Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[Alaric Dixon <3]

Personally, I wouldn't ask him during exams. It's usually very stressful for most, and you want him to be clear minded, not distracted about something else.

[Nimble Awesomeness]

You guys aren't helping my ego get any smaller...>.> But thank you so much, I feel so loved, lol. I'm really just trying to help... o3o

@Red; Exactly. Patience is a virtue. There will always be good times to tell someone how you feel, wait out the perfect time. If you feel like you've missed it, don't panic, there will be other times, trust me. You've got the right mindset ;) Now, Clove has a really good point, take that into consideration.

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As I near the end of my very long, rambly post, I have one main thing I need help with - I want to be around A. I want to be close to him, I want to hangout with him, talk with him, etc. But I can't because K is always jumping into our conversations, and the minute that she walks up to us, he walks away. I want to be around him, I really do, but she's constantly around and won't go away so I have no chance at all to even get near him. What can I do?

Alright, well, I read your situation and it's not pretty.

The main thing is K. You don't need to worry about A, that'll be fine and dandy soon enough. But K, that's a biggie.

Kudos for staying friends with her this long. It's going to have to be a little longer.

To start, I'm going to have you think as if you were K. You've been raised by a drunk, an abusive father and a druggie sister. Everyone hates you, and you know it too. You just play along with the rest of them because you know that's the only attention you'll ever get. Hatred is attention, right? And as long as they're pretending to like you, you can live with the fact that they really hate you. You have one "friend" who's treated you with kindness. You want to be just like her; it's why you went after the same guy she likes. And then, you got him. Finally, someone who cares. He asked you, and you said yes. Then that bimbo started hanging around him. You can't tell if they're actually doing anything, because you've had such a horrible awful life that your mindset is to assume the worst in people; it's the only way to live at this point.

We can safely assume that's what she's thinking. She has an awful life so she brings it out on everyone else. It's sad that she has to resort to that, but it's true. Try telling her you want to be around A alone some more, that should help. But you really need to sit her down for a heart to heart. Meaning, take her at a time when she's upset and comfort her. Be there for her. Show her raw kindness, even though you still hate her. I did this for a girl once, really got inside her head. Yeah, two days later she was the same brat to me as she always was. (She had a problem of acting fake to people, she got called out on it and that's why she was upset) Some people just act awful because they're awful people, and some people just act awful because they've got a lot going on at home. There's always the chance that she'll realize later in life how nice you were to her and start being a bit nicer to everyone else.

It will most likely just be a waste of your time, but it sure as heck won't be a waste of hers.

So uh, I realize that this bit of advice is.. Like... Not helpful. At all. I'm kinda rambling right now, so uh... Hopefully in some weird round about way it does help you. Magically. Yeah, I'm just gonna go now. *Awkwardly shuffles out*

[rachiechu888]

Thanks! I think he likes me though... <3 Today, in math, he just smiled at me.. <3 (It wasn't just a regular smile if you know what I mean. XP)

[Roonil Wazlib]

Could someone help me please??
Okay, here's a code:

Peeta= my sort of crush since last year
Prim= One of my BBF's
Katniss= Another one of my BFF's
And of course, Me=me :3

So, last year Peeta used to talk to me occasionally, just small talk mostly. But gradually (of course ) I fell for him at the end of last year.
Unfortunately, he's more on the popular side (of course I'm not). I'm not really unpopular, it's just that no one really notices that I exist. So, this year Peeta wasn't on my team (yes, my stupid high school has teams -.-) so I never got to see him. But now he's at my lunch every other day
But now I'm seeing him EVERYWHERE!! Seriously, he'll just happen to walk by us in the hallway a few times.
But anyways, Prim completely embarrasses me every time he's around, either on purpose or accidentally.
Katniss is was friends with him. I asked her to ask him what he though of me, but she was too scared (I have no idea why).
I guess my final question is: What could I do to get him to notice me?
I'm a normally shy person, though I'm able to speak up when needed.
He's rather quiet and not loud and obnoxious.
So, what should I do??
I mean, I can't just forget about him (I've tried that. It didn't work)
I dyed my hair blue (sort of drastic, but not to get him to notice me. Although I don't think he noticed...)

