Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[mekaiser]

I was sure C was gonna ask me out today, he was showing all the hints. Talking to me every second of the day. Sitting next to me, hanging out at my house. Or going to the movies. But i saw him with a popular she is wayyyyy prettier than me by a long shot, what does it mean?

Sorry I didn't finish this earlier...my brother and I were fighting for the chair. I think he is trying to make you jealous. I can almost promise you that he wants you

[Acidic]

The most annoying thing happened today. In religion, I was drawing in my sketchbook then the guy who bullies me stole it off of me and started to look through it. I remembered I had pictures of my fursona and my crush's fursona in love and it saying 'I love you J'
I quickly tried to steal it back.
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[Nimble Awesomeness]

Right, I'd just like maybe one or two points of advice to help me.

I will say outright; I'm a tomboy and I've always been that way. I find it near to impossible to make friends with girls, because I'm always isolated, bullied and used because I'm so totally different, so I'm always better off being friends with boys.

I've had a close group of 4 boys all about the same age as me; let's call them C, S, M and D. And that's all fine and dandy. But I developed a crush on M, trouble is he the oblivious type who finds motorbikes more attractive than girls. Don't get me wrong, he's a very lovely guy who embodies alot of what I look for in a man; tall, athletic, hygiene-concious, intelligent, funny and respectful toward females. But I told him my feelings for him after 3 years of crushing on him, because my best friend and her then boyfriend told me I had a chance, and all he did in reaction was pull a face like this: :what:, and he has never spoke of it again, never saying how he felt about me.

I will say that the oblivious blow-off he displayed has been the worst rejection I've ever had to suffer.

So M, the one I had feelings for, went off and is now working on a cruise and it's unlikely I'll ever see him again, D has continiously had a creepy crush on me even when he has an equally creepy girlfriend (this is a guy who would happily pin me down against my will and force himself on me since he had no qualms about doing so in the past - I broke his jaw because I hit him that hard in panic and fear), C sees me as a man and has said he would feel disgusted if he ever felt that way about me, and S led me on then dumped me because I wasn't "fat enough" for him.

I don't see the problem. I dress modestly, put on a little natural make-up, I act like my random and fun-loving self and I go out my way to be as kind and helpful as I can. All of me is real and genuine.

What else can I do? I'm a very loving, loyal romantic that that just needs a chance and a man who is willing to look past my emotional instability and face of acne :(

It's not because they don't like you, honestly. It sucks, (in a way lol) but they really do honest-to-gosh like you for who you are. It's because you act like yourself, wear very little natural makeup that throws them off. You've been friends for a while, right? You're too worked in to be romantically involved. You're one of the guys, a bro. It makes sense that C feels that way; imagine if your best friend suddenly told you they were gay and had a crush on you. A bit weird/awkward, no? That's what it feels like to him. D? Well, he's just creepy. Stay away from him. And S sounds like you could be his friend as long as you don't try to date him again; it's one of those weird and rare situations that you can be friends with your ex, considering the reason he broke up with you it's kinda obvious he just wants to be bros.

You shouldn't change yourself because as far as I can tell, you're practically perfect. It's totally normal to want to hang out with the guys; I'm honestly jealous of you. A lot of girls, including me, would kill to just be able to be one of the guys without them crushing on you. But I understand your frustration. Don't change yourself, and do as you feel is comfortable. Natural make-up is what you like, so wear that. Always act like you, and be real and genuine. I'm impressed, a lot of people can't accept that going natural, confident, knowing who you are and embracing it is what everyone should be doing.

Don't change your friends either; you obviously really like hanging out with these guys, and you should hang out with whom you feel able to be yourself around. D, maybe not so much. But C sounds like a great friend, and if you get past the awkwardness of a break up with S he sounds like he could be also.

I'm not sure what to tell you about M. Is there any way you can contact him? Through facebook or something? I mean, the guy's on a cruise ship, it's not like he's dropped off the face of the planet. You've just got to get to a way to talk to him. It was most likely weird for him when you admitted your feelings, as you were just one of the guys then. Maybe if you get to know him a bit better with him knowing your feelings for him, it would be a bit like a new start and he could get used to the idea of having feelings for you.

