Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Beyoncé]

O gawd. I really hope he dosent see this
Anywho, theres this boy i REALLY like. I think he likes me, but i dont know. I would say i like him, but we go to a really conservative school, and have conservative(ish) families. Also, im pretty sure his best freind thinks i have a crush on him. we are also friends. i really need help with this situation. and fyi, i mean i would walk up to him and kiss him

Also, he always looks at me (not in a creepy way, or werid) but whenever were at lunch (hes a grade higher) i catch him glimpsing at me, but he dosent see that i caught him

[leslie knope]

I've posted here several time before about how i had a crush on my former best friend for a long time and how he started to ignore me and all that crap. i did recently send him a letter type thing and after an awkward period of time we started talking again and he apologized, and said he wanted to actually be friends again. im completely good with that but im begging myself to not get too attached yet again, since he now has another girlfriend and i dont want to be depressed about being ignored if it happens again since i know he is distracted. but ive had feelings for him for a while, and ive mentioned before how he lived with me for a while and we were practically siblings. im wondering if we somehow found out that i liked him and that is why he was distant from me. point is, im wondering if i should just tell him, or wait until later, or tell him if he and his gf break up, or just not tell him at all?
thanks for any help, hopefully that was understandable.
im not sure this is answerable anyway but im giving it a shot.



Should I write a note and give it to him ??? And give it to him after school...



Warning: bluntness.

I feel you post very often and are always looking for magical answers. Well heads up - there are no magical, cure-all answers. Every situation is a little different, every person is a little different, and there is no way that some stranger on the internet will magically know exactly how to handle things with guaranteed success. Of course it's going to be awkward. Of course it could end badly. That's life. That's the risk you have to take to put yourself out there.

Also, could you try to write more in each post? You aren't very descriptive of the situation which is likely why you don't often get answers. More information would be very helpful and perhaps would allow you to post less (giving others the opportunity to post before we keep hitting the next page). By posting so often, other people's posts get lost in previous pages before they get answered and I don't feel that is fair to them.

Lastly, I would try to offer suggestions but you two sound much younger than I could handle giving advice to; my advice is better suited for high school and up, which I get the feeling you guys are not. I didn't date until college and I certainly don't remember how things were when I was 10-15 regarding how people acted with popularity and crushes and stuff. (hence me not offering advice to you now)



I agree, if you think he's worth it, just do it
gosh darn it, you're always posting here. WE'RE ALL GIVING YOU THE SAME ADVICE.


I completely agree. You've already posted 3 or 4 times on this page, and most of it is just ramblings to yourself. If you wish to carry on a conversation, PM the person. You're not going to be able to get help by posting short snippets that are mostly you debating with yourself.

[gwanu]

I've posted here several time before about how i had a crush on my former best friend for a long time and how he started to ignore me and all that crap. i did recently send him a letter type thing and after an awkward period of time we started talking again and he apologized, and said he wanted to actually be friends again. im completely good with that but im begging myself to not get too attached yet again, since he now has another girlfriend and i dont want to be depressed about being ignored if it happens again since i know he is distracted. but ive had feelings for him for a while, and ive mentioned before how he lived with me for a while and we were practically siblings. im wondering if we somehow found out that i liked him and that is why he was distant from me. point is, im wondering if i should just tell him, or wait until later, or tell him if he and his gf break up, or just not tell him at all?
thanks for any help, hopefully that was understandable.
im not sure this is answerable anyway but im giving it a shot.

you have to understand that at some point in life we all will and have to move on. it might seem hard to you now to control your feelings, but if he can't return that type of love i think it's best that you try and work it out with yourself. there could be a large possibility he found out. if a guy doesn't like a girl back in order to not hurt her feelings he will distance himself from her. that's what usually happens. you have to think this through, if he's happy with his current girlfriend, would you have the heart to take a bit away of the happiness? You're putting your friendship on the hang with this and it could easily shatter. i think it's best if you just wait until they break up. he might not be able to like you back in that way and that would just really hurt you and make him uncomfortable. just sit down and think about it. maybe it's best if you just try to get over him, atleast try to figure out a way to keep your feelings distant enough from him. you're in a very tricky situation. but even if you keep it in now, he could still find out. if you can't hold it in, tell him. at this point you have little to lose, so it might be best to get it over with now. if he ends up knowing your feelings and he can not like you back then that gives you time to recover and get over him. really this is your choice, it all depends on what you're ready to lose.

