Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[kayynine]

Kind of venting, kind of need advice.

I'm just gonna start from the very beginning.
So, I have a huge crush on one of my guy-friends{j}. But, he's the cousin of my best friend{c}. j's best friend is my ex-boyfriend{o}. o used to go out with c and another one of my close friends{k}.

Anyways, I've had a crush on him for a while now. Last year, we had the same math class and that's where I met j. He sat across from me, and we became almost instant friends. Over time, I had a crush on j.
He would constantly try to get my attention, and we would flirt all the time. After school, he would walk me to the corner and say bye to each other.
We go to the same church, and we used to wave and make faces at each other when we got out of church.

So, time-skip to now.
We have no classes together, but our breaks and lunches are the same.
We don't talk, like, ever, but during both break and lunch he acts loud, which I assume is to get my attention and always makes excuses to come down near my group.
Not only that, but he stares or glances in my direction all the time, but when I go to look at him he looks away.
I know another one of my friends has a crush on him as well, but he doesn't really act interested.

And on Friday, I was in one of my classes and we went down to the library to type up some reports. I was in a seat behind the teacher, facing the opposite way.
J comes in, {I have my back to him} and asks the teacher if he can borrow a book. I didn't expect to hear him, so I practically jumped out of my chair, nearly tripping over myself in the process, and walk away to type up my report. I didn't know that I hit my teacher in the process, but I realized and I apologize. J was wearing this shy grin, and I started blushing insanely.

I feel stupid.

I don't know what to do, does he even like me?

[Kawartsii]

hhhglofkfsjwj Q ^ Q

I've been recently having this tiny crush on this guy... let's call him S, and I can't help but feel really jealous when other girls flirt with him. Let's start from the beginning, shall we?

Well, S is a very popular guy... especially with the girls. I can tell from first sight when girls are flirting with him... and this makes me so jealous and annoyed, it's quite weird. I've had a crush on him for a few years now... only getting stronger this year.

Only problem is... is that he is two years younger than me, which sucks. At my age, it's labelled as "weird" if you date someone at your age. Completely understandable... but, I believe that love is love, and their is no stopping you from loving someone. But in my shoes, I would be so embarrassed is people start teasing me about it, as I have social anxiety and I worry too much about what others think of me. Also, another problem is that he goes to a different school... a boys school.

But, I swear that every time if look at S, I just want to stare at his face forever. We only see each other at our sports that I do... and that he also does. Sometimes, I catch him looking at me in the corner of my eye... but when I look at S, he awkwardly looks away. We've talked a few times, and it's always decent and quite enjoyable chats, but my feelings always get in the way. Especially when those girls flirt with him. Being honest, but any girl would kill to date him... he is absolutely gorgeous. I probably have no real chance with him... I'm not the prettiest girl in sight. There are plenty of more pretty girls than me... and no one ever wants anything to do with me.

Anyhow, is anyone can help me, that would be fantastic! Please just help me with what I should do...? I just don't even know.

[pizzas and scream]

hhhglofkfsjwj Q ^ Q

I've been recently having this tiny crush on this guy... let's call him S, and I can't help but feel really jealous when other girls flirt with him. Let's start from the beginning, shall we?

Well, S is a very popular guy... especially with the girls. I can tell from first sight when girls are flirting with him... and this makes me so jealous and annoyed, it's quite weird. I've had a crush on him for a few years now... only getting stronger this year.

Only problem is... is that he is two years younger than me, which sucks. At my age, it's labelled as "weird" if you date someone at your age. Completely understandable... but, I believe that love is love, and their is no stopping you from loving someone. But in my shoes, I would be so embarrassed is people start teasing me about it, as I have social anxiety and I worry too much about what others think of me. Also, another problem is that he goes to a different school... a boys school.

But, I swear that every time if look at S, I just want to stare at his face forever. We only see each other at our sports that I do... and that he also does. Sometimes, I catch him looking at me in the corner of my eye... but when I look at S, he awkwardly looks away. We've talked a few times, and it's always decent and quite enjoyable chats, but my feelings always get in the way. Especially when those girls flirt with him. Being honest, but any girl would kill to date him... he is absolutely gorgeous. I probably have no real chance with him... I'm not the prettiest girl in sight. There are plenty of more pretty girls than me... and no one ever wants anything to do with me.