It's always weird for a guy when one of his close tom-boy friends starts to like him, just as it's weird for a girl when her guy friends start to like her. It's just weird all around, kinda like having your brother ask you out.

So I hope this helps you, and good luck! (Also, when reading your post all I could think of was Katy Perry's 'One Of The Boys' xDD Kinda.. Scary how close it is o.o)

I was sure C was gonna ask me out today, he was showing all the hints. Talking to me every second of the day. Sitting next to me, hanging out at my house. Or going to the movies. But i saw him with a popular she is wayyyyy prettier than me by a long shot, what does it mean?

I'm not so sure he's trying to make you jealous. He was probably just talking to her, if he's popular it's not that weird to be hanging around other popular people. Just because you saw him with her doesn't mean he's into her. Plus, guys don't do that jealously thing. They aren't into pretending to like someone to get someone else to like them more. They just don't think that way. I wouldn't worry about it, at all. He's totally going to ask you out though. Hope this helped, good luck!

[peachie.]

Good day again <3
R and I texted in the morning until I got to school. We talked before class started.
First lunch we sat beside each together and talked with our friends. First recess a girl we dislike, and it's R's ex came over and hungout with us. We were silent the whole time and so was she. She was shooting us snotty looks while him and I sat beside each other.
Second recess we sat beside eachother on the bench once again. You know the yawn thing? When guys pretend to yawn and put their arm around you? Well R did that but instead he put his arm on my shoulder. I laughed so hard, he was trying to tease me. x)
Before he left he biked me home. His ex and her two sisters got home before us and were standing at the window watching us. We could see them. They didn't even try to hide. When we got to my drive way we hugged and he left. He kept yelling bye and rawr to me. I yelled bye and rawr back to him.
Him and I say rawr because it means 'I love you' in dinosaur. We don't say I love you in public because our friends usually throw hyper, crazy fits if we did. Plus his mom steals his phone and reads his texts. So if she read us saying I love you, he would be teased even more than he is already.

[Featherpaw]

There is a boy that likes me in my class. And he has for about 3 years and has finally told me. I really don't like him that way but he won't stop, i have told him i need my space but he still trys to get my attention. And I think i may like one of my best friends who's a guy and really amazing. But he likes my best girl friend. :S i'm really confused on what to do about the first guy. Can anyone help?

[s y n]

I managed to get K away from me long enough to be around A<3

During the time before the bell to get to your homeroom for attendance, everyone just walks around. I was walking with A and another guy who is also his friend and one of my besties. I even have a cute pet name for his friend, R, since he always calls me by my new nickname - We were on a band trip and I play flute, so in the picture when the guy was arranging us he rudely pointed at me and said, "flute lady, over there" so now my new nickname is Flute Lady xD - and A always glances at me oddly when I call R by the pet name I gave him.

Today A got upset that I didn't hug him. I was hugging R and a bunch of other friends and he pouted and asked where his hug was. I gestured to myself then opened my arms and he just grabbed me with a big smile ^.^
I playfully asked if he liked my excuse - the day before I kept telling him his hugs were pathetic so he kept hugging me to try and make the hugs better and afterwards I told him it was just my excuse for more hugs - and he smiled and said that I made him keep hugging me. When I said, "Oh, you know you liked it" he just looked at me and said, "Of course, I never said I didn't".

At lunch I managed to coax K into hanging out with some other people, and managed to get away with A and some of his/our friends. We were outside and it was raining a tiny bit so I used that as an excuse to say that I was cold - I was actually Dx - so that he'd cuddle up to me. It totally worked, and he had his arm around me for a while and kept hugging me :3

Later, after lunch, him and K got into an argument about him not liking her even though he said he did. He then asked her out seriously, and she said that she'd tell him after school. Last time, she said that she'd reply two hours from then. He got annoyed and I talked to him until his teacher told me to leave to get my stuff for class. He had his arm around me for a few minutes before that, and two hugs and me making half of a heart and him making the other half and us putting them together later, I had to scurry off to class and was late for class - luckily I had a sub who didn't care - because of it xD. He later told me that he was late for class because of it too, but he said the hugs were worth it<3