[leslie knope]

I've posted here several time before about how i had a crush on my former best friend for a long time and how he started to ignore me and all that crap. i did recently send him a letter type thing and after an awkward period of time we started talking again and he apologized, and said he wanted to actually be friends again. im completely good with that but im begging myself to not get too attached yet again, since he now has another girlfriend and i dont want to be depressed about being ignored if it happens again since i know he is distracted. but ive had feelings for him for a while, and ive mentioned before how he lived with me for a while and we were practically siblings. im wondering if we somehow found out that i liked him and that is why he was distant from me. point is, im wondering if i should just tell him, or wait until later, or tell him if he and his gf break up, or just not tell him at all?
thanks for any help, hopefully that was understandable.
im not sure this is answerable anyway but im giving it a shot.

you have to understand that at some point in life we all will and have to move on. it might seem hard to you now to control your feelings, but if he can't return that type of love i think it's best that you try and work it out with yourself. there could be a large possibility he found out. if a guy doesn't like a girl back in order to not hurt her feelings he will distance himself from her. that's what usually happens. you have to think this through, if he's happy with his current girlfriend, would you have the heart to take a bit away of the happiness? You're putting your friendship on the hang with this and it could easily shatter. i think it's best if you just wait until they break up. he might not be able to like you back in that way and that would just really hurt you and make him uncomfortable. just sit down and think about it. maybe it's best if you just try to get over him, atleast try to figure out a way to keep your feelings distant enough from him. you're in a very tricky situation. but even if you keep it in now, he could still find out. if you can't hold it in, tell him. at this point you have little to lose, so it might be best to get it over with now. if he ends up knowing your feelings and he can not like you back then that gives you time to recover and get over him. really this is your choice, it all depends on what you're ready to lose.

Thank you, you were kind of echoing my thoughts a bit. I agree with everything you said, in fact those were my thoughts about this whole thing, i just wanted someone to confirm this.
Thank you c:

[global concepts]

last night my boyfriend and i went to two seperate parties. i went to a surprise party for my friend and he went to a bowling party for a recreation camp he did over the summer. every since his party started, my messages haven't delivered to his phone. we both have iphones and he has his read recipt on.. but my texts don't even have the "delivered" under them. should i be worried? usually this means someone was blocked but i can't imagine him doing that to me ...

[eli ayase]

last night my boyfriend and i went to two seperate parties. i went to a surprise party for my friend and he went to a bowling party for a recreation camp he did over the summer. every since his party started, my messages haven't delivered to his phone. we both have iphones and he has his read recipt on.. but my texts don't even have the "delivered" under them. should i be worried? usually this means someone was blocked but i can't imagine him doing that to me ...

He probably has no reception there, don't worry. This has happened to me countless times, but its no big deal! He'll text you when he gets them, no worries. Or, send him another text asking how the party was c:

[global concepts]

last night my boyfriend and i went to two seperate parties. i went to a surprise party for my friend and he went to a bowling party for a recreation camp he did over the summer. every since his party started, my messages haven't delivered to his phone. we both have iphones and he has his read recipt on.. but my texts don't even have the "delivered" under them. should i be worried? usually this means someone was blocked but i can't imagine him doing that to me ...