[Nimble Awesomeness]

Could someone help me please??
Okay, here's a code:

Peeta= my sort of crush since last year
Prim= One of my BBF's
Katniss= Another one of my BFF's
And of course, Me=me :3

So, last year Peeta used to talk to me occasionally, just small talk mostly. But gradually (of course :roll:) I fell for him at the end of last year.
Unfortunately, he's more on the popular side (of course I'm not). I'm not really unpopular, it's just that no one really notices that I exist. So, this year Peeta wasn't on my team (yes, my stupid high school has teams -.-) so I never got to see him. But now he's at my lunch every other day :D
But now I'm seeing him EVERYWHERE!! Seriously, he'll just happen to walk by us in the hallway a few times.
But anyways, Prim completely embarrasses me every time he's around, either on purpose or accidentally.
Katniss is was friends with him. I asked her to ask him what he though of me, but she was too scared (I have no idea why).
I guess my final question is: What could I do to get him to notice me?
I'm a normally shy person, though I'm able to speak up when needed.
He's rather quiet and not loud and obnoxious.
So, what should I do??
I mean, I can't just forget about him (I've tried that. It didn't work)
I dyed my hair blue (sort of drastic, but not to get him to notice me. Although I don't think he noticed...)

First off, never ask a friend to be your spy. I know it's popular, but that doesn't mean you should. Help me out by spreading the knowledge that it's something a confused 4th grader would do. It's using your friend, and it's just a sneaky way of asking your crush yourself. Plus, it's nearly always obvious that they're asking for you. Seriously, just don't. A note would be better, and if you saw my post about notes than you know how I feel about those. ;P

Secondly, talk to him. That's how you get him to notice you. Walk up ti him at lunch, say "Hey, can I sit here?" and sit down. :D It's way easier than you think, all you have to do is engage yourself, don't wait around for him to do all the work. If you're both shy, then it's a bit more difficult. At least you can speak out when needed, and right now you're needed, so speak out gosh darn it! Become his friend, heck, become his best friend! Make small talk with him, find out his likes, dislikes, favorite pizza toppings, anything! Just get to know each other. Simply talking with him is a sure way to become his friend, and if he's your friend of course he's going to notice you. Just use the talking tips that I wrote for asking someone out and apply them to making casual conversation.

Hope this helps! :)

[Roonil Wazlib]

Could someone help me please??
Okay, here's a code:

Peeta= my sort of crush since last year
Prim= One of my BBF's
Katniss= Another one of my BFF's
And of course, Me=me :3

So, last year Peeta used to talk to me occasionally, just small talk mostly. But gradually (of course ) I fell for him at the end of last year.
Unfortunately, he's more on the popular side (of course I'm not). I'm not really unpopular, it's just that no one really notices that I exist. So, this year Peeta wasn't on my team (yes, my stupid high school has teams -.-) so I never got to see him. But now he's at my lunch every other day
But now I'm seeing him EVERYWHERE!! Seriously, he'll just happen to walk by us in the hallway a few times.
But anyways, Prim completely embarrasses me every time he's around, either on purpose or accidentally.
Katniss is was friends with him. I asked her to ask him what he though of me, but she was too scared (I have no idea why).
I guess my final question is: What could I do to get him to notice me?
I'm a normally shy person, though I'm able to speak up when needed.
He's rather quiet and not loud and obnoxious.
So, what should I do??
I mean, I can't just forget about him (I've tried that. It didn't work)
I dyed my hair blue (sort of drastic, but not to get him to notice me. Although I don't think he noticed...)

First off, never ask a friend to be your spy. I know it's popular, but that doesn't mean you should. Help me out by spreading the knowledge that it's something a confused 4th grader would do. It's using your friend, and it's just a sneaky way of asking your crush yourself. Plus, it's nearly always obvious that they're asking for you. Seriously, just don't. A note would be better, and if you saw my post about notes than you know how I feel about those. ;P

Secondly, talk to him. That's how you get him to notice you. Walk up ti him at lunch, say "Hey, can I sit here?" and sit down. It's way easier than you think, all you have to do is engage yourself, don't wait around for him to do all the work. If you're both shy, then it's a bit more difficult. At least you can speak out when needed, and right now you're needed, so speak out gosh darn it! Become his friend, heck, become his best friend! Make small talk with him, find out his likes, dislikes, favorite pizza toppings, anything! Just get to know each other. Simply talking with him is a sure way to become his friend, and if he's your friend of course he's going to notice you. Just use the talking tips that I wrote for asking someone out and apply them to making casual conversation.

Hope this helps!

I'll try it
But I'm extremely shy around the person in question
And unfortunately Prim would make a huge deal out of it
I'll try though!
Maybe not sitting with him at lunch first, though.
I'll start by attempting to talk to him *gulp*
But I can't write him a not, because always sound pathetic when I do
Luckily Katniss said he's super nice, so there's a start :3

Thank you so much Nimblestep!

[Shine]

D didn't really talk to me today. Just the odd hello or talking about random things. The thing he Always does is tries to get my attention. I sit in a group table of 4 with all 3 of them as people he hates. But he always comes in and sits in his spot by the teacher, which is across from me and says something like "Well hi there! Anyone?". Then he looks at me. And when I say hi back or laugh or something he just smiles. Does that mean anything or am I being too jumpy?
He messaged me on fb now! I responded D--MESSAGE ME!! xD

[Nimble Awesomeness]

I'll try it
But I'm extremely shy around the person in question
And unfortunately Prim would make a huge deal out of it :what: :what:
I'll try though!
Maybe not sitting with him at lunch first, though.
I'll start by attempting to talk to him *gulp*
But I can't write him a not, because always sound pathetic when I do
Luckily Katniss said he's super nice, so there's a start :3

Thank you so much Nimblestep!

EDIT: For everyone to read. I should mention to you girls/guys that asking someone out by note is not always the way to go. It works for some people, but often it doesn't. The worst ting about a note, is you don't get it back even if you get rejected. Being rejected after sending a note is the worst type of rejection, as they can keep the note and show it to their friends or read it over and over again and laugh at it again and again. Face to face is always much better for getting together with someone, as it's much more personal and rejection is not nearly as awful. Plus, if it's a note it gives them time to mull it over, and that often leads to the wrong choice on their part. Snap decisions are usually the best when it comes to this sort of thing, so when you ask someone out on the spot it gets their mind whirling and they'll most likely say what they really mean, without having to think about it for ages. Snap decisions may not be the best for math homework, but when it comes to love it's the only way to go. (Humans are a bit to stupid to really know what they feel, so if they get to think about it all their feelings will get muddled up and they may say yes when they mean no or vise versa. c;)

EDIT 2: Oh yeah, and if you break up with someone by note you're just a jerk. Don't do that. If you do that, they get to read the heart-breaking letter over and ever and over again. You're just being a crude cowered if you send a text or letter to end a relationship. It makes them feel like they don't deserve a face to face discussion about why you don't want to be with them anymore; it makes it seem like you feel they were a waste of your time. Even if you do feel that way, you should never tell someone that.

Notes are a no-no ;) At least in my book. They can work, but not often. Anyways, no problem. :) Only trying to help.

Shine: LOL what drugs are you on? Because whatever they are, I want some! :D

Alrightly, rant time. So, going to a play tomorrow. With the starting points class. FML. We're driving M and B too -_- And having lunch with everyone afterwards. FUUUU. DO. NOT. WANT. Hoping I don't get landed next to M. Or B. Or OJ, for that matter. ;n; Haallppp. I really just want to party with my big bro, and now I have to be stuck with M and B. Ugh, M honestly makes me gag at the thought of him. He just... Ugh. He's a nice guy, I just...can't stand him. ;n;

[christine-marie]

EDIT 2: Oh yeah, and if you break up with someone by note you're just a jerk. Don't do that. If you do that, they get to read the heart-breaking letter over and ever and over again. You're just being a crude cowered if you send a text or letter to end a relationship. It makes them feel like they don't deserve a face to face discussion about why you don't want to be with them anymore; it makes it seem like you feel they were a waste of your time. Even if you do feel that way, you should never tell someone that.

Oh boy. I agree with this 100%. I've learned from this mistake, and I feel absolutely terrible about it still, even if it's been a whole year.

So here's my situation. I desperately want to let go of this guy. I used to be really into him, and he was into me. We were best friends. And then I confessed I liked him--and it was so great because he liked me to! So we got together. That week or two was probably the happiest of my life in the longest time.

But then I decided he wasn't the one for me, I hated him, etc, and made the mistake mentioned above. I wrote him a note that was frank. I said I didn't want to go out with him, but I still liked him as a friend, and he took it well. But it was like all of a sudden, we stopped talking. I couldn't talk to him without feeling my cheeks get red and my heart beat unbelievably fast. It was like, after he was gone, I realized what I lost.

I guess I was just sad and angry at what I had done, and so I dealt with my emotions in the wrong way, and started writing these pointless mean notes. In the end, we ended up hating each other. I would purposely do things because I thought I didn't like him.

School ended, and over the summer, I realized what I did wrong. And I felt horrid for it. But there wasn't anything I could do.

And I still liked him.

We did make up for a couple of days, but it was barely. We were distant and soon we were drifting apart again.

And now I don't exist to him, but to me he's all too real. I just want to stop liking him but every time I think I'm over him, some little thing reminds me of him and I'm thrown back to where I started.

*Sigh*

[MovedToNewAccount]

My crush today was being silly with me and hitting me in the head with his Comp book at school, do you think he may like me? I have no clue, to be honest. xD

~Toby