In Science, my last class of the day, I wrote him a note explaining how it was a bad idea to go out with K. I told him that she tended to cheat on her boyfriends and didn't treat them right and how I, being his bestest friend on the whole entire earth (says him c:), didn't want to see him get hurt.
I went bold and, in the note, decided I must as well come clean about liking him. This is basically how the note went, almost word for word (he has it right now and has probably read it at home already, so I can't copy it exactly):

Dear [A'sNameHere]

Hey. I write you so many notes... This one is important though. I don't think you should go out with her. You know who I'm talking about. She doesn't even make a good friend, much less girlfriend. Plus, you saw the way she treated you. The minute you do one tiny little thing wrong, she freaks out and starts to spazz and be mean to you. She even told me she hated you, and that she'd never date you again.
Besides, she freaked out when you were hanging out with [OneOfOurFriend'sNameHere]. She thought you were cheating on her. A relationship is based on trust, right? She couldn't even trust you enough to be alone with another girl for an hour without thinking you were a cheater.
And if she reacts like that to a girl that is just sort of your friend, imagine how she'd react to us hanging out. Right now she doesn't care, but if she knew what you'll know soon, she would. I'm not writing this because I'm trying to keep you guys apart - I'm just trying to be a good BFFFL to you and warn you that dating her isn't really a good idea. She won't treat you right, and you deserve better.
Now here you better not show this to ANYBODY because here's where this note gets intense. I figured that since I'm already halfway through this note, I might as well add on something that you might as well know. It'd be more sincere and serious to tell you in person, so you know I'm not joking, but you have to catch your bus too quick for us to have a long enough conversation, and you should know soon...
I sort of like you again. There, I admit it. It's already pretty obvious, but if you didn't pick that up - being a guy and all (jk, jk c:) - there you go. If you go ahead and date her, whatever. I can deal with that. 99% of the reason why I'm writing this note is because I think it's a bad idea to date her. The other 1%, I'll be honest, is jealousy. I'd never break you two apart because I kinda like you if I thought it was a good idea, of course. I'm not a terrible friend like that. The only reason I'm trying to stop you from dating her is because she'll ruin your life more than she already has.
If you like me back, that's great. I guess there wasn't really any point in telling you that I sort of like you, but I might as well just let it out because if you do feel the same towards me than nothing's going to happen unless I let you know that I feel like that, too. You probably don't, and if you don't like me like that, I'm alright with that. We'll just stay BFFFL's like we already are, and nothing has to change.

From,
[Insertmynamehere]


-sigh-
Was it a good idea? I wanted to tell him in person, but I felt like he should know before he decides whether to date her or not, and I can't communicate with him except at school, so I figured that it was just better to add it into the note even though I couldn't let him know I was serious. I think I sound pretty serious in the note, though...

[peachie.]

I managed to get K away from me long enough to be around A<3

During the time before the bell to get to your homeroom for attendance, everyone just walks around. I was walking with A and another guy who is also his friend and one of my besties. I even have a cute pet name for his friend, R, since he always calls me by my new nickname - We were on a band trip and I play flute, so in the picture when the guy was arranging us he rudely pointed at me and said, "flute lady, over there" so now my new nickname is Flute Lady xD - and A always glances at me oddly when I call R by the pet name I gave him.

Today A got upset that I didn't hug him. I was hugging R and a bunch of other friends and he pouted and asked where his hug was. I gestured to myself then opened my arms and he just grabbed me with a big smile ^.^
I playfully asked if he liked my excuse - the day before I kept telling him his hugs were pathetic so he kept hugging me to try and make the hugs better and afterwards I told him it was just my excuse for more hugs - and he smiled and said that I made him keep hugging me. When I said, "Oh, you know you liked it" he just looked at me and said, "Of course, I never said I didn't".

