Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[provolone]

Okay, I'm torn between two guys... Middle school life makes it too hard to choose :c

Vince is amazing, but so is Jordan.

I guess I should make a list?


Vince: He's really nice, and quite a jokester. (Though most of the jokes are so inapropriate xD) And we get along okay. But today he was upset about something, and I'm not sure what. He left during 6th hour, and I'm worried it had something to do with his diabetes. Probably not, and I hope it wasn't. He is fun to hang with, but he's the 'popular' one, and has a 9th grader girlfriend. Everybody likes him, and I have no chances.

Jordan: He's really nice to me, but I think he has a girlfriend. Unless I was imagining. He cheers me on in softball during gym class, we talk quite alot, and we can be really good parteners. Even when I'm down, he makes me feel better. I wonder why he's so nice, even though he declined my asking? Maybe because he's just feeling okay around me now, or maybe I was too forward and a little too cliche asking him, when he should've asked me if he wanted..

Maybe next year I can decide who I really like the most.

But..

I'm so torn right now. Help?

I'd go with Jordan, if Vince has a girlfriend it might be harder to get him, and Jordan seems nicer.

Okay wait. Vince is off-limits. Not harder to get. Off limits. You can like him for sure, but don't flirt with him, and don't try and get him to like you back. Girls always flirted with my boyfriend when we dated, and him being probably one of the best boyfriends ever, was totally disinterested. She flirted, he shut the door between them. I hated when girls flirted, but him trusted enough that I knew nothing would happen. I don't know Vince so I can't say he'll stay loyal to her or not. Don't tempt him.

Same for Jordan. Find out if he has a girlfriend or not. If he does, you can't flirt with him. I don't mean to be coming off as harsh, but imagine it from a girlfriends side. Other girls flirting with your boyfriend would make you mad right? Right.

[garnet.]

I need some/an opinion here guys.

Okay, there's this girl I like. We have a strange friendship, we like to tease/insult each other jokily. Well more I insult her, she teases me. But we both know we don't mean it and we get on really well I think. We aren't in the same form and we don't hug (no time between lessons) and I really like her so I might just be imagining stuff.
This first thing was weeks ago. She awwwwed at me, multiple times. I don't know if that's just her or what or whatever but it happened. She awed at the thought of four year old me being read Harry Potter in the bathtub (don't ask) and at the fact I was bisexual and liked someone two years older than me.
Secondly, we talk quite a lot. The way we sit in maths though, she has to turn around and, though I'm not sure she fully needs to do this, when she's talking to me, she leans right back and turns her shoulders toward me. She smiles and her eyes seem to glisten a little
Thirdly, staring. Mostly, we're in awkward positions to catch each other staring (as in it's impossible to most of the time due to seating) as either I'm behind her and she can't see me or the other way around, so if this happens quite a lot when I'm in front and she's behind, that would change things. However, twice, I am sure I've caught her staring at me. There is a possibility that I've caught her other times but I'm not sure with those. The first, our whole band was in the main school hall being reset for PE. She was nearer the front than me, so should have been facing the front. I looked toward her and I swear she was looking at me. I swear. It really did look like it, she was turned in my direction. The second, we were in a different maths seating plan that we have once a week, I'm in front, she's behind, and as I was talking to the person next to me, out of the corner of my eye, I think I saw her staring or at least looking at me.
Finally (for now), we were in maths on thursday and I was commenting on how the weather was perfect and beautiful, and my favourite temperature and she said. 'That's so cute.' which was completely unexpected. I couldn't believe it!
Any opinions are well appreciated!
Sorry it's so long >3<

We were in the maths room with a different seating plan today and I'm sure I saw her looking at me again. I don't know if I'm just imagining things or not. I've never heard her call anyone else cute before, or tease anyone really, let alone the adorable way she teases me. Help is still appreciated here but that's not my only problem.

I feel weird, the way I like her. It feels so strong and even though I've liked her just under two months, the way I feel just seems so strong. Every time I see her, I feel butterflys and feel light headed, every time she smiles at me, I want to explode. Being away from her really, really hurts. She is beginning to distract me to the point where my brain can not fully function in the proper way it should. I'm not thinking properly, I can't concentrate, even when I'm not in a lesson with her in it. But when I am, it's so much worse. I just want to laugh with her and talk to her and smile with her. I think I might be in love with her but is it too early to say that? I feel like I do but it seems so sudden and fast and I don't know if I am or if I'm not or what and it's scary.

