Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[ephemeral.light]

Oh yeah, Rated R, re-posting this from before:

help me please. read what i've written here

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my emotions are everywhere right now.

just going to re-drop this here.
i totally understand if you have no advice whatsoever.
sometimes it's just life, i guess.

Aww, I'm sorry... =(

Well, I would say that the best thing to do is probably to get as comfortable around him as possible. If you can't tell him how you feel right now then just remain his friend and talk to him (I'm not sure how difficult that would be in your situation though). It may be scary, but you don't have to do it alone. Maybe just hang around his group of friends and find common interests that you share which a conversation could be started upon.

And another thing you could do if you really wanted to know if he liked you. If you have a mutual friend, you could also consider sending him/her to talk to this person and saying something along the lines of "hey, don't tell ___ I asked you this, but do you like her?" Or if you think that that's a bit abrupt, you could change it around a bit and word it differently. xD But as a forewarning, if you do decide to do something like this, only choose a friend you really do trust. Another thing you could do is to talk to this person through text or another media like Facebook, assuming they have one. Doing that also may also help increase the comfort level, but remember that an online relationship can never replace an actual one in real life. So although these things may help, I would still suggest talking to him in person.

I really hope this helps and good luck. <3 If you have any more questions or anything, please feel free to PM me.

hello c:
so I need some advice, you can pm me or just post here I don't mind.

a couple of weeks ago this really cute guy came from Germany. he is in my algebra class.
me and friend like him, and she sits fairly close to him, and I'm farther away.
so today in class he was talking to her and passing her notes, and of course I
made it look like I didn't care but I do. I mean I have never had a boyfriend, and no one has ever
liked me before. everyone says I'm pretty (just girls though) and are surprised I don't have
a boyfriend. I am mainly shy talking to guys and am not the obnoxious type.
but I really want to get his attention, any ideas?

thanks c:

The best way to get his attention would be to talk to him. Go up and have a conversation with him; ask him about his interests and hobbies, then find some common ground of something which both of you like and build on that. c: Or you could ask him about algebra homework, or ask him if he wants to work together or study with you after school or something. If you're shy around guys [it can be scary talking to them; I've been there too :3] then maybe join your friend while she's in a conversation with him. It's never as bad when it's a group conversation, and you can still get to know him at least as a close friend in that way.

[Frosttheleopard]

Any advice for this girl? I think this boy I used to like, I'll call him E, likes me now. Whenever I look up at him, he is looking at me. He always tries to get my attention, whether its poking me, saying my name, or even just talking to me. When in gym and sitting near the whiteboard he sits behind me and pokes me in the back with his foot or near/next to me. When we sit next to eachother, he always talks to me and a lot. Is it possible he likes me? He had his chance earlier in the year, and he blew it. What I'm most worried about is if I still like him. I'm so comfortable yet nervous around him. I stutter and I mumble, and I always feel like I'm blushing. The thing is, next year we are going to different schools. Help?

[dead poets society]

I just want to know how to approach guys. I'm very very nervous around them, and when I tell myself I'm going to talk to them, I usually don't, and when I do, I feel really awkward. Please help?

[hoglolly]

Sorry if this doesn't belong here.
So to start off, I have a bf. He means the world to me and I honestly can't imagine my life without him. Despite being still in highschool we are both sure we love each other and have even talked about our future together aka getting married after highschool.
Now earlier this year we got a new kid who starting hanging out with my group of friends. We are really close and talk about EVERYTHING together. We haven't been friends very long but he is like my best friend. Problem is that he has a huge crush on me. Lately he has been making comments that make my boyfriend uncomfortable and getting way to close/touchy with me. I make it into a joke with him because if I don't I feel really awkward.
I want to tell him to back off but we are such good friends and I don't want to screw that up, especially since I haven't been good at keeping friends in the past. How can I talk to him without making him upset?

[greysilence]

Woo, more posting about Coty. -.-

I could see him just blantantly glancing at me. So I glanced at him, and we made awkward eye contact. I looked away too fast before I could see his reaction. Gahh, he just confuses me so much.

[panhead]

Alright. Here's my situation. Sorta simple, and really recent.

There's this boy lets call him E. He caught my attention last year but I really didn't like him. This year however it just hit me I love him.
He knows my name and he would talk to me like once a week and it would just be something like "ah!" When I pretended to hit him upside the head with my science binder...not even like a sentence just...yeah.
So I was talking to my friend (call him Z) and Z Said, ill talk to E for you. If you like him that much! He's my best friend!

Ok so today in science Z talked to E and Z said "what is ___<-my name to you? What is she appear to you as?" E said "nice...not angry" (I laughed at that part) So then Z told E that I liked him.

The only problem is that Z told me that E had a crush on an eighth grader but he hasn't made a move yet.

This kid is really really nice. He plays soccer and he's a nerd. He isn't rude he doesn't cuss or anything and he is just plain awesome.

I would really like there to be something between us even if it was just friendship but I have no clue where to start seeing as I only have one class with him and I literally sit all the way across the room with my back turned to him. His names Ethan...getting tired of writing E...


Help.

Perks.(call me perky)

[Pongo.]

I don't even know myself anymore! I like this guy, and now I want nothing to do with him, just out of no where my brain (or heart) is all like, no. don't talk to him, you don't like him >.< but I just don't know. also, I want to be in a relationship, but at the same time I don't want to be. im just confusing myself all the time!

[provolone]

I don't even know myself anymore! I like this guy, and now I want nothing to do with him, just out of no where my brain (or heart) is all like, no. don't talk to him, you don't like him >.< but I just don't know. also, I want to be in a relationship, but at the same time I don't want to be. im just confusing myself all the time!

This is a really confusing time. I know, I've been there. You need to know that being in a relationship won't solve your problems. It's not the only happy thing in life. You don't have to be in a relationship with someone to be happy. My friend thinks that if she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's not popular, she's forever alone, she has no self esteem. Don't be like her. If you have doubts about him, he's no good. You have to trust your heart with this. I'm sure he's a great guy, but why risk the heartbreak if you know in the end it's not meant to be?

[thunderofthedrum]

I don't even know myself anymore! I like this guy, and now I want nothing to do with him, just out of no where my brain (or heart) is all like, no. don't talk to him, you don't like him >.< but I just don't know. also, I want to be in a relationship, but at the same time I don't want to be. im just confusing myself all the time!

This is a really confusing time. I know, I've been there. You need to know that being in a relationship won't solve your problems. It's not the only happy thing in life. You don't have to be in a relationship with someone to be happy. My friend thinks that if she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's not popular, she's forever alone, she has no self esteem. Don't be like her. If you have doubts about him, he's no good. You have to trust your heart with this. I'm sure he's a great guy, but why risk the heartbreak if you know in the end it's not meant to be?

Also, being in a relationship brings on a whole different set of issues. Is he happy? Is he too popular for me? Is he talking to Shelly too much? Why can't he wear deoderant more often? Why doesn't he back off about my diet? Why doesn't he understand that my grades are very important to me? Why doesn't he see that I nag because I care? How do I fit seeing him into my schedule? How do I convince my parents he's a good guy? Why doesn't my friend admit she likes him because she always flirts with him? Will he like my new haircut? Will he think I'm being too forward if I wear a low-cut shirt? Why did he threaten to break up with me, did he really mean it?

Yikes.

No, it's not always like that. But you have to realise that when you date someone, especially someone you don't know very well, it DOES open up the door for all kind of issues. After all, you don't become friends with someone just because they're pretty - you get to know them gradually. There's more pressure on dating because it can become gossip, it can be envious, it can stir up drama - it all just seems more official.

Dude, I felt so weird when my boyfriend changed his facebook status to say he's in a relationship with me. I was like "Omgggggg people are going to SEE this and KNOW." It just.. doesn't feel as private as relationships as friends or family.

[ephemeral.light]

Any advice for this girl? I think this boy I used to like, I'll call him E, likes me now. Whenever I look up at him, he is looking at me. He always tries to get my attention, whether its poking me, saying my name, or even just talking to me. When in gym and sitting near the whiteboard he sits behind me and pokes me in the back with his foot or near/next to me. When we sit next to eachother, he always talks to me and a lot. Is it possible he likes me? He had his chance earlier in the year, and he blew it. What I'm most worried about is if I still like him. I'm so comfortable yet nervous around him. I stutter and I mumble, and I always feel like I'm blushing. The thing is, next year we are going to different schools. Help?

Well, it seems like he does like you by the things he does, but you should also take into account the way he acts around other girls and people in general. You never know, he could just be friendly in general and do that to everyone. I'm sorry that I can't really help with the nervousness around him. :3 A lot of people are nervous around people they like and behave differently. Just try to loosen up, and don't think so much that he'll judge you or remember it if you blush. If it makes you feel better, try going up to talk to him with a friend. It'll make things a lot less scary. ^^ For you guys going to different schools, I'm not going to lie, but it does make things a little harder. If you guys can still see each other periodically or can communicate through other means then you should be fine though.

I hope I helped! ^^

Alright. Here's my situation. Sorta simple, and really recent.

There's this boy lets call him E. He caught my attention last year but I really didn't like him. This year however it just hit me I love him.
He knows my name and he would talk to me like once a week and it would just be something like "ah!" When I pretended to hit him upside the head with my science binder...not even like a sentence just...yeah.
So I was talking to my friend (call him Z) and Z Said, ill talk to E for you. If you like him that much! He's my best friend!

Ok so today in science Z talked to E and Z said "what is ___<-my name to you? What is she appear to you as?" E said "nice...not angry" (I laughed at that part) So then Z told E that I liked him.

The only problem is that Z told me that E had a crush on an eighth grader but he hasn't made a move yet.

This kid is really really nice. He plays soccer and he's a nerd. He isn't rude he doesn't cuss or anything and he is just plain awesome.

I would really like there to be something between us even if it was just friendship but I have no clue where to start seeing as I only have one class with him and I literally sit all the way across the room with my back turned to him. His names Ethan...getting tired of writing E...


Help.

Perks.(call me perky)

You should go and talk to him! ^^ If he hangs out with Z during free period or lunch you could go up and join in the conversation, and it wouldn't be awkward either since you know Z. If you see him walking down the hallways you could also say hi and give him a quick wave. Act happy, basically, and if neither of you are in a rush, you could start up a small conversation about school or some common interests.