At lunch I managed to coax K into hanging out with some other people, and managed to get away with A and some of his/our friends. We were outside and it was raining a tiny bit so I used that as an excuse to say that I was cold - I was actually Dx - so that he'd cuddle up to me. It totally worked, and he had his arm around me for a while and kept hugging me :3

Later, after lunch, him and K got into an argument about him not liking her even though he said he did. He then asked her out seriously, and she said that she'd tell him after school. Last time, she said that she'd reply two hours from then. He got annoyed and I talked to him until his teacher told me to leave to get my stuff for class. He had his arm around me for a few minutes before that, and two hugs and me making half of a heart and him making the other half and us putting them together later, I had to scurry off to class and was late for class - luckily I had a sub who didn't care - because of it xD. He later told me that he was late for class because of it too, but he said the hugs were worth it<3

In Science, my last class of the day, I wrote him a note explaining how it was a bad idea to go out with K. I told him that she tended to cheat on her boyfriends and didn't treat them right and how I, being his bestest friend on the whole entire earth (says him c:), didn't want to see him get hurt.
I went bold and, in the note, decided I must as well come clean about liking him. This is basically how the note went, almost word for word (he has it right now and has probably read it at home already, so I can't copy it exactly):

Dear [A'sNameHere]

Hey. I write you so many notes... This one is important though. I don't think you should go out with her. You know who I'm talking about. She doesn't even make a good friend, much less girlfriend. Plus, you saw the way she treated you. The minute you do one tiny little thing wrong, she freaks out and starts to spazz and be mean to you. She even told me she hated you, and that she'd never date you again.
Besides, she freaked out when you were hanging out with [OneOfOurFriend'sNameHere]. She thought you were cheating on her. A relationship is based on trust, right? She couldn't even trust you enough to be alone with another girl for an hour without thinking you were a cheater.
And if she reacts like that to a girl that is just sort of your friend, imagine how she'd react to us hanging out. Right now she doesn't care, but if she knew what you'll know soon, she would. I'm not writing this because I'm trying to keep you guys apart - I'm just trying to be a good BFFFL to you and warn you that dating her isn't really a good idea. She won't treat you right, and you deserve better.
Now here you better not show this to ANYBODY because here's where this note gets intense. I figured that since I'm already halfway through this note, I might as well add on something that you might as well know. It'd be more sincere and serious to tell you in person, so you know I'm not joking, but you have to catch your bus too quick for us to have a long enough conversation, and you should know soon...
I sort of like you again. There, I admit it. It's already pretty obvious, but if you didn't pick that up - being a guy and all (jk, jk c:) - there you go. If you go ahead and date her, whatever. I can deal with that. 99% of the reason why I'm writing this note is because I think it's a bad idea to date her. The other 1%, I'll be honest, is jealousy. I'd never break you two apart because I kinda like you if I thought it was a good idea, of course. I'm not a terrible friend like that. The only reason I'm trying to stop you from dating her is because she'll ruin your life more than she already has.
If you like me back, that's great. I guess there wasn't really any point in telling you that I sort of like you, but I might as well just let it out because if you do feel the same towards me than nothing's going to happen unless I let you know that I feel like that, too. You probably don't, and if you don't like me like that, I'm alright with that. We'll just stay BFFFL's like we already are, and nothing has to change.

From,
[Insertmynamehere]


-sigh-
Was it a good idea? I wanted to tell him in person, but I felt like he should know before he decides whether to date her or not, and I can't communicate with him except at school, so I figured that it was just better to add it into the note even though I couldn't let him know I was serious. I think I sound pretty serious in the note, though...

Wow your a long writer. Hehe (;
Anyways, I have been in a situation like yours and I think you did the right thing. If he hasn't noticed that she is like that than you were right to warn him. Seeing your friend misrable and being hurt by the person their dating isn't the best thing. It was good to talk to him in a note if you couldn't get him away from his friends or K. And plus, you can write more of your feelings usually because your not hesitant because you can't see the person. Overall, you did the right thing in my view. If A really is your best friend he will believe you and understand where your coming from. I hope this helps :3

[s y n]

I managed to get K away from me long enough to be around A<3

During the time before the bell to get to your homeroom for attendance, everyone just walks around. I was walking with A and another guy who is also his friend and one of my besties. I even have a cute pet name for his friend, R, since he always calls me by my new nickname - We were on a band trip and I play flute, so in the picture when the guy was arranging us he rudely pointed at me and said, "flute lady, over there" so now my new nickname is Flute Lady xD - and A always glances at me oddly when I call R by the pet name I gave him.