Th bottom bit of the last quote doesn't matter too much but I want to know if anyone thinks she likes me or not. I have missed out quite a few details so if you want, could you pm me and maybe ask some questions? I need help

[Taako]

Okay, so a couple weeks ago this guy, welts call him S, snuck up behind me and just started to brush my hair. Then he asked me if I could come to his church. I said I couldn't that Sunday. He kept trying to convince me of different days, but I didn't have the heart to tell him that I don't really go to church because I don't believe in everything in the Bible. Plus, I don't even know exactly what religions he is! He is always talking to me, and I don't know if he likes me. Does he? I used to have a crush in him, but then I didn't, and I think I might. But, I don't know if he feels the same. Any advice is appreciated.

[grim.]

I have two questions for you people today. If this is the wrong thread, please direct my attention elsewhere. Thank you!

I feel as thought this belongs here as I do still love the person in question.
"I have a question for you people regarding drunk people. So I have an ex boyfriend who lives in the next province over, we text each other and we're pretty much best friends. But anyways, he calls me the other night and he's drunk out of his tree. But he talks to me the whole time he's with his friends, introduces them to me and whatnot. Anyways, getting to the point he kept saying "I miss you" and when we finally ended our conversation he said the words "I love you". I don't take these words lightly, but my friend is convinced he still cares about me, yet at the same time I wonder about it because, well, he was drunk. Any advice or tips?"

Secondly:
Okay, so I like another boy, now my friend is convinced he likes me, I on the other hand am completely convinced that he thinks I'm bat-s**t crazy, which I proudly am. So here is my story/question;
So I walk my friend partway to her bus, she gets on and I just kind of stand outside my school awkwardly waiting for my brother. While I'm waiting I notice 'Crisp' (guy I like) sitting at one of the tables not far away. Anyways this guy 'Cy' comes out of the school with 'Bish' and 'Cable'(Cable being Crisp's brother). These three guys come out of the school and they're talking to me, asking me for a lighter. I don't have one so Cy and Bish take off and just as they leave Crisp comes up to me and Cable, gestures towards me slightly and says; "that's who I was telling you about."
Now, what do I make of this?

usually people are nore honest when drunk, I've found. they say things they wouldn't dare sober, and find it difficult to lie. they do usually get more emotional and"caring" I guess you could say though. I don't know really, it could depend on what he is like drunk, some say they love everyone, some don't

That much I understood about drunk people, I know that when I drink I tend to turn into quite a jerk, even to people I like. I'm only nice to people I really care about. I haven't really drank with him before, but he does seem to get emotional the few times I have seen him drink, but more towards himself and not the people around him. Tending to focus on the more bitter aspects of life. However he could have changed since he moved, but I don't know for sure.
Anyone have any other advice on either topic?

[~Divergent<3~]

Hey everyone so I have some issues. Well I have liked this guy for a super long time, and haven't told any of my friends, not even my best friend cause things like this she can't seem to keep her mouth shut. Well anyway a week ago I was deciding if I should tell her or not. Well she ended up telling me that she likes him before I could tell her that I like him. So now whenever I talk/hangout or something with him she always tries o join in. Like the other day she told me to back off in a friendship best friend way. She still doesn't know I like him.... I am just scared she will end up dating him...the thing is is that he flirts with me...but now he doesn't as much since my best friend. And we have a huge trip in my school this weekend to a whole new state and such so maybe I could interact or do something there. I don't know I need help

[.d r o p d e a d.]

This is going to seem ridiculous.


^^ This is me and my current boyfriend, Tini. ^^
He's one of the best people in my life right now, and he used to be my best friend before we started to date.
We met three years ago, and we hated each other for a year and a half, until we recently started to talk again and
we both realized that we were too quick to judge each other, especially because we'd barely talked.
Anyways, we've been dating for a week now, and we are going to kiss soon. We were going to today, but I was nervous
and awkward and I kept giggling and making awful faces. I need to know how to calm my nerves, and just do it. I'm
always like this with boyfriends for the first kiss and it's really bad and I need to get over it. Tips and tricks, please?
Also, I'm kind of awkward around his friends, is there any way I can kind of make myself 'one of the guys' (without all
of the dirt, burping, and other stereotypical stuff,) while they're around?

[garnet.]