He probably has no reception there, don't worry. This has happened to me countless times, but its no big deal! He'll text you when he gets them, no worries. Or, send him another text asking how the party was c:

i would send him another text but i've already sent him two that haven't delivered and two that says delivered but never read. also, the party was last night and i still haven't heard from him. /: :c

[thunderofthedrum]

last night my boyfriend and i went to two seperate parties. i went to a surprise party for my friend and he went to a bowling party for a recreation camp he did over the summer. every since his party started, my messages haven't delivered to his phone. we both have iphones and he has his read recipt on.. but my texts don't even have the "delivered" under them. should i be worried? usually this means someone was blocked but i can't imagine him doing that to me ...

He probably has no reception there, don't worry. This has happened to me countless times, but its no big deal! He'll text you when he gets them, no worries. Or, send him another text asking how the party was c:

i would send him another text but i've already sent him two that haven't delivered and two that says delivered but never read. also, the party was last night and i still haven't heard from him. /: :c

Have you sent any today?
Perhaps send one just saying "Hey it looks like a couple texts didn't reach you last night" or "Hadn't heard from you since yesterday so just wanted to make sure everything's okay!" and leave it at that for a bit. The way I see it, if he chose not to answer, then many more texts won't help. If he just didn't receive them before, didn't have time, slept in, forgot, etc, then this may remind him. If something happened to him, then blowing up his phone won't save the day anyway. So, let him know you hope he checks in with you, and then perhaps take a step back. When he DOES respond, you can let him know you think there might have been bad reception (at least, I personally would give the benefit of the doubt) and that you aren't sure if any of your texts got to him last night and that it made you a little concerned. Point is, it hasn't even been twenty-four hours and if some weren't even delivered, sounds like reception to me. And he was bowling - he may have been having fun and didn't take the time to respond. It happens. And maybe he stayed up late and then just went to bed. That's fine. Just keep in mind the innocent and realistic possibilities and don't jump to conclusions just yet!

I said I was leaving to go home in a few minutes to my guy and then didn't respond for an hour or two. He got concerned and ended up calling. The truth? The parents I was babysitting for were delayed (valet misplaced their keys), then we were talking for a bit, and I ended up stopping at the store on the way home (mumsy's birthday was the next day and I had to pick up a few things). Just last night I took a while because I ran into my brother and ended up talking to him for a while (a really good conversation, actually). Things just happen. My guy was gaming last night so I got off the phone so he could better enjoy his time with the guys and I know he won't text hardly during that time. It's fine.

So don't lose perspective. ^_^

[fuzzyanni12]

Should I write a note and give it to him ??? And give it to him after school...

Warning: bluntness.

I feel you post very often and are always looking for magical answers. Well heads up - there are no magical, cure-all answers. Every situation is a little different, every person is a little different, and there is no way that some stranger on the internet will magically know exactly how to handle things with guaranteed success. Of course it's going to be awkward. Of course it could end badly. That's life. That's the risk you have to take to put yourself out there.

Also, could you try to write more in each post? You aren't very descriptive of the situation which is likely why you don't often get answers. More information would be very helpful and perhaps would allow you to post less (giving others the opportunity to post before we keep hitting the next page). By posting so often, other people's posts get lost in previous pages before they get answered and I don't feel that is fair to them.

Lastly, I would try to offer suggestions but you two sound much younger than I could handle giving advice to; my advice is better suited for high school and up, which I get the feeling you guys are not. I didn't date until college and I certainly don't remember how things were when I was 10-15 regarding how people acted with popularity and crushes and stuff. (hence me not offering advice to you now)

Well I'm sorry gosh and I am in high school so yeah and Mabey I don't want to spill every thing that is going on in my life okay....

[thunderofthedrum]

Well I'm sorry gosh and I am in high school so yeah and Mabey I don't want to spill every thing that is going on in my life okay....

We are not asking for your secrets. But if you compare your own posts to other people's, you may notice that most others are taking more time to explain the situation and, as a result, are receiving advice more quickly. Also, the frequency of your posts (and claws) is unfair to other users because THEIR posts get lost in the pages that fly by and may never be answered because of that. If something turns into a 1x1 conversation (such as you and claws), the courteous thing to do would be to take it to PMs so you don't monopolize the thread. Everyone in here deserves a chance to be heard.