Today A got upset that I didn't hug him. I was hugging R and a bunch of other friends and he pouted and asked where his hug was. I gestured to myself then opened my arms and he just grabbed me with a big smile ^.^
I playfully asked if he liked my excuse - the day before I kept telling him his hugs were pathetic so he kept hugging me to try and make the hugs better and afterwards I told him it was just my excuse for more hugs - and he smiled and said that I made him keep hugging me. When I said, "Oh, you know you liked it" he just looked at me and said, "Of course, I never said I didn't".

At lunch I managed to coax K into hanging out with some other people, and managed to get away with A and some of his/our friends. We were outside and it was raining a tiny bit so I used that as an excuse to say that I was cold - I was actually Dx - so that he'd cuddle up to me. It totally worked, and he had his arm around me for a while and kept hugging me :3

Later, after lunch, him and K got into an argument about him not liking her even though he said he did. He then asked her out seriously, and she said that she'd tell him after school. Last time, she said that she'd reply two hours from then. He got annoyed and I talked to him until his teacher told me to leave to get my stuff for class. He had his arm around me for a few minutes before that, and two hugs and me making half of a heart and him making the other half and us putting them together later, I had to scurry off to class and was late for class - luckily I had a sub who didn't care - because of it xD. He later told me that he was late for class because of it too, but he said the hugs were worth it<3

In Science, my last class of the day, I wrote him a note explaining how it was a bad idea to go out with K. I told him that she tended to cheat on her boyfriends and didn't treat them right and how I, being his bestest friend on the whole entire earth (says him c:), didn't want to see him get hurt.
I went bold and, in the note, decided I must as well come clean about liking him. This is basically how the note went, almost word for word (he has it right now and has probably read it at home already, so I can't copy it exactly):

Dear [A'sNameHere]

Hey. I write you so many notes... This one is important though. I don't think you should go out with her. You know who I'm talking about. She doesn't even make a good friend, much less girlfriend. Plus, you saw the way she treated you. The minute you do one tiny little thing wrong, she freaks out and starts to spazz and be mean to you. She even told me she hated you, and that she'd never date you again.
Besides, she freaked out when you were hanging out with [OneOfOurFriend'sNameHere]. She thought you were cheating on her. A relationship is based on trust, right? She couldn't even trust you enough to be alone with another girl for an hour without thinking you were a cheater.
And if she reacts like that to a girl that is just sort of your friend, imagine how she'd react to us hanging out. Right now she doesn't care, but if she knew what you'll know soon, she would. I'm not writing this because I'm trying to keep you guys apart - I'm just trying to be a good BFFFL to you and warn you that dating her isn't really a good idea. She won't treat you right, and you deserve better.
Now here you better not show this to ANYBODY because here's where this note gets intense. I figured that since I'm already halfway through this note, I might as well add on something that you might as well know. It'd be more sincere and serious to tell you in person, so you know I'm not joking, but you have to catch your bus too quick for us to have a long enough conversation, and you should know soon...
I sort of like you again. There, I admit it. It's already pretty obvious, but if you didn't pick that up - being a guy and all (jk, jk c:) - there you go. If you go ahead and date her, whatever. I can deal with that. 99% of the reason why I'm writing this note is because I think it's a bad idea to date her. The other 1%, I'll be honest, is jealousy. I'd never break you two apart because I kinda like you if I thought it was a good idea, of course. I'm not a terrible friend like that. The only reason I'm trying to stop you from dating her is because she'll ruin your life more than she already has.
If you like me back, that's great. I guess there wasn't really any point in telling you that I sort of like you, but I might as well just let it out because if you do feel the same towards me than nothing's going to happen unless I let you know that I feel like that, too. You probably don't, and if you don't like me like that, I'm alright with that. We'll just stay BFFFL's like we already are, and nothing has to change.

From,
[Insertmynamehere]


-sigh-
Was it a good idea? I wanted to tell him in person, but I felt like he should know before he decides whether to date her or not, and I can't communicate with him except at school, so I figured that it was just better to add it into the note even though I couldn't let him know I was serious. I think I sound pretty serious in the note, though...