I need some/an opinion here guys.

Okay, there's this girl I like. We have a strange friendship, we like to tease/insult each other jokily. Well more I insult her, she teases me. But we both know we don't mean it and we get on really well I think. We aren't in the same form and we don't hug (no time between lessons) and I really like her so I might just be imagining stuff.
This first thing was weeks ago. She awwwwed at me, multiple times. I don't know if that's just her or what or whatever but it happened. She awed at the thought of four year old me being read Harry Potter in the bathtub (don't ask) and at the fact I was bisexual and liked someone two years older than me.
Secondly, we talk quite a lot. The way we sit in maths though, she has to turn around and, though I'm not sure she fully needs to do this, when she's talking to me, she leans right back and turns her shoulders toward me. She smiles and her eyes seem to glisten a little
Thirdly, staring. Mostly, we're in awkward positions to catch each other staring (as in it's impossible to most of the time due to seating) as either I'm behind her and she can't see me or the other way around, so if this happens quite a lot when I'm in front and she's behind, that would change things. However, twice, I am sure I've caught her staring at me. There is a possibility that I've caught her other times but I'm not sure with those. The first, our whole band was in the main school hall being reset for PE. She was nearer the front than me, so should have been facing the front. I looked toward her and I swear she was looking at me. I swear. It really did look like it, she was turned in my direction. The second, we were in a different maths seating plan that we have once a week, I'm in front, she's behind, and as I was talking to the person next to me, out of the corner of my eye, I think I saw her staring or at least looking at me.
Finally (for now), we were in maths on thursday and I was commenting on how the weather was perfect and beautiful, and my favourite temperature and she said. 'That's so cute.' which was completely unexpected. I couldn't believe it!
Any opinions are well appreciated!
Sorry it's so long >3<

We were in the maths room with a different seating plan today and I'm sure I saw her looking at me again. I don't know if I'm just imagining things or not. I've never heard her call anyone else cute before, or tease anyone really, let alone the adorable way she teases me. Help is still appreciated here but that's not my only problem.

I feel weird, the way I like her. It feels so strong and even though I've liked her just under two months, the way I feel just seems so strong. Every time I see her, I feel butterflys and feel light headed, every time she smiles at me, I want to explode. Being away from her really, really hurts. She is beginning to distract me to the point where my brain can not fully function in the proper way it should. I'm not thinking properly, I can't concentrate, even when I'm not in a lesson with her in it. But when I am, it's so much worse. I just want to laugh with her and talk to her and smile with her. I think I might be in love with her but is it too early to say that? I feel like I do but it seems so sudden and fast and I don't know if I am or if I'm not or what and it's scary.

Th bottom bit of the last quote doesn't matter too much but I want to know if anyone thinks she likes me or not. I have missed out quite a few details so if you want, could you pm me and maybe ask some questions? I need help

[meowool]

Okay, so a couple weeks ago this guy, welts call him S, snuck up behind me and just started to brush my hair. Then he asked me if I could come to his church. I said I couldn't that Sunday. He kept trying to convince me of different days, but I didn't have the heart to tell him that I don't really go to church because I don't believe in everything in the Bible. Plus, I don't even know exactly what religions he is! He is always talking to me, and I don't know if he likes me. Does he? I used to have a crush in him, but then I didn't, and I think I might. But, I don't know if he feels the same. Any advice is appreciated.

you can still go to church, even if you aren't religious,and if they do sermons there then you dont have to believe in it. Just go along and see what happens.

[Malédiction]

For anyone who is interested, this Saturday will be the 2 month anniversary with my boyfriend. So happy we could make it work.

But that's not why I was here, I have a question. I'm grateful to anyone who takes the time to read this and answer my question, but I understand if you don't have an answer. So, my question is: Is it normal for your boyfriend to be jealous of a guy he's never met? And he doesn't even know his real name... So here's the story.

