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[Planet Karma]

some advice would be greatly appreciated.

i really want to get into a good college, and so far it isnt going well. I had all As and crap except one C last quarter, and im trying to get my grades up for this quarter as well. What freaks me out is that I have midterms. And I swear, I am going to fail the heck out of those tests.

Ever since about two years ago, when I was in middle school, my grades started plummeting. The problem? It was probably a mix of not knowing what was being taught and just going through puberty i guess.
I thought it was going to be a small phase, but it wasnt. And I hate myself for it. I was at the top of my class, now im somewhere in the middle of failing and barely passing. I just dont understand how other students are so smart. They juggle sports, school and social life in one sitting. I dont know what the heck is wrong with me. Yeah, I do admit to procrastinating, which is proabnbly why my grades started floppin around when they did, but my smarts,, are just gone??
to those who are at the top of their class- could you help a fellow classmate out? What is your secret?

Hey, school is hard for some people. And that's okay. It was hard for me as well. My problem was not being able to concentrate. I had cs and ds all of high school. But then I went to a private college whom accepted me right away (Baker is amazing). As soon as my classes started something just 'clicked' and I was doing amazing. I passed COLLEGE classes with As. Why? It was different. It was personal. I wanted to learn and it was taught differently. I also learned some skills on how I learn the best.
Trust me, college is different. You may enjoy it. Just focus. Remember that some classes require more work than others. But when you want something so bad, youll be surprised what potential you have that youve never seen before.
Have faith and good luck

[Planet Karma]

h e l p.
um alright so, my dad has been getting really ill with me lately?? Im trying my best to make him happy but i always end up screwing something up, which makes him go back to practically hating me or thats at least what it feels like... I constantly feel like a failure to my family and that i have all these problems that they see, but i dont. Not to mention i have the worst kidney infection which is driving me i n s a n e. I havent told anybody, but i honestly cry myself to sleep a lot because of how badly it hurts. could i please get a PM?... i really want to talk to somebody..

First off, see a doctor. A kidney infection is an emergency. Your kidney could shut down and the infection could go to your heart.
Secondly, if this has been going on only lately, then there may be something unforseen that your father is dealing with. Be patient and try to talk about it. Have a heart to heart. Communication is so important for healthy relationships.
PM me if you need someone.

[Chihiro Fujisaki]

Hello, I'm not really sure if this is the place to post this but I really need some clarity and just someone to talk to about this.

So for a while now I've been worried that I've developed anxiety, most likely social or existential. I've only told my parents so far but they just tell me its because of school and that its not a problem. But, I really feel like its not just that. Personally going anywhere alone is the worst, its as if everyone is judging me or out to get me. I'm worried to tell a teacher because when I'm at school I'm actually rather happy. I've only told a few people because I hate getting anything wrong and that's why I don't ask about things very often. I'd just like to know what someone else would say, I'd also love to talk to someone.

Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to help.

[Pyjaks]

Hello, I'm not really sure if this is the place to post this but I really need some clarity and just someone to talk to about this.

So for a while now I've been worried that I've developed anxiety, most likely social or existential. I've only told my parents so far but they just tell me its because of school and that its not a problem. But, I really feel like its not just that. Personally going anywhere alone is the worst, its as if everyone is judging me or out to get me. I'm worried to tell a teacher because when I'm at school I'm actually rather happy. I've only told a few people because I hate getting anything wrong and that's why I don't ask about things very often. I'd just like to know what someone else would say, I'd also love to talk to someone.

Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to help.

Could you maybe talk to a guidance counselor? They know how to deal with problems like anxiety and maybe could help you approach the topic with your parents in a way that makes them understand its more serious than just issues with school.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Anxiety is tough. I hope you can find the support you need from your parents and others in your life!

[Planet Karma]

Hello, I'm not really sure if this is the place to post this but I really need some clarity and just someone to talk to about this.

So for a while now I've been worried that I've developed anxiety, most likely social or existential. I've only told my parents so far but they just tell me its because of school and that its not a problem. But, I really feel like its not just that. Personally going anywhere alone is the worst, its as if everyone is judging me or out to get me. I'm worried to tell a teacher because when I'm at school I'm actually rather happy. I've only told a few people because I hate getting anything wrong and that's why I don't ask about things very often. I'd just like to know what someone else would say, I'd also love to talk to someone.

Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to help.

I'm here to tell you it's going to be okay. To be honest, anxiety in high school isn't uncommon. Many people hide it and face the same thing. I had severe anxiety in high school. But I pushed myself and I learned to deal with it without any medication. I noticed as I got older after high school that it isn't so bad. I've become comfortable socially. Talk to a close friend. You will relate in so many ways and you will find you aren't alone.

[skypoppy]

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to help you smile:
list of little things - list of little things to help make you smile and be happy
cutest - cutest tumblr to help with your self esteem
smile things - cute colours and tumblr page to help you out
adorable - basically another tumblr that does the same as the ones above

