Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[pumpkin.]

so, I like this guy (oh really, wouldn't have guessed, casualty, it's not like you're on the "crushes, boyfriends, and girlfriends" thread or anything), or at least I think I do. the thing is, I've never had a full one-x-one conversation with him before. I really enjoy his demeanor though, and from what I've picked up from our sort-of-talking, he's comical and just over-all fun to be around. I'm two years younger than him though, and don't go to the same school as him at the moment, so the only way I can see him is at marching band, which is unfortunately ending in a couple of weeks, which means I won't see him for approximately eight months afterward. I want to establish a friendship with him, but my social anxiety keeps getting in the way, as well as my low self-confidence. I don't see why he'd be interested in me, as I'm two years younger than him and not the prettiest person, but I can't help but wonder. I mean, that's natural, right? I liked the same person for three years up until about a year ago, so I can't precisely recall how to deal with these feelings and what any of them mean. I catch him glancing at me occasionally, and my friends say that he looks over sometimes without me realizing it; I also make eye contact with him quite often nowadays, and the first time this happened I swear his eyes widened a bit. but how could he be interested in me if we've never had a full conversation before? then again, I guess that question is a bit hypocritical.

I truthfully have no idea what I'm blabbering about anymore. I'm really sorry, this is quite confusing, but I'd appreciate it if you could decipher what I'm trying to say and help me understand this myself.

[Beta]

so, I like this guy (oh really, wouldn't have guessed, casualty, it's not like you're on the "crushes, boyfriends, and girlfriends" thread or anything), or at least I think I do. the thing is, I've never had a full one-x-one conversation with him before. I really enjoy his demeanor though, and from what I've picked up from our sort-of-talking, he's comical and just over-all fun to be around. I'm two years younger than him though, and don't go to the same school as him at the moment, so the only way I can see him is at marching band, which is unfortunately ending in a couple of weeks, which means I won't see him for approximately eight months afterward. I want to establish a friendship with him, but my social anxiety keeps getting in the way, as well as my low self-confidence. I don't see why he'd be interested in me, as I'm two years younger than him and not the prettiest person, but I can't help but wonder. I mean, that's natural, right? I liked the same person for three years up until about a year ago, so I can't precisely recall how to deal with these feelings and what any of them mean. I catch him glancing at me occasionally, and my friends say that he looks over sometimes without me realizing it; I also make eye contact with him quite often nowadays, and the first time this happened I swear his eyes widened a bit. but how could he be interested in me if we've never had a full conversation before? then again, I guess that question is a bit hypocritical.

I truthfully have no idea what I'm blabbering about anymore. I'm really sorry, this is quite confusing, but I'd appreciate it if you could decipher what I'm trying to say and help me understand this myself.

Don't blame yourself. I've been in your position many times before. I wasn't the most attractive 13 year old and I had a lot of trouble with crushes. It always took me all of my courage to confess my feelings to said person and then I'd just get downright rejected. I remember having a crush on the same guy for roughly 5 years, talk about having trouble moving on. I wasn't socially inclined at all as a kid, I was shy and awkward, again what you're describing yourself as. If you want to develop a friendship with this boy I highly suggest you go for it! I kept myself sheltered and I didn't have many friends when I was young, which is something I regret. However, social anxiety can be defeated. I've blossomed into a woman who loves to meet new people, socialize and I don't feel uncomfortable about myself or my body anymore. I believe you're capable of talking to this boy that you like, because it's better than hiding in the shadows about it. So go on, give it a try! Go out of your comfort zone and dip your toes in the water, it's not all that bad once you get used to it.

[claws990p]

i have trust issues ...like bad ....im broken beyond repair and now my walls are falling down because of him ........ i want to give him my heat but what if he breaks it

What do you mean? ^-^ Did he do something to you? You say you like him, but he's also destroying you?
I'm sorry, I'm trying to help yet also failing to understand at the same time. >.> *facepalm*

im opening up to him but im so afraid hes gonna break my heart .....i love him though

[thunderofthedrum]

Love is a very strong word. If he's a new guy then I doubt you know him very well and the natural reaction is to fill in all the 'unknowns' with *perfection*, if that makes sense.