Near the end of November, when Jackals and I actually started talking more often, his hockey team wanted to play truth or dare with me. I said no, because I really wasn't in the mood to, but then they asked me who I liked. I didn't answer them, because I knew it wasn't him, but after that he asked me who I liked. I made him promise to tell me who he likes first, so when he did I had to say who I liked. I was freaking out because he had said some girl's name, so I used the first code name that my friends and I used that popped in my head. Cole, a codename for a family friend of mine which who all of my friends think he's hot. But, when my friends texted him, they would rant about him all the time like Oh My God, he's so hot. He's so amazing, and stuff like that. Recently, I went to a party and he asked me if any guys were there. His response when I said yes pretty much dropped with jealousy, even though it was through text. I never once mentioned anything about Cole, except that I 'liked' him like 4 months ago, and he was like; Are any of them as hot as Cole?... I like freaked because I never once said anything about him being hot, never once even mentioned him in 4 months. The last time I ever spoke about him to him was near the end of November, do you think he's been holding a grudge over him ever since? And when my friend mentioned him while I was with Jackals like maybe 1 or 2 weeks ago, I would've sworn he was going kill someone with his eyes at that precise moment. The problem is, he never met Cole... Is it normal that he's so jealous of my friend? I mean, sure we talk, but it's not that 'Oh, yeah, Cole's my best friend.' kind of thing. I never say anything about Cole when he's around, and the only time I actually say anything about him is at school when I see him and my friends pretty much start drooling over him and having heart attacks.

[jetlag]

Okay, so a little update on the guy I like
Today we had to do a project
and he asked for my help to do something, instead of the girl sitting right next to him which was slightly odd
but our hands touched a lot
also
he told me the other day, that he noticed that I say "okay" a lot
{ I've noticed I do, whenever someone tells me to do something or if I sit down at a table, i often just say "okay" and then follow with "let's do...blah blah" - it's not some weird speech thing, it's just sort of a habit } anyway... he NOTICED? Like, he had to be paying kind of close attention to me to notice something like that.
he does seem to smile and make eye contact with me a lot, but unfortunately I find myself getting kind of nervous around him and slip on my words or make a mindless mistake in whatever we're working on, ect, and it's just..annoying/embarrassing..
Also, I blush REALLY easily. Even the slightest thing can make me a little red in the cheeks and it's just..ugh.
I can't help it.

so yep that's my rant. if anyone has any tips, opinions, anything - please mention. ~ (:

thanks for the reply to the user who re-posted it. [can't remember name, but thank you <3]

anyways, i'm going to try to be as straight forward as possible.
so, how do you tell a guy you do not know very well that you like him?
like word phrasing suggestions would be great; especially not awkward ones.
also, although i go to an all-girls school, a lot of the guys from our brother school [where my crush goes], are asking girls to prom in such cute ways.
i wish someone would ask me, too.

I totally feel your pain with the whole prom thing. Gah, it's so cute. I've had multiple people get asked right in front of me in the most adorable ways. But hey, if it happens for you then it happens and congrats! If not, it won't matter in 10 years anyway!

Anyway..telling a guy you like him. Hm. I'm probably that one girl that when she likes a guy, I beat around the bush until he has no choice but to come out and say he likes me first because I drop so many obvious hints. xD
So in my opinion, asking him first if he likes someone, in almost a joking way may get him to admit something, or at least get on the topic so that you can kind of ease into what you want to say. The best way to do this is act like you don't even know what awkward is- like if a conversation drops off in a really odd time, just pick it back up and act like it never happened. That's what I do, and everything seems to work out. Also, if you mess up and say something and by chance get rejected or something along those lines, just play it off like you were just messing with them.

But back to the actual statement of saying that you like them, you could just flat out say. "You know I like you, right?" or "I like you." If you wanted to be really bold. Depending on the guy, they might give you huge kudos and be all over you for being so bold! But if you don't want to do something like that, then maybe say something like.. "I bet you can't guess who I like." and see what they say. Sometimes though, saying that you like someone isn't exactly necessary. Sometimes it shows more in actions, and other gestures and words that you don't even need to say it for them to ask you out!
Either way I hope all goes well. (:

So I like this guy and he's kind of sending me mixed signals. It often seems like he's trying to ignore me (I know he doesn't hate me), but them he'll randomly make an awkward attempt at conversation. I see him talking to other girls and he's normal, but around me he's like extra awkward or shy or something.
Anyone know what could be the cause?

Anyone?

Oh, I bet he likes you! Sometimes guys really don't know how to act around a girl that they like. They don't know what to say, how often they should look at you and he's probably thinking "oh gosh I hope she doesn't think I'm weird. I better not say blah blah ect ect". I'd simply just be really sweet to him, and initiate conversation, trying to hold some eye contact and smiling. Hopefully he'll loosen up a bit more. Best of luck to you! (: