.
I just want to be with someone. Oh my God it hurts so bad to be completely utterly alone during a time of need. I can't take one more day.
i hope today is better than yesterday! i hate those type of moods, when you feel so alone and there is no one.
are you able to call home? message friends? maybe it's a good day to go for a walk, or even a jog. to be honest, chores are a rubbish way to distract yourself because you think of the amount you have to do. my best advise is to do things you enjoy, whether that is baking or making a playlist or drawing. if you ever feel alone, feel free to pm me. i know i'm only on a screen and we have time differences but it's better than having no one. i assure you though you aren't alone, so many people on this site are here for you and family are only a phone call way. good luck, and let us know how your biospy goes!<3
SnakeScales wrote:ugh, a little x rn. i got two stuffed animals for my bday, and my brother asked to borrow one. i don't think i'm petty, but i can get kinda territorial, i guess?? i don't have a problem with sharing, but i like having something that is / mine / sometimes, something that belongs to me. like stuffed animals i guess??? i said he couldnt have it. he took one, my favorite of the two may i add, and didnt tell me. now i go to look for it and see it wasnt were i put it, but he took it. i'm a little x because i never steal anything from him, so it's not payback - he's just being petty. hes older than me he should be mature. my mom tells me im being rude. im sorry but they were given to me and i have a right to say sorry no when he asks for one of them??
on a completely unrelated note, my bad feelings are returning. damn, i wish i could run away from this, from my family, everything is just a constant reminder of them and its just so hard. my mom thinks theres aomething wrong with me when i told her i was trans. she talks to me like she talks to my brother when he gets in trouble. like sorry??? i wish i could've been born in the right body, that would be amazing. i just cant be a girl, i cant, its not right, it doesnt feel right at all. i keep looking to the future, when i can move away, get an apartment with my friend or friends, when i can get T and top surgery and go by Alex. my birthname is like a slap in the face, i already told her i'm her son. kinda really wish i could dissapear and this could be over
this whole thing is stupid, im sorry
please don't apologise! this post isn't stupid. you cannot help how you feel or how others make you feel. i'm sorry to hear about your brother, he's the one being rude but unfortunately that's what siblings do. i find that with my brother, it's best to show i don't care (even though i do) and he tends to leave my things or me alone. have you tried that? if he asks for something,
just say "yeah sure". literally nothing else. he won't feel such a need to pester you or use/take your things. as for the whole situation with your family, i am so so sorry about that too. it's so unfair when your family cannot accept you for who you are. i understand it's hard for them, they've lived with a 'daughter' for so long it's hard for them to transition into the correct pronouns and realising they have two sons now instead of one, but it doesn't mean they shouldn't accept you at all. i cannot wait for you for all that to happen either. i hope it's a smooth transition for you. if you ever need a friend, my inbox is always open! good luck,
and you will be in my thoughts; i hope your parents accept you for who you are soon. <3
parasomnia wrote:why do you show love to everyone but me?
did i do something wrong?
i deserve love and support too
you definitely deserve love and support, and please don't think you are the reason they don't. maybe ask them if you are really worried about it? ask if you've done something wrong because you're treated differently compared to others? if you're not good with confrontation like me, i tend to just cut people off but that's always the worst way to go but it's how i deal with things. i definitely advise you to contact them; easier said than done i know because i can't take that advise myself. i hope everything turns out okay! you are worthy of everything and more <3
BardRat wrote:Every friendship I form always gets terminated within a year
Am I not cut for friends? Should I grow to my family's expectations of being a heartless business worker? Live in solitude and keep up my rude act that crushes all my friendships?
I don't know but that seems most logical because they all leave anyways. Why try for more when I'll just feel bummed out and get guilt tripped anyways tbh
Must block em out
my parents always say my friendships don't last, and they think i'm the problem. the actual problem is that it's hard to come by someone where your personalities are similar, but not too similar. but you aren't polar opposites. have you tried thinking about what the problems could be, from both yours and their side? (their being the 'friends'). whatever you do, don't try to live up to expectations. it leaves you being unhappy; follow your own aspirations and dreams. you will be happier. do a job you love, even if that's cleaning toilets at a restaurant if you're happy, that is all that matters. good luck <3
Harlow. wrote:Just silently crying in my room.