Anyhow, is anyone can help me, that would be fantastic! Please just help me with what I should do...? I just don't even know.

you could always mentally berate yourself for the jealousy and call it unwarranted feelings of possessiveness
and beat yourself up for wanting the young pretty guy.

because you know "yearning for someone because they are pretty, that is such a sad sad thing because looks should never matter and blahblahblah I am so bad because I want someone who is young and pretty. I feel now like how they rant, how the guys only want young and pretty women, and I understand how they feel so I can't hate the guys who want that because I want the younger pretty man all to my self"

that is what I do to my head.

but your guy is popular, and you will never have him 100% to your self. and if you got him, the other girls might rip you limb from limb, or bully you relentless half to death. because their jealousy will be horrible.
and he is popular, so you can't get the satisfactions of feeling like you rescued him. there is nothing better than if a cute loner who was sad for being lonely, had the lover, two of you sweet together, and because they would be unpopular, you have them 70% to yourself because they don't have a lot of friends they should give attention to. so many bad things come of "i have a lover now, my pals are now 20% of importance and don't need all that attention,"

and this is why I will be bad at writing romantic movie scrips. because this is how I can break away from sterotype trope town.

you could try guilting your self out of a crush. if you wish to do that expermentation to yourself. and tell us how it worked

[Alexis Uchiha]

Sorry to change the subject but i have a question. I am a senior in high school and i like this guy at my school. It turns out that he is my brothers best friend and he is a sophmore. Is it wrong to have a crush on my brothers friend and him being younger than me??

[raezel]

Sorry to change the subject but i have a question. I am a senior in high school and i like this guy at my school. It turns out that he is my brothers best friend and he is a sophmore. Is it wrong to have a crush on my brothers friend and him being younger than me??

i wouldn't say it's wrong, seeing as there can be a lot of couples within high school that have grade/age gaps, but it might be a tad difficult if you want to pursue a relationship and you'd be graduating this year. of course, that doesn't mean it's impossible! just might be a challenge if you aren't used to there being distance between you and your partner. (i'm assuming you're going to go to college, and he would be too once he graduates. there's a couple of over a year at my high school that has this issue, and the exact same age gap between the two of them. if it brings your hopes up, that particular couple's been together for well over a year now even with the boyfriend in college and the girlfriend still in high school!)

about him being your brother's friend. i don't know your brother and if you're on good terms with him, but it still isn't really ""wrong"" since he's affiliated with your brother. as long as your brother doesn't get in the way of your relationship with the guy you like, or if the guy you like gets in the way of your relationship with your brother, i don't see a problem, personally. but that's your call to decide!

[Beta]

So it official Revan {my boyfriend not his real name jst part of his username...} Is in the navy... he ships out to florida on april 2nd... i'm already a college and just being 4 hours apart is really killing me but I don't know if I can stand him 4 whole states away.... i'm so worried something is going to happen to him... I've been praying about it a lot and its the only thing keeping me sane... I've talked to him about my fears and he's tried his best to calm them, but they just don't go away...His father was going to join the army but his wife didn't want him to and she stopped him.... but they ended up so poor and they have 9 mouths to feed and the family is miserable and his parents regret their choice... his mother never really liked me said I was to boy like to independent but she is starting to warm up to me... his father didn't care one way or the other about me... but he said he's proud of me for being so brave about Revan going into the army he knows I worry but I didn't stop him... the fears I have are not just of losing him physically {moving away... death.. D': } but also that he might find someone else... or that he'll simply change and he won't be who I know and love... he says his eyes are for me and only me but I've seen the way other girls look at him... i'm not even jealous of them when they do because I know he truly loves me.. but with him being so far away... not being able to see him face to face.... or feel his warm embrace... it scares me... on top of that I've had these dreams.... I always have whether you believe in this kind of thing or not but I've had dreams before that come true... and the ones I've been having.. they feel like the same way... Revan is always so sweet and gentle he wouldn't hurt a fly.... but in the dreams I have... he's mean and abusive... and i'm scared that's what he'll become... but I trust him with my life... and I love him more than any earthly thing...I jus... don't want to lose him.... in any way shape or form.... most of you will just say oh it'll work out... but I know this already... I just wish I could stop myself from crying myself to sleep at night worrying about him... I just want to be a good wife to him... one he deserves ... one that trusts him enough that she doesn't worry or fret so much...


sorry this is so long... I just needed to get this off my chest... I would love advice... and thanks for putting up with all this drama so far...

Honey, let me tell you one thing, you are EXTREMELY BRAVE!!!!

I completely understand your worries though. It sounds like to me that he really does love you. And-worst case scenario- if things don't work out, (again, worst case scenario, very rare to happen) you WILL find someone else eventually.

God has a plan for each and every one of us. It's great that you're praying, that always helps, whatever the situation is. The best thing you can do right now (although you may have heard this many times before, is to pray. (I'll pray for you too, double the praying power! )

I hope everything turns out well for you, you are extremely brave, and you are incredibly strong.

Been dating a guy who's in US Infantry for bout 2 years now. It's tough, you're gonna see him get hurt, and it's a long time apart, I know. However what he's doing out there is serving his country and he's damn proud of it. Listen, don't be 'afraid' of something happening to him. Just keep it positive, send him happy vibes and always make time for each other. Mine's getting out in about a year and I feel like time just flew. Just keep being strong, just as he is!

Oh by the way 'finding someone else' lol unless that someone is a man

[lele207]

well why should I be talking about this, I mean my crush does not even like me Im pretty sure he likes A at least he talks to me and my friends and he laughs with us.

