Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Rated R]

so, this isn't about my crush.

a guy from my camp who lives a couple states away [in a state i visit often] asked for my number over face book and we started late night chatting and stuff. he had admitted he'd liked someone in his camp, but i don't know who.
we've been talking solidly for a while and we have a lot in common. he did admit on his ask.fm where you can ask anonymous questions, after someone [not me] asked whether he'd do a long distance relationship, that yes, he'd definitely try. he's not hot, but he's not ugly, and he's got an honest heart.
we've got a lot in common, but i don't feel like i have feelings for him, though i feel like he might like me. i don't know, i'm thinking of waiting it out and seeing whether common feelings grow together or whether we just stay friends.
but all in all, i kind of like having a guy wanting to talk to me for once. i think the good part about not seeing each other everyday is that i and he can see personality more, don't 'cha think?

[Lazy9248]

I figured out that my crush looks like the guy on the Pepsi next commercial with the dancing baby... Lol he keeps teasing me because he has a car and I don't he won't let anyone touch him and he lets me poke him... I just don't want to screw up us being friends so I don't say anything about my liking him... I've never actually had a boyfriend and no one has ever asked me out so I have no clue what I'm doing... I'm one of those kids that remains invisible and just wants someone to notice them... He is one of the only people that have ever taken an interest in me... yup... Just spilling my guts... any sort of response would be nice

[provolone]

Okay... so there's this guy. He's suuuuuuper cute. But the problem is one he doesn't like me, two my bff is dating him. But i liked him since 4th grade! And the ENTIRE SCHOOL knows I like this guy. Including him and my teacher. But the thing is he teases me and stuff... He says stuff like "Hey short stuff!" and he's like really (sometimes) mean to me. But thenm there are times when he's really sweet. He gives me hugs for no apparent reasons. He says Hi and stuff. But when he is mean, I just don't know what to do! Can anybody please help me?

BFF is dating him? Off-limits. You can like him for sure, but it doesn't really matter that everyone knows you like him. You can't flirt with him or try to get him to like you. When he has a girlfriend its an automatic no. If you best friend is dating him, I'm sure she'll understand if you have a friendship with him. But flirting with him will hurt your relationship with her. If she knew you liked him and then started dating him, that's rude on her part. But now they are taken you can't do much other than be an admirer.

Okay thanks! Yeah I really don't want to hurt my frend! But would you have any advice on what to do if and when he is really mean to me?

Just tell him sometimes it hurts your feelings when he says those things. He won't stop if you don't speak up for yourself. He might only think he's messing around with you, and doesn't realize it hurts.

[panhead]

Saga:....umm....like 2 or 3: Ethan
Well...now that he knows I like him it's gotten really tough. At lunch sometimes he'll turn around and look at me for a split second, which makes me feel so happy! It's ok he doesn't like me back, but I really really wish he did! I was talking to my literal BFF/Sister and she's in a cole classes with the girl Ethan likes. She described her and I'm disgusted and flattered in horrible ways.

On a worse note, he got beat up yesterday. I can't believe it! Some beast could have hated him that badly?! It gives me the chills. All I exactly did was not eat lunch that day I felt bad and just prayed.

To make you happy from reading that depressing story, he stole my friends phone and talked to me! all we did was talk About golf, school, his Parents work, what we have in common, ect. nothing exciting. im kind of at dead end. now that hes gotten beat up, he usually misses part of lunch to talk to the principal.


i dont know how to do this....im so lost and confused!


PS i gave him an oreo at lunch today. i also think someone turned off autocorrect on this...so sorry for all the errors.




thanks! xoxoxo perky

[Lady Sabine]

I figured out that my crush looks like the guy on the Pepsi next commercial with the dancing baby... Lol he keeps teasing me because he has a car and I don't he won't let anyone touch him and he lets me poke him... I just don't want to screw up us being friends so I don't say anything about my liking him... I've never actually had a boyfriend and no one has ever asked me out so I have no clue what I'm doing... I'm one of those kids that remains invisible and just wants someone to notice them... He is one of the only people that have ever taken an interest in me... yup... Just spilling my guts... any sort of response would be nice

Not trying to rain on your parade, but since you're one of us invisible people you might be mistaking interest with interest. I went to a dance in sixth grade, completely invisible. One nice guy who knew my parents danced with me. My friends snapped pictures and made a big deal about it and he never spoke to me again. He was just being nice; he didn't want anything like that and taking it too seriously screwed up what little we had.
If I were you, I would do a few experiments to test if it's friendly interest or something more committed. Talk about something that you're interested in that he's not- like fashion or some drama show. If he tries very hard to be interested for your sake, he's probably really in to you. If he looks bored or tries to change the subject, then he's probably just being a friend. The worst thing you can do is try to change a friendship, even a casual one, into a relationship. It usually ruins both.
Having a boyfriend could probably increase your confidence, or bring out some jealousy in this guy if he is in to you. You could find a guy in your grade or maybe one or two below you who also hasn't had a relationship yet. Make your intentions clear from the front, sort of a "dry run" if you will. Most guys also want some experience with the whole dating thing, a beta test if you will. Non-romantic, just to see if your flirting and such is working on other people.