While at school, EVERYBODY has a friend, i look around
and somebody is laughing, Or talking to their friend.
And i don't have a friend.. I'm all alone all the time.
just alone in the dang corner.
And I get so mad at myself, Anytime anybody talks
to me, Even though i'm desperate for friends instead
of being interesting, Or fun I am silent and awkward.
I.Am.desperate.for.friends.help.
are you able to join a social group at school? maybe chess club, where you basically sit in silence but also have fun? i used to hate chess but when i joined it in my old school it was so much fun. i know it feels hard, but it'll get easier. try in lesson talking to someone next to you, it's a small step but also a massive one. it can help your confidence massively. i know what you mean with silent and awkward because that was me, but i did have one friend i was okay with and i just kind of pretended everyone around me was like a family member and acted how i did with family with them. it helped me loads with my confidence and i actually became less awkward. i hope this helps a little bit. good luck!<3
Spearow wrote:Bleh my anxiety is bad tonight. I figured it would be, it generally gets bad if I’m feeling okay in the beginning of the day. I don’t know how to explain it but some days I feel alright, and its like coming down from a bunch of sugar but instead its coming down from being happy/alright. But that doesn’t make it any better. Just feel sick to my stomach. I’ve been playing with my kitties to cheer myself up. >.< Now they’re both sleeping because I wore them out oops
I don’t know what to do now, none of my games or books or hobbies sounds appealing. I’m hungry but don’t want to eat
I’m going to try ginger tea, its the only thing i haven’t tried for my anxiety (that i can think of). As I’m getting older it seems like less and less helps fight it.
i am so sorry you feel like this! anxiety is such a horrible thing to deal with, and i think you going to the doctors about it is good (i recall you saying you did?). but know some remedies for others won't be the same for you. do things you enjoy,
that's the true remedy. write, draw, paint, make music, make food, bake, eat food. whatever makes you happy, honestly that's the best thing you can do. good luck!<3
drogon wrote:I read The Catcher in The Rye this year and since then I've been haunted with the thought of growing up. Then I read The Moth by Virginia Woolf, and I was crushed. I'm in my junior year of high school and now everything is so much more real than it used to be. I'm afraid and lonely and lost and I feel like everything hasn't got a point.
And I'm so frustrated with school and society. I keep being told I'm supposed to do this, not that, make good grades, make this on the SAT, apply to that college, spend almost or over $100,000 on a 4-year degree, and join the workforce, I suppose. Then what? Day after day, year after year, the same damn thing? My parents have always said "Life sucks and then you die." Really? Is that it? I try to look past what everyone else says but I can't imagine, realistically, life being so extraordinary. It seems dull. And tiring. And I hate, hate, hate social media. I hate texting people. I don't use snapchat anymore, I deleted my instagram, I deactivated my tumblr, because it was so irritating. I feel like it destroyed a lot of my friendships because people misunderstand and twist everything up with just a few words.
My mom quit her job she hated so much, and now she can't find work. To make things worse, I think my dad has taken up smoking. He's 45. Hasn't lit a cigarette since he was 18, maybe? I don't know. For the past two years he has been struggling with his job. I don't really know how, he never talks about it with me ... My brother said he found a box of cigs in his car, and he could still smell the nicotine. I went into the bathroom after him today and could smell the nicotine too, and the sink counter was unusually covered in water. Maybe he hasn't. But maybe he has, and if he has -- he's giving up. He's resorting to those poor coping habits that I wish he wouldn't.
I guess I'm just learning why Holden Caulfield wanted so badly to catch children before they fall. Because I get it, this whole living thing sucks.
i totally get the whole living thing! it really does suck, doesn't it? but the thing is, life is what you make it to be.
there are so so many downs, i know. you may lose a job. you may lose money. you may lose friendships and relationships with friends and family. but there are so many ups. you make memories, you may get your own family. you may be happy. some people just don't have much luck, unfortunately your parents maybe some of those people. it's not like you can stop your dad, but you can make him realise that smoking may be a coping mechanism but isn't the answer. you can't force him to open his mouth about his job obviously, but let him know you and your family are there for him. and the whole thing about social media, i agree! i deleted it back in november and i do not regret it. my mental health is so much better and i have lost friendships, but i knew they were fake friends anyway. if they truly wanted to remain friends, they would have replied to my texts or spoke to me in person, you get me?
you don't have to do anything you don't want. are you able to talk to someone at your school? a careers adviser maybe, or a trusted teacher? they can help you so much along the way and may make you feel a bit better about yourself. i am always here for you,
and if you ever need to rant my inbox is open or this thread will always stay here. good luck, i will be thinking of you!<3
Shane Dawson wrote:Why would you contact the TV show Catfish?
We weren’t even in a LDR.... makes no sense....
I’ve been busy dealing with personal issues and family issues....
and you do this? Why?
You realize how stupid you’re going to look, right?
You already do, but you’ll look more stupid.
I’m not going to agree with anything. If I get a call from them, I’ll explain this to them too.
You’re being so dramatic, please, just grow up.
I’m honestly glad you broke up with me, I don’t want anything to do with you anymore.
Your loss.
~
Sincerely,
Your annoyed and irritated ex.
that is so immature and totally sucks. the good news is, so many people contact shows like that that they may not actually contact you two. i hope they don't, for your sake. you deserve so much better; i always see you around the forums and you're such a lovely person so you do definitely deserve better than them. they do need to grow up; can you just cut contact with them at all costs? just delete their number and block them on social media. it may be hard but it's the best way to get on with your life without a constant reminder of how rubbish of a person they are/were to you. you deserve better. i hope you get better. good luck!<3
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to help you smile:
list of little things - list of little things to help make you smile and be happy
cutest - cutest tumblr to help with your self esteem
smile things - cute colours and tumblr page to help you out
adorable - basically another tumblr that does the same as the ones above
to help you with anything else / distractions:
emergency compliments - if you ever feel poo, and nothing seems to cheer you up, this site is full of 'emergency compliments' which can make you laugh at how ridiculously brilliant they are.
automatic flatterer - you know what's cute about this? you put in your name, nickname, whatever (it doesn't save it) and it pays you compliment after compliment after compliment. it's the cutest idea ever.
the dawn room - do what it says. after doing that, loads of encouraging messages will come your way!
hugs - hugs is all i have to say.
thunderstorms - control them!<3
beautiful places - if you're looking for a sign, this is it. set a goal to visit one of these places. don't change that goal. you won't regret it.
how to change your life - just read it. it's amazing. too good.
player two - if you're feeling hurt or upset, visit here. it's a game. it's good.
koalas - if you're in need of a distraction that lasts a good five minutes, play this. it's fun, and if you love koalas it's even better!
stick man game - good distraction with a hopefuly message i made at the end!
just say yes - this blog was made by zoella and good for anyone who suffer with anxiety disorder, have panic attacks, depression, have social anxiety or are just a very negative or shy person this may be good for you!
random acts of kindness (video) - may make you feel all warm and gooey at how kind people are
list of things for those having a bad day!
more bad day remedies - is similar to the one above
how to love yourself - if you struggle with self esteem, pleasep lease read <3
quiet room - one of my favourite places <3
comfort box - i highly recommend looking at this because it's the most amazing idea i've ever seen
ground box - similar to the one above
to help you with panic attacks:
i have loads of things that can help with your anxiety and panic attacks.
facts !!!!:
what not to say !!! - to someone who is having a panic attack, do not say these things
facts- if you're confused about a few things
i've also made a tumblr! you can message me anonomysouly on there for advice if you don't want to post here. i also will start reblogging things (nothing triggering or sad !) so if you ever need someone, you can go to me on there! http://happinesscomeswithnoregrets.tumblr.com/
(i am so so sorry if i don't reply to anyone; it is due to chicken smoothie rules and i do not want to break them. it also may effect me in some way, i am sorry once again!)