Also, yes - opening up makes you vulnerable. I'm sorry but that's part of life. It's something everyone has to struggle with.

[.rin okumura.]

Okay so I have a crush on this guy (Let's call him T) and I have liked him for a while. Now T is very athletic and plays football, wrestling, basketball and track. He also is in choir and band. Now here is the crazy part. So technically we are the same age, but because his parents held him back a year because that's what the state said was best to do, he is a grade lower than me. He and I both know each other well since we have homeroom together and I was his wrestling manager last year we get along pretty well. The problem is I have no idea how to talk to him even though we have some things in common but I just don't know how to get a convo started and keep it going.... Advice?

[bast,]

just a lil happy post here ^^

my boyfriend and i will have been together *for a year (oops i forgot to say that) november 30th, i'm super excited! we've been through a lot together(no major fights, all external factors), but we've held through. sadly, he's going out of the country on our anniversary cause his parents don't want to be here during thanksgiving weekend :c so we'll have to have our dinner date a week early or so. i'm knitting him a scarf for an anniversary present, cause he told me forever ago that he would find it adorable if i ever knitted him anything

but yeah, that's what's happening in my romantic life right now c:

[kierran.]

just a lil happy post here ^^

my boyfriend and i will have been together november 30th, i'm super excited! we've been through a lot together(no major fights, all external factors), but we've held through. sadly, he's going out of the country on our anniversary cause his parents don't want to be here during thanksgiving weekend :c so we'll have to have our dinner date a week early or so. i'm knitting him a scarf for an anniversary present, cause he told me forever ago that he would find it adorable if i ever knitted him anything

but yeah, that's what's happening in my romantic life right now c:

Aw I love hearing cute things like this ^.^

[Medusa72]

Love is a very strong word. If he's a new guy then I doubt you know him very well and the natural reaction is to fill in all the 'unknowns' with *perfection*, if that makes sense.

Also, yes - opening up makes you vulnerable. I'm sorry but that's part of life. It's something everyone has to struggle with.

This is inspirational to me. Thank you.
I've happened to have a crush (A bit on and off (more like me denying it.).) On the same guy for four years. And I've trying opening up over social media (Don't do that guys, something will eventually come across in the way the other person doesn't mean and you won't be able to see their facial expression to understand that... it's a mess.) But that just kind of ended.
I used to know him really well, but our families separated from the church we went to. (The only way I got to see him as we don't go to the same school.)
Sorry, little rant there.

[kavv]

so there was this guy who stayed at our house for a week, as part of a foreign exchange program. i really liked him -- he was so funny, and cute ( oh god his accent. ) he really made me happy. for a while i was going through this lost phase, and i don't know what it was about him, but he just made me feel really happy. he's gone now, but under all the natural gloom of saying goodbye, i'm a tiny bit glad he's gone. is that weird? i just have this feeling that he is a liar, and i want to remember him fondly, and cherish the memories that i have, without them being ruined. at the same time, of course, i'm very sad that he's gone. i mean, it seemed like we had so much in common. the same music, the same sense of humor, a love for scary movies... adhajfdahadfh. we saw this movie together, and we shared a popcorn, and then in the middle of the movie he knocked it over on me, and we just started laughing. that was probably the cutest thing ever. now i'm just going off.... oh well. i'm so glad i got to spend time with him. it kind of gives me hope that there is someone even better out there, you know? i can't wait for that.

[ಠ_ಠ]

i have been best friends with this girl for four years, and we have never fought. shes my best friend and i would take a bullet for her. i started to develop feelings for her, but im afraid if i ask her out, one: we're both girls and she might not be lesbian. two: i am afraid she wont feel the same way and it would ruin our friendship. any help would be amazing!