[thunderofthedrum]

I fall in love with people at the wrong time...

I met this guy online and he didn't know it was me talking to him, he thought I was a friend of mine. Anyway, we were talking about me and he admitted that he wanted to ask me out, but he was too shy to and that he loved me more than just a sister (Cause I said that we were brother and sister). He's gay yet I think I turned that around. Problem is is that I have a boyfriend already, he is a few years older than me, and lives on another continent. Plus...I like him back. I know that I probably shouldn't because then again I still love my boyfriend. I don't know what to do about them though. My boyfriend and I get into little fights sometimes, are kind of distant at some moments, and he upsets me sometimes. The other guy, Z, well I already mentioned it earlier. Please help me! -drops down onto knees at your feet-

No one can tell you which will work out and which won't.
No one can tell you which guy would make you happier.

You mention things about your boyfriend - no relationship is flawless. It is a relationship, after all, which is comprised of separate, different individuals with their own minds and hearts. You will never agree 100% and even if you did, that would probably feel dull and not worth your time. If he makes you truly unhappy, then maybe it's time to end it, regardless of whether you have another guy in mind.

Also I personally disapprove if you were flirting with this other guy online. Does he even know you have a boyfriend? That kind of dishonesty feels dirty and unhealthy to me. So this guy says he would give a long distant relationship a try. Does that mean you would also want to try? Do you truly feel he wants to have a relationship with you?

Decisions in life are hard. You get attached to people and you don't want to risk burning bridges and regretting it. I understand that. But I do find it personally very frustrating that many of the posts on here are basically seeking someone to decide between 2-3 guys for them. No one can make these decisions for you. I don't know you. I don't know your relationship with your boyfriend. I don't know if you are still clinging to the few good things of it when really you should end things, or if you are over reacting to some normal little bad instances. And who knows about the online guy? Maybe he'll turn out to be great, gay, a fraud, a liar, a lover, a best friend...

Like many others before you, you wonder if you should take the leap. Whether you should stay on solid ground where you are, with the boy you know, both good and bad of it, or whether you should take that jump into the abyss of possibility and risk and the unknown. It may provide new ways to be happy or new ways to be disappointed. Likely, it will provide a combination of both, just as any relationship does. People are not always so black and white as to be 'better' than one another - sometimes they are simply different. I love my brothers. They are all different and I couldn't possibly say which is the best or which I love the most. Sometimes it's just like that.

So just.. give it some hard thinking. Find some questions to ask yourself, such as the ones I have posed. Only you can decide the path, and only you can later decide if it was 'the right one' or not. Just don't get too caught up in 'what ifs' and forget to cherish who you have or what you have experienced that's made you who you are now.

[[x]]

Today Jordan hit me on the head... uhh-huh.....

Anyways! I spent all of Lunch recess hanging out with Jake and his other friends! Best. Lunch. EVERRR!!!

[luxuriantluke]

M is being annoying
he keeps making rude jokes about everything i say
he says he's always joking all the time
but cmon
he ALWAYS mocks me for everything i say
my voice, my laugh etc
he mocked me for how i laugh it was terrible
like his voice is kind of annoying sometimes...he likes to screech and make weird noises
but i just laugh, i have only mocked him once or twice
just stoppp pleassse
I know im super sensitive but he only started being like this two months ago
I needddd help
like help with how to react when he says something that i may find offensive
I wanna ask him to my grad/dinner dance in june but i dont know really

any help will be appreciated c:

[skater_gurl]

I reallly like my best friend L but if I date and we dump what if he doesn't wanna be friend ;(

[Mosstail<3]

M is being annoying
he keeps making rude jokes about everything i say
he says he's always joking all the time
but cmon
he ALWAYS mocks me for everything i say
my voice, my laugh etc
he mocked me for how i laugh it was terrible
like his voice is kind of annoying sometimes...he likes to screech and make weird noises
but i just laugh, i have only mocked him once or twice
just stoppp pleassse
I know im super sensitive but he only started being like this two months ago
I needddd help
like help with how to react when he says something that i may find offensive
I wanna ask him to my grad/dinner dance in june but i dont know really

any help will be appreciated c:

Is M your boyfriend? If so then talk to him seriously about this like, "Babe we need to talk..." But not too seriously! Or else he'd think you're breaking up with him.
I'm not sure if this is helping... lol please tell me if I was any help~!