Wow your a long writer. Hehe (;
Anyways, I have been in a situation like yours and I think you did the right thing. If he hasn't noticed that she is like that than you were right to warn him. Seeing your friend misrable and being hurt by the person their dating isn't the best thing. It was good to talk to him in a note if you couldn't get him away from his friends or K. And plus, you can write more of your feelings usually because your not hesitant because you can't see the person. Overall, you did the right thing in my view. If A really is your best friend he will believe you and understand where your coming from. I hope this helps :3

Thanks for the input, it certainly does help :3

I'm absolutely terrified to see his reaction tomorrow. However, at the same time, I'm not seeing as: worst case scenario, he likes me as just a BFFFL and nothing between us changes; Best case, he likes me back and asks me out.

Our friendship is the type that wouldn't be ruined by me liking him and him not liking me back or vice versa. Last time I liked him I told him and it didn't ruin our friendship at all. We still remained best friends and it wasn't awkward at all, because we constantly act like we like each other so there wouldn't be too much of a drastic change in behaviour if we dated.

[Nimble Awesomeness]

There is a boy that likes me in my class. And he has for about 3 years and has finally told me. I really don't like him that way but he won't stop, i have told him i need my space but he still trys to get my attention. And I think i may like one of my best friends who's a guy and really amazing. But he likes my best girl friend. :S i'm really confused on what to do about the first guy. Can anyone help?

I think that you might find this to be helpful to your situation:

Second of all, I can relate to you. We're pretty much in the same boat, except my M is a J and I know that he likes me. But everything else is the same. I'm nearly positive that most of them know I like J, in fact one of them said to J that he didn't like him anymore. When J asked him why he said "I just don't". J was sitting next to me at the time. -_- Stupid boys.

Anyways, onto you. I could tell you that you need to tell them all that you don't like them, but I haven't told my guys either. I see them all the time, so it would be SUPER weird if I had to tell them that I DON'T like them. (Not to mention all three of them are friends -_-) If you're not in this situation though, and it wouldn't be as weird to see them again if they knew, you probably could tell them. However, since they know you like M, they really should be laying off anyways, and they aren't being very good friends by continuing to openly have feelings for you.

Lucky for you, this isn't going to be a, "I just want to be friends" type of thing, so you get to text them. You have to put aside the "I just want to be friends", and move onto the "I like M, you know I like M, so why are you hurting me by liking me?" This is really going to be the way to go. It may sound slightly mean, but it's the truth, right? They are hurting you, in a way, and if they really do know that you like M then they would let you go. That's what the right guy would do. You can look at it like they're just ignorant and you don't want to hurt their feelings, but how you should be looking at it is they're liking you without your interests at heart. If they were really worth your time (as boyfriends, not friends) then they would accept that you don't like them and move on, to please you. (Unfortunately, most guys would do this, but a surprising amount will.)

So, text them or facebook them and ask them (1 by 1) why they still like you when they know you like someone else. You don't have to say that you like M. In fact, I advise you don't. Saying his name straight out automatically makes him public enemy number 1 for these guys, even if they already know that it's him. Then again, not hearing it from your mouth (or hands, lol) is giving them hope that they've got a chance, so you could drop M's name and make them realize you're serious. It's a win-lose/win-lose situation either way, that bit's up to you.

If you need any more help feel free to ask, I really hope this helped and good luck!

-snip-

-sigh-
Was it a good idea? I wanted to tell him in person, but I felt like he should know before he decides whether to date her or not, and I can't communicate with him except at school, so I figured that it was just better to add it into the note even though I couldn't let him know I was serious. I think I sound pretty serious in the note, though...

Well, you all know how much I dislike notes to tell someone you like them or to break up with them, but that was a very nice, long, detailed one that explained the situation and your exact feelings on it. Yes, you did the right thing. You used all the right words and made all the right points. This girl doesn't sound like she's right for your friend, and I'm sitting here wondering why you two aren't dating. If I hadn't paid attention to the details in your posts, I would think you are. Come on, y'all are flirting with each other left and right. It's not a bad thing, but I don't even get how he would ask her over asking you, because you two are practically already together.