to help you with anything else / distractions:
emergency compliments - if you ever feel poo, and nothing seems to cheer you up, this site is full of 'emergency compliments' which can make you laugh at how ridiculously brilliant they are.
automatic flatterer - you know what's cute about this? you put in your name, nickname, whatever (it doesn't save it) and it pays you compliment after compliment after compliment. it's the cutest idea ever.
the dawn room - do what it says. after doing that, loads of encouraging messages will come your way!
hugs - hugs is all i have to say.
thunderstorms - control them!<3
beautiful places - if you're looking for a sign, this is it. set a goal to visit one of these places. don't change that goal. you won't regret it.
how to change your life - just read it. it's amazing. too good.
player two - if you're feeling hurt or upset, visit here. it's a game. it's good.
koalas - if you're in need of a distraction that lasts a good five minutes, play this. it's fun, and if you love koalas it's even better!
stick man game - good distraction with a hopefuly message i made at the end!
just say yes - this blog was made by zoella and good for anyone who suffer with anxiety disorder, have panic attacks, depression, have social anxiety or are just a very negative or shy person this may be good for you!
random acts of kindness (video) - may make you feel all warm and gooey at how kind people are
list of things for those having a bad day!
more bad day remedies - is similar to the one above
how to love yourself - if you struggle with self esteem, pleasep lease read <3
quiet room - one of my favourite places <3
comfort box - i highly recommend looking at this because it's the most amazing idea i've ever seen
ground box - similar to the one above

to help you with panic attacks:
i have loads of things (breath with it) that can help with your anxiety and panic attacks.

facts !!!!:
what not to say !!! - to someone who is having a panic attack, do not say these things
facts- if you're confused about a few things

i've also made a tumblr! you can message me anonomysouly on there for advice if you don't want to post here. i also will start reblogging things (nothing triggering or sad !) so if you ever need someone, you can go to me on there! http://happinesscomeswithnoregrets.tumblr.com/

Just bringing this up as it has helped me SO much!! I suggest looking through.

[alien girl.]

This week everything is going crazy, my family was super chill before new years, but now it seems that they can't even take a minute to breathe
They have been throwing lots of stuff on me to do, yesterday I had to put away all the christmas decoration, schedule many things on the phone (and I HATE talking on the phone, it makes me so tired and stressed... a single call makes me feel like I had to work out the whole day) and get the house ready for the visits
Today I almost had to get a blood test and I couldn't get almost anything because I almost passed out and the girl had to stop, my parents are screaming at me to find somewhere else to do the test, telling me to find colleges that are taking applications, making me get the house ready for their fancy dinner and I'll have to serve everyone tonight
My aunt came by today to give me a lecture and argue with me because I hate to go out and haven't left the house in a while
So what? It's my life, my free time, if YOU like to go to the mall and do nothing that's YOUR problem. I'd rather stay at home watching movies. I hate you. I hate you so much. Why can't you at least try to understand me? I already spent some days doing what you want, all I ask is for a few days to be myself

Ah, I see the problem here. Your schedule is time-consuming, Right? This is leading you to stress. It's a good choice that you are trying to have more alone time. I suggest talking about to some people you are close to and you trust about this dilemma. Perhaps they can do something about it and clear out the things you need to do. Now, About the lecture with your Aunt. You should tell her what you personally want and need to do now, Which in this case is to stay at home. She knowing what your needs are is going to stop you two from fighting in the future and further confusion. Remember, You have the rights to speak out about what's stressing you.
Best regards,
Pastel

[.zombie]

id love some help please.

i had an english essay due about a month back, about the book The Odyssey, and how Odysseus portrayed the actions of a character blah blah. i have barely started it, since i didnt understand how to write all the information out on paper [the information that i dont have ugh.] so now im here, a month after the due date, still trying to figure out what to write. i want to ask my teacher if i could stay after school, but im so anxious because its been a month and i havent even confronted her about it. Im worried she'll get angry or disappointed.?? Aghh i keep on telling myself ill do it but then anxiety kicks in again

[stormzien]

Someone to talk to please?

i have been getting lots of hate recently on my art and its driving me insane of how rude people can be. Plus the person on her constantly hating and bullying me. Im also getting bullied on my bus and kids are pointing me out and i always sit alone because i have not friends that ride my bus really.

[*Infinity*]

[center][size=85]id love some help please.

i had an english essay due about a month back, about the book The Odyssey, and how Odysseus portrayed the actions of a character blah blah. i have never done the essay and i have barely started it, since i didnt understand how to write all the information out on paper [the information that i dont have ugh.] so now im here, a month after the due date, still trying to figure out what to write. i want to ask my teacher if i could stay after school, but im so anxious because its been a month and i havent even confronted her about it. i feel as if i could right down what i have, but what would be the use if i got a bad grade? im already almost failing, due to the tests and the quizzes i didnt study for.. and now this. if anyone has been taught about The Odyssey, id

First off, the assignment never done is by definition the failing one.

That said, talk to your teacher. You'll probably get points off because its late, but I know from some of my own assignments in the past, if it's too late, you'll get minimum points just by completing it, no matter how bad it is. Some points are better than no points.

Once you are done with that assignment, see if you can make up your missed points by doing extra credit work. If writing assignments are your weakness, see if you can work on more of those - it will make up your points, get you the respect of your teacher, and teach you a valuable skill (yes, writing essays and reports are valuable skills for real life!).

If it's the material you are having trouble with (The Odyssey), see if you can do your report on a different piece of work. The story of the Odyssey is the story of the Hero's Journey. Anything that involves a Hero's Journey (Divergent, Hunger Games, Harry Potter, Eragon, Kung Fu Panda, etc.) is the same story, repackaged. The fact that every since one of them experiences loss because of their ego is just a retelling of Odysseus' journey.

I write my essays the same way I speak, so try that. If it helps, record what you're going to say, then listen to it play back and use that to write. If you can get a hold of voice recognition software (i.e., Dragon) you can speak your whole essay and it'll auto-type it for you. Or, you can try a novel approach. Text your essay in bits and pieces, like a social media post, and print that off. You may get extra points for being creative, who knows!

I know you have an amazing essay in you, all you have to do is unleash your imagination and go for it!