[lele207]

Oh if only my crush liked me......

[*~.Imagination.~*]

Hey guys "^~^ I know I haven't been around for a while, but I've got an issue.
There's this guy, and I cannot figure out if he is the reincarnate of Steve Rogers, or if he is a literal trash bag. I'll call him HC, for now.

So anyway, HC was in drama with me for a while- he's on cast, I'm on crew. He goes to the 'alternative' school, which is still technically considered part of our school, so he get's to participate. There's a lot of reasons kids end up there, not all of which are bad, but it does have a reputation for being filled with the dumber kids, the druggie kids, or the kids that start fights. Then again, I have one friend that goes there now for social anxiety (because it's significantly smaller and more lax so it's less stressful an environment) and another friend who got there because he got in trouble, but really isn't a bad kid at all.
Anyway, I'm sort of acquainted with HC because of drama, and honestly he seemed super smart, and open minded. The character he was cast in is usually reffered to as the "Ladys' Man", but when he was called to play the role by it's actual name he was like "OH the /womanizer/." And I was wow good on you bro. But so in the beginning it was just a lot of really nice stuff, and calling people out on sexist/homophobic/racist comments (which you definitely don't see often, unfourtunately), and he like goes out of his way tremendously to do nice stuff for people (including literally sprint off stage so he could help the stage manager with boxes) and so i was like hmmm very cool dude indeed.

Then there started to be some stuff after drama, and like it wasn't /awful/ comments but he would get moody after certain practices and like would only speak in monosyllables and made some uneccesary/rude comments and i was like ehh bro why you gotta ruin it man you were doing so well.

Then I went to Homecoming, which is actually really lame at my school but it was an excuse to hang out with some friends I don't see often, so I went. But he entered the dance after already having taken off his shirt and painting parts of himself pink (Our homecoming is straight after the game so everyone shows up in hoodies and jeans or, no shirt. it was pink b/c it was our breast cancer game.) And, as it turned out, he was the life of the party. Literally. Like everyone just sort of stood in a weird hardly-moving mob before he came in. But he can dance, like ridiculously well. So after forming dance circles, break dancing, and dancing with probably every girl there (I told you, there weren't many. Like 60 people tops.) at least once, he started playing cupid and like matching up the awkward freshman and making them dance with each other so that they'd actually have fun. And we danced, and it was really fun, but I mean he danced with /everyone/ so it isn't like i had felt supper special or like he liked me or anything. But it was really fun.

But /then/ a bunch of stuff happened in drama, and he was thinking of quitting, and they were thinking of replacing him, and so I used this as an excuse to friend him on facebook and start a conversation about like whether he was leaving/why/etc. Only he really soon made it into like a really flirtatious conversation? I dont know he called me adorable and stuff and I don't really respond well to compliments so I just was kind of like,
"Hmm yes anyway are you comforted or disturbed by the insignificance of your own existence?"
which sounds like a failure at flirting but actually turned into a really great conversation about reincarnation and thermodynamics and I was like daang this went ridiculously well.
About that time I was sort of like, "hmm maybe I can be into him after all."

But then he officially left the play for a bunch of reasons, and again he doesn't technically go to my school, so he was like, "oh I guess I won't have an excuse to see you anymore"
and i mean we tried suggesting things but he can, apparently even online, get into moody/angsty/monosyllibic moods and so sometimes conversations goes really well and other times it all feels very forced and i dunno usually i can just suggest group outings to get to know someone, but we don't really have any mutual friends, and i don't really know whether i'd be able to convince my mom to let me go somewhere alone with a slightly older boy from a school with a not great reputation that she's never met- and also, i'm not sure I'd really want to do that anyway, just because I'm afraid the conversation would be awkward and forced.

Like dang I just want to sit outside and idk talk about the inevitable obliteration of the human race or something why does this all have to be so complicated
;-;
So now I don't know whether he's really nice, or really jerky, I don't know if he's in to me, or just flirtatious, to be honest I don't know if I even like him in a romantic sense or if I just like having someone to talk to, and even if i did like him I can't think of any way to really see him.
I don't know if anyone can help (thanks if you try though! ^-^), but I just felt like I needed to talk it out. xc

[runnershigh]

okay okay okay
so i need help//advice

for ages i had a crush on my best friend [m],, and i'm pretty sure she liked me back. but i never asked her out.
and now,, i've fallen for someone she doesn't like that much [p]. and p likes me back,, because she's told me and i've told her. my crush on m is only tiny now,, as i'm head over heels for p. [so to clarify,, m is wary of p and isn't good friends with her,, but p has told me that she wishes she could be friends with m.]
i want to ask p out next month [she knows i'm planning to], but my problem is that i'm afraid m will be mad at me. she might get upset,, and i don't want to loose her. she's my best friend and i can't imagine living without her.
p is absolutely gorgeous and perfect to me,, but i've known m for longer and she means a whole lot to me.

what should i do? how do i tell m that i'm going to ask p out?
please help guys ;v;