Anyways, best of luck to you. I enjoy your posts and I hope you keep us updated on his replies and what happens. c:

[s y n]

There is a boy that likes me in my class. And he has for about 3 years and has finally told me. I really don't like him that way but he won't stop, i have told him i need my space but he still trys to get my attention. And I think i may like one of my best friends who's a guy and really amazing. But he likes my best girl friend. :S i'm really confused on what to do about the first guy. Can anyone help?

I think that you might find this to be helpful to your situation:

Second of all, I can relate to you. We're pretty much in the same boat, except my M is a J and I know that he likes me. But everything else is the same. I'm nearly positive that most of them know I like J, in fact one of them said to J that he didn't like him anymore. When J asked him why he said "I just don't". J was sitting next to me at the time. -_- Stupid boys.

Anyways, onto you. I could tell you that you need to tell them all that you don't like them, but I haven't told my guys either. I see them all the time, so it would be SUPER weird if I had to tell them that I DON'T like them. (Not to mention all three of them are friends -_-) If you're not in this situation though, and it wouldn't be as weird to see them again if they knew, you probably could tell them. However, since they know you like M, they really should be laying off anyways, and they aren't being very good friends by continuing to openly have feelings for you.

Lucky for you, this isn't going to be a, "I just want to be friends" type of thing, so you get to text them. You have to put aside the "I just want to be friends", and move onto the "I like M, you know I like M, so why are you hurting me by liking me?" This is really going to be the way to go. It may sound slightly mean, but it's the truth, right? They are hurting you, in a way, and if they really do know that you like M then they would let you go. That's what the right guy would do. You can look at it like they're just ignorant and you don't want to hurt their feelings, but how you should be looking at it is they're liking you without your interests at heart. If they were really worth your time (as boyfriends, not friends) then they would accept that you don't like them and move on, to please you. (Unfortunately, most guys would do this, but a surprising amount will.)

So, text them or facebook them and ask them (1 by 1) why they still like you when they know you like someone else. You don't have to say that you like M. In fact, I advise you don't. Saying his name straight out automatically makes him public enemy number 1 for these guys, even if they already know that it's him. Then again, not hearing it from your mouth (or hands, lol) is giving them hope that they've got a chance, so you could drop M's name and make them realize you're serious. It's a win-lose/win-lose situation either way, that bit's up to you.

If you need any more help feel free to ask, I really hope this helped and good luck!

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Was it a good idea? I wanted to tell him in person, but I felt like he should know before he decides whether to date her or not, and I can't communicate with him except at school, so I figured that it was just better to add it into the note even though I couldn't let him know I was serious. I think I sound pretty serious in the note, though...

Well, you all know how much I dislike notes to tell someone you like them or to break up with them, but that was a very nice, long, detailed one that explained the situation and your exact feelings on it. Yes, you did the right thing. You used all the right words and made all the right points. This girl doesn't sound like she's right for your friend, and I'm sitting here wondering why you two aren't dating. If I hadn't paid attention to the details in your posts, I would think you are. Come on, y'all are flirting with each other left and right. It's not a bad thing, but I don't even get how he would ask her over asking you, because you two are practically already together.

Anyways, best of luck to you. I enjoy your posts and I hope you keep us updated on his replies and what happens. c:

Haha, yeah, that's what I've been wondering!
I excessively explained that I wasn't writing the note out of jealousy, so I'm sure he'll get that and take my warning wisely. I told him a while ago that I didn't like him anymore because, honestly, at the time I was interested in someone else and he'd fallen below my crush radar. But now that I'm hanging out with him again and we're so close again, I can't help but fall for him... Again :3

I'll definitely have to post his reply tomorrow. I'm nervous to see what he says, but I can take rejection from him, seeing as I'm alright with being just friends. I really want to be more, but I love being so close to him and being his best friend, the one who he tells everything, especially about secrets and who he's always honest with. It'd hurt a little to know that this is all he wants to be, but it really seems like he wants to be more so I'll just deal with the fact that I decided to be the bold one and just come out with it.

The worst he can do is say he just wants to be friends and nothing changes. I'm not nervous about being rejected, really - I'm more nervous about if he likes me back and if he'll ask me out and blah